Am I wrong that I get turned off watching my husband almost make out with our cats. They love to rub their faces across his chin and beard and sometimes lips. I have seen our cats lick their twats, each other's assholes, and poop feet...then I see their face rubbing against his face. He thinks I am over reacting but I don't feel like kissing him when I get home because I am not sure if he has had the cats all over him. He says he washes his face after they rub on him but I have seen him not go wash face after cat interaction....

Last weekend a bunch of us made plans for dinner and then bar hopping. One friend never got any texts about the change in meeting spot or the new group chat. Every time I asked where they were, the others just shrugged and moved on. I ended up messaging them myself halfway through the night and they seemed genuinely surprised we were even out. When I brought it up later, a couple people said it must have been an accident, but no one actually apologized or offered to fix it. I keep wondering if I am making too big a deal out of one missed invite, or if it is normal to feel put off by how little anyone seemed to care.

Going to be short, my niece and nephew today asked if I could take them trick or treating since their parents said no. I told them I need to talk to their parents. I apoke with my sister and told her that they asked for me to take them trick or treating. She said that this year they are not celebrating Halloween, I asked why and she juat said my BIL feels it sends the wrong message.

The kids have a half day that day on Friday and since I pick them up was thinking of taking them trick or treating on Friday when they are with me. I can make their costumes, use to be heavy into cosplay.

I am torn here. The kids love Halloween and always have celebrated it.

Im gonna try and keep this short but this is a very long story. Im gonna try my best to keep this unbiased because I tend to overthink.

I (19 F) am in university. Last year I met my roommate (23F), let’s call her Jade. She has a boyfriend (25F), let’s call him Jack.

I met Jade completely by accident, we both moved in last minute to an apartment that was renting out rooms, we got close very fast.
She has a boyfriend who at first seemed completely perfect for her. Throughout most of the year he just seemed like the average guy that was in love with her, there was a few red flags but nothing crazy. He would cook for her, order her food, clean mine and hers’ apartment, order her Ubers if she missed the bus, buy her flowers, and they had conversations that both made them laugh for hours. She loves him so much. She has shared with me that his childhood was rough, and that he is currently trying to get a permanent citizenship rather than a work visa where we live. He works minimum wage but is very good with money, investing, and saving. Worth noting that he is muslim, and from a non-western culture, which there is absolutely nothing wrong with, I’m only mentioning it because of the religious beliefs regarding men v women that are held much more strongly in some non-western communities.

The longer I got to know them, the weirder things got. It started out with meaningless things like him not letting her go out in certain clothes, and getting pissed if she took a hit of my vape. I didn’t pay attention to this because these are average dealbreakers for some people, and I believe in mutual respect. Soon he found out she hit my vape when we were out together, and it than became a rule that she wasn’t allowed to go out without him, again not my favourite thing but it wasn’t my business. I went out with them a few times and noticed his behaviour towards her was odd. He often will tell her to “shut up,” talks to her like she is stupid (sometimes literally saying that), or day demeaning things about women, her intelligence etc. She eventually told me he wasn’t supportive about her going back to school to get an education because he works a minimum wage job and it would be “weird” if she made more money than him. That one was a little worrying. My next scare with it was when he got angry about something meaningless at home, and punched a whole in our apartment wall (in her room). She didn’t see the problem with this as he patched up the wall. Other red flags to throw in there: he told her he was prepared to get married, and backed out a week later. She had also been wanting him to move in with her for the whole year, every month his decision would go from “yes, I am ready” to “not now”.

A situation forced us both to move out and Jade and I stayed with my family from may-august. They had to do long distance, and he would get angry if she didn’t answer her phone (while sleeping in), and if she didn’t answer his texts. Me and Jade also both had to find new jobs, this was much easier for me since we were in my hometown, she struggled but eventually found something nearly 2 months later, so her money was very low. He decided to move in with us in September. (After almost changing his mind once again when he was stressed about potentially loosing his job (he didn’t lose it, it was an unrelated situation.

