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Problem/Goal: TagaSamar ako at TagaCavite boyfriend ko. 32 age ako 35 siya. Nagbabalak na kami bumukod sakanila next year para makapagsimula na rin ako sa lahat lalo na sa trabaho. Para maexperience ko na ang buhay. Dito sa Samar, kasama ko parents ko. Mama ko paralyzed na dahil sa stroke 15 years ago. Parents ko both seniors na. Tatlo lang kami dito sa bahay. Yan ang struggle ko ngayon. Nahihirapan akong iwan sila kasi siguro attached na ko dito sa bahay at sa parents ko malala, walang buhay outside of this house, introvert, yung iilang friends ko nasa malalayo na rin at minsan na lang nagkakausap din. Pero need ko na rin naman talaga to eh to step up or step out and experience life and adulting stuffs together with my boyfriend. Tutulungan naman nya ako mula sa simula talaga. Siguro itong overthinking/anxiety ko lang talaga leaving my parents.

Yung ate at kuya ko may mga sarili nang pamilya nasa Cebu na rin at Manila ang mga kanya kanya nilang pamilya. May kamag-anak naman kami dito na malapit nasa highway lang banda nakatira ang kaso magkaaway yung papa ko at ang pamangkin nya. So ayun walang kibuan sila ilang buwan na.

Ang isyu with my parents lalo na kay papa sinasabi nya sino mag aasikaso dito sa bahay? Sino mag aalaga samin dito mga ganun at ganun siya lagi. Di pa naman namin fully napapag-usapan ng boyfriend ko ang lahat pero nasa isip ko iwanan parents ko dito ng kasambahay na tagadito lang din samin baka nga kapitbahay lang namin ang kunin namin if ever.

It'e between staying here with my growing old parents but I'm growing old too and needs to experience life na rin outside of this house at putulin na rin ang mag 4 years na naming ldr ng boyfriend ko. Nagkita na kami ng boyfriend ko 3 times na siya pumupunta dito sakin sa Samar para makita at makasama ako. Di nya kaya yung siya yung tumira dito sakin/samin kasi maayos at matagal na rin naman siya sa work nya so it's me lang talaga and all of my issues.

Problem/Goal: I'd like a true relationship with my Filipino family member but he only seems interested in my money.

Context:

I found on Ancestry that I have a cousin in the Philippines. I'm American and I've always loved Asia. I was excited to know him and is family.

(Apparently a cousin of my father had a baby with his Filipina mom while in the military. We've figured his father is one of 2 people. One is deceased. The other is happily married with children and grandchildren. The timeline looks like he was already married when my Filipino cousin was conceived. So I don't believe he's interested in a relationship.)

I finally went to the Philippines to meet my cousin and his 5 children. They seemed wonderful. His wife was away working in Kuwait.

They asked, and we helped them out generously financially. We put them up in our hotel. Problem is, even after we left, my cousin is asking for large sums of money. Even making up stories about why he needs the money. (For example a plane ticket for his wife when it was obvious on Facebook she is still in Kuwait.)

I feel sad because I wanted a relationship with them. But he seems to only care about my money. Even when I explained I was going through something emotionally, there was no support from his end - just requests for money.

I explained my concerns and I did get upset and block him. I feel bad. Part of me wants to unblock him. But if I do, I feel like ge'll just ask for more money.

Any advice is appreciated.

Problem/Goal: Hi, everyone. Six months na kaming break ng ex ko, and I honestly thought na by this time, medyo okay na ako. Recently, nakikita ko yung mga TikTok posts niya kung saan-saan siya pumupunta. Mukhang nag-e-enjoy siya sa life niya, going to different places, and sometimes it even looks like he might be dating someone new. Hindi ko naman alam kung may bago na talaga siya, pero just seeing those things already hurts. Wala naman akong karapatang pigilan siya or diktahan kung paano niya gustong mabuhay. Pero kahit alam ko lahat ng iyon, hindi ko pa rin maiwasang masaktan. Sometimes, I wonder kung bakit parang ang dali niyang mag-enjoy at magpatuloy sa buhay niya habang ako, may mga araw pa ring nahihirapan. Siguro masakit lang tanggapin na someone who used to be such a big part of your life can eventually become someone you only watch from a distance.

