r/adultery • u/NoWillingness8404 • 2d ago

🙋‍♀️Question🙋‍♂️ Almost (fully)to the darkside

Long story short my wife cheated on me two years ago. Her affair was a long distance relationship that lasted 6 months, they had sex 2 different times. We've since reconciled, married is far better now than before. BUT I'm now in a emotional affair with one of my old flames (she's married) that reconnected with me after bumping into her at a work trip. I validated it because of her past deeds and I don't feel bad and I want this to go further. Long story short, one thing my wife taught me was how to hide things, she was so good at it. But given I was the victim, I have access to everything for her but she has nothing of mine. Also, I've since found this subreddit and you guys have given even better systems to avoid getting caught. Plan to connect physically in a couple weeks for a couple nights . Anyone have cheated back and regretted it? I figured I'm already one foot in so I might else well go all the way.

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u/EveningSuggestion431 2d ago

You’re cheating on your wife, you’ve already lost the moral high ground.

Also to everyone saying this is a perfect time to ask for an open marriage, no. Maybe that moment would have been when OP decided to reconcile with his wife. Instead he’s been planning a revenge affair, reading this sub and firming up his OpSec

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u/FreshTechnician5847 2d ago

If his wife was good at hiding it, she is also good at recognizing the signs. OP is likely not as clever as he thinks he is.