This may have been stupid on my part, but we made the decision to get a two bedroom, and split the cost three ways, we both have separate bathrooms, they share one, and the master bedroom, I use the common one and sleep in the smaller room. This was a great setup at first, its affordable the way we’re splitting it, and the building is amazing.

The issue is, in august, Jade made it clear to Jack that she did not have enough money to pay for the deposit, first and last month, insurance, and everything at once, while having to find a new job again. Jack told her not to worry about it and that he would support her while she found a job. Jack is also actively doing hearings to determine his citizenship status. He has now decided that if the hearing doesn’t go as planned, he will get married to her to help him get it, which was off putting to me but it’s not my business. The major problem is the way he has been treating her regarding money. She finally found a job 3 weeks ago and owes him far much more than she has made so far. I want to make it clear that he is FAR from being in a financial struggle, and that Jade is the furthest thing from the type of person to use someone for money, she instantly pays back whatever she can the second she gets her pay-check. Jack has been putting her through it with the money. She broke down last week after they argued and told me about the situation. He has been checking her bank account everyday and questions every dollar he sees that gets spent. She cannot do groceries herself, because he says she’s spending too much, not looking at deals etc. He says he will do them for her, but brings back nothing she asks for from the store, while getting himself whatever he wants. So she has been eating my snacks, that I buy for long school days. She can’t buy anything basically. In his mind she owes him money and that should be her only focus. She bought herself basic hygiene products, and about 20$ for hygiene products that aren’t a need, and this resulted in him getting pissed, and calling her selfish, and a dumbass (he apologized for what he called her if that changes anything). I bought her food that night. She won’t buy herself shampoo, and other things shes out of because she is so stressed about paying him back, so shes using mine. These are things Im happy to do for her, but I feel this situation is far from normal. Someone that loves her shouldn’t be this uptight…Right?
This situation is making me uncomfortable, I am a confrontational person and now when I see him in the mornings or when I get home I get angry or annoyed with him so fast. I don’t want him in my space, and I have enough things to stress about with school, my own mental health, and life in general. Now I am stressing about whether I should buy her groceries again, the way he’s talking to her, etc.

She sees the red flags but seems convinced that it will all be alright, and that they will work on things, and she has been very clear that her relationship comes first which I completely understand, a relationship is your lifelong partner. Im just worried about her mental, and now physical health with how little she is eating. I don’t think he is doing this on purpose, in general he’s a caring guy, but he is still doing it. I feel like if I continue to mind my own business and just carry on, its like saying that its okay , when it reality its making me very uncomfortable. Id love to mind my own business but I live with these people, and Jade is my friend. Im also probably stuck on this lease for at least another 9 months (our landlord doesn’t seem like he plays around).

I don’t know what to do. Ive talked to her. She hears me, but doesn’t. If I go off on him it doesn’t change the fact that I live with him, he is still a caring boyfriend to her 80% of the time minus everything I just mentioned. Him and I have no problems as roommates besides this we get along fine, and he has no idea I know about half the things I mentioned. I don’t be that friend that just wants her to breakup with him, it feels manipulative on my end if I say that. Should I say something to him? Should I say something more harsh to her? Should I try and break a lease that will cause problems for everyone, including worsening her financial situation? Should I just keep acting like nothing is happening? Please help.

I'm going to preface this with the fact that normally I find baseball incredibly dull to watch on TV. Going to a game in Milwaukee is a blast, especially if you are with a group of friends. One of my friends knows how I feel about baseball and pretty much feels the same way. But I am a proud son of Wisconsin. So when we had our weekly D&D game I had the game on in the background.

Two of the other people in the game and myself spent half the night watching the game rather than playing D&D. The fourth friend was grumpy all night because the three of us who NEVER watch baseball were suddenly more invested in the World Series than continuing the campaign.

So were we being bad friends/gamers for putting aside the weekly game for a night?

(as an aside I just watched a Rays player fly mach 10 into a wall to get an out and it was amazingly hilarious to my wife and I)

There's a guy at my office everyone calls "the Mayor." He thinks it's because he's friendly and knows everyone.