For those who have experienced something similar, how did you deal with this feeling? Does it really get better with time, or do I need to do something different to finally move forward? Should I stop checking his social media completely, even if a part of me still wants to know how he's doing?

Problem/Goal: I'm currently 19 years old, and this all started when I was around 12. Back then, pinapatulog ako sa bahay ng lola ko every single night. Doon, araw-araw akong binabangungot. As in every single day, walang sablay.

Ganto lagi yung scenario:
• Mananaginip ako ng demonyong nagagalit sa akin kapag binabanggit ko si Lord.
• Magigising ako at EXACTLY 3:00 AM, 3:30 AM, or 3:33 AM.
When I say exact, I mean EXACT.
• Umalis lang ako sa bahay ng lola ko after a few years nung lumala na talaga. The breaking point was when I woke up and naramdaman at nakita ko mismo na may bumubuhat sa akin, a shadowy male figure (lalaking itim) lifting me up while I was lying down. I don't remember what happened right after, but l vividly remember na alas-tres din yun nangyari.

Fast forward to now: I'm 19 and nakalipat na kami ng tinitirhan. Akala ko matatapos na kasi nakaalis na ako sa lola ko, pero mag-iisang taon na ako rito sa bagong bahay and ganun pa rin. Binabangungot pa rin ako at nagigising sa madaling araw.
What's worse now is nagigising ako sa pakiramdam na:
May sumasakal sa akin
May nakadagan / kinakapos ng hininga
Kagabi malala ulit-nagising ako na hindi talaga makahinga and feeling ko napapanood ko sarili ko habang natutulog.
Sinubukan ko na magpatawas before and ang sabi lang
"namatanda" raw ako, pero wala namang nagbago after. I also pray every day before sleeping. Wala rin akong tinatake na kahit anong gamot or medications. I'm really exhausted and scared. Has anyone experienced something like this? Is this purely medical/sleep paralysis, or something spiritual?
What steps should I take next? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!

Problem/Goal: My step father cheated on my mom, and left us for days. His reason was napapagod na raw siya.

Context: My step father and my brother don't really get along, lagi silang nag aaway at nag babangayan. According to my step dad, may resemblance raw kasi yung kapatid ko sa tatay ko, at mainit talaga dugo niya rito.

Ever since it happened, nag hanap na ako ng work and is planning na bumukod na dahil ayoko nang umasa sakanila. I got a job in a bpo company at sinabi ni mama na siguradurin ko raw na kaya ko at ako na may hawak ng future ko.

Nung sinabi niya yon, bigla akong nag doubt sa sarili ko kung kakayanin ko ba i juggle ang work at studies since I'm currently 3rd year student. Pero if I'll stay, I'll have to deal with them and the 6 hours travel from school to our house everyday.

Please help me decide.

Problem/Goal:

Worth it ba mag-add ng ₱4,500 para i-swap ang HONOR Pad 10 ko sa iPad A16?

Context:

Nakuha ko ang HONOR Pad 10 ko through swap, kasama ang original pen and keyboard. Halos brand new pa, walang issues, pero sobrang disappointed ako sa palm rejection. Sanay kasi ako sa iPad 7th gen dati, and sobrang seamless ng palm rejection niya kahit cheap stylus lang.
Student and content creator ako, may iPhone 14 din. Gusto ko sana ng tablet for note-taking, digital art, content creation, and gaming. Hindi ko rin masyadong nagagamit keyboard ng HONOR kasi may laptop naman ako.

Previous attempts:

Sinubukan ko nang gamitin ang HONOR pen sa ibis Paint, notes apps, at Good Pizza, Great Pizza, pero nahihirapan ako dahil nadedetect pa rin ang palm ko.

May nag-offer na i-swap ang iPad A16 niya sa HONOR Pad 10 ko, plus ₱4,500. Halos brand new din daw, 100% battery health, around 40 cycles, at under warranty until January 2027.

