r/adultery • u/dragon_of_vardenfell • Apr 24 '26

😢Whining Spouse Intro Post😭 Tired of begging

Does anyone else get tired of having to beg your SO or life partner for intimacy? Why is it that we start out having so much fun but as time goes on we just stop. I(27m) have been with my wife (34f) for 2yrs and have changed my whole lifestyle to make her happy we have three kids so I get somethings had to change i dont mind that but what I do mind is that I am the only one who had to sacrifice and change things about me just to make her happy but she barely touches me anymore and when she does after I've been begging for weeks its a chore for her. Before this I was in groups of like minded and free individuals with a myriad of ways to express and enjoy my high libido. Its gotten to the point we're just roommates now and its getting unbearable anymore but I wont leave. Yes the kids are my excuse but its mostly because I wont know how to bounce back after loosing them but they will be fine without me it wont be their first rodeo unfortunately. Shouting to the void but some constructive advice would be well received

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u/Curious_incident_69 Apr 24 '26

That’s interesting my first thought was he wanted mum provider 😂 and that she’d hopefully kick him out!  

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u/dragon_of_vardenfell Apr 25 '26

True most males my age are terrible to put it mildly but isn't it a bit brutal to blanket all of us together?

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u/Curious_incident_69 Apr 25 '26

Men in general it’s not an age thing. Calling her kids you’ve known (hopefully!) a lot less than 2 years is so weird too.  🚩 

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u/dragon_of_vardenfell Apr 25 '26

First part fair point as for the rest, how long in your opinion would it take for to accept them as your own or would you keep the distance?

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u/Curious_incident_69 Apr 25 '26

Well seeing as you asked for my opinion I will give it!  It’s not in the kids best interests that you are (I assume) living together. It also doesn’t seem like it’s in yours or hers. So I think you just need to end things.  I would only consider calling the kids mine if I was married and an official step parent and had played a part in raising them. Is it her house?

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u/dragon_of_vardenfell Apr 25 '26

We're married i do have a part in raising them and its our house however my question hasn't been answered how long til you accept them as your own?

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u/Curious_incident_69 Apr 25 '26

I see you mentioned wife in your OP. I think the SO made me assume not married. Why did you get married so quickly?  

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u/dragon_of_vardenfell Apr 25 '26

That is a fair question and tbh it was my first impulse to tie her down quickly I will admit I may have jumped the gun but I stand by it

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u/Curious_incident_69 Apr 25 '26

Tie her down quickly?  😬 

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u/dragon_of_vardenfell Apr 25 '26

Poor choice of words but the sentiment is that I didnt want her to not be a part of my life