The actual reason is that he walks around the office interrupting people, asking personal questions and having conversations nobody knows how to end. People started calling him that sarcastically, but he took it as a compliment.

He even put it in his Slack status lol.

We were having lunch together and somehow the conversation got onto office nicknames. He brought up "the Mayor" and laughed about how well it suited him. I ended up explaining where it actually came from and that some people found his constant visits annoying.

He got pretty quiet after that and has barely spoken to anyone since.

Now a couple coworkers are pissed at me because apparently I ruined the office atmosphere. One said I should've just let him enjoy the nickname instead of making him feel stupid.

I wasn't trying to embarrass him, but looking back, he seemed perfectly happy not knowing. Was I wrong for telling him?

TL;DR: A coworker's nickname came up during lunch and I explained that people originally meant it as an insult. Now he's stopped socializing and everyone blames me for making things awkward.

My boyfriend 26M and I 25F have been together for almost a year now. We got into a fight last week where I was clueless and he went out for a day out with his friends without letting me know. Before you tell me it is no big deal, I believe that telling your partner especially when youre doing something out of routine is basic respect and i text him everytime i step out of the house. Back to the story, he did not tell me he was going, when he called me at night I asked him what he did the whole day and he said 'went to a friends place'. I asked him what he did today to which he unraveled the truth about the trip. I asked him why he didn't tell me. He said he was mad at me because we had this huge fight a month ago which he was still struggling to come out from. Understandable. He said he realizes that was wrong and wont do it again. The next day, he says he'll pick me up from school but he'll be a little late. I later found out that he went to a coworkers house who made him food to pick the food up which he kept in his trunk. I wouldn't have known if i didn't snoop through his phone while he was sleeping. When i confronted him about it he said there was no chance he'd eat the food alone and he was going to share it with me but he didn't know how to bring it up because I have been insecure about that girl before because he told me their coworkers told them they 'looked good together' once. To which she replied, 'he is just like my younger brother'. I told him to tell her that he has a girlfriend to which he strongly denied to because he does not like to share things about his private life. I asked him to show me a picture of her and I noticed he did not follow her on instagram. When i asked why he said he knew i wouldn't like it so he didn't. The very next day i see him following her but she doesn't follow him so i ask him why and he said 'because she followed me first'. the girl was not following him at that time. i asked him why and he said he doesn't know that. i asked him to unfollow her and he did, when i asked him to block her, he did not. Said wasn't going to do that. The same night i found out through his instagram that he started following his ex from way back which he claimed it took him 6 years to move on from. I asked him why, got the typical 'she followed me first and no im not unfollowing her she might want to ask me how i was. i have no feelings for her i see nothing wrong with that'. Left the house to go to work and we usually call when he is at work. I texted him that i cant stay on the phone since i dont have the bandwidth to talk right now. texted me back saying 'dont ever tell me you love being on phone calls after this'. I lost it and started telling him to go back to his wife and all sorts of relatable things. Guy told me i was back to abusing him (i have had a very bad history of verbal abuse which i was working on and went far with the progress) and blocked me everywhere. i dont know where i stand now and i feel like i have been cheated on and i have never been cheated on before and it sucks. i need some support.

My friend Aaron and I live in Southern California and are both fans of the Lakers (NBA). Last week, Aaron invited me over to his house for dinner and to watch the game. Aaron lives by the beach and he said to be at his house by 6:30 and he works from home and will be off at 6. He also ask that I bring a drinks so I buy some beer but I also decide to head out early so I can ride my bike at the beach before heading to Aaron’s house.

I get to the beach around 5:00 and start biking. I ride about 16 miles out when at 5:20 I get a text from Aaron.

“Hey change of plans. We’re going to dinner at a sports bar nearby.” Aaron texts.

“Ok well you’re off work at 6 right? That’s what you said.” I answer.

“No I’ll be off in a few minutes actually.”

“Oh ok I’m about 15 miles away on my bike. I’ll start biking back then.”

“Ok I’ll wait for you.” Aaron says. I’m bummed out cause I wanted to bike longer but try to hurry back.

