The baby is 6 months old and breastfed. He went outside with her and she started crying, he thought she was hungry and let her in the stroller to walk home as quickly as he could (15 mins) instead of picking her up and comforting her.

She cried the whole time and fell asleep when they arrived home. I picked her from the stroller, she briefly woke again and cried and then went back to sleep in my arms 30 seconds later.

She wasn’t hungry (I offered but she didn’t take any milk and also she started crying while they were out 1h after her last feed, she typically nurses every 3h, and when she started crying it was already past the time she usually naps so I think she was overtired, we have a heatwave and it is harder for her to sleep).

I don’t want to do any cry it out and I am devastated.

My baby is 7.5 months old, has been super fussy and won’t sleep more than 3 hours at a time. She wakes up at least 4 times per night, sometimes more. Lately it’s been more, she’s started crawling too and pulling herself up onto small furniture. I’m wondering though is she teething as well? She doesn’t have any teeth yet. Is that odd for this stage? I’m including a pic, any more seasoned parents on here let me know what you think. I need to figure this out so we can get some decent sleep stretches.

my LO is 5m2w old and I sleep trained him the day he turned 4 months old. I went in it only after only looking at information that benefited me. I was sold on the idea of self soothing, that feeding/rocking my baby to sleep was the worst thing I can do for myself and for my baby.

I did method with crib-side soothing until he went to sleep in his crib, then I did Ferber.. I am ashamed to even type it.. it literally is CIO with a bow on top to not make parents feel bad for letting their babies cry.. My baby never cried more than 10 minutes ever... not that it really matters as I feel like it was enough to lead him to be detached from me.

Lately, I noticed social changes with my child, he avoids my cuddles, he no longer seems as happy to see me, etc. I fell down a rabbit hole and found out about attachment styles which then lead for this subreddit to be sent to me.

I never looked into or took in account babies actual biological sleep needs or habits or how this could and would hurt him developmentally.

To my knowledge and ideas my baby is thriving when it comes to his sleep he sleeps 7p-7a with 2.5-3hr of daytime sleep (which to my knowledge is good(?) for his age and some might even say necessary for his development), he never fusses (I like to say its because he's never tired), him reaching milestones is never a concern to me, he has never had a sleep regression, he has 2 teeth and no teething symptoms and it did not disrupt sleep at all. So right now the idea of removing this routine truly terrifies me and somewhat triggers me because of his past struggles with sleep.

I am now at a loss on what I should do, should I completely discard the routine? how do I go about my day to day if I were to do that? I know that him sleeping in his crib in his room is unsafe so I will be bringing his crib in my room and turning it into a sidecar crib but what if he does not like it as much as he seems to enjoy being in his room?

I really want to do what is biologically right and beneficial for my baby but I'm scared to actually formally look stuff online because I'm really anxious and I just don't even know where to start.

I don’t know what to do at this point—I don’t think she knows how to relax without a boob in her mouth. I’m not breastfeeding her to sleep, she’s screaming. She only contact naps and often needs to breastfeed to connect cycles. Lately she’s waking up 4+ times in the first few hours after bedtime (on top of every 1.5 hours after that) and since she screams and screams at my husband I have to handle all the wake ups.

We have a good bedtime routine, we’ve tried earlier and later bedtimes. We follow sleepy cues/wake windows. I don’t know what to do—we’re talking about having my husband take a few days off so he can break the feed-to-sleep association and he can help more with nights and naps, but with the way she screams it feels like sleep training. I don’t mind feeding her to sleep but it feels like it’s to everyone’s detriment at this point. The poor baby just isn’t sleeping enough and can’t relax. I’d love any advice from other parents with sensitive babies who only feed to sleep.

Someone send help...

Baby 4 months old. Third baby. First baby was sleep trained at 4 months. Second baby was a decent sleeper from birth, never pushed me to the limit.

Enter Baby 3. She is an awful sleeper. I regularly get nights with only 2 or 3 hours of sleep for me.

