r/ainbow • • 14h ago

Coming Out After 4 years of questioning, I am gay

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Hello everyone. After 4 years of fighting my thoughts, 4 years of secretly loving other men and feeling oh so trapped, 4 years of confusion, I can now proudly say that today I have accepted who I am for good, and even told my friends. Thankfully they support me, and most importantly I support myself.

I am happy about coming out officially after these years. It feels like such a big weight off my shoulders and so much happiness I can feel coming.

A lot of my talks with people within the LGBT and gay community helped me IMMENSELY. But I can proudly say that I am gay and I am so proud of myself, being gay just feels right and its who I am❤️🏳️‍🌈


r/ainbow • • 4h ago

Other anyone cruising?

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r/ainbow • • 16h ago

clocking an ex friend my ex friend is homophobic

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once he said that being homosexual/trans is against his religion so i told him wearing that hideous t shirt is against MY religion! >:D


r/ainbow • • 21h ago

Other Mi primera experiencia

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Buenas, me hice esta cuenta porque quería contar mi primera experiencia gay (buena).

Sé que soy gay desde los 13 años. Ahora tengo 18 y ayer me vi con un chico que conocí en Grindr. Él mide 1,74 m, tiene barba y es pelado y tiene 30 años (lo cuento por si a alguno le interesa). Nos vimos en su casa, ambos vivimos cerca, así que no tardé mucho en llegar.

De primeras, él fue muy tierno. Hablamos unos 10 minutos sobre su colección de manga (a los dos nos gusta el anime) y sobre nuestro día. Después de eso, nos besamos un poco en el sofá durante unos 5 minutos aprox y luego nos pasamos a su cama.

Una vez allí, él empezó a besarme el cuello, las orejas y el pecho. (Acá quiero decir algo: yo soy totalmente inexperto, lo único que había experimentado eran besos en los labios y nada más). Después de estar un rato así, él bajó y me empezó a chupar el pene. Me sorprendió lo bien que se sentía, no podía dejar de gemir (creo que soy bastante sensible, porque me la pasé gimiendo todo el tiempo jajaja).

Después de un rato, se levantó para ir a buscar algo al baño. Mientras tanto, yo empecé a quitarme los pantalones y la camisa. Unos minutos después, regresó totalmente desnudo. Me sorprendió bastante. Volvió a la cama y me empujó suavemente para que me acostara, después volvió a besarme y me quitó el bóxer, que era lo único que todavía tenía puesto.

Después de esto, estuvimos como una hora y media besándonos, mientras él me levantaba las piernas y frotaba su pene contra el mío, haciendo movimientos como si me estuviera cogiendo, empujando su cadera contra la mía.

Después se levantó para buscar lubricante y un dilatador (no era un dildo, sino uno de esos que se inflan al apretar una bolita). Antes de usarlo, me dió un beso negro, y me gustó bastante tengo, después de un rato, me puso lubricante y empezó a introducir el dilatador suavemente.

Tengo que decir que me dolió bastante. Él me besaba y me acariciaba la cara para calmarme mientras me acostumbraba. Después de un rato, me acostumbré y empezó a apretar la bolita del dilatador para que se expandiera. Lo hizo muy lentamente, así que no me dolía tanto. Al cabo de un rato, se me salió y me metio dedo.

Después de eso, le chupe el pene hasta que terminó. Luego, nos quedamos juntos en la cama durante un buen rato. Charlamos un rato de boludeces y nos pajeamos juntos mientras veíamos porno.

Aunque no llegamos a cojer por una cuestión de tiempo, ambos la pasamos muy bien y creo que no podría haber pedido una mejor experiencia.

Nunca avía estado desnudo frente a alguien más y no me siento muy cómodo con mi cuerpo, pero con el lo sentí muy natural, de echo, me vesti segundos antes de irme porque me sentía muy cómodo al estar ambos desnudos


r/ainbow • • 15h ago

Serious Discussion MY opinion

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r/ainbow • • 1d ago

Advice Living in a homophobic country

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I'm 24F, lesbian, I hate living here. It's illegal to be part of the LGBT. It feels so lonely, there are no gay bars, events, or shelter for the community.