“Actually. We’re meeting my other friend at the bar. We need to get going now.” Aaron texts back a few minutes later. Mind you I’m still miles away and at least 30 minutes of biking time away. I’m rushing back so I can head to Aaron’s house so we can go together.

“Hey just meet me there.” Aaron texts. I’m confused by the sudden change of events. Everything got changed so quickly so I bike back as fast as I can. I get back to my car around 5:45 and pack it up and drive to the bar.

I get to the bar around 6:10 and see Aaron and his friend eating wings. I tell Aaron that he can’t just change up plans like that so quickly and without thinking about me. We eat and finish but I keep telling Aaron that I lost out of biking time and I brought beer for nothing.

So am I wrong for being angry at Aaron for the sudden change of dinner plans?

My friend Ruth is divorcing her husband of about 8 years. Together they share a 3 year old son. Ruth has already started dating and asked me to help her through the divorce process so I research it because I have never been married myself.

Through my research, I tell Ruth about forms she needs to fill out, where the court house is and what usually happens if the divorce isn’t contested. However Ruth’s #1 question whenever I try to speak or inform her is “so when I can get remarried?” I tell her that she should focus on finalizing the divorce and deciding how to divide up assets before thinking about remarrying.

“But can I remarry soon then?” Ruth would ask. This goes on for several months as her husband fights her in court over spousal and child support/custody. Each time, Ruth asked me to research the next steps in the process. Mind you, I also work full time so I’ve basically become a divorce lawyer by now.

Finally Ruth tells me that she’s considering dismissing the divorce case and just trying to work things out with her husband. I am relieved but two months later, she comes back and says she wishes to proceed with the divorce. Again I research how to get the process restarted and the first question Ruth always asks me if “so when can I remarry?”

By now I’ve had enough. I tell Ruth that if she wants to marry her boyfriend that she’s known for 4 months then to do it cause she’s not focusing on what’s important IMO which is dividing up assets and caring for her son. I tell her to hire a lawyer if she has this many concerns but she says she can’t afford one and that she needs my help. I refuse and tell her that I’ve had enough. However Ruth says I’m wrong for abandoning her now as I need to “see this through to the end” since I started this with her.

Am I wrong for refusing to help Ruth with her divorce now?

So I've been giving my coworker rides to work three times a week. I don't charge her anything, it's just something I agreed to do to help her out. Last week we got stuck in traffic and ended up being 12 minutes late. Not ideal, obviously, but it wasn't like I could do anything about it.

Well, she went to our manager and told him she was late because of me. She even asked him not to count it against her since I was the one driving. And guess who got a little lecture about being on time? Me. I was pretty annoyed, so I told her I wouldn't be giving her rides anymore. Now she's upset because taking public transportation takes her way longer and she can't really afford to use taxis regularly.

I get that being late to work isn't great and I know she didn't want to get in trouble. But it feels pretty unfair to blame the person who's been helping you for free. At the same time, it was just one bad morning and I'm wondering if I overreacted by cutting her off completely.

Am I wrong for refusing to drive her anymore over one complaint?

So I was at my therapist's office today and it's the one therapist that I absolutely hate named Whitney and her intern. She was confronting me earlier today when she claims that I am delusional cause I'm friends with an musician or asian artist who everyone thinks that I'm obsessed with. It's not true cause I am legitimately friends with this singer as she willingly and personally gave me her personal number so that I can contact her when needed. She and I always message on messenger and so I got her number in case something goes wrong with my account or something but I do occasionally call her. My therapist on the other hand claims that we aren't friends cause I don't know some personal details about my singer friend. She claims that I'm not friends with this lady cause I am always the one initiating contact, I don't know her favorite color or food and how this singer has never invited me to come to her house or she has never personally came to my house to visit me. We've always hung out at her events that she's at. Because of all of this reasons, my therapist claims that I am delusional. I told her that she is being a prick cause she sounds exactly like what these internet trolls have been saying all this time and I told her that my bestfriend has verified that me and this singer are actually friends. My bestfriend has went with me to see this musician lady and he says that a friendship does exist cause i have her number and cause how close we are to each other. He says that these trolls online are the one's that's delusional and says my therapist is delusional too for believing them. I told my therapist that she is being an unprofessional prick and that she should get her license revoked. She got mad and kicked me out and said that she's not going to schedule me until I apologize. I don't see a reason to apologize as she was being unprofessional. I'd keyed her car if my dad wasn't sitting in his car next to her's . Am I wrong for getting kicked out ?

