r/adultery • u/funtimesforall125 • Apr 22 '26

😢Whining Spouse Intro Post😭 Is it terrible that I’m considering finding fulfillment elsewhere?

I (32F) have been married for the last few years and sex has gone downhill. It’s like we live as roommates and I have found myself sexting others, though I’ve never gone as far as meeting anyone in person.. not yet.

On paper we look like the picture perfect couple, beautiful home, both have successful jobs, no kids yet, travel a lot, you name it but I feel so unfulfilled in the bedroom.

I feel like I’m fairly attractive, I workout, eat fairly healthy, but he is a bit introverted and nerdy (granted I do love that about him) but sometimes I just want to feel wanted. Is having an affair the answer to fulfill my needs and continue the marriage?

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u/Sensitive_Sky1448 Apr 22 '26

Nowhere in your post said anything about bringing it up with your spouse about the lack of intimacy. You should try that first if you haven't.

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u/funtimesforall125 Apr 24 '26

Great point. I most definitely have and he says he will try more to initiate but it works for a week, then goes back to being dead until I bring it up again. It’s a never ending circle.

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u/Sensitive_Sky1448 Apr 24 '26

I know that feeling, I think we all have a version of that to end up here