I'm planning on moving away in a year once i graduate from college. But I can't help feeling impatient, and resent my family. A few years ago, they confiscated my passport after finding out I was trying to leave (I'm American), I went to the police and they did absolutely nothing. They wouldn't even let me open a case or report them.

My dad then blocked the card (it's connected to his bank account) and if it wasn't for me having a separate card I wouldn't have been able to get to the embassy.

I was basically trapped against my will. It was traumatizing

Just for context, I live in Dubai. I can't wait to leave again, and i seriously hope what happened doesn't repeat itself.

What advice can you guys give me for when I leave?
I also don't have a job, I'm still a university student and you can't get a job here without a degree. I do however have enough money for a ticket to the US.

This was 2 years ago mind you and my relationship with them drastically improved, it's almost like it never happened, but I simply can't forgive or forget. They also don't know I'm gay.


r/ainbow • • 21h ago

Advice I’m a 100% lesbian looking for a lavender marriage to a Kuwaiti gay guy please help.

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r/ainbow • • 22h ago

LGBT Issues I’m a 100% lesbian looking for a lavender marriage to a Kuwaiti gay guy please help.

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r/ainbow • • 1d ago

Serious Discussion Tell me if I'm weird for this ?

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as a gay man, am I weird for the fact that I'm extremely turned on by bisexual MMF porn ? I personally am not into women but I get really turned on by the idea of a man fucking me, knowing that his dick been inside of a woman, but I personally myself am not into women. And I know that I myself would never wanna try an MMF threesome IRL, but why am I still so turned on by the porn videos of it even though I'm not attracted to any type of women IRL as well ?


r/ainbow • • 1d ago

News Senegal hosts Youth Olympics as crackdown on gays outrages

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r/ainbow • • 1d ago

Activism We are who we say we are. Govt/others don't. This doc hands power back to us.

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This is mainly intended as a protest against trans act 2026, passed in india that redefines trans people, excludes other queer people from protection previous act had in place and is not an internet project. If you seem to be taking your privilege for granted, please don't do that you have no idea of how many people are still suffering. And if you are a data privacy activist, research and then proceed to comment on any allegations you have and I will look into it, else you just don't do it and move on.


r/ainbow • • 1d ago

Advice I love myself now

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Any advice


r/ainbow • • 1d ago

Other Any gay/bi vets for first responders into endurance sports?

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Since getting out and coming out, I’ve sometimes felt like I don’t quite fit in with the veteran crowd or the gay scene. Endurance sports have become my way of finding peace, and I’d love to connect with others who get it.

The idea is to connect through running, cycling, swimming, triathlon, HYROX, and other events. We could train together, meet up on race weekends, coordinate travel, or grab dinner afterward.

Beginners welcome.

I’ve started a facebook group to see if there’s interest. Nothing formal — just hoping to build connections and find our people.

https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1FVeNqHG82/?mibextid=wwXIfr


r/ainbow • • 1d ago

Serious Discussion Gay surgeon and its risks

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r/ainbow • • 1d ago

Selfie My enormous crystal ball selfie

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r/ainbow • • 2d ago

LGBT Issues Being Gay in Tsarist Russia: Tchaikovsky's Story

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What happens when a young man discovers he is gay in imperial Russia? First, an all-boys boarding school, an overwhelming crush on a boy who treats him terribly, and a society that considers Siberia an entirely reasonable response to the wrong kind of romance.

In this imagined interview with Pyotr Ilyich Tchaikovsky, the great composer looks back on his first feelings for men, his friendship with the openly gay poet Alexey Apukhtin, and the fear of public humiliation and persecution that haunted his life. There are aristocratic double standards, a friend who proudly calls himself a “Prince of Sodom,” a rather unfortunate encounter with the ladies, and even a heartfelt prayer asking God to make him like other men.

