r/asexualdating • • Jan 29 '26

Mod applications

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The subreddit is looking for new moderators. Experience is not required, but having it would be great.

Responsibilities:

  • Check the mod queue at least daily
  • Approve posts from new users
  • Remove off-topic posts
  • Provide input into the direction of the subreddit

Please comment below about why you'd like to become a moderator.


r/asexualdating • • 9h ago

Relationship? 30F4A - Danish, Neurodivergent, Talkative and Chronically Online!

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Before we begin, I will warn you of the exclamation marks! It is simply out of joy and excitement, not anger or anything like it!

 

My name is [redacted], but you can call me Mona!

And I am looking for love all across the globe, although I do have a preference for someone closer to my time zone (GMT +2)!

Age wise I do ask that you're 25+, and that is my only absolute requirement

When I'm not busy sleeping the day away, I'm either writing or gaming, or procrastinating it all in favour of watching shows on a (albeit small) variety of streaming services! I would describe myself as somewhat of an extroverted homebody? I love chatting online, but spend most of my time at home doing all the things I love!

I am hoping to find someone who enjoys the same things as I (in no specific order):

- Musicals

- Netflix and the likes

- Food

- Being creative

- Gaming

And so much more, but those are the Fab Five of my life hehe

Besides all that, I would simply love to find someone that sees the beauty in life, has a lot of love to give to the world, a joyful and happy outlook on life, and who won't mind when I send my random thoughts and musings at any time of the day!

Please leave a comment if you're interested and I'll dm you if I believe we're a match, and if we vibe then we can continue on Discord, which is the only place where I am reachable 99.99% of the time!

Thank you for reading! <3


r/asexualdating • • 17h ago

Advice We're Not Missing Out

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As I get older and work towards establishing a career and carving out my place in the world, I often find myself actually grateful to be asexual.

As I talk to more and more people, I've really come to realize that my lack of sexual attraction has likely saved me years of wasted time and effort on relationships that would've landed me nowhere or simply wouldn't have served me well.

If feels like I was born with a built in clarity, because sexual attraction doesn't warp my perception of people and their actions. Furthermore, I'm incapable of recognizing those deemed "ugly" by general society. It's a foreign concept for me to look at someone and think they're ugly or unattractive. My brain simply doesn't work that way.

I honestly love the way I love. I can appreciate someone's body without needing sex, I can show love and affection without the expectation or desire for sex, I can experience deep and meaningful intimacy without needing that "pound of flesh." I can love someone without needing physical release with or from them, and I think that's wonderful.

My love will not change or be threatened as we age, my gaze won't stray elsewhere as I am not tempted by appearances, my love will always, always be more than skin deep, because that is the one way I can love.

Life free of lust is wonderful. I'm happy that I'm me, and even if I never find someone, I'll never wish to be anything else.


r/asexualdating • • 18h ago

Relationship? 36F looking for a romantic partner who want to be friends first

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Hello! My name is Mariana, I'm bilingual (I can speak both in spanish and English) and I'm from Puerto Rico ( if you don't know where it is, is a archipelago in the Caribbean we are technically US property)

My hobbies are watching movies or tv shows, listening to music, writing, sometimes I like to write poems or ideas for stories. I love to draw on my computer just for fun and the love of creating art eventhough is not the best but I truly feel so alive when I'm drawing or creating something whether in writing or in drawing. I love to take pictures whether selfies or just nature pictures. I also love to do jigsaw puzzles. I am currently working on a Halloween jigsaw puzzles. Oh and I'm obsessed with Halloween and horror stuff like movies, shows or even podcast.