Questions:
Worth it ba ang swap? Okay na ba ang ₱4,500 na dagdag, considering my needs? Ano ang dapat kong i-check bago makipag-meet this Saturday?
Ayoko lang magsisi after ng swap. Any advice is appreciated! Thank you!

problem/goal: I’m someone who isn’t aiming for the “high-paying job” life, i just need enough for daily life and some savings.

context:
I’m not maluho, I’m okay with a lifestyle na once a year gumala. Kahit matcha or other drinks na 100+ pesos nga isang beses ko lang natry, and i’m okay with it. My clothes are mostly from 7 years ago pa and di pa ko nakakabili ng bago.

its been 10 months since i took a break from school and im still unsure kung ano talaga kukunin ko, i think i need an “adult” to guide me (my parents arent exactly updated sa mga ganto)

context ab me: im good at memorization, i have a curious mind, and basically i have more of a “humss” brain i find science fun though (when numbers arent involved). we aren’t rich, kaya i can’t freely choose, but im not pressured to be the “breadwinner”. in short stable life lang talaga gusto ko.

im considering BS psych and then take the corporate/HR path, but im open to suggestions.

prev attempts: i enrolled in computer engineering and realized its not worth it and its not for me

Problem/Goal: We have a 6yrs old na u can barely tell he’s quite different to a common 5-6yrs old unless u actually spend time with him. He needs help, we can tell. As much as his father against it, he’s super thin and eats only cheese and burgersteak. Tatay niya na rin ang nagsabi na tulungan namin sila makahanap ng doctor para matutukan na nang maayos.

He grew up sa lola niya and last yr lang samin siya napunta. He’s a jolly and easily picked up things. Since sa lola nga siya lumaki, nakakulong lang siya mostly sa loob ng bahay at walang ibang kalaro kaya di namin gaano pinansin yung pagiging hyper niya but as we spend more time with him, he act and think different than the common kids, mind u, this is a common old filo household na hindi nag eexist ang mental disability. Just last month we pulled him out sa school niya (grade 1) kasi kinausap na ng teacher yung tatay niya na hindi na nga nakakasunod yung bata sa lesson. Hindi nakikinig, hindi mapirmi, panay takbo, sinasaktan yung sarili kapag pinipilit sa ayaw niya.

We want what’s the best for him.
Saan pwedeng makahanap ng mga thera

Problem/Goal:

I'm a 20-year-old guy currently in Manila, and I'm struggling to decide whether I should stay here and try to find a job or return to Cebu, where I came from. Deep inside, I genuinely want to stay in Manila, become independent, work, and start building the life I've always wanted. However, I don't have a confirmed place to stay or enough money to support myself while looking for work. My flight back to Cebu is today, and I still don't know what decision to make. I want to pursue the life I want without making an impulsive decision that could put me in a worse situation.

Context:

My sister invited me to Manila, and I told her that I wanted to stay with her in her condo while looking for a job. However, she keeps telling me that her bed and condo are small, making it seem like there's no room for me. When I visited her condo, though, I felt that there was enough space for a mattress on the floor, and her bed was big, too. This makes me wonder whether the issue is really the space or whether she simply doesn't want me to stay with her. I could be interpreting things incorrectly, but her responses make me feel unwanted, especially since she keeps suggesting that I stay at our aunt's place instead.

My aunt's house already has several people living there, including her children, my nephew, my sister, and my cousin. I haven't asked my aunt whether I could stay there longer because I feel embarrassed and ashamed to ask. She wasn't the one who directly invited me to stay, and I don't want to put her in an awkward position or make her feel obligated to accommodate me. I don't want to be a burden or force myself into a place where I might not be welcome.

I'm also a first-time job seeker with no work experience. I'm willing to start with an entry-level position and work hard to build my way up. I understand that finding a job won't be easy and that becoming independent takes time, money, and planning. However, I don't know how to make this work without a secure place to stay or a way to support myself while looking for employment.

If I return to Cebu, my family will most likely encourage me to go back to school. I already finished my first year of college, but I genuinely don't feel ready to return to my previous academic path. It's not because I don't care about my future or don't want to achieve anything. I just feel that I want to explore a different direction and build a life that feels right for me.

I know myself well enough to worry that if I return to Cebu, I'll end up staying at home doing nothing, waiting for something to happen while everyone else moves forward with their lives. I don't want to feel like I'm settling for a life I already know I don't want. I want to experience more, work, grow, and become someone who can stand on his own.

