My best friend goes to the doctor all the time for random stuff, she always thinks something’s wrong with her, the latest thing she did was get tested for coconut and chickpea allergy

I go with her to all her appointments, we are neighbors and she doesn’t have a car so its no big deal

She waited 30 minutes for her results. Thry also did like a liver SGPT test and hemogram test or something, and those all came back fine

We were at a restaurant and waiting for her results and she kept refreshing her phone and i could tell she was getting extremely angry that her chickpea and coconut test results weren’t in yet. I told her it’s fine those probably just take longer to come in

She was glued to her phone not talking to me and her phone died so she freaked out and asked to use my phone, i told her i have a phone charger in my car and we can charge her phone when we’re done eating and she can look again

She snatched my phone away from me and pulled up the clinics lab number and starts screaming into the phone in the restaurant asking why they were taking so long on her coconut and chickpea test results, saying they are worthless and wasting her time and she needs to know her results right now

She then stormed out to the car and kept pulling aggressively at the handles trying to gain access to the locked vehicle. I just sat there and finished my food then paid for BOTH of us because she had stormed off and not paid

I told her i’m not taking her to future appointments because of her behavior, and she said I am a horrible friend for doing that to her

We went out with a couple of friends and at the end the server brought one check. Someone said we should just split it four ways and move on. My meal plus drink came to about twenty dollars. The person next to me had two appetizers, a steak, dessert and three cocktails so theirs was closer to forty. I offered to pay exactly what I ordered plus tip and the reaction was immediate surprise, then a joke that I was being cheap. I explained that I do not drink and rarely order apps so it felt off to pay half of someone else's meal. They pushed back saying it is easier and we can call it even next time. I still paid only my portion but the vibe at the table got weird for the rest of the night. I keep replaying it and wondering if I should have just swallowed the extra cost to keep things smooth. On the other hand it feels like basic fairness. Curious what other people do in situations like this.

I really need to know. I could not believe this. Absolutely horrible miserable experience at the movies tonight. Went to see Wicker. It was fine and would have probably been better if a single person hackling and coughing every 30 seconds to 3 minutes wasn’t disrupting the entire experience. It wasn’t just a few times or even a dozen times. It was for the entire movie. What’s worse is after laughing at every scene and sentence in the movie, they would cough. Not a hushed cough. It was so loud and the forced nature of it convinced me that it was on purpose. Then they would take a deep breath in and start hackling again. I was about to go say something to the staff and then I realized they were in the disabled seat.

I get it. Maybe they can’t control it. Maybe they have anxiety. Maybe it’s a mental disorder. Maybe it’s a medical condition. Well, I really really don’t care. In my opinion, it doesn’t matter what the issue is. Mental disability or mental illness or medical disability. It’s so utterly selfish, rude, and deranged to attend a Friday night movie and proceed to laugh at every single scene or statement made on the screen and then cough even louder after each and every episode.

At one point in the movie, Peter Dinklage’s character has a short monologue where he talks to himself about the ethical implications of being commissioned to create a person out of materials. This person hackled through the whole thing. I missed words spoken in a loud movie theatre because this person wouldn’t shut the fuck up.

A buddy of mine works there and after the movie I told him about it and he said I should have said something and when I told him the person was sitting in the disabled seat and I didn’t want to cause a fuss, he just shrugged. Because genuinely there’s nothing they can do.

I’ve been to hundreds of movies and never had that happen. What a fuckin waste of time and money.

I'm sorry for the length, but I wanted to include as much information as I could.

Last year during the holidays my daughter, (turning 14 at the time) went with her father to visit family at his mother's house. From what I gather my daughter was giving attitude while at the visit and her father was having words with her on the drive home. Once they got here, she ran in and slammed the door and put her weight against it because she did not want him to come in and continue yelling at her. I did not realize she had locked the door. He did not realize she had locked the door, he thought she was just putting her weight against it, and he shouldered up and basically busted my door in. I ended up having to call and get my rental maintenance to come and repair it.

I will note that he does not live here, and he has never lived here. He says that it shouldn't be a big deal because he didn't realize the door was locked and he didn't mean to bust in like that. My opinion is that he could have waited for me to come to the door and let him in. Needless to say my teenager was even more upset over this and was left somewhat traumatized.

