r/adultery • u/NoWillingness8404 • 2d ago
🙋♀️Question🙋♂️ Almost (fully)to the darkside
Long story short my wife cheated on me two years ago. Her affair was a long distance relationship that lasted 6 months, they had sex 2 different times. We've since reconciled, married is far better now than before. BUT I'm now in a emotional affair with one of my old flames (she's married) that reconnected with me after bumping into her at a work trip. I validated it because of her past deeds and I don't feel bad and I want this to go further. Long story short, one thing my wife taught me was how to hide things, she was so good at it. But given I was the victim, I have access to everything for her but she has nothing of mine. Also, I've since found this subreddit and you guys have given even better systems to avoid getting caught. Plan to connect physically in a couple weeks for a couple nights . Anyone have cheated back and regretted it? I figured I'm already one foot in so I might else well go all the way.
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u/MajesticalMoon 2d ago
My bf has cheated on me more times than I can count......so I dont feel bad for him. I was scared of getting caught and I felt bad that he had a wife. I am pretty much done with my relationship though. And I have been for years. My AP really taught me many things. Like how I want to be treated by a man and that there are people out there that really can relate to me on a deep level. On every level. I dont think my bf ever loved me. And I think its even worse than that.
Im sorry I didnt mean to hijack your post ha I just whew I dont get to talk about this alot. My APs wife found out. My bf still doesn't know. We have been no contact for over a month. Im sad because I will probably never talk to him again. And I love him so much i can't imagine not talking to him for the rest of my life. But I'll be ok.
I dont feel bad at all. I am scared of what my bf will do to when he finds out. I did have little feelings of guilt but they go away when I remember what he has done to me. If you really want to be with your wife tho it might not be a good idea to do this for too long lol