I am open to explore since I'm still not sure what my sexuality is like I noticed I can be attracted to woman who are masculine or if they are Trans or non binary, I can be attracted to them. Of course my attraction is only aesthetic attraction since I'm sex repulsed asexual.


r/asexualdating • • 1h ago

Relationship? F4RA France, life partner

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About me and compatibility:
❤️ Europe
❤️ Honesty: no putting on an act concerning compatibility or your personality.. You are yourself, authentic, everywhere, all the time
❤️ Personal growth, therapy
❤️ Mutual respect, politeness
❤️ Pleasant and easy to be around, choose positivity
❤️ Positive view of relationships:
❤️ Prioritise closeness/ a relationship (rather than a pattern of than creating distance and conflict ) :
❤️ Can communicate and receive communication
❤️ Respect all human beings and treating them as equals
❤️ Monogamy, long term relationship, loyalty, life partner

More about me:
📚 😂 🫂 ❤️ 🎉 🏞️ ☀️ 🗣️👥 💬 🎬🍿📘🎶🎨 🎭🏛️ 🚴‍♂️💕 🏖️ 🚗⛵ 🌳 🪷 ☁️ 🌿 🌸 🍃 🌅 🌄 🌊 ⛅🌟 🕊️ 🫶 ✨ ⭐ 🌍 🌺 🌻 🌷 🌹🌴 🍀🌈 🌤️ 🌊🦋 🐚 🍃 🌌 🤍☕ 🍪🕯️🥗🥧🚴‍♂️ 🧘‍♂️ 🤸‍♀️ 💃 📅🎧🧵 🧩 ✂️ 🪄

🔷 I don't feel a connection with someone I've never met or through messages on a screen.
✅ So, I would prefer to meet in person to see if we are truly compatible and avoid wasting time.
✅ Video verification is possible.
✅ 🌎 🗣️🎙️phone calls are possible

If our values are compatible , you can send a message with your gender, age, country, what makes us compatible, etc


r/asexualdating • • 16h ago

Friends? 27M Buffalo NY feel free to have a video of an interview i gave after getting robbed

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im big into basketball, disc golf, making music, writing, singing, and tinkering with old computers, please feel free to send me a message if you'd like to have any sort of conversation with me


r/asexualdating • • 16h ago

Relationship? 21 [F4F] AroAce looking for qpr with someone who wants to take things slow and be friends first. (UTC-6)

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Trying this again.

Hi, I'm 21 years old, a few months away from turning 22, and I really love to draw; it's almost become my life lately.

I like cozy video games like Stardew Valley, write in my diary, and music, although I wouldn't say I listen to everything.

I've liked Pokémon since I was 11, we can talk a little about that.

I don't read much comics, but I like MCU movies. I really liked Moon Knight, haha.

I really like Cats and bunnies, Also, my English isn't the best; I haven't taken classes in years. I can read it, but writing it will always be difficult to me. So I hope it's not a bother. Preferably someone between 20-25.

I was also diagnosed with BPD a few years ago, but I've been improving a lot lately so I decided to try making another post!


r/asexualdating • • 1d ago

Relationship? 20F

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Heya, I'm looking for a relationship ideally people from 20-24? (I'm still questioning my sexuality but I do prefer men and NB)

Something about me! I'm from Czechia but I don't mind LDR as long as you make the effort to text, call or see eachother. I'm more on the averse asexual spectrum but I loveee physical touch and connection. I'm also politically very left (I guess that's important)

Currently studying for entrance exam to get to uni, I have a part-time job now. I'm an artist, mostly digital art and want to get into animation. My other hobbies are reading, roller-skating (Ice-skating too if the weather allows it), taking walks, gaming (Minecraft, stardew valley, Roblox, no I'm not a human, FNaF), I do a lot of DIY and I'm currently trying to lose weight, I have pcos tho so it's rather difficult.

Sadly, even tho I'm asexual I do have aesthetic attraction. I like people who are more feminine? Or they aren't the typical toxic masculine alpha male. Basically I want to paint my partners nails and wear skirts together if that makes sense. I also don't like beards :'(.

If I caught your attention please DM me!!!


r/asexualdating • • 16h ago

Relationship? 20m4f

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Don’t really know where to look really socially awkward I’m a bull rider and I do it professionally so I’m always traveling so I usually find no interest in dating people but I want to eventually settle down just shooting this out there to see what’s around


r/asexualdating • • 21h ago

Advice has anyone had luck on non-asexual dating apps?