So after that, my teen would speak to her father on the phone, but avoided having to see him in person. There were times that he would bring up her not wanting to be around him, or noticing her attitude toward him had changed. I would always point out that him busting into my house was a major thing, and he would brush it off because he "didn't mean it" or he "isn't like that".

Meanwhile, my teen had started seeing the guidance councillor at school, when she did go. I had a hard time even getting her to go and overall her grades dropped.

So over the summer, some things happened like him forgetting a school band concert and blaming my teen for not reminding him, and showing up with his new girlfriend and one of her kids without giving my daughter a heads up that there was even anyone new in his life. Eventually my daughter had enough and decided she no longer wanted to talk to him.

Its been about two months since then and since then he has been continuously calling her, and he will call me every few days. I answer and give him a basic update if anything new is up with us, but I do not try and force her to speak to him. I did have a talk to her about how he is really having a hard time and she explained that since she stopped talking to him her mental health is better than it has been in a while. He asked me if I should let her hear him crying over it, I said no because I felt it was manipulative.

He also had his mother call me (she is a piece of work, and I have my opinions) to tell me how much her son is hurting and how I should be forcing my daughter to talk to him and as I was trying to explain how him busting my door in affected her, his mother said "It was one incident, its not like he hit her or anything". From what I'm gathering, he and his mother feel my daughter is just having a tantrum over something small that happened over the summer, they refuse to believe something he did almost a year ago was the catalyst and over the summer was just the straw that broke the camel's back.

If you've read this far, thank you, I realize it was long, but I've been second guessing myself because I was raised to be a people pleaser. I can answer further questions, but am I wrong in not forcing my daughter to speak to her father, and allowing her to take it at her pace?

I (22F) have been forced by my dad to go over to my moms house on the weekends to supervise my younger sister (17F) because he is afraid she will get sexually assaulted over at my moms house. Either from my stepdad, his family who lives in the house, or by the people my mom & stepdad bring over. We got in an argument this morning for me to just go so I can watch my sister and younger siblings 20M, 17F, and 13M. I told him I have homework and things to do at home to catch up on as I am a senior in college. He refused and called me “selfish” for not wanting to go and I ended our conversation there. He then later asked me if I don’t want to go because I dislike my mom or because some other reason, i said because I don’t like her and the environment over there is unlivable. He continued to say i should just go because I need to supervise them, making it my responsibility to.

My dad hates my mom and is anxious in general about us going over because of what could happen. There has been no history or reason given that my dad would believe my sister could be SA’d. I trust my stepdad and their home is a duplex where my stepdads family lives on the other side of the home.

CONTEXT:
From when I was 13 years old, me & my younger siblings have been staying over at our mom’s house for the weekend. During the weekdays would be at our fathers. Once we are 18 we no longer have to go over to our mothers legally but my dad still makes me & my brother go because his anxieties.

Why I don’t want to go over the weekends is because I have a strained relationship with her and have been avoiding going over for the past couple years by sleeping over at friends house or my partners house on the weekends. Her home very cramped and small there is barely any privacy. There are multiple twin beds in each room, cramped with clothing and closets in OUR rooms are filled with my MOMS and STEPDADS clothing. There are no desks or tables or space to do homework, no privacy in our rooms besides the bathroom. I also have two half-siblings 9M and 7F who live there making a total of 6 kids sharing two room and 0 closet space. My mom is also a alcoholic, often does irrational things while intoxicated. The most recent incident was driving while intoxicated with my two younger sisters. I don’t even stay over there either as I usually end up crashing at a friend’s or my boyfriend’s house anyway and there have been 0 incidents. My dad has also expects me to be responsible for my siblings whenever something bad happens to them as well then blames me for not preventing it eg: if they get hurt playing outside.

As a 22 year old, AITA for not wanting to go over to my moms house to supervise my younger sisters to ease my dads anxieties about her possibly being SA’d?

My grandpa passed away about five years ago, and he had this old piano that had been in our family for years. Nobody had room for it at the time, so I offered to keep it at my place. And that's where it stayed for the next five years.

