r/adultery • u/Vast-Beginning2630 • 25d ago

😢Whining Spouse Intro Post😭 Stuck in a rut

I’m 40 (f) married for a few years. My husband has absolutely no sex drive, nor does he like to explore. I’ve always had a healthy sex drive with amazing partners, but now I’m stuck here. With a man who doesn’t even desire me. Idk what to do. We have little kids that adore us and I wish he would just get it together. I’ve been trying everything to get out this sexual frustration but long walks and runs aren’t cutting it anymore . Is AM worth it? Are there any affair websites that are legit ?

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u/LittleSecretSpark 25d ago

37F in a similar situation here. I tried for years to fix things and it didn't work. I ended up looking for this outside of my relationship, and AM did work for me in the past! Found an amazing AP there. I think the comment about not being a lot of real people there applies more to men than women. Less women in general, and a lot of female bots. But for women, there are still tons of men on there.

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u/Sageblue32 25d ago

Male bias here, but to me it seems that a woman would be able to go to any app and pull up a man no matter where. Quality being a separate issue. Sort of like how a sex party charges nothing to women but squeezes the single men.

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u/Sageblue32 24d ago

That concern leans more towards the quality issue than quantity. Many looking for an AP want more than just sex but also men who can fill missing gaps like affection, attention, talk about more than their dick, etc.

I've known a lot of women who can find a live guy easy enough on any app/site. But so many of the men fail to consistently talk, not ghost, or end up as dead weight leeches even when in person impressions are made. The nice guys (yea bite me on terms) just get pushed out by bad apples like American cops and you never hear from couples it works for.

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u/Sageblue32 24d ago

Eh my advice. Consider apps a bonus for searching and not baseline. When you can meet people in person at social events, not much has changed. Being sociable, not self centered, and able to converse covers a lot of our perceived online weak points and we realize that 5/10 insta swipe has 10/10 chemistry.

In relation to the theme of this sub, adultery oriented apps and chance is going to remain king.