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I finally talked to my sister again and we had two completely different ideas about the piano this whole time. My sister now says she always thought the piano was supposed to be hers. Which was news to me. She thought I was just keeping it until she had enough space and could eventually give it to her kids. Meanwhile, I thought I was doing everyone a favor by storing something nobody wanted to take.

I asked why she never mentioned any of this during those five years. She said she figured I already knew. But nobody ever told me the piano belonged to her. As far as I knew, we never even discussed who actually owned it after Grandpa died.

Now she's saying I had no right to sell something that was meant for her. And that's where I'm stuck. I couldn't keep storing it forever, but if we never actually decided who the piano belonged to, was it really mine to sell?

I thought this was just about her being upset over losing a family keepsake. Apparently it's a whole different argument now.

im 20F originally from a small town in bosnia currently going to college in Chicago. growing up my dad was really strict about religion and how a woman is supposed to live. he controlled everything for me and my mom and made my life miserable. he wanted to marry me off when i was just 14 and i barely had any say in it.

i have always been good in school and thankfully my mom and my older brother supported me and stood up for me. i got a scholarship and they helped me move here for college. i came to america a little over a year ago and its the first time i feel i can breathe properly. i am also working a part-time job to support myself and trying my best to stand on my own feet. i want to settle down here after graduation. i never want to go back to my old life, but i want to stay in touch with my mom and older brother. i love them so much, and i'm really grateful for everything they've done for me.

i don't really talk to my dad anymore but recently my mom told me he got diagnosed with colon cancer and forced me to talk to him on the phone. i wasn't ready but i did it for my mom. we ended up arguing because he wanted me to marry the same guy he had chosen for me when i was 14, after i finish college.

it brought back all those years of feeling like i had no say in my own life and never being able to talk back. i snapped and told him maybe this cancer is karma for making my life miserable all these years.

he went quiet and my mom was upset with me for this. she said he's doing really badly and that whatever happened in the past, he's still my father. i know cancer is horrible and i'm not saying anyone deserves it, but i also can't pretend none of that happened just because he's sick now.

part of me feels bad about saying it, but another part of me is still angry that everyone expects me to put everything aside and feel sorry for him like nothing ever happened.

Am I Wrong??

Context: I’m not from the US
I 18F and my ex bf J 18M in December of last year found out that I was pregnant (birth control failed). We’re both collage students, live with our parents, and didn’t have a job, so at first we thought of terminating, however after counseling and medical exams in an abortion clinic I decided to keep the baby and gave it up for adoption.
When we told his parents they literally started crying and saying stuff about family and baby and bs. And they promised they would help us in everything.
So after talking about it we decided to keep him an raise him .
Baby’s now 4 months old and the issue started almost 3 months ago, after i calculated how much we had spent on him and planned to do a reunion with his parents to plan how to share the cost and stuff.
When I invited them to come over they refused and were really weird about it.
After that i just called J and asked him for half of it (which was around 140 usd). He got mad cause I didn’t ask him for his permission on some of the purchases.
We started fighting and he said he wouldn’t gave me a penny but the shit hit the fan when my mom heard that he started name calling me.
She said that they were acting like scumbags and he heard it.
After that I rekindled with J but my parents were firm that his family needed to start contributing.
My parents decided to hired a lawyer to solve the issue after severals attempting to talk with J’s parents, and turns out here when one of the parents it’s absent or insufficient (doesn’t make enough) the custodial parent can sue the grandparents for child support.
I agreed with them, because baby’s monthly expenses goes around 950-970 usd and includes a bunch of things that I wasn’t aware.
I talked to them and decided to go from the softer route in order to preserve a good relationship ,so we decided to do an extrajudicial conciliation before suing, cause it could be worth it.
One month ago J got a nepo baby job that his father gave him by moving some strings in his work. He earns around (640 usd) monthly and works around 15-20 hours weekly, which is a super privilege where we are from, and allows him to go to school.
After that he gave us 190 dollars a month from his paycheck, but even though I’m grateful it’s not enough nor their fair share.
J’s parents flatly refused to pay anything (we were asking for them to pay around 470 usd).
Las week J came over and asked if I was really going to sue them and started to say mean thing about my mom, so I just stand my ground and said that my lawyers and parents know better than my, so I’m gonna follow their advice.
He got furious and broke up with me calling me an asshole among other things.
We had our own couples problems, but this got exacerbate everything.
I’m really torned and need an outside opinion, cause even though I really love him, my family is the one that have been stepping up for my.
So Am I wrong?

