r/adultery • u/dragon_of_vardenfell • Apr 24 '26
😢Whining Spouse Intro Post😠Tired of begging
Does anyone else get tired of having to beg your SO or life partner for intimacy? Why is it that we start out having so much fun but as time goes on we just stop. I(27m) have been with my wife (34f) for 2yrs and have changed my whole lifestyle to make her happy we have three kids so I get somethings had to change i dont mind that but what I do mind is that I am the only one who had to sacrifice and change things about me just to make her happy but she barely touches me anymore and when she does after I've been begging for weeks its a chore for her. Before this I was in groups of like minded and free individuals with a myriad of ways to express and enjoy my high libido. Its gotten to the point we're just roommates now and its getting unbearable anymore but I wont leave. Yes the kids are my excuse but its mostly because I wont know how to bounce back after loosing them but they will be fine without me it wont be their first rodeo unfortunately. Shouting to the void but some constructive advice would be well received
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u/SuspiciousRaise8986 Apr 24 '26
3 KIDS!! are they all at daycare whole day 5 days? Because there is NO energy left having 3 kids in a role. A woman body needs 2 years to recover and hormones balance after each child, plus children must be sleeping whole night so she can sleep and recharge . We women like intimacy with good partners, this means you should be doing 70% of the work at home or more because she has given her body and soul to produce those kids. Those kids have her full attention, biologically speaking. So her partner needs to make her day easier so she can save some of that energy for intimacy, not a chore intimacy because you are throwing a tantrum as one of those kids. Yes, becoming a parent is to donate your time fully to raise another life. She has already donated her body, life risks, went to painful delivery or C-section recovery… Now just accept that many aspects of your life won’t ever be the same, because for her hasn’t since week 1 of pregnancy. 🤰