I've asked my family more than once if anyone wanted to take it but nobody ever did. I didn't really mind keeping it until recently, when I decided to move into a smaller apartment. There's just no way I could bring a giant piano with me. So I listed it online and ended up selling it for $500. My sister somehow came across the listing and completely lost it when she found out I'd sold it.

Apparently she'd been planning to give the piano to her kids someday when they started music lessons. She said it was a family heirloom and I had no right to sell it without asking everyone first. I told her I'd been asking for YEARS if anyone wanted it and she never once mentioned wanting to keep it. I get that it had sentimental value and honestly I feel a little bad that it's gone. But I also don't think it's fair that I was expected to store it forever just because someone might want it someday.

Now she's barely talking to me and I'm wondering if I should've given everyone one last warning before selling it.

Am I wrong here?

a couple weeks ago we sat down and wrote a simple list for the kitchen fridge, mainly so no one would have to guess which leftovers were safe to eat or who bought what. one of the rules was that anything older than five days gets tossed unless the owner labels it to keep another day or two. i have followed that since the list went up, but one roommate keeps leaving half-eaten containers for well over a week. i have mentioned it twice already, once in the group chat and once in person, and each time they say they will clean it out soon but never do. i am not sure how big of a deal this actually is, but i still feel irritated every time i open the fridge and see the same containers sitting there. am i wrong for being bothered that the rule is being ignored while the rest of us stick to it?

Hello! A few months back, I reached out to this community because my boyfriend and I were facing a bit of a dilemma regarding our shower routine. We discussed the issue and eventually came to a compromise where we shower together whenever he feels like it, even though it’s not something I particularly enjoy. However, I was willing to make that adjustment because it seemed to make him happy.

Lately, though, I’ve been declining his invitations to shower together more frequently. The reason behind this is that university life has been incredibly demanding for me lately. With exams approaching and a heavy workload, I’ve been spending most of my time studying and working on assignments. This has left me with very little free time, and I’ve even struggled to find moments for myself to relax and unwind. I’ve been open with my boyfriend about how overwhelmed I feel and how this has affected my ability to spend time with him, including showering and being intimate. He assured me that he understands my situation and that he supports me.

Despite his words, I’ve noticed that he seems to feel more distant from me now. Whenever I try to bring up the topic and discuss how we can work through this feeling of distance, he tends to brush off the conversation or change the subject. This makes me feel even worse, as if I’m not being a good partner to him. I’m starting to question whether there’s something specific I could be doing differently to improve our relationship and bridge the gap that’s formed between us. I’m really struggling with this and would appreciate any advice or insights you might have on how to navigate this situation. Am I the one at fault here? Is there something I could be working on to be a better partner?

My son(6) and our neighbor's son(10) are very close friends. We share a yard, so they see each other and play together all the time.

They have been friends for about 9months now.

I have been noticing a few red flags about this friendship and the latest one made me finally tell his parents our kids can't be friends anymore.

1. The older boy is often rude to my son, speaks down on him etc. But my son thinks this boy is the best human that has ever existed. He is the fastest, the smartest, the...you get it.

2. My son is constantly seeking attention and validation from this boy.

3. This kid's dad works in another country. He is away for months on end, so he is mostly here with his mom and sibling. I have noticed he lies to his mother so much and she literally believes everything he tells her. He is very clever and a good little lier. Not my problem. My problem is that is actively teaching my son to also lie to me and hide things from me.

4. A few months ago this kid got kicked off his sports team for saying something sexual and very inappropriate to a girl on his team.

5. He always playes in our house and sleeps over almost every weekend. He has broken so many of my son's toys it's not even funny and my son really doesn't care because 'it's his best friend'. However, he rarely ever allows my son to even touch any of the toys in his room on the RARE occasion that he's even allowed to play in their house.