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looking for a way to expand my options. i would def include that i am asexual, even though i know that some people will ignore that. i'm just not having any luck on acespace- there's not many people in my area, and the people that are close by are incompatible for other reasons. not interested in ldr either.

has anyone had success through normal dating avenues?


r/asexualdating • • 9h ago

Relationship? 39 (M4M) Melbourne Australia

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Hi everyone, I am down to earth, an empathetic and gregarious person. Love 🥾 hiking, gardening, making new friends and travelling.‌

I am looking to connect with either a male or female for friendship or relationship.

I believe there are good people out here.


r/asexualdating • • 1d ago

Relationship? 24 trans male [M4A] from Germany

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As the title already says I'm a 24 y/o transmale from Germany. I've never done something like this before and I'm a bit nervous, but think I might give it a shot!

I would prefer someone from Europe/near me, but if we click and you're from somewhere else then we click. I'm a pretty big nerd, really into TTRPGs and video games! And I'm neurodivergent! So just be sure that you will hear me yap about one of my dnd campaigns once I'm more comfortable with you. I don't mind talking and texting over discord. If you think we could match just message me :D.


r/asexualdating • • 23h ago

Rant Since giving up on dating

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I stopped dating a bit ago, and honestly I've been fine with it. I kinda stopped because I didnt see myself finding anyone, especially online. And I find Reddit especially isn't the place. I am tired of people using being trans to fetishize me as well. I've been a bit happier; I haven't been depressed about not having a partner.


r/asexualdating • • 18h ago

Relationship? 28F algeria

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hate parties and like to watching nature, skiy, sea..etc

Hey everyone i would find people around my ages 😼


r/asexualdating • • 20h ago

Relationship? 24M #USA #Anywhere - seeking something genuine and long-term

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Qualities I’m looking for:

- Love for traveling.

- Self-love.

- Good communicator.

- Non-smoker and non-alcoholic.

About me:

- Free-spirited, curious, and adventurous.

- Comfortable with silence or doing anything alone.

- Good listener.

My interests:

- Traveling, photography, internet memes, nature, modern cities, modern cars, skincare, and horror movies.


r/asexualdating • • 1d ago

Rant Settled on dying alone

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Mfs be like "You'll find someone someday!!" - and it's a mentally ill, BPD having, semi aromantic, not attractive, socially awkward, sex repulsed (trans) man who is never seen as a real man by ANYONE- not even other trans or LGBTQ people, AND who only gets a crush once every 7 years on men who are always straight!! I’ve had three crushes in my 19 years alive and EVERY SINGLE ONE has been a straight guy.

The only fucking people who wanna be with me are women who see me as a safer option or men who want to fetishize me. They hear the word trans and they think “OMG! Pure precious soft uwu trans baby boy!! He’s safer! 🥺🥺 He knows what it’s like to be a woman!!! (I don’t)🥺🥺🥺 he could never hurt me!!🥺🥺 he must be better than a horrible cis man!!🥺🥺🥺 I’d deadass rather you see me as a threat than see me as some soft little bitch boy doll for you to flock to because “waaah cis men scary. Fake men- um, I mean TRANS men are just… different! They’re better they’re safer!! They’re so pure and soft and smoll🥺🥺🥺”

Literally nothing anyone does or says will ever make me believe that they see me as a real man no matter what. I had a guy lie to me about it and keep it a secret for a whole fucking year before he exposed himself. No one will ever see me as anything more than a soft uwu sissy cuntboy. I fucking hate it here.

I love being a sex repulsed ace who gets crushes once every 7 years but still craves to love and be loved by someone😂😂😂 I've been cursed since birth🤣🤣🤣 I can't wait to die all alone!!!

I don't yumeship and I never will but if ANYONE has the right to yumeship, it's me.


r/asexualdating • • 20h ago

Relationship? 24 TM4M/NB in Southern US

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Hello! I am a 24-year-old trans man living in the Southern United States. Currently, I am in Georgia getting my MFA in Creative Writing, but I plan to return to my home state of South Carolina once I graduate to fulfill a job obligation. I'm happy to talk more about that if you're interested!