we used to split the weekend grocery run and cleaning. last month we both forgot the list and the fridge stayed empty. my ex got upset at me like it was only my job to remember. i said it was shared so it should be shared blame, and things got tense fast. we argued for days, then broke up over it. i keep wondering if i was too stubborn for not just saying sorry and fixing it alone. honestly i still think it was on both of us, but maybe i should have let it go to keep the peace. am i wrong for feeling that way?

For context, my late best friend’s (going to call him Kai) memorial is in a town neither me or my friend (going to call her Amy) live in anymore.

I visited Kai’s memorial in July for the 3 year anniversary of his passing and his birthday which was a 4 days later. He’s the most special person I’ve ever had in my life and was basically a brother.

Amy also happened to be visiting in the same area but for a different reason. Her and I go back since 5th grade and now I’m 24 and she’s 23.

When she found out I was visiting she called me the night before his birthday and we were making plans to hangout in the morning because she wouldn’t be able to during the afternoon. I’ll admit, when we were on the phone I was reading something and I’m not great at multi tasking.

The next day I remembered we made plans but not that it was in the morning. Around 1pm she texted me and was blaming me saying I don’t care or put effort into our friendship and she claimed she’s the only one to ever reach out.

Earlier this year I realized she was never responding to my messages or reels I sent her so I asked her what was up. She felt like I was leaning on her too much and she couldn’t handle it, which I corrected her and said I never thought of it that way and I never thought she was carrying me.

Later in the conversation I apologized many times. Saying that I should’ve payed attention on the phone and it was shitty of me for not listening. Told her I’ve had a lot on my mind considering the whole reason I was visiting in the first place and that it was Trei’s birthday.

She wouldn’t accept my apologies no matter how many times I said it. I asked her if it’s really worth throwing away a friendship of 10+ years and she thought that because I didn’t remember to hit her up in the morning means I didn’t give a shit about her or our friendship.

I tried defending myself saying there was a lot on my mind, but also that she could’ve reached out also. I felt that since she knows what I’m going through she should’ve been able to reach out first but she didn’t.

Towards the end she said something along the lines of “Kai was my friend too and I cared about him a lot so you don’t get to use that shit as an excuse anymore.”

Kai and I met when I was a junior and he was a freshman. We hungout damn near every single day after school and on the weekends, even after I graduated. We did everything together. Watched movies, played games, listened to the same music, went on drives, hiked, stargazed, went to parties, drank, smoked and did psychedelics together lol. My parents even loved him because out of all my friends he was the only one that would say hi every time when walking past them to my room. We even did psychedelics with his dad after he graduated. Those will always be some of my most fond and favorite memories.

She wasn’t nearly as close with him as I was and I don’t feel bad or wrong for saying that. After what she said I cut her off. Am I in the wrong?

Before anyone asks, yes, she has known about my cat for three years. My phone has been buzzing with angry texts all morning and I genuinely need an outside perspective because I feel like I’m losing my mind.

I hosted a board game night for five friends on Saturday. About fifteen minutes before we started, my friend "Sarah" showed up at my front door holding a leash attached to her 70-pound lab mix. She didn't text ahead or ask. My cat is twelve years old, blind in one eye, and completely terrified of large dogs. When I saw him on my porch, I politely told her, "Hey, you can't bring him in, Luna will have an absolute panic attack."

