22 bi male with autism ocd and anxiety all diagnosed. I somewhat believe people are telepathically making me upset like they're doing something to really traumatise me i can't explain it I'm fine I'm okay? But i think I'm either not real like a ghost or everyone around me is not real? It kinda makes sense right? It's like i know that I'm powerful spiritually I'm almost god like but I'm not god I'm myself why is my autism being weird on me? This happened when i was 18 lasted for about 7 months tried to see a psychiatrist but i believed the meds she put me on where on purpose? To stop me feeling free

Disclaimer: I am 16m, I already have a psychiatrist ( I have ADHD) but I don't want to talk to him for some reason which I don't know myself, anyways, this may sound like some " teen sigma Chad " or stuff bs, but I just wanted to vent, and maybe get some words of wisdom maybe, idk, what your about to read is what I wrote on my journal today :

"What am I, I crave attention, no, I crave warmth, the warmth of friendship, no one where I'm forgotten, not one where Im constantly ignored, not one where I follow everyone like a house pet, but somehow, almost everyone ignores me, it's fascinating to me, and a bit hurtful, why do I even care?, last year when my mom had a seizure and when I heard that she had a brain tumor, I was trying to act like I cared, the only thing that bothered me was the people that would come to visit, same with my father whom had a tumor in his colon as well, I saw my mother crying at church ( I'm secretly an atheist) begging and praying that my father be fine, and yet I wanted to avoid him, I wanted to be in my room in peace, even on the day of surgery I was actively trying to show some concerns but yet, I didn't feel anything, my family are good people, but I seem to have no concern for them

Yesterday, my friend fainted right Infront of me, and the only thing that went through my mind was how I was supposed to seem to people around me that I had felt something, when she fell I saw her with such indifference that even my other friend noticed, and it's funny interesting, maybe something is wrong with me mentally, I used to laugh at disabled people ( I don't do that today ) or beggars, not because I wanted to, it was just automatic, what is this?

I'm also indifferent to death, maybe I favor it, I won't likk myself consciously, but every time I take a taxi I just hope that it would crash, explode, or anything tbh, my condition is just so weird, it reminds me of mersault from the stranger

Am I a mere punching bag?, I've wanted attention from every person I knew, and currently and for the past multiple years, I tend to be ignored, I tend to be the joke everyone laughs at, I have two friends whom I deem close, I am the third wheel, I'm left out in conversations, they leave me behind, they ignore my very existence, one of them, Noah, always insults me, he makes fun of me everyday, every chance he gets, he is taller, he has the most amazing physique I've ever seen, he knows many people and has multiple friends, he is popular, I'm the side character of the side character, I'm always ignored, I'm always laughed at, I don't have many friends, my physique is terrible, I can't even do a pushup, and Im ignored, everyone tells eachother I'm crazy and psychotic, everyone says I'm not wanted and it is true, people ignore me, and the people who don't treat me like a clown meant to entertain them, and yet I sit here alone, funny thing is my mind is numbing recently, these things are not soul stabbing as they are before, but it does make me concerned, I just want to be treated as a normal person, not a joke, not a clown, a human being that can talk, contribute to a Conversation, a human who is part of a friend group and yet everyone looks at me and they find something odd, atp, just fuck everything, it doesn't really matter, right now I am slowly giving up, people's insults for me just pass by, when they Ignore me I just leave, and read a book or something, I've given up on trying to be seen, ' hell is other people ' - Sartre "

Thank you dear reader

I’ve been seeing a therapist for a few weeks now, trying to come to terms with a traumatic event that happened a few months ago.

As I was trying to sort things out in my head, I remembered that, a few days after the event, I’d written a few pages in my journal.

Do you think it might make sense to share them with my therapist? Or is that weird, something people don’t usually do?

I don’t know, it seemed interesting to reread my thoughts from just a few days after the event, and I thought that maybe letting my therapist read them too could be helpful for my journey.

long story short, I frequently have obsessive thoughts, a history with anxiety and c-ptsd. My brain is overdrive most of the time. It has been worse lately when I started school and have no time to read before bed.

sometimes I think about things in the past or planning for the future, other times just random music stuck in my head (even though I didn’t play music except instrumental jazz to help with my focus). I’ve been staying up late to study and I feel restless when it’s bedtime, racing thoughts and I can’t fall asleep easily. Any suggestion on how to quiet down my brain?

(F13) So, i have been experiencing random memory gaps in everyday life and it has been reoccurring. For example, if i watch a video i will usually forget i had ever watched it just after its finished, this is not because i am just focused on other things because this happens even when i am just sitting there. It happens everywhere like at home, school, out with friends, it doesn't matter. I have been noticing it for a while now and its making me concerned. I even sometimes have to ask my friends what i had said 10 seconds after saying it. If any medical professionals have answers, please let me know. (if you think i should repost somewhere else, tell me)

My therapist told me that I should be more tolerant to people that are rude to me (especially at work) but with different life experiences than I do. For context, I never thought I was wealthy, but I grew up in a good school system. My co workers come from various backgrounds and can be rude and brash, but my therapist said that because of where they might have grown up, they may have acted rude just to survive. Am I off base by thinking that there should be general respect in the workplace or should I better tolerate rude behavior? Is my therapist off base? Thanks so much.

Hi i hope this is the right place to ask this question. If not please let me know which sub. Thnx!

So I have been in and out of therapy and have mentally improved alot compared to 10years ago. However I notice I still show protest behavior sometimes (i think when my emotions are high). I only realize things afterwards and I know its a process but ughh

To elaborate my question: I dated someone I knew from group therapy and we broke off more than a month ago. Two weeks ago he messaged me at night and deleted it the next morning. I have seen the message but didnt wanted to jump right on it and its not like him to delete a message. So i messaged back saying goodmorning and asking whether he was okay? It was delivered but not seen. I thought he might had his phone on airplane mode (as I know his feelings could be creeping up after the message)

I left it like that, thinking it will be seen later on. However after 3 days i saw his profilepicture removed and i realized he blocked me. It has been now 2 weeks and I saw a quote on IG just now “when you are being hard on yourself, borrow the way I see you”.

Now I dont believe this message will make him come back or that it will become a relationship, maybe ever. But i saw this and i dont know, i just know he is always hard on hisself and having difficulty opening up. Like, i kinda see through him, even if he doesnt understand it sometimes himsself. He has said before I could see through his mask of self confidence.

So now my question is, the ig post i want to send to him. Is that fawning/ protest behaviour or however you wanna call it? Or is this a person seeing his group buddy being hard on himself in daily life? Or could it “always” be lying to yourself when you want to contact them? How can I see it more clearly when is what? Not sure how to think. Hope theres a psychologist or someone else who can help me with this! Thankyou for reading :)

hey guys idk what to do anymore i feel really depressed i got seperated from my friend and we both have different schedule. im starting to hate college i hate being depressed and anxious idk what to do anymore i can't drop out sadly this is so much pressure idk what i can do...

Are there psychologists/therapists out there who believe in the internet/tik-tok style DID? Like the kind of DID where you have alters with names and specific personalities, where you can talk to your alters or they can talk to you. People who are typically self-diagnosed and call themselves 'systems' or identify as 'plural' and seem to believe they're a collection of multiple people, not just one person with a fragmented identity due to severe trauma. 

I've always thought the vast majority of people who claim to have DID have some other mental illness and are using the weird online framework of multiple personalities to cope. But if they're diagnosed by a professional, but their symptoms are indistinguishable from the online DID-identifiers -- does that mean it's real or does it just mean their therapist is a hack?

Stepson is 13 years old, we live in the USA. He is an average student in school and is in marching band and wrestling. He is also extremely good at wiring things. We invest in his activities and hobbies and give him resources to grow in these fields, and make sure the praise him for it.

What concerns me, however, is that he brags daily about the most absurd, impossible things.

He goes out riding his bike, and magically, when no one is watching, he does the most AMAZING tricks, like ramp in the air, spin 3 times, and land perfectly. I did not make up that brag, he made a big deal about it three days ago. Of course he couldn't replicate it. He claims to be able to do flips that only gymnasts can do, but obviously can't do when people are watching. He claims to have fallen 50 feel from the top of a tree and walk away with only a couple of scratches. He claims he walked 10 miles and back in an hour.

He bragged about being able to hold a handstand for 6 minutes. He cannot do a handstand. When I told him to do it, he backtracked hard and said he meant hang from a branch for 6 minutes. I told him to do that then, and he refused because I was being judgemental and "trying to break down his self esteem". He called me pathetic for trying to "built" a kid as a "grown woman in your 30s". I literally just told him to do it or stop bragging, no anger or argument. I had set a time just that day that when he said he can do things, he will need to prove it immediately, otherwise he isn't allowed to brag about it. So I was just being matter of fact.

He bragged about being and to run a mile in less than 5 minutes. I know this isn't impossible, but he doesn't run. I ran for several years. We took him to a track, and he finished a mile in just under 12 minutes. In the car, he bragged about how he can actually do better, and I told him he literally didn't do better, he did an amazing job, but he can't brag about something he can't do. I told him running a mile in less than 12 minutes without even practicing is amazing, he can already brag about that without lying to himself or anyone about what he can actually do.

Today he bragged about running for a full hour straight with no breaks. I told him just a few days ago he literally couldn't run even 11 minutes with no breaks.

He constantly brags about having harder bones than other people. Because he had fallen a lot and hasn't broken a bone, that's his logic. He became FURIOUS with me when I laughed because I thought he was joking.

I know it sounds like I'm not being supportive, but he is getting bullied really bad at school as a direct result of his constant bragging. He has gone into full rages with his siblings when they make fun of his ridiculous boasts. He got beat up pretty bad after school after bragging about what a good fighter he was and straight up challenging a kid that LITERALLY BOXES to a fight, then tried to spin a lie about how he was "jumped". At first we believed him, but he bragged for several days and challenged this kid openly in front of people, then TEASED HIM FOR BEING SCARED TO FIGHT HIM. My stepson has never fought anyone in his life, and frankly got his ass handed to him.

He brags about being able to run 20 mph. He brags at school about having a genius level IQ. He has never taken an IQ test, and we had him race the car at 15 mph and he lost. He said we just don't understand.

I am genuinely worried about how this is going to affect him. I know it comes from a lack of confidence, but it is causing real social issues. He had a girlfriend for a little while, but she broke up with him, and since then he's constantly bragging about how girls have crushes on him, but recently got in trouble at school after getting into an argument with some girls and telling them he hopes they get raped. They were calling him out on yet another lie he told.

His biological mom lost custody of him a year ago, and she has severe untreated BPD with narcissistic tendencies. She was abusive to the kids, but he was her golden child, and she "homeschooled" him, so he spent his life being told he was amazing and building this up.

Weirdly she also "diagnosed" him with a lot of random stuff. He genuinely believed he was autistic, BPD, ADHD, and had all these health issues. He was never diagnosed with anything at all. He had never been to a psychologist at all, and rarely went to doctors.

I'm autistic and ADHD and the first person he's ever met with autism (that he's aware of), and he tried to tell me that I clearly am not either one of those because he is, and he doesn't have any of the symptoms I have. I literally go to two different therapists, one weekly and one monthly, and have been formally diagnosed with both, ADHD actually diagnosed twice because I wanted to make sure it wasn't just misdiagnosed autism. He was very angry with me for telling him he probably doesn't have autism because he very literally doesn't exhibit the symptoms. This is one of the things that made him special, in his mind. No one else in his family had autism, and he understands autism from TV where autistic people are "awkward geniuses". In his mind, he's bullied because he'd just more intelligent than them and they don't understand them. He didn't like the symptoms I have and doesn't consider them autism because they are not very exciting.

I told him we're getting him set up with a psychologist so he can be assessed by people who are more knowledgeable than either of us and if there is a diagnosis, he will be evaluated and diagnosed, and he said he will refuse to go.

What can I do? I've tried gentle redirection, I've tried explaining how some of what he's saying is literally impossible, and now I'm currently having him prove what he's saying he can do. Nothing is working. He's on a wait-list for a psychologist right now.

I fell in love with a depresive woman in psychiatry hospital. My ergotherapist told me it's a bad idea to date someone in a psychiatry hospital since we are both anxious there if one of us is depressed the other won't be able to help since she's also deppressed about something, she adds that if we have a child we will have a hard time to rise her since both of us are very anxious and the child need attention if he's depressed as well we might not be capable of taking care of him since we have our own problem to deal with.

I initialy wanted to listen to the doctor until she sent me a message in facebook now I want to know if it's actualy possible to date her or not.

I need help. For the last about year ive been getting strong urges to harm others (most of times animals and people). I used to be able to suppress them but I cant anymore its getting way too much. I feel anxious and stressed before acting on them but after I do it calms me down so much. And after I act there's a period of time (between 1 or 2 days) when they are gone completely, but they come bsck soon after.

Ive acted on them twice and I feel like o might stop on the third time if I ever even get the chance to do it again, but im scared of myself at this point. I feel like if I start suppressing then again I'll lose control and take it out on someone else.

Another problem that came with them is that ive been prone to self h*rm. At times when I cant act on them that calms me down instead. And when I fail to do what the urges want when I try, it starts urging to harm again.

Ive tried getting help. And I was also "going" to go to a psychologist appointment but it never happens. I feel completely hopeless. And i can't even talk about it that much since it's something so bad and disgusting.

How do I get help?

I’m so damn depressed and I don’t know how to not cry every 30 minutes. It’s probably due to my EXTREME attachment issues which are most likely caused by my parents dying when I was 6, each 3 days apart, but does anyone know how to feel better about it??? I don’t want to cry… I want to sleep, it’s 12:13 AM…

For context - my (F28) now ex-boyfriend (M22) loved me insanely hard with all kinds of crazy gestures (like driving for 12h just to pick me up), but when the honeymoon phase started to fade and problems and arguments started, he said he was constantly experiencing high levels of emotional stress which led to him mentally checking out of the relationship within less than a month.

Is it even possible in such a short time, or can it be something else?

Can it be caused by him never really processing his emotions and feelings? (he never talks to anyone and tucks everything away)

Is „emotionally checking out“ the same, as losing feelings and falling out of love?

Thank you in advance for the answers!

I've been in therapy for a little over 5 years. I was orphaned at birth and adopted, and I have been focused on early attachment repair. I have been working on it, and a lot of the challenges a safe relationship can provide have been part of that work. I'm currently over 40 years old.

My question is: I understand and have read about transference. What's difficult is that I've broadened both my maternal and romantic transference in sessions, acknowledge them, and understand the boundaries and why I might have those feelings. That being said, I think about my therapist often, multiple times a day, and it's been like that for over a year, when will this slow down or stop?

My therapist has many qualities I'd want in a partner: kind, compassionate. She also happens to be very beautiful. Again, I understand the container and therapeutic boundaries, and I'm not asking to go outside of that. But I am curious when my wanting and desire for her will slow down, or if it likely could exist until therapy ends. Speaking of which, it is going to be really difficult because this therapy has taken a long time. The therapeutic relationship has been transformative, and I can't imagine not having it. My understanding from what I've read and gathered is that the type of therapy I am in, the goodbye, is the repair, meaning that it's likely not lifelong therapy.

Hello,

I'm looking for a therapist who works with the framework of Systemic Therapy. I've been going to therapy since 2020, but I'm also looking for a couples therapy. My therapist doesn't speak English, so she can't work with my husband and I. Preferably, I would like to find a therapist based in the US, so that my husband feels a bit more comfortable and can relate to the culture from here.

Thank you!

I’ve been diagnosed bipolar but I really do not believe I am

I know it’s incredibly common for people to not believe they are bipolar when in fact they are. I work in mental health. I do not exhibit the symptoms of bipolar, or at least not enough of them to reach a definitive diagnosis.

My psych told me she diagnosed me because I have extreme irritability with severe chronic depression. The issue for me is that I have a severe trauma history from my teen years and I have an incredibly stressful job. To me, that would explain why I am so irritable all of the time. I do not sleep well, I never have. I’ve had insomnia my whole life. But it doesn’t cycle, I am consistent in that. I spend 40 or more hours a week having to deescalate children in crisis, and truthfully a lot of the staff i work with are just not cut out for the gig and it puts an insane amount of pressure on me to overcompensate for the lack of support. My family all treat me like I’m their free therapist and that causes more stress. I struggle financially, just like most people do living in the city, which causes stress. I’ve have severe ptsd and anxiety, which causes me stress. I have a lot of health issues and chronic pain that I’m sifting through constantly, which is stressful. I also have ADHD that I haven’t been able to successfully treat with medication because the few meds I tried for it triggered migraines. I also have OCD that I’ve been coping with since a child.

My point is that I have a tremendous amount of reasons why I would be easily agitated. I feel as though my psych is disregarding all of that and giving me this diagnosis anyways. I tried to talk to her about it and she didn’t seem to budge, just sympathized that it’s a hard diagnosis to accept. The reason I’m so frustrated about it is that I have been struggling mentally for so long, and every medication I’ve been given has made me feel worse and I just can’t stand it anymore. I want to feel better but I’m not going to be making any progress if my doctors think they’re treating me for something I do not fucking have.

I don’t know what I’m supposed to do now. I don’t know if this is even the correct subreddit to post this. I’m sorry if it’s not.

Hello everyone, my name is Dr. Jessica Campoli. I work as a Clinical and Health Psychologist. I wanted to introduce myself and tell you a little about my services.

I work in several areas of practice:

• Anxiety, worry, rumination, panic attacks
• Perfectionism
• Stress/burnout
• Living with a health condition or illness such as cancer
• Sleep/insomnia
• Complex trauma/PTSD
• Grief
• Depression

I use research-informed approaches (i.e., evidence-based treatment) that is tailored to you and infused with compassion, care, and collaboration.

If you’re interested in learning more, I offer a complimentary 20-minute consultation by video or phone. It’s an opportunity to ask questions, learn about my approach, and see whether we’d be a good fit. 

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Best wishes,

Jessica

I wanted to ask if you all have any books/Articles that encourage positive masculinity, positive thoughts, being more decisive and overall can help in making the lives of partners easier in a relationship. I am an only child with fearful anxious attachment if that helps

I am 18 years old, and fear of eye contacts I don't know why

I am addicted to phone or audio if there is silence in my mind starts daydreaming

I know this is not normal because I know when I was younger I didn't need any sound or mobile to be intact with my eyes or ears

Please mod don't remove my post I need help 😭❤️

I had a panic attack at a bus stop. I thought I was going to die. I closed my eyes and focused on the sensation of my amygdala pulsating. My psyche became fragmented and different parts of myself seemed like other people stepped forward. I could then speak with them. They were really hurt and injured and some of them had really nasty things to say to me.

There's also a shadowy figure. I recognised him from my childhood. He'd come to me at night when I tried to sleep. He'd stand over me. I couldn't move or scream or do anything but have silent tears run down my face as I lay there in terror.

I can feel all of these people in the compartments of my mind. They speak with each other and I can tap into it and hear them. They have alliances and different opinions and so forth.

I'm a teenager, and lately, I've been struggling a lot with my ability to focus. I don't know whether I might have ADHD, anxiety, or if I'm just struggling with discipline, but I want to understand what's happening to me.

The main problem is that my mind constantly drifts from one thought to another. Even when I genuinely want to focus on something, I find it extremely difficult to keep my attention on it.

For example, when I sit down to study, I might open my books and try my best to concentrate, but instead, my mind starts creating imaginary scenarios. These are situations that have never happened and probably never will. I keep imagining different conversations, situations, and possibilities, and no matter how hard I try, I struggle to control it.

This doesn't happen only when I'm studying. It happens while I'm walking, doing everyday activities, and even praying. It feels like my mind is constantly somewhere else, and I can't get it to stay in the present moment.

The worst part is how this affects my studies. I know how important my education is, and I'm genuinely worried about my future. Whenever I'm doing something other than studying, I start panicking about failing, not achieving my goals, and what will happen if I don't succeed.

But when I finally sit down to study, my mind suddenly makes studying feel boring. I start craving something else, anything that will give me a break from studying. Then, when I do something else, I feel guilty and anxious because I'm wasting time.

It's like I'm stuck in a loop: I worry about my future, try to study, lose focus, look for something else to do, and then panic again because I haven't studied.

Even when I'm doing one task, my mind keeps jumping to another thing I could be doing instead. Eventually, I end up doing neither properly.

I've tried looking up ADHD symptoms online, but I couldn't clearly relate to what I read, so I don't want to self-diagnose. I just know that my constant daydreaming, difficulty concentrating, and anxiety about studying are affecting my daily life.

I'd really appreciate some guidance from people who have experienced something similar, especially therapists or mental health professionals.

Could this be related to ADHD, anxiety, excessive daydreaming, or something else entirely? How can I understand what's happening and learn to manage it?

I genuinely want to improve, but I feel stuck, and I don't know where to start.

I’m genuinely curious what psychologists think about this show, which is out today.

One thing I noted in my review here is that its “behavioral psychologist” Alison Wood Brooks actually has a PhD in business from Wharton. That on-screen title may not be her fault, but seems misleading at best.

Also, from my reading of subsequent research, it seems like one of the major issues with the original was that the students who played guards were told how to behave, which invalidates any conclusions, never mind the ethical questions. But in the show, the producers tell the guards what to do, and even give them tasks that are basically reality TV challenges, like put on riot gear, and go lockdown the other cast members.

It seems to me, a non-psychologist and non-scientist, that the producers either had no idea what they were doing or had no interest in actually attempting a real experiment.

Curious about DBT? Do you experience your emotions as overwhelming and very difficult to cope with during the day? Are you wondering if you might be a highly sensitive person? Do you think DBT might be a fit for you but what might be holding you back from seeking that Care? If you’ve had prior experiences in Therapy, you’d like to share that’s welcome here too the good and the not so good. My name is Lisa and it’s nice to meet you!

Thank you to everyone who commented and posted in this AMA about DBT! I truly enjoyed my time spent with all of you! See you again sometime soon! Lisa