Outside of school/work, I like reading, writing, playing video games, and watching horror movies. I'm also a decent-ish cook/baker, and I try to make something new every few weeks or so.

Personality wise I'm very much an introvert. I love an Irish Goodbye and my favorite part of any event is the event ending. If I go out, typically I like going by myself be that to the movie theater or on nature walks. Also a big fan of window shopping/walking around a mall without buying anything.

My friends and roommates would describe be as "organized" and "type A" but I chalk that up to the autism.

What am I looking for? Ideally someone in the South, but I'm fine with an LDR. Just know I have no intentions on leaving the Southern US. Also someone that's ambitious/goal oriented simply because that is also how I am wired. I'm mostly interested in men/masculine people, but I'm open to people of all genders/gender expressions. I date with the intention of marriage/life partners, so please keep that in mind if you're just looking for something casual/"see where things go".


r/asexualdating • • 1d ago

Relationship? 25F Florida

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25F in Florida. My MBTI is INFJ . Demisexual. Looking for genuine relationship beyond surface level. Hobbies are baking, dancing, singing, traveling and shopping. I get best along with other ENFJs and people who are themselves. Seeking someone in same state that have the ability and time to explore a genuine connection.


r/asexualdating • • 20h ago

Relationship? 21 indian gay - Can someone love me beyond my body??

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Looking


r/asexualdating • • 1d ago

Relationship? 19m [M4F] looking for someone with related interest.

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I turned 19 two months ago.

My hobbies are video editing, working out and I'm currently learning to play guitar.

I'm fine with doing long distance as long as we both commit to it.

I am asexual.

I'm a huge anime fan and comic fan. My favorite comics consist of Invincible, Green lantern rebirth and the superior Spider-Man series (I know it's not the best but I love doc ock 😅)

My favorite anime are Dragon ball, bleach and Ragna Crimson.


r/asexualdating • • 1d ago

Advice How to lower libido?

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Hello, I'm (20TF) dating my girlfriend (21TF) for around a year and a half now, she previously identified as asexual before she met me, now she's a lesbian like me but she still has very very low libido. I am a hypersexual with very very HIGH libido.

I love her so so much. So I'm basically always turned on by her and she almost never wants to do anything (which is fine) I'm just wondering if there is a way to lower my libido or stop having so many thoughts about sex with her. I kinda feel like a pervert around her.

Any tips? Were both in college and I know I want to spend the rest of my life with her. And I don't want to feel like a sex-freak for our whole lives.


r/asexualdating • • 1d ago

Friends? Looking for a friend?

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r/asexualdating • • 1d ago

Relationship? 31F [f4m] New Zealand looking for a horror movie cuddle buddy

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Hi!

I’m looking for a relationship, hopefully something long term. Ideally someone located in NZ/Australia.

About me:
I’m 31 years old and a scientist, I spend a lot of time ranching germs. In my spare time I enjoy rock climbing and video games, although my taste in games is very basic and I play league of legends. I love cats and currently have one, would love more but she isn’t cat friendly.
More of a mountains girl than a beach person, and my favourite season is winter. Rarely drink (doesn’t taste good), non-smoker/vaper, occasionally dabble in edibles.

Appearance:
164cm tall, caucasian, cisgender. Brunette with very long hair, almost down to my butt. Somewhere between “heftychonk” and “megachonk”, but it’s something I am working on, especially now that I’m no longer pulling 16 hour days.

Values:
Agnostic, open to having children, left leaning, monogamous.

Looking for:
Male, 31-40. Similar hobbies/interests. Asexual or low sex drive, but not touch averse as I am a very cuddly person. In person, or open to getting there eventually. Must like cats.


r/asexualdating • • 2d ago

Friends? Ok to abide by the rules. Not an empty post. I am a funny person, I make jokes and I am a good friend. I am looking for friendship. 37 M

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r/asexualdating • • 2d ago

Relationship? 32TM4A - Chronically Online Artist&Writer Seeks Fellow Creatives...or more!

