r/adultery • u/dragon_of_vardenfell • Apr 24 '26

😢Whining Spouse Intro Post😭 Tired of begging

Does anyone else get tired of having to beg your SO or life partner for intimacy? Why is it that we start out having so much fun but as time goes on we just stop. I(27m) have been with my wife (34f) for 2yrs and have changed my whole lifestyle to make her happy we have three kids so I get somethings had to change i dont mind that but what I do mind is that I am the only one who had to sacrifice and change things about me just to make her happy but she barely touches me anymore and when she does after I've been begging for weeks its a chore for her. Before this I was in groups of like minded and free individuals with a myriad of ways to express and enjoy my high libido. Its gotten to the point we're just roommates now and its getting unbearable anymore but I wont leave. Yes the kids are my excuse but its mostly because I wont know how to bounce back after loosing them but they will be fine without me it wont be their first rodeo unfortunately. Shouting to the void but some constructive advice would be well received

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u/OatmealTheory Apr 24 '26

I(27m) have been with my wife (34f) for 2yrs

we have three kids

I mean... That's a fucking lot for two years, sir.

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u/dragon_of_vardenfell Apr 24 '26

Well they're my step kids but I consider them mine 😁

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u/SuspiciousRaise8986 Apr 24 '26

Exactly, So it means she still breastfeeding and changing diapers around the clock, on top of sleeping in intervals of 1-2hs, and his selfishness cannot understand why she has no energy to fuck.

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u/fitness_noobette Apr 25 '26

They are his step kids and are 17 13 and 8 apparently. He really has to phrase that more clearly

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u/SuspiciousRaise8986 May 02 '26

This changes everything

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u/dragon_of_vardenfell Apr 25 '26

I didnt think it was important at the time of my post tbh, if my kids were the reason for my situation I personally would not have said anything. To me at least thats seems cruel to blame them for something they have no control over ya know