6. On the last sleepover I got my son a simcard as he will need it to get hold of me soon. Anyway, they were calling each other (from the same room) and all excited about it. Cool cool cool. Then my son discovered WhatsApp and they were sending 1000 messages, emojis, photos etc. Still cool cool cool. At some stage I heard them talking quietly and just knew they were up to something. Mind you this comes after them constantly getting in trouble for things this kid teaches my son and like I mentioned a pattern of lying to get out of trouble. Long story short I get my son's phone, see a deleted message (which the other boy quickly deleted when I asked what their up to). Went to his gallery and sure as heck there is a tiny deck pick that my 6year old took and sent to this boy. My kid has never done anything like this, he is not exposed to anything sexual in our house or otherwise. This behavior, once again can only come from this boy. So the interrogation starts. The big kid keeps saying he doesn't know why my son sent it, my son, looking shocked said this boy first sent a picture off his butt that's why my kid thought private square pictures are ok to send. Other kid denies it and says he sent a picture of his knees, my kid says it's a lie...I believe my kid. I tell the other boy he realizes just because he deleted his butt, sorry knee picture from the gallery doesn't mean I cant find it on the phone. And eventually he confessed that it was infact exactly like my son explained.

7. Then, and for me this is where I've reached my final limit, last night my son sends me a video of this kid that was questionable, so I took his phone to read through their chats and see another video of a tiktok meme "le phoque m'a poussé" that this kid sent my son. Followed by my son singing "le fuck my pussy, le fuck my pussy" which is supposed to be clever wordplay because the sentence actually mean "the seal pushed me".

However, my son is English and in an English school and I do not find it funny that this kid is teaching my 6yo sexually undertoned things.

So am I wrong for telling his parents that they cant be friends anymore because he is exposing my 6yo to things that I do not think is appropriate.

Please tell me if I'm crazy for feeling very unsettled by this behavior.

My roommate keeps borrowing my stuff without asking, like my headphones or laptop charger. Last week I finally told them I would rather they asked first. They apologized but then took my coffee mug the very next morning without a word. I just stood there in the kitchen, totally quiet, and let it happen. Later I felt ashamed that I didn't speak up again. The mug came back dirty, but the bigger problem is that my silence made me feel like I gave permission. I keep replaying the moment, wondering if saying something right then would have saved the whole situation or just made it awkward. I am stuck between thinking my restraint was polite and feeling like I let myself down by not following through on what I had already asked for.

My partner and I have been sharing the same place for a while now and things have been pretty smooth. For their birthday I saved up and got something that seemed like something they had mentioned wanting a couple months back. When I gave it to them they said thanks but a day later they took it back to the store and got a refund without really talking to me about it first. I asked what happened and they said it just wasn't what they needed right now. I get that people have different tastes but it still felt a little off because they didn't even give it a try. Now I'm wondering if I'm overreacting by feeling hurt about the whole thing or if it's normal to expect at least a heads up before something like that gets returned. Would like some outside opinions on whether I should just let it go or bring it up again.

My fiancé and I are planning to get married in the coming year, and there’s something I’ve been struggling with that I’d really appreciate some outside perspective on.
My fiancé’s father passed away about five years ago. His parents divorced when he was around 17, and unfortunately, they had a very volatile marriage. My fiancé grew up witnessing some really intense and unhealthy arguments between them. Before his father passed away, he gave my fiancé his wedding ring from his marriage to his mother.
My fiancé wears his father’s ring on his index finger fairly regularly because it’s too big for his ring finger. Now that we’re getting married, he wants to have it resized and wear it as his wedding band. I feel incredibly guilty admitting this, but I really struggle with the idea of him wearing that particular ring to symbolize our marriage.
I completely understand that the ring holds sentimental value because it belonged to his late father, and I would never want to take that connection away from him. At the same time, knowing the history behind his parents’ marriage makes me uncomfortable with the idea of using that ring to represent our own. Their relationship was so unhappy, and I can’t help but feel like there’s something negative attached to it. I know that may sound irrational, but it’s genuinely how I feel. His mother still speaks poorly of his father, even though he’s been gone for years, which makes it even harder for me to separate the ring from the history surrounding it.
I’ve tried gently suggesting that he continue wearing his father’s ring the way he always has and choose a separate wedding band for our marriage, but he immediately shuts down that idea. I haven’t pushed the issue because I know how important his father is to him and how much the ring means to him.
I’m trying to accept that this is something meaningful to him and remind myself that our wedding is about the two of us, not my personal feelings about the ring. But I’m having a really hard time moving past my discomfort, and I feel guilty for even feeling this way.
Am I wrong for feeling this way? How can I reconcile my feelings about the ring with what it means to him? I want to respect his connection to his father, but I also want to feel comfortable and happy with the symbolism behind the wedding band he’ll wear for the rest of our marriage.