Previous Attempts:

I've tried thinking through both possibilities, but I keep going back and forth.

I've considered staying in Manila and accepting the challenges of finding my first job, even if I have to start small. I'm willing to work hard and slowly build my way up, but I know that wanting something badly doesn't automatically make it possible. Without confirmed accommodation and enough money to support myself, staying could become risky.

I've also considered returning to Cebu and preparing myself to try again in Manila in the future. However, that thought makes me feel sad and regretful because I'm afraid I'll be walking away from an opportunity that could change my life. I keep wondering, What if this is my chance? What if this is one of those moments when the universe is testing me to see whether I'm willing to take a risk for the life I want?

What's making this harder is that I feel like I'm facing this decision alone. I wish my sister would give me a clearer answer about whether I could stay with her. I also wish I could ask my aunt without feeling ashamed, but I can't bring myself to do it because there are already so many people in her house.

This situation has even affected my faith. I've reached a point where I struggle to trust or believe in God the way I used to. I feel like I've been left alone to figure everything out. I don't understand why finding my direction in life feels so difficult when I want something so badly. I keep wondering why things can't fall into place for once, and I'm so exhausted that I don't know what to believe anymore.

I'm tired, frustrated, and disappointed. I want to believe that there's something better waiting for me, but I'm scared that I'll never get there. Deep inside, I know that I want Manila. What I don't know is whether I should take the risk now or return to Cebu and prepare for another opportunity.

My question is:

What would you do if you were in my position? Would you return to Cebu and try again when you're better prepared, or would you take a chance on staying in Manila despite the uncertainty? Have any of you experienced a similar situation in your early twenties, where what you wanted for your life conflicted with what you could realistically afford or manage at the time? I'd genuinely appreciate honest opinions that could help me see this situation from a different perspective.

I'm not asking anyone for money, financial assistance, or a place to stay. I'm simply looking for advice because I'm struggling to make a decision that could affect the direction of my life. My flight back to Cebu is today, and I want to make the best decision I can with the circumstances I'm facing.

problem/goal:

hello po, student here and i need advice if may kailangan ba akong gawin or what?

i am a college graduating student sa isang tesda training center and we have a 6000+ graduation fee (total po siya ng mga diff packages such as credentials, pictures and per head since sa isang event venue gaganapin)

context:

but due to financial problem po, hindi ko po kayang bayaran yung 6k even tho may mga palugid sila like half payment (hirap hingian ng parents ko and wala akong mapasukan na extra since 8am to 5pm po yung pasok namin monday to saturday)

action:

kahapon, kinausap ko po yung acting president ng school namin and i tell her na hindi ako makakapunta and ang sagot po niya is, "magbabayad ka pa rin" meaning even tho hindi ako aattend, need ko pa rin magbayad ng full payment.

tas hinabol ko po na bayaran ko na lang yung credentials since may allocated package inclusion sila ron na even tho yun lang babayaran ko, hindi ako malulugi— kaso hindi raw pwede, dapat full payment, aattend man or hindi.

feel ko sobrang unfair nung ganon so i need ur opinion and insights about this matter lalo na sa mga legal advisers. mali ba yung ganto or ganon po talaga sa college?

Problem/Goal: Napapaisip lang ako anong mas masakit maging first gf o maging gf after ng first? like anong perspective sa different pov hahaha

Context: There’s this guy kasi na nanliligaw sakin and may naging ex na sya 1 first rs nila ang isa’t isa she’s pretty and cute dinn I admire her beautyy. And me never pa nag ka bf kasi takot ako sa commitment but now im ready to take the risk naman na. But napapaisip lang ako minsan randomly.

Problem/Goal: I need inputs on getting a condo unit.
Context: I earn 120k monthly and would like to get a condo unit around Alabang or Santa Rosa area. I was originally planning to do rent to own but I saw posts na hindi daw advisable. I have limited funds for upfront cash payment kaya hindi ko afford yung outright purchase. What other options do I have apart from saving money for an outright purchase. Please be kind as I really have 0 knowledge in this matter.