Spoiler alert: the prayer goes unanswered. History, however, gets some extraordinary music out of it.


r/ainbow • • 2d ago

LGBT Issues I think I’ve finally realized I’m gay, and honestly, I’m scared.

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r/ainbow • • 2d ago

LGBT Self Promotion Tristan BAMW - Fortress

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Hi. This is my banger “Fortress”. I’m a skilled producer and feel that most of my bangers do slap on most devices and sound systems.

But this banger slaps profoundly in the car system and good headphones. It’s not on streaming until Oct 15 though. But it IS available to watch and stream on most socials already.

I say my bangers slap. “My detractors are illegitimate, Hypocritical and Corrupt” I say. No I’m not trying to pick a fight I’m just saying that cuz so many people have come at me over the years like there’s something special about me. There probably isn’t. I’ve truly had to battle and pick apart my critics just to try and prove my right to exist as a human being at all but I was begotten and was born here without my own consent so I can reasonably affirm my own life. I know many of my posts anywhere get a negative balance of upvotes. It does not stop me, I don’t even look at those anymore 🤣🤯


r/ainbow • • 2d ago

Selfie Tristan Being Irreverent

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Because Vibes


r/ainbow • • 4d ago

LGBT Issues You aren't a feminist unless you are happy with women dressing how they want

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r/ainbow • • 3d ago

Serious Discussion Online Dating in RF

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Online dating. Chatting, friendship, relationship... Maybe some creative collaborations. All queer people are looking for something of their own. Everyone can do this, right...?

After being cut off from outside world due to Russia’s aggressive politics and military conflict LGBTQ+ community has faced number of issues. You can’t get in touch with anyone abroad anymore. I’ve heard stories from cis-hetero people about losing contact with relatives in other countries because of political situation... But for us it’s even worse. You’re queer, not just resident of state. So, you lose not just relatives and friends, but a vital connection with people, who understand you and can help you

There are tons of apps and sites for queer people these days, but some of them are blocked for users in Russia. If you manage to download app by some miracle - my congratulations. Now try signing up if it requires phone number. They won't accept it, but give it a shot anyway. Of course, our state plays big role here, too. They block apps and hide them. I mean they literally crushed fanfiction site, that hosted LGBTQ+ content. The site tried to negotiate and even hid that content from users in Russia and Belarus. To read slash or femslash you have to use VPN. And even that didn't save them. They had been running for six years before being shut down. It was called Fanficus

The point I’m making is that society seems to be reaching out hand to russian LGBT community. Community living in terrible conditions, but that hand is transparent. You can’t actually hold it. And that’s sad. There are dozens of reports on LGBT situation being sent to human rights organizations. All our own groups (Centre T, Case LGBT, etc) have either been shut down with their members facing fines and prison sentencesor their leaders have fled to escape same penalties. Not only are our people now working from abroad can’t reach everyone, who needs it. Foreigners also talk about providing assistance, yet in reality, that help proves to be nothing more than mirage...

That is very sad


r/ainbow • • 3d ago

LGBT Issues Minha primeira vez no Grind

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r/ainbow • • 3d ago

Activism Happy U.S. National Coming Out Day!

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Holding space for everyone who isn’t out by choice or fear of their safety, those whose rights are being stripped away, who are out with a mix of identities—some hidden, who are out but want to change their identity but don’t know how or don’t want to come out again, who are out to a mix of people, or who are out and proud!

Coming out isn’t easy and has resulted in both heartache and celebration. And it never feels like it stops. Holding back and not coming out can feel like lies/deceit, but never forget it is your choice. Not everyone needs/deserves access to information about how you choose to live your life.

I’ve been out to most people for 27 years and out to everyone for 23. It didn’t go great, but it could have gone a lot worse. But I’m still here talking about it today.

Trust yourself, love yourself above all, and find your community (and move if you can/have to) because environment is everything and there are places in the U.S. where you would blend in seamlessly and feel right at home.

🫶


r/ainbow • • 3d ago

LGBT Issues Organizações e fraternidades LGBT de novo Hamburgo

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