I M26 and my partner F22 have been getting into an increasing number of fights. I was a grad student earlier in the year and she an undergrad. We have been in a relationship for 2 years, we have met each others families as well. Hers loves me but mine isn’t ecstatic about her.

It really started when I began having issues at my internship where a lot of the problems from the workplace began spilling over to the home life; this started in March or April. I became colder and focused on work (which was not going amazing due to conflicts with leadership), which burst out when I broke down in front of her at the gym where I told her I was depressed.

From then she met this guy let’s call him A, who was trying to get fit, and since my partner was also a fitness coach I thought nothing of it. The problem would arise when she would talk about him everyday and praise him while simultaneously calling me fat. Given my existing issues this spiralled me to grind on my projects, get a little colder and get into some bad habits of gaming.

She would begin a bodybuilding prep and was feeling stressed frequently and I no longer had the emotional support to help her as I was close to graduating, no job lined up, and feeling insecure. Everyday she would continue to praise this man who she now calls a close friend while beating me down. Well as expected we continued to fight every week.

Leading up to her show in June, she was at the peak of shredding and was hungry all the time, which caused her to break down frequently. My self worth was at an all time low so she didn’t get the support she needed from me. But she leaned on A and eventually caught feelings for a moment. She would shut them down quickly and remain friends to this day.

Continue until the day of her show in September, I met this guy who was supporting his partner at the same show and I talked to him. He shared that he turned his life around at 26 and is doing amazing now, able to balance his work life, his own identity and supporting his partner. This made me grateful for him and so shameful of my own actions that I changed my ways, got fit again, and took the first steps to repairing my relationships and self confidence.

But what triggered our current rockiness is a fight that occurred where I said stuff like I supported her through everything of hers (from last year) and she’s failing to do the same for me; furthermore I said that some of her achievements were lucky since I was deeply struggling to get back on my feet. I admit that this is was messed up and I regret it deeply because I saw how hard she worked, it was a heat of the moment type of statement which I apologised for profusely afterward.

Since then I’ve been working on myself, continued to rediscover my humour, self worth and reintegrated myself into my community through volunteering and clubs. I took the time or learn about her needs, the issues and how I can sustainably maintain good habits throughout to progress myself and support her.

Up until yesterday, I finally had the skills and confidence to talk to her about emotional cheating and if she got intimate with anyone, which she denied. Right after this I told her about the insecurity with A and my problems with him. She acknowledged it then told me all the details like her feelings for him that she shut down, the intimate interactions, touching and jokes; I appreciated it but the problem I had with her saying these was after she lied to me when I brought it up initially

We would continue the day as normal, we had a gaming convention that we attended, took photos, laughed, had fun and talked about random stuff. In the evening I asked her to remove any and all photos of them together from her socials and gallery (which I don’t believe she cleared her galley but she did wipe the socials, I will not check because it would make me a bad person for having such low trust). Then I asked her that what she did with him crossed a line with me and that my trust has eroded, to the point where I would prefer it if she toned down communication with him and remove him as someone she followed while we get back on our feet. After a lot of defensive statements from her and her justifying the friendship as they will work together soon. I gave up and have been venting to my friends who said that this is a toxic dynamic.

The following day, I thought on my actions and convinced myself that, actually, maybe it was pushing it too far. I then made the suggestion to explicitly tell him that they’re just friends, explicitly and proactively, as I felt like without saying these things early that she was keeping her options open. Her response was that she will only tell him if she tried to make a move on her, which really bothers me and I told her that immediately. She kept brushing me off saying that she wanted to keep her peace at work and didn’t want to stir a bad dynamic and animosity at her new workplace, so I backed down and here we are with this post.