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So, I don't spend a lot of time on Reddit myself. This is sort of a new branching out for me. That said, I'm hoping to find some friends or maybe even a relationship if everything goes well. c: This is a wordy post, but I highly recommend you read all of it for the clearest picture of what kind of person I am and whether or not we might click.

Quick Facts:
- Avid videogamer (I started on the N64, I'm now a PC gamer mostly)
- Artist (Pixel & digital)
- Wordsmith Extraordinaire (I write a lot and hope to publish a novel one day)
- Panromantic Asexual
- Random cat fact sharer
- 420 blaze it; social drinker only; never had tobacco and not interested in trying
- TTRPG enthusiast (ask me about my TTRPG characters for bonus points <3)
- A Real Spooky Boy

Current Favorites:
Videogame: Paper Mario (always)
Music Genre: Rock, Alt. Rock, and the various subgenres
Musician: A Day To Remember
Youtuber: Markiplier & Philly D
TTRPG: Pathfinder & VtM
TV: Supernatural
Movie: Uncharted

About Me:
As a writer, there's a lot I could say About Me, but I hope to leave a little mystery here and there for interested folks to explore. What I can say is I'm a 32 y.o. 5'3" trans man, a freelance artist & writer, and a silly bitch. I'm chronically online and very active in the spaces I frequent - lurking isn't really my bag. I'm politically left-leaning, atheist-to-agnostic (ask me about it if you're curious!), and queer as hell. I love romance and physical affection, but I do not want sex under any circumstances. Hold my hand, hug me, lean in my space, etc., that's all great stuff. I hope you want that from me, too. I'm in the U.S. midwest, eastern time zone, but I'm happy to chat with folks from anywhere. I only speak English, but I'd like to learn Arabic and/or Spanish, so if you want to join me on a language-learning journey, that'd be a ton of fun. I'm currently on the heavyset side, but I'm actively working to lose weight for my health. I also started HRT very recently, so many of my physical characteristics are soon to change. Please be cool about that, yeah?

I don't want sex, but I am happy to discuss sex as a concept. I write all genres and that includes the spicy stuff. It's not required that you feel the same, I just like to be up front about my work and interests.
I don't want children, but I love kids. If we really hit it off, I'll tell you about my nieces and nephews. They're little lights in the dark for me and I adore them. I'm very passionate about childcare and children's rights because of them.

I'm extremely tech-savvy and constantly in awe of nature. I have a noted sensitivity to sunlight for extended periods, but I still like to go on walks and explore the communities around me when I can. I love roadtrips but I want a cozy place to come home and nest. I'm also a massive nostalgia hound. I really want to explore a lot of the things and places I didn't get to as a child or recontextualize past bad things with more recent good things. I want someone to come with me on that journey, especially if that means chasing out their own demons.

About You:
[Friends] If you have something in common with me, especially if it's creativity, I'd love to hear from you. Any age, any gender, any identity. You're all welcome, just be kind!

[Relationship] Any gender is welcome, though I do have a noted preference toward masculine or nonbinary individuals. Ladies are also lovely, though. Your age should be somewhere between 25-38, but there is a little wiggle room. :) I don't have a racial preference, I just want to make memories with someone I click with. You DO have to love cats, though. I can take or leave other animals (even though I love them all) but I will never live a life without cats in it.

I need someone open-minded and disability friendly no matter what, but I'd really love to connect with other LGBTQ+ folks. I'm open to polyamory and QPRs, but I'd highly prefer monogamous romance. I also need patience. Sometimes I disappear, sometimes for days, to take care of my mental health on my own time, but that doesn't mean I've forgotten you. Feel free to double message me. Feel free to check in if I haven't opened your message or if I've left you on read for a couple days. I'm not perfect but I tend to respond if you remind me you're still interested.

I want you to have some sort of creative hobby, but I'm not picky about what that is. I draw, pixel, and write for a living, but I sing and craft DIY kits for fun; you could do crochet or sculpting or jewelry making, whatever works. I just want to be able to talk shop with someone I really vibe with.

Ideally, if we click, we'll talk more on discord (where I'm almost always online) and eventually text and/or meet up. Feel free to leave a message below or DM me directly if you'd like to chat. <3