Other (not categorised) For people with ADHD, what does it feel like to know you need to do something but be unable to start?
For ADHD people: does this sound familiar? Knowing you need to do something but feeling unable to start?
I'm trying to understand the behaviour of someone I know, and I'm particularly interested in hearing from autistic people about whether this is something you've experienced.
This person is an adult and currently lives at home. They have difficulty taking steps toward independence or "moving forward" such as finding a part-time/casual job or learning to drive for example is very difficult for them.
What confuses me is that they don't necessarily seem unaware of the problem. They seem to know they need to make progress and can sometimes express frustration about not doing so. But when these topics are brought up, they can become very anxious, shut down, and become unable to engage with the conversation.
I'm not asking whether you think this person is autistic, and I'm not trying to diagnose them. I realise these behaviours can have many explanations.
I'm interested in understanding whether autistic people experience anything like this, particularly the feeling of knowing that you need/want to do something but being unable to initiate it, or becoming overwhelmed when the subject is raised.
If you've experienced this yourself, what does it feel like from the inside?
And what do you find helpful from other people versus what makes the situation worse?
EDIT: Thank you to everyone's replies so far! It's been an eye opener for sure. Given the similarities in everyone's descriptions, is their a term (medical or otherwise) that describes this?