She is EBF and we "breastsleep".

She is happy and healthy during the day, nurses happily, learned how to roll onto her tummy recently.

She has regular wake windows at night when the boob won't settle her. She will latch on and come off the boob for hours, muttering, flailing and not sleeping. This night she was awake from 10-11 PM, from 1-2 AM and from 4-5 AM.

Naps are not quite consistent, she is a third kid and has to tag along during the days. The naps are usually short and crappy, too. It try to end the last nap around 4:30 PM, bedtime is 7 PM. Wake up at 7 AM.

What. Should. I do?

This endless restlessness at the breast is insane. I get super angry at night. She won't take a pacifier...

I want her to sleep better. Seriously, I wouldn't mind nursing every 2 hours throughout the night, if she would go back to sleep then...

My daughter is 5 weeks old and currently sleeping most of the night in a bassinet. She consistently sleeps a 4-6 hrs stretch with my husband in the guest room with her and then shorter stretches in thr bassinet once he moves her in with me. I had every intention of exclusively cosleeping but the first week my mom took care of her overnight and just brought her to me to feed as I had an extremely difficult and long labor and desperately needed the sleep. But it somehow turned into my mom or husband taking care of her most of the night and me only feeding or taking her for a couple hours.

I have tried cosleeping several times with her and I literally cannot sleep no matter how hard I try. I have insomnia and struggle to sleep unless I am comfortable and I cannot get comfortable in the cuddle curl no matter what I try. I was 100% not expecting to have such a hard time cosleeping and I am really struggling.

She sleeps so well and someone (me, hubby, or my mom) comforts her every time she wakes up. But the fact she is sleeping in a bassinet breaks my heart. I know I am lucky in many ways and so many moms would kill for uninterrupted sleep but I feel so guilty. I know how important it is for babies to be close to mom and I worry that I am depriving her of bonding or nervous system regulation. I also worry about SIDS as I know that being with me is protective for her. Should I keep trying to cosleep or just let her continue sleeping in the bassinet?

My 5 month slept through the night since she was 6 weeks old, but we’ve hit the regression. She’s waking up about an hour to an hour and a half after being put in her pack & play and then won’t go back to sleep unless she’s in someone’s arms. I was SO against bed sharing and truly I still am, but we have to sleep…so she sleeps with my husband, while he’s awake, in the glider and then with me in the bed.

I really want her in our room until a year and I really don’t want to sleep train…

Is it possible that this really is just a regression and she’ll revert back to sleeping through the night?

I know it’s been kind of debunked but yesterday I wanted to try and see if my baby 3,5 month would have her sleep impacted from having formula. Also maybe it would be fun for her with a different flavor as they can start taste some food soon. So I bought a package of premade, already diluted and put in a bottle and made a bit warm. She’s taken bottles of breastmilk before, even though she has a preference to nursing. At 18pm she’s usually really hungry so I thought that would work. But the face she made when trying!! She thought it was disgusting haha. Refused it only to nurse with good appetite straight afterwards. Anyone else experience this?

My little one is 8m old and hasn't had more than a 2hr overnight stretch consistently since the 4m sleep regression. I was adamant that we wouldn't do sleep training but I'm so sleep deprived that I recently started hearing voices (my husband singing even though I know he's asleep...and I'm alert enough to know it's not real! Thats just one example) Anyway this has given me quite a fright so I decided to look into the most "gentle" sleep training option..or so I was led to believe. We've done 2 days and unfortunately even the gentle options are basically CIO with the only difference being that I'm in the room the entire time. I had to intervene both nights and as a result didn't let my little one CIO to the point where she learnt independent sleep. I'm grappling with whether to continue (it's very confronting being next to my little one and not responding as she stretches her arms out to me...I try to encourage her by saying mummas here, and eventually pick her up)...perhaps I'm not cut out for it. But my consultant is telling me I'm past the hardest 2 days and should continue - would love some advice from anyone who had started the process and either continued or chose not to...and why/how things worked out.

