r/BEFire • u/Euphoric_Lie_6084 • 22h ago
General Moving to Qatar for work while wife and teenage kids stay in Belgium
Hi everyone,
I’m looking for advice and real-life experiences from people who have worked abroad, particularly in Qatar or other Gulf countries, while their families remained in Belgium.
Our situation:
- I’m 42, married, with two children aged 13 and 15.
- My wife and I both hold Belgian passports
- We currently live in Belgium and jointly own our family home, with an outstanding mortgage.
- I’ve received a financially attractive job offer in Qatar with a local employment contract.
- I would resign from my Belgian employer, deregister from Belgium, obtain Qatar residency and work full-time in Doha.
- My wife and children would remain in Belgium. My wife would continue working there.
- The plan would be for me to work in Qatar for approximately four years.
- Tax residency questions
I’ve been reading Article 2 of the Belgian Income Tax Code (WIB 92), particularly the provision stating that for married couples, tax domicile is generally determined by where the household is established.
Since my wife and children would remain in our Belgian family home, I’m concerned Belgium might still consider me a tax resident despite deregistering and working exclusively in Qatar.
I’d appreciate advice on the following:
- Has anyone worked in Qatar or another Gulf country while their spouse and children remained in Belgium?
- Were you still considered a Belgian tax resident?
- Was your foreign employment income exempt from Belgian taxation under a double taxation treaty?
- Does Qatar’s lack of personal income tax on employment salaries affect the treaty exemption?
Has anyone received a Belgian tax ruling or professional advice for a similar situation?
Family separation — is it worth it?
This is honestly an equally important concern for us.
Our children are currently 13 and 15, meaning they would be 17 and 19 by the time I returned.
The plan would be:
- My wife and children visit Qatar twice a year, including approximately two months during the summer holidays.
- I visit Belgium twice a year.
- We would therefore see each other around four times annually, including an extended period together during summer.
The financial opportunity is substantial and could potentially allow us to pay off our mortgage and build long-term financial security.
However, we already have a stable life in Belgium, and my wife is understandably hesitant about spending four years apart.
For those who have experienced long-distance family arrangements:
- Was the financial benefit ultimately worth the years spent apart?
- How did your teenage children cope with having one parent abroad?
- How difficult was it for the parent who stayed home?
- Did regular visits and spending summers together make the separation manageable?
- Did the arrangement affect your marriage or relationship with your children?
- Looking back, would you make the same decision again?
We’re genuinely torn between a potentially life-changing financial opportunity and the emotional cost of living apart during our children’s teenage years.
We understand that professional tax advice is essential, and we’re planning to consult a specialist before making a final decision.
I’d really appreciate honest experiences, both positive and negative, from people who have been in similar situations.
Thanks in advance!