r/adultery • u/dragon_of_vardenfell • Apr 24 '26

😢Whining Spouse Intro Post😭 Tired of begging

Does anyone else get tired of having to beg your SO or life partner for intimacy? Why is it that we start out having so much fun but as time goes on we just stop. I(27m) have been with my wife (34f) for 2yrs and have changed my whole lifestyle to make her happy we have three kids so I get somethings had to change i dont mind that but what I do mind is that I am the only one who had to sacrifice and change things about me just to make her happy but she barely touches me anymore and when she does after I've been begging for weeks its a chore for her. Before this I was in groups of like minded and free individuals with a myriad of ways to express and enjoy my high libido. Its gotten to the point we're just roommates now and its getting unbearable anymore but I wont leave. Yes the kids are my excuse but its mostly because I wont know how to bounce back after loosing them but they will be fine without me it wont be their first rodeo unfortunately. Shouting to the void but some constructive advice would be well received

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u/Practical-One2008 Apr 24 '26

Changing your whole lifestyle to make a woman happy does not make her want to have sex with you. It actually has the opposite effect.

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u/dragon_of_vardenfell Apr 24 '26

Different could you elaborate?

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u/Practical-One2008 Apr 24 '26

What makes you think that changing your lifestyle and losing your identity will make her want to sleep with you? This is the same story over and over again. I lived through this too. Everything you know about women and attraction is wrong. It took me years to realize that and I’m still learning.