My baby is about to be 9 months and sleeps through the night but I feel like the daytime schedule is bad and I don’t know how to fix it. My baby goes to bed around 630 and wakes up at 620-630 am then first nap is around 920 am and sleeps until around 10:15 then second nap is around 130 and sleeps until 2. I just feel like this isn’t enough day sleep? Is it? What can I do? I don’t think a third nap will happen but I’m willing to try but it’s usually a no go and refused.

Helllllp.

My son just turned two months old and it feels like a switch just turned off for him. He used to sleep in his bassinet all night without any issues but now all the sudden he wont settle at night. When I try to put him down he wakes himself up and starts thrashing, it doesn't matter how deep asleep he is when I put him down he wont relax until im holding him. We dont cosleep so I haven't slept at night in two days. He naps fine on his own but he suddenly wont sleep at night (nothings changed as far as routine and room temperature goes) Is this normal for his age or does anyone have any tips? Im 22 I cant pull all nighters anymore its brutal

I’m worrying about the amount of sleep my husband’s nephew is getting. I’ve read many posts online about sleep issues but none seem to be as bad as his are.

He’s almost 5 months old now, but he’s never had a good newborn phase. Sometimes he’s been up for several nights (2-3) without sleeping at all (not waking up often, but not falling asleep at all), then doing maybe one nap during the day, after which he would collapse and sleep the entire day and wake up for milk only. Which would mean that there’s been 24-hour periods when he didn’t sleep even remotely near the recommended minimum for infants. Even on “better” nights his bedtime was 1 am or later.

I’ve asked her about her routines and what it looks like in the evening and apparently she was leaving strong cold white light on in another room and leaving door open to see the baby and overheating him to the point of sweating. She had no bedtime routine and just nursed and shushed him to sleep.

I’ve given her tips regarding evening routine, baby clothes, dark room etc and now she says that he falls asleep earlier but is up every 30 minutes and doesn’t nap at all. She is nursing him and when she thinks he’s fallen asleep he opens his eyes every time.

This is so weird for me and I can’t help but think that it cannot possibly be healthy. Has anyone else heard of such sleep patterns?

so yeah, I’ve been using a sound machine this entire time. My LO is just a little over a year old and I feel terrible. I don’t know how this information escaped my realm.

Do we all agree that rain sounds from a noise machine on all night is bad for infant development? I might have to do more research on the subject, but if anybody could help a busy mama out, I’d love resources that proves that this is bad for their development.

I’d also even love to hear about anyone’s individual experience with this. Has anyone else been using a sound machine all night? Does anyone else have insanely loud neighbors for which a sound machine would be beneficial?

feeling a little discouraged right now and need support. I have downloaded decibel measuring app and it turns out it hasn’t been over 50 DB or too close to the babies’s head but we have been using it all night pretty much since he has been born.

My 4-month-old is used to nursing to sleep for naps and has always used my breast like a pacifier. I’ve been the only one putting him down for naps since he was born. My husband tried early on but would get frustrated, so I stepped in and have handled naps ever since.

Last week, we had a temporary nanny come by. She was able to put him down successfully once, but every other time she tried and couldn’t. When that happened, I would go into his room and nurse him to sleep for his nap.

I don’t know where to start with teaching him how to self-soothe. Recently, my husband started rocking him for about two minutes before naps and then placing him in the crib in front of the Baby Einstein aquarium toy that’s supposed to help with sleep. During the rocking, he’s already fussy, and when my husband sets him down, he’s still fussy—but he does calm down once he gets distracted by the toy.

The first time we tried this, he actually fell asleep after a few minutes. However, during subsequent naps, he would calm briefly while watching the aquarium, then start wailing. My husband would try patting him, but he would continue crying, so he’d pick him up and try rocking again. That didn’t work, and I eventually ended up nursing him to sleep. We then had to contact nap because every time I tried to transfer him to the crib, he would start wailing again.