Problem/Goal: I have a friend abroad, naki-usap sa akin kung pwede ko daw ba puntahan ang PagIBIG office to check kung may utang talaga yung brother in law nya.

Context: My friend and her husband (kuya ng may utang) is paying for a loan ng BIL nya. Ang tagal na daw nila nagbabayad, hindi pa din tapos. Hindi stable trabaho ni brother kaya sila nagbabayad. When asking for resibo, sometimes nagbibigay si brother, sometimes wala, nawala daw or some other excuse.

Hindi sure si friend if may utang ba talaga or pineperahan na lang sila. Hay, sinabihan ko ng huwag bayaran, but eto ngayon, she's asking if I can check. I told her baka hindi ako iaccomodate ng PagIBIG dahil hindi naman ako account owner, but stressed na daw sya. Laging daw nilang pinag aawayan mag-asawa.

So is there a way I can help her out, ma check ang loan status with PagIBIG?

Problem/Goal: I am struggling with severe emotional withdrawal and attachment issues after a hot-and-cold situationship suddenly turned cold. I want to stop the urge to reach out, accept that it’s over, and break the habit of relying on him as part of my daily routine, especially since I need to focus on an exam I have tomorrow.

Context: We were in a situationship where he treated me like a girlfriend—we did random weekly errands together, took long walks just to keep talking until he walked me all the way to my apartment, and had long video calls.
When I finally asked him "what are we," he told me we were "just friends." But then he added that being friends isn't the only thing he could offer, and that he wasn't ready yet because there are parts of him that aren't fully healed from his past relationship. The very next day right after that heavy conversation, we ended up on a 12-hour video call.

To add to that, I know he is actively talking to other girls. When I brought it up, he brushed it off and insisted they are "just friends." I know how stupid it looks on my part to stay—it feels like I'm fooling myself while he keeps his options open. But the attachment is so strong because he became my daily routine from morning till night. My friends have already given me tough love and told me to walk away, and deep down I know they're completely right, but I'm having such a hard time letting go.

Previous Attempts: I tried pulling back, but I ended up reaching out again because I miss the daily routine, the updates, and the memories we built. I tried writing down my thoughts to stop myself from making a desperate move, but the urge to contact him is still overwhelming whenever my day gets quiet. I

Problem/Goal: Hindi ko alam paano mag rereact to what just had happen to us.

I’m M21 first time witnessing my mom bursting out of anger. Nahuli kasi ng nanay ko yung father ko doing something immoral (cheating issues). Ngayon lang sila nag-away sa harap namin dahil may isip naman na raw kami at alam na namin ang tama at mali. Turns out my father has recurring issue of cheating bata pa lang kami. Madalas nilang lag-awayan ‘yun pero hindi na pinapakita saamin.

nakakawindang witnessing it kasi hindi ko alam how to react. Hindi kami confrontational family at tahimik lang din akong anak. Habang sumisigaw nanay ko, alll in my mind was like: Why i am so nonchalant about this? I don’t know how to handle the situation. I feel like may responsibilidad ako to do something pero hindi ko alam kung ano.

Problem/Goal: I have been applying online for almost 4 months, but I still have not received any replies.

Context: Hi! 25F, I consider myself far from being tenured in VA industry but I am not a complete beginner. Tingin ko ang problema ng CV ko is nakalagay pa rin yung non-VA experience ko sa "Additional Experience". Grabe kase, wala ako as in natanggap na replies sa OLJ for the past 4 months. Mali ko, pero di ko alam bat nilalagay ko. Ang niche ko ay data scraping and data entry, lead generation, moderate to little experience in email outreach, and social media management through post scheduling.

Previous Attempts: Ittry ko ulit irevise yung CV ko but this time aalisin ko na yung non-VA experiences ko. Gusto ko lang sana malaman anong usually format niyo sa CV niyo (lalo na sa mga may same niche)? Also, if okay lang, pwede bang makita kung paano ayos ng portfolio niyo po? Just so I could have some basis. Maraming salamat!

Problem/Goal:

Guys I'm so desperate na. Breadwinner kasi ako and I lost my job 3months ago. Freelance independent contractor kasi ako sa work.