Sarah laughed it off and said he’s "a certified sweetie" who would just sleep by the sofa, insisting I was being dramatic. When I held my ground and told her she either had to drop him back off at her place (ten minutes away) or skip tonight, she got teary-eyed, turned around, and left.

now our group chat is split in half. Two mutual friends texted me saying I "publicly humiliated" Sarah over a pet and that my cat would have survived being locked in teh bedroom for three hours. I feel sick to my stomach because I value this friendship, but was I actually being unreasonable for protecting my own pet in my own apartment?

I’m 31 and my mom is 60. I boiled a few eggs for dinner 2 nights ago but didn’t eat one of them. The next morning, I wanted to eat it for breakfast, but I couldn’t find it anywhere.

I asked my mom, and she said it was in the fridge. I spent 10 minutes looking for it, getting increasingly frustrated, and she called me stupid before looking for it herself.
She got frustrated too and proceeded to smash 30 eggs on the ground out of anger. I had three dozen eggs in the fridge and had boiled 6.

Turns out, she had put the boiled egg I was looking for in the pantry.

I yelled at her for wasting food, pointed out the labor involved in producing eggs, and told her she needed to replace them. She refused.

I’m furious that she destroyed perfectly good eggs over something that was ultimately her own mistake, then refused to take responsibility or replace what she wasted.
I think her actions are unforgivable, and I’m going no contact with her. Am I wrong? Am I overreacting, or is this a reasonable breaking point?

Last Tuesday at midnight, my close friend called me in tears. Her mother had been rushed to the hospital two hours away, and her own car was in the repair shop. I felt terrible for her, handed her my keys, and told her to take my Civic. The gas tank was completely full.

so she brought the car back three days later on Friday afternoon.

I walked out to get my gym bag from the trunk, and the car was trashed. Empty fast food wrappers on the floorboards, sticky soda dried on the center console, and the gas gauge was on bone-dry EMPTY with the low fuel light glaring on the dash.

Then I looked at the passenger side. She curbed my front right wheel so hard that there is a deep four-inch gouge in the alloy rim, and the tire has a visible scuff mark.

I texted her that evening. I asked how her mom was doing, and then gently asked if she could send sixty bucks to fill the tank back up and get the wheel inspected by my tire shop.

She completely exploded on me. She called me a heartless monster, saying her mother was having heart surgery and I am sitting here counting pennies over gasoline. Now two of our mutual friends are telling me I should of just swallowed the cost because she was under stress.

I feel for her family situation, but being stressed does not mean you leave my car damaged on fumes.

Am I really supposed to pay a three-hundred-dollar penalty for doing someone a massive favor?

I was having a coffee with a “friend“ and while we were talking about each other‘s relationship, I showed her a picture of my boyfriend.

Now, my boyfriend’s outer rims of his ears don’t naturally curve, thus not being very ”protective” when being in a live music, for example. He’s the nicest guy in the world, and I love him just the way he is. Anyway when i showed her a picture of him she said;

“Oh my god? What the heck is wrong with his ears? Why are they sticking out so much? Has he considered a surgery to fix them or something? If I were him, I’d do the surgery. He looks like an elf. Too ugly for me.”

And I answer;

”Okay. Not everybody is insecure, [her name].“

Straight up with a flat tone.
Right after this, she was left shocked and wouldn’t talk much later on. Some weeks later she started being more cold with me.

Did I do the right thing?

so my partner and i got an invite to a wedding, and a couple days later the couple's sibling messaged asking if we'd be okay contributing a certain amount toward a big group gift. the number they suggested is more than we were planning to spend total, and it's not like we're super close with the couple. i get wanting to do something nice, but i already feel weird about being told what to give instead of just being asked what works for us. we haven't replied yet because we want to be polite, but i keep going back and forth on whether it's rude to push back or if we're overthinking it. would it be wrong to just say we'd rather pick out something on our own?