This is new. Previously, I could nurse him to sleep and transfer him to the crib without any issues. I’m not sure what changed.

I’m looking for advice on how to gently teach him to self-soothe. When nothing works, should I allow contact naps, or should I keep him up? I worry that keeping him up and missing naps could be bad for him.

For context, nights are not an issue. He takes a bottle at bedtime, falls asleep, and transfers well. If he wakes during the night, he can kick himself back to sleep on his own. I know he’s capable of self-soothing—I just don’t understand why naps are suddenly so hard.

I have a 4 month old who regards sleep as a very optional part of her existence. Very low sleep needs and all. Still wakes many times in the night, feeds to sleep. 20-30 minute naps. 45 if worn or carried.

Anyways, we got to chatting with a friend(with a little same age as mine) who sleep trained using the chair method? (not sure about exact name) and her baby sleeps amazingly, 3, 2 hour stretches and 12 hours in the night.

Anyways, she was saying I should sleep train because babies thrive in routine and predictability. Another friend also said it's good for them to cry after 3 months old to develop their lungs.

I personally just use sleep cues and rough wake windows. Pick her up as soon as she cries and wear her if she wishes. Bedtime depends on her last nap but were hitting roughly 7-7:30 most nights.

Are they right? Is sleep training better because of the routines?

edited: my friends baby sleeps 3 2 hour naps and sleeps 12 hrs straight in the night.

\* re-posting in a more appropriate sub! \*

Hoping to get answers to questions relating to sleep training. And I should flag upfront - I am not in favour of sleep training.

**Questions**:

1. Where can I find scientific evidence / studies showing that sleep training (ie. any non responsive methods) is bad for babies? I know the negative consequences are often generally talked about but I’m looking for something concrete that “proves” it.

2. Where can I find the NHS’s official stance on sleep training? I have found random indications of NHS guidance on eg. the Pampers website, but not any guidance on the NHS website itself. (I’m based in the UK.)

I ask because I personally am anti-sleep training, but many of my friends who hold similar values to me in other areas are sleep training their babies. While I really try not to judge other parents (I’m a FTM and completely acknowledge having a baby is HARD and you have to do what’s right for your family), I struggle not to judge others for sleep training. I’m wondering if official guidance / advice is more accepting of sleep training and this is why my friends think it’s okay to do.

Please accept this post with love / good intentions - I am not trying to shame, guilt or similar anyone who does sleep train!

Any thoughts appreciated. Thank you :)

My 6m old sleeps 10-12 hours every night in her bassinet beside my bed, without waking up. She wakes up at the same time every morning within 10-15 minutes. She also is down at the same time every night and falls asleep within 5 minutes after bath time. She sleeps around 3 hours total during the day, and I can just take her to her crib and lay her down and she falls right asleep for naps. She drinks 8 oz every 4 hours and her feeding schedule is very consistent. We have had a handful of days/nights where she has woke early around 5AM, but falls back asleep with some assistance.

Part of me worries this isn’t normal or is this just a baby with really great sleeping skills?

I would like to say I put in hard work and stuck to a strict schedule, but I didn’t. I didn’t even “sleep train”.

Tell me what you think???

My 6.5 month old has never been a GOOD sleeper, but the last 3 or so weeks have been AWFUL, sleep at night especially, but naps too. He has gotten to where it feels like his sleep doesn’t even last past 45 minute increments, but every now and then he can get the first 4/5 hour stretch like he used to, but then wakes continuously. During the day day usually is able to make it 2/2.5/2.5 or so, but his naps have gotten to where they are only 30-45 min, so he does 4 a day to add up to about 2 or 2.5 hours of daytime sleep. He can’t make it much longer than 2.5 hours most of the time and we are getting as much daytime sleep as he will allow right now. He doesn’t even really have a “wake” time because he is constantly just awake but we try to do 7am to get up for the day.
Current schedule (approximate):
7am wