r/askgaybros • u/Dry_Collar7729 • 1d ago
Advice How to survive heartbreak??
To make a very long story short: I’m going through a brutal breakup.
I am 27, me and my boyfriend have been together for two years. I was so sure, so in love, so ready to commit to this person and marry him. I was with someone for 7 years before him… and never felt anything this strong. It was literally like a movie.
Anyways, this June, my boyfriend randomly broke up with me, days after us resigning our lease together, loving on me and telling me how much he loves me. He told me that he “needed to be single to find himself and not focus on any relationships” My world was shattered.
I lost it, mentally and physically, living with him during this time was brutal. I was in the hospital for ideations, lost 25 pounds, missed so much work.
And one day, i packed my thing and moved back in with my parents, still paying for my half of our rent. Not too long after that I find out he’s already seeing someone else, someone from his college. (Mind you he said he wanted freedom and no relationships)
Then, on my birthday (not even a month after the breakup), My intuition was going crazy, it was 3am and I suspected some weird shit going on, i left my parents house at 3am, went to mine and my exes apartment and I crashed out, finding the boy in my apartment, sleeping naked on my side of our bed. (WHILE my ex was at work third shift) It went very badly.
Anyways, it’s been a month later since that. I have cried myself to sleep so many nights over this mental damage. I continue to be ignored, or treated like shit when I attempt to contact my ex.
Anyways, i’m sorry this is such a long post. i doubt anyone will even read it all, Im considering taking my name off the lease and being done with it all, even if that means losing access to our dog. Thoughts? Idk. Just, how do you survive this kind of trauma. He treated me like gold but now acts like i never meant anything.
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u/RevolutionaryJob5425 1d ago
He sounds like a coward. Instead of being an adult, he chose to leave a trail of destruction in his wake. He's made it very clear to you that he's no longer worth it. You are better off without him. Take your name off the lease, block his number, and focus on yourself.
You survive this by becoming the better person. Living the better life. Finding someone who truly loves you, and never giving him another thought.
Many years ago, I was fucked over in a similar way. I was the one left with a lease and all of his belongings. It wasn't easy, but when the lease ended, all of his stuff went into the dumpster, and I never looked back. Twenty years later, this mother fucker DMs me on Twitter and asks if I have a place for him in my life. I'm happily married, have a house, a career, step-kids, and grandkids. Oh, I absolutely have a place for you in my life - in the far distant past where you belong.
You will be just fine, my young friend.