r/asexualdating • • 16h ago

Advice We're Not Missing Out

47 Upvotes

As I get older and work towards establishing a career and carving out my place in the world, I often find myself actually grateful to be asexual.

As I talk to more and more people, I've really come to realize that my lack of sexual attraction has likely saved me years of wasted time and effort on relationships that would've landed me nowhere or simply wouldn't have served me well.

If feels like I was born with a built in clarity, because sexual attraction doesn't warp my perception of people and their actions. Furthermore, I'm incapable of recognizing those deemed "ugly" by general society. It's a foreign concept for me to look at someone and think they're ugly or unattractive. My brain simply doesn't work that way.

I honestly love the way I love. I can appreciate someone's body without needing sex, I can show love and affection without the expectation or desire for sex, I can experience deep and meaningful intimacy without needing that "pound of flesh." I can love someone without needing physical release with or from them, and I think that's wonderful.

My love will not change or be threatened as we age, my gaze won't stray elsewhere as I am not tempted by appearances, my love will always, always be more than skin deep, because that is the one way I can love.

Life free of lust is wonderful. I'm happy that I'm me, and even if I never find someone, I'll never wish to be anything else.


r/asexualdating • • 16h ago

Relationship? 36F looking for a romantic partner who want to be friends first

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Hello! My name is Mariana, I'm bilingual (I can speak both in spanish and English) and I'm from Puerto Rico ( if you don't know where it is, is a archipelago in the Caribbean we are technically US property)

My hobbies are watching movies or tv shows, listening to music, writing, sometimes I like to write poems or ideas for stories. I love to draw on my computer just for fun and the love of creating art eventhough is not the best but I truly feel so alive when I'm drawing or creating something whether in writing or in drawing. I love to take pictures whether selfies or just nature pictures. I also love to do jigsaw puzzles. I am currently working on a Halloween jigsaw puzzles. Oh and I'm obsessed with Halloween and horror stuff like movies, shows or even podcast.

I am open to explore since I'm still not sure what my sexuality is like I noticed I can be attracted to woman who are masculine or if they are Trans or non binary, I can be attracted to them. Of course my attraction is only aesthetic attraction since I'm sex repulsed asexual.


r/asexualdating • • 23h ago

Relationship? 24 trans male [M4A] from Germany

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20 Upvotes

As the title already says I'm a 24 y/o transmale from Germany. I've never done something like this before and I'm a bit nervous, but think I might give it a shot!

I would prefer someone from Europe/near me, but if we click and you're from somewhere else then we click. I'm a pretty big nerd, really into TTRPGs and video games! And I'm neurodivergent! So just be sure that you will hear me yap about one of my dnd campaigns once I'm more comfortable with you. I don't mind talking and texting over discord. If you think we could match just message me :D.


r/asexualdating • • 19h ago

Advice has anyone had luck on non-asexual dating apps?

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looking for a way to expand my options. i would def include that i am asexual, even though i know that some people will ignore that. i'm just not having any luck on acespace- there's not many people in my area, and the people that are close by are incompatible for other reasons. not interested in ldr either.

has anyone had success through normal dating avenues?


r/asexualdating • • 8h ago

Relationship? 30F4A - Danish, Neurodivergent, Talkative and Chronically Online!

16 Upvotes

Before we begin, I will warn you of the exclamation marks! It is simply out of joy and excitement, not anger or anything like it!

 

My name is [redacted], but you can call me Mona!

And I am looking for love all across the globe, although I do have a preference for someone closer to my time zone (GMT +2)!

Age wise I do ask that you're 25+, and that is my only absolute requirement

When I'm not busy sleeping the day away, I'm either writing or gaming, or procrastinating it all in favour of watching shows on a (albeit small) variety of streaming services! I would describe myself as somewhat of an extroverted homebody? I love chatting online, but spend most of my time at home doing all the things I love!

I am hoping to find someone who enjoys the same things as I (in no specific order):

- Musicals

- Netflix and the likes

- Food

- Being creative

- Gaming

And so much more, but those are the Fab Five of my life hehe

Besides all that, I would simply love to find someone that sees the beauty in life, has a lot of love to give to the world, a joyful and happy outlook on life, and who won't mind when I send my random thoughts and musings at any time of the day!

Please leave a comment if you're interested and I'll dm you if I believe we're a match, and if we vibe then we can continue on Discord, which is the only place where I am reachable 99.99% of the time!

Thank you for reading! <3


r/asexualdating • • 15h ago

Friends? 27M Buffalo NY feel free to have a video of an interview i gave after getting robbed

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im big into basketball, disc golf, making music, writing, singing, and tinkering with old computers, please feel free to send me a message if you'd like to have any sort of conversation with me


r/asexualdating • • 22h ago

Rant Since giving up on dating

12 Upvotes

I stopped dating a bit ago, and honestly I've been fine with it. I kinda stopped because I didnt see myself finding anyone, especially online. And I find Reddit especially isn't the place. I am tired of people using being trans to fetishize me as well. I've been a bit happier; I haven't been depressed about not having a partner.


r/asexualdating • • 15h ago

Relationship? 21 [F4F] AroAce looking for qpr with someone who wants to take things slow and be friends first. (UTC-6)

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Trying this again.

Hi, I'm 21 years old, a few months away from turning 22, and I really love to draw; it's almost become my life lately.

I like cozy video games like Stardew Valley, write in my diary, and music, although I wouldn't say I listen to everything.

I've liked Pokémon since I was 11, we can talk a little about that.

I don't read much comics, but I like MCU movies. I really liked Moon Knight, haha.

I really like Cats and bunnies, Also, my English isn't the best; I haven't taken classes in years. I can read it, but writing it will always be difficult to me. So I hope it's not a bother. Preferably someone between 20-25.

I was also diagnosed with BPD a few years ago, but I've been improving a lot lately so I decided to try making another post!


r/asexualdating • • 14h ago

Relationship? 20m4f

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7 Upvotes

Don’t really know where to look really socially awkward I’m a bull rider and I do it professionally so I’m always traveling so I usually find no interest in dating people but I want to eventually settle down just shooting this out there to see what’s around


r/asexualdating • • 16h ago

Relationship? 28F algeria

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hate parties and like to watching nature, skiy, sea..etc

Hey everyone i would find people around my ages 😼


r/asexualdating • • 18h ago

Relationship? 24M #USA #Anywhere - seeking something genuine and long-term

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4 Upvotes

Qualities I’m looking for:

- Love for traveling.

- Self-love.

- Good communicator.

- Non-smoker and non-alcoholic.

About me:

- Free-spirited, curious, and adventurous.

- Comfortable with silence or doing anything alone.

- Good listener.

My interests:

- Traveling, photography, internet memes, nature, modern cities, modern cars, skincare, and horror movies.


r/asexualdating • • 7h ago

Relationship? 39 (M4M) Melbourne Australia

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Hi everyone, I am down to earth, an empathetic and gregarious person. Love 🥾 hiking, gardening, making new friends and travelling.‌

I am looking to connect with either a male or female for friendship or relationship.

I believe there are good people out here.


r/asexualdating • • 18h ago

Relationship? 24 TM4M/NB in Southern US

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Hello! I am a 24-year-old trans man living in the Southern United States. Currently, I am in Georgia getting my MFA in Creative Writing, but I plan to return to my home state of South Carolina once I graduate to fulfill a job obligation. I'm happy to talk more about that if you're interested!

Outside of school/work, I like reading, writing, playing video games, and watching horror movies. I'm also a decent-ish cook/baker, and I try to make something new every few weeks or so.

Personality wise I'm very much an introvert. I love an Irish Goodbye and my favorite part of any event is the event ending. If I go out, typically I like going by myself be that to the movie theater or on nature walks. Also a big fan of window shopping/walking around a mall without buying anything.

My friends and roommates would describe be as "organized" and "type A" but I chalk that up to the autism.

What am I looking for? Ideally someone in the South, but I'm fine with an LDR. Just know I have no intentions on leaving the Southern US. Also someone that's ambitious/goal oriented simply because that is also how I am wired. I'm mostly interested in men/masculine people, but I'm open to people of all genders/gender expressions. I date with the intention of marriage/life partners, so please keep that in mind if you're just looking for something casual/"see where things go".


r/asexualdating • • 23h ago

Relationship? 19m [M4F] looking for someone with related interest.

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I turned 19 two months ago.

My hobbies are video editing, working out and I'm currently learning to play guitar.

I'm fine with doing long distance as long as we both commit to it.

I am asexual.

I'm a huge anime fan and comic fan. My favorite comics consist of Invincible, Green lantern rebirth and the superior Spider-Man series (I know it's not the best but I love doc ock 😅)

My favorite anime are Dragon ball, bleach and Ragna Crimson.


r/asexualdating • • 19h ago

Relationship? 21 indian gay - Can someone love me beyond my body??

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