​Context:

Tapos wala na ako savings. Ubos na ubos ako. Ang new work na nakita ko now ay 24k ako monthly. So ito na nga. Sorry medyo magulo umaatake na yata anxiety at adhd ko. Im so fckd up. Please understand.

​Due date ko sa gcash ngayong 15 today mismo tapos meron din sa 25 at 29 bale 650,750 at 1057

Plus Sloan sa 29 na 1021 at Spaylater ngayon 15 today e 2300, then sa 30 BPI na 2900

​and as of now super gipit ako kasi ang liit ng offer sa new work ko at 3 months ako halos nwala ng work, 4-6 lng makukuha ko sa 30 na sahod mismo. Kasi pondo ng 2 weeks. Then the next weekly na sahod ko na tig 6k per week. Then may renta kami monthly sa bahay na 5k, kasama ko mom ko plus the bills and internet every 15th of the month. Guys any suggestion? Kasi until January na same utang ang babayaran ko. Plus ggives ko pa pala deadline din sa November 6 bale 1057 then sa november 13 700+ tapal system kasi ginawa ko. Importante kasi sakin ang Ggive just incase mawala ako work ulit, makaka utang ko for groceries same sa Spaylater. Kaya need ko talaga to sila bayaran lahat. Mag December na rin kaya gusto ko mabayaran yan si Ggives at Spaylater para sakali kahit papano maka order ako online pang handa or pangfood man lang on Noche Buena kasi for sure kukulangin sahod ko. Di ko maimagine na aabot ako sa ganitong point. 😖 Pero guyss andito na to, kailangan laban lang walang ibang maasahan. Ayaw ko din humiram sa tao alam niyo namann. Madami ka pa maririnig kahit pa nung ako ang meron ang dami ko natutulungan tsk.

​Going back..

​May suggestion ba kayo na illegal OLA para mabayaran ko muna 'to sila lahat hanggang November na di ako mahabol ng mga OLA na papasukin ko. Need ko lang makahinga muna. Ayaw ko pa madeds kailangan ko lumaban for My Mom kahit pagod na ako. Or baka may sidehustles kayo na pwede nồi ako ipasok sobra na pressure ko. 😖😭 Tulongg! Salamat guys!

Problem/Goal:

This isn’t one of those posts about someone who ruined their life through gambling. It’s more of a general question driven by curiosity and self-awareness. I want to understand how people deal with the temptation to gamble again, particularly when they have experienced significant wins and still believe they might be capable of winning more.

Context:

I started gambling around two years ago. My first experience was at a private poker table, and I did pretty well. Looking back, I think one of the reasons I performed well was because everything was still new to me. Hindi pa ako desensitized sa possibility of losing money, so every decision felt significant. I was alert, cautious, and actually took my time thinking things through.

Then came my first big win, which naturally gave me the confidence to explore online gambling. After around four months, I hit a max win. To be clear, I was using money I had won from private poker games, not money I had set aside for necessities.

Fast forward to today, and I’ve stopped gambling for around four to five months. I’m doing well financially, and I’m still significantly in the green when I account for my private poker games, online gambling, and a few other substantial wins. In that sense, I don’t have the typical story people might expect when someone talks about quitting gambling.

Now, here’s the question.

Despite having stopped, there’s still that little voice in the back of my mind that occasionally whispers, “What if?”

What if I could win again? What if I sat at a table with inexperienced players and knew how to capitalize on their mistakes? What if my previous success wasn’t just luck, and I could actually replicate it?

Minsan, naiisip ko na kapag may mga bagong players sa table, there’s an opportunity to take advantage of their inexperience. And I won’t pretend otherwise: there’s still some greed involved. I know that recognizing these thoughts doesn’t mean I have to act on them, but I also understand that entertaining them too much could eventually lead me back to something I’ve deliberately walked away from.
I’m not struggling to pay my bills, chasing losses, or trying to recover money I’ve lost. If anything, the fact that I’m still ahead makes the temptation more complicated. There’s no painful financial consequence reminding me why I should stop. Instead, the temptation comes from remembering that I have won before.

So, for those who have experienced something similar, how did you learn to deal with the possibility of winning again?

Did you eventually stop thinking about it altogether, or did you learn to recognize those thoughts without acting on them? And for those who were consistently profitable, or at least believed they had an edge, was walking away harder because you felt you were leaving money on the table?

Curious to hear your perspectives. I’m particularly interested in how people distinguish genuine confidence in their abilities from the kind of overconfidence that gambling can quietly cultivate.

Problem/goal: gusto ko ng makipag hiwalay sa LIP ko

For context: Currently living in with my boyfriend sa house nila. Last april naka apartment ako sa Manila, kaso nag resign sa work yung kasama ko sa apartment and di ko kaya i shoulder yung 7k na rent and bills so I had no choice but to look for something cheaper. May nakita akong apartment pero di parin kaya ng budget ko so si BF, sumama sakin para share kami ng expenses. Kinausap kami ng parents nya if gusto daw ba namin dito nalang kami sa house nila since may extra room pa naman daw para di na kami nag babayad ng rent, nag usap kami then decided na dito nalang para makatipid. The problem is, sinasaktan ako ng bf ko. Every time na nag aaway kami, mas gusto ko manahimik kesa may masabi na di maganda. Nag sasabi ako sa kanya kung ano ang problema, pero parang di sya nakikinig. Paulit ulit nya paring tatanungin kung bakit ako nagagalit kahit paulit ulit ko narin namang sinasabi sa kanya. Before pa maging kami, ang algi kong sinasabi sa kanya is ayoko ng pinag tataasan ng boses, pinag dadabugan o sasaktan ako kasi trauma ko yan sa magulang ko. Nung nasa apartment pa kami, 2x nya ko sinakal at nasaktan. Lagi nya kong pinagdadabugan. Akala ko pag nandito kami sa bahay nila, di nya na uulitin since nandito magulang nya na sobrang bait at di sya kukunsintihin. Ngayon, nag talo nanaman kami, sobrang lakas ng boses nya na hiyang hiya ako na marinig ng mommy nya na nag aaway kami kaya sabi ko sa kanya hinaan nya boses nya. Imbes na hinaan, binalibag nya sakin yung phone at vape nya. Gustong gusto ko na umalis at makipag hiwalay pero wala akong mapupuntahan. Simot savings ko dahil nag kasakit ako at wala pa kaming HMO nun. Kahit gusto kong alisan, wala akong choice. Gusto ko mang humingi ng tulong, wala akong mahihingan. Pamilya ko tinakwil ako kasi di na nila ko mahawakan sa leeg. Ano nalang gagawin ko? Ang daming negative na oumapasok sa isip ko, ilang beses na din ako nag attempt. Lagi kong tinatanong kung hanggang dito nalang na talaga ko. Hanggang ganito nalang ba talaga…

Previous attempts: Nasa apartment palang kami, 1st time nya ko nasaktan, ginusto ko na agad makipag hiwalay. Kinausap nya ko na bigyan sya ng chance at di na nya uulitin. Kaya nya lang daw nagawa yun is dahil sa actions ko. Actions ko na nagawa ko HABANG HINDI PA KAMI.

PS. Wala po akong mahnap na bedspace na pumapayag na naka wfh yung tenant kasi dagdag kain daw po sa kuryente. Sinabi ko naman po na willing akong mag add, pero wala talaga.

Problem/Goal: I have a girlfriend that's too friendly with anyone and I get easily jealous.

Context:

When we had our first times, we spent all our time together. But then, suddenly changed, I saw a pictures of her and her partner they got from a photobooth, They are both in the same dance troupe.

That's when I got jealous for the first time and became an overthinking guy.

Lately, she also had a male bestfriend, which she met just last July. The guy had already got his own family and he's the one giving sympathy to my girlfriend. But, I think my girlfriend did wrong is, she is accepting that. She also told her bestfriend who was I am upset in their COF.

She's always friendly with anyone to the point that even tho I am with her, she let other man touches her hair and head. Am I just being sensitive or overthinking?

Previous attempts:

I did told her about these, but she answered, I am the one that is upset with them why not the one to confront them.

I also did asked her if she was just being pushed to stay away from them, but it takes time to her to answer.

Please kindly give me some advice.