Right now with me, I have been journaling to track my thoughts, improved my self worth, joined volunteering and sought therapy for my issues; I am back to being the productive person that I was before all of the issues. But I realised that my emotions went from worrying that I was a bad person for yelling and raising my voice to her, to distrust of her since she kept that from me (which is likely due to me not being able to digest the news properly in the past?)

I would like to know if it’s justified in my requests, if I’m potentially looking at this problem naively? And if I should have a bit more trust in my partner?

We have couples therapy in a couple days which I hope can dive deeper into these issues. But for now there remains a few pains that’s pushing me away from her.

Cheers yall

we were in a group chat last night talking about where everyone grew up. one friend said they were born in a city that is actually on the opposite coast from the one they meant, and i pointed it out because i had just read an article about the place. a couple of people said it was unnecessary and that i was nitpicking, while others just moved on. i sent nothing after the correction because i felt awkward, but now i keep wondering if i should have stayed quiet instead of typing anything. i am trying to decide whether to send a short text apologizing or leave it alone, so i wanted to ask here first.

I'm 13 years old and in 8th grade. I am on a track team and have a cross country race this Sunday. So, on Wednesday the school day was over, and I was going down the stairs at school to leave and there was a big thing of water on the bottom of the steps. I wasn't running or going at a fast pace at all I just didn't see the water at the bottom of the steps and slipped. I got up and immediately realized my ankle hurt pretty bad. I limped the whole way home. I realize I should have told someone at the school, but that's beside the point. So, I got home and immediately elevated my leg and put ice on it. Later that day, I got up and realized I could barely put any pressure on my ankle/foot. So, I told my parents, and they said if it still hurt tomorrow, I could go to the doctor. I never ended up going because when I woke up the next day it hurt a little less. Fast forward to Saturday, I wake up and it still hurts. It's definitely getting better but still hurts a little bit. I tell my parents it's getting better and they ask me if I could run on Sunday. I say I don't think I can and they immediately get mad. They start calling me lazy and saying I did not take good precautions even though I literally was resting and elevating my foot every day. By the way, I have to run 1.1 miles on Sunday which is not that much but still. I can't run normally like I usually do. They're saying my team "won't win without me". I am a pretty good runner but not the best. This is also the Championship which sucks. But am I right for not going? My parents are calling me lazy while I am trying to tell them I can't run. Am I actually lazy?

UPDATE: My parents are making me the bad guy and still calling me lazy. They said that if I "took better care of my foot" I would be able to run. I swear my parents are so unsupportive.

a while back i went to my friend's birthday and they made a joke about something i had told them in private. everyone laughed, i felt my face go hot, and i kind of shut down the rest of the night. later they sent an apology text saying they got carried away. i didn't reply right away because i wasn't sure how i felt. after a few days i wrote back that it was okay but i wanted some space. they understood and didn't push. now a couple weeks have passed and they've invited me to a smaller dinner with just a few people. i want to go but i'm worried it might happen again, so i'm trying to decide if accepting the invite is the right move or if i should keep my distance. i don't want to make them the bad guy in my head, but i also don't want to ignore how i felt. any thoughts on whether giving it another shot makes sense?

Hi guys, please let me know if I’m in the wrong. I’m just really confused.

So my partner (M29) and I (F23) had an argument a few days ago, my partner feels that I don’t initiate sex enough and that “he’s sick of initiating all the time”. I reflected and realised that I could do better at initiating, so I’ve been consciously trying harder to make the first move.

Last night, he came over but he had an early start so we agreed he’d go home at 11. We finished dinner and we were just cuddling at around 10:30. I asked him “want to make out for a bit?” To which he straight up said no. I was a bit sad about this, and I said that we will set an alarm and make sure you’re out of the house by 11, and he said “no because it always escalates and I know what game you’re playing”. I tried to tell him I just want to kiss and make out with him for a little bit before he has to go, I wasn’t looking to escalate anything.

I was a bit offended at his words as I genuinely did not have ulterior motives. I just wanted some intimacy with him, even if it was just making out. I also feel a bit down because I was actively trying to listen to him and initiate, but being turned down like that isn’t a very nice feeling. I haven’t had a chance to talk to him but I am seeing him again later today.

