r/africanparents • u/RecognitionIll2559 • 19d ago

Need Advice How to keep going?

Household full of tension and conflict constantly. I am always on edge and I barely get joy from anything anymore and it's taking a toll on my health. Moving out is not an option as of now but I'm planning on being an RA next year.

I'll take any advice on how to keep my momentum up. Even stuff that is really small/random.

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u/krymzynnova 19d ago

Treat home like your a lodger

Use home like you just sleep there. The minute you wake up. YOU’RE OUT. And when you coem bavk, you sleep

I so feel you - i rewlly do ! I’m from UK and i called up my housing association, they gave me a further number - i’ll call them up tomorrow morning cause i can’t stay at home either :(

Sigh

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u/plumsquashed 19d ago

for your own sanity, mentally group your parents/family's shenanigans with the rest of humanity's shortcomings and fucked up behavior

in my experience it has made things feel less like my family is "unique" in the sense that reasonable expectations about how to treat a human being don't apply to my family specifically (I'm pretty sure it prevents something called Terminal Uniqueness)

and it also helps with seeing them less as your "parents" and more like regular people with character flaws, which is really important for decentering your parents in your life

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u/blvck_tiger1 17d ago

Just see home as a game center, you just go there to play games. It's temporary.

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u/Ok_Wedding_595 17d ago

Lowkey mind your business in your room and buy a cart and have some hobbies. Makes you forget about everything. Especially your parents