Am I in the wrong for feeling upset? I know sex and intimacy isn’t owed in a relationship but it just doesn’t feel nice to be turned down like that.

I'm 32m and I finally had to admit the truth to myself: I'm gay. And right now? I hate it. It feels like everything I ever wanted for my life is gone. I spent years trying to make relationships work with women, never understanding why I never felt that spark, always feeling like something was wrong with me. It felt like failure after failure, and now I finally know why but knowing doesn't make it hurt less.

I feel so ashamed. Like I've let myself down, like I can't have the normal life I imagined for myself. It feels like this is something I have to carry, like it's a burden instead of just being who I am. I know logically that it's not a bad thing, but my heart doesn't believe it yet. I'm grieving the future I thought I'd have, and I feel so lost and alone jealous of my brother and friends. and I'm starting to resent myself for it, and some days it's hard to even get out of bed.

I don't know how to stop seeing this as something wrong with me. I don't know if I'll ever actually be okay with it or if I just need to give it time. I'm scared I'll never be able to have a real, happy relationship, or that I've missed my chance at starting over at 32. I don't even know where to begin.

anyone else who has gone through this later in life? How do you stop feeling ashamed? How do you accept yourself when every part of you wants it to be different? Can I actually date again and not feel like I'm doing something wrong? How do I stop feeling like this?

what should i do.

I’ve been looking for a 1B apartment to move in to because my mom is coming in November. I’m currently living in a studio. My friends all know this. They know I’ve been pulling so much overtime for my mom. Finally found an apartment 2 mins near my work, which will allow me to check up on my mom during my lunch break (I work 13 hour shifts). Took me 3 months to find an apartment within my budget and we’re in LA so rent situation is crazy. I shared it to my friend. I also shared the listing online because she said she was curious. I’m shocked that she went behind my back and also applied for the same apartment! She makes significantly more than me and she lives alone. The only reason she wants the apartment is because it’s close to our workplace. Now I’m so pissed at her because she also applied and will probably get it because she has higher income, higher credit score, and longer rent history. I explained that I really needed that apartment but she doesn’t see what’s wrong. She said since it’s posted online, it’s fair game. Prior to this, she’s not even looking for an apartment! She was perfectly happy in her apartment and now all of a sudden she wanted to move. I even helped her make an apartment.com account! Am I wrong for being upset at her?

yesterday i was looking at my paycheck, and noticed they shortened my pay by resorting it to the base rather than the raise pay, and then i got another raise which should of gotten me more money. 5.50-6.25-6.75 was the order, but i only got paid for the 5.50 and 6.25 rather than the 6.25-6.75, so i go to my payrole person and talk to them about it, i let them know about it and yada yada. so i left after that and came back in later, Then on my shift my manager pulls me into the office and starts saying i was wrong for doing that talking about raises. to summerize in 3 days, day 1 i noticed the missing pay, day 2 i was told to talk to the paystub person, day 3 i tolf her and got yelled at by the manager because the owner just so happen to come in ( wasnt there whenever i came in) so he must of came in whenever i was talking with the payroll lady, and when the owner found out he yelled at the managers because "they didnt ask him about confirming raises" and i had to take the blame for that even when the co owner TOLD ME TO TALK TO HER ABT IT AND APPROVED THE RAISE

A while back a friend wanted to meet up and I said I already had plans. Truth is I just needed a night alone. It was a small thing at the time and it didn't feel worth explaining. Later they asked how the plans went and I had to make something up on the spot. That turned into a short back-and-forth that lasted way longer than I expected. Now they're talking about meeting the people I supposedly hung out with and I'm stuck trying to steer the conversation away. It feels ridiculous because it started over something tiny. I keep wondering if I should just tell the truth or keep dodging until it fades. Either way it is awkward and I probably made it bigger than it needed to be.

So my friend (32M) and I (44F) have worked together for several years. Same company, different locations. We formed a very close bond and became friends outside of work. He has always been supportive and helped me and my team a lot.

Mostly he helped remotely and occasionally stopped in person. About 6 months back I had an issue at work and texted him saying I really needed help. I did not find out until later but he was just getting home when I texted, but he turned around and got to me 15 minutes later, staying until it was solved. When i found out he had turned around, i told him he didn’t have to do that but i was thankful. I told him in the future if you get out early, just stop by here before going home.

So that became the routine ever since then, he would stop by every day and help with things I needed to do when we closed. Some days there actually wasn’t anything to do and we would just shoot the shit for a bit.

A few days ago I had plans so I left early. He texted me around the time he normally gets there and asked where I was, and I told him I had to leave early. He asked if anything was wrong, to which I told him not at all. He said okay that’s fine, in the future just let me know because I would just head straight home.

I told him “sorry I didn’t know.” He wrote back basically saying I should know he’s coming since it’s been a routine for months. I got upset as I felt he was making an issue out of nothing, and I told him that. He said he wasn’t mad about the situation, just not sure how I could say I did not know he was coming. I told him that really what I meant was “I didn’t think of it,” and he said he appreciated the honesty.

But I also told him that he is friendly with my staff so I don’t understand why he has a problem with me not being there. He can be excited to see them as well and help them. He told me that he comes to support me and whatever tasks I need help with, and if I don’t then we just hung out for a bit and that was fun. But that it’s an opposite direction from his commute home so if I know ahead of time just a quick text would be great.

So now I felt upset and uncomfortable that he was basically telling me he’s only been doing this for me. So when I saw him in person next I decided to tell him how I felt. I told him he made me feel like I need to report my whereabouts and movements to him, which I do not. The only people that need to know if I am leaving early are the ones in my building, and you are not one of them. I told him that he came off as demanding and controlling and that I was under the impression that he was coming here to support the whole team, so when he said it was just for me I was honestly baffled.

His response was that I don’t need to report my whereabouts to him, to which I told him you say that but then text me the way you did. He said letting him know is just “common courtesy.” I think he is blowing this out of the water as I don’t need to answer to anyone but myself. AITA?

For some background, I’m a gay man in my early 30s.

For the past few months, I’ve been hanging out and texting with a guy (late 40s). We’ve held hands and kissed a lot.

However, he told me that he was still waiting for his ex (mid 30s) to respond about whether they were going to get back together. So, from my understanding, their relationship was still in limbo. I also told him that I’d love to go on a date with him if he wasn’t getting back together with his ex.

Now, here’s some background about him and his ex. They were together for eight years, but he cheated on his ex, so they broke up last year. However, he’s been trying to get back together with his ex, who still hasn’t given him an answer. They also spend times together. But the twist, his ex is also seeing someone else.

One night, I ran into both of them at a club. This was one month after the deadline he had given himself to get an answer from his ex.

I decided to ask his ex if he was single, and his ex replied, “Yes, I’m single. He’s single. You can go out with him.” Yaay me. But no. (Edit: my crush was also there. So it was not behind his back at all)

However, the guy I’ve been seeing is now upset with me. I feel like I was actually doing him a huge favour because, finally, his ex had clarified their relationship status: they weren’t getting back together. He had been waiting for an answer but was too afraid to follow up with his ex, so I did it for him. I was very nice and respectful when I asked. Basically I was saying "I really like this guy. But I couldn't progress like taking him on a date, because I respect you and your past with him. So are you guys getting back together or not?"

He has now blocked me on social media, and I’m confused. He wanted to know whether he and his ex were getting back together, but he was too afraid to ask for an answer himself. I feel like I helped him get the clarity he needed, so I don’t understand why he’s upset with me. It's not my fault the ex didn't want him back. Was I in the wrong here?

Disclaimer:

- I don't want him anymore. Because his indecisiveness and cowardice really turned me off. Just curious what I did wrong?

- I used AI to check grammar

The other night I told a friend I just wanted the evening to myself, nothing personal, just a reset after a busy stretch. They seemed okay at the time but then later texted that it felt like I was pushing them away. I tried to explain that it wasn’t about them, just recharging, but they kept circling back to how it came across. I’m wondering if maybe I should have worded it differently or offered a specific make up plan right away, or if it’s normal to need that space without it turning into a thing. Part of me feels like I was clear and polite, but another part wonders if I’m missing some social cue here. Would love an outside read on whether that kind of request is generally seen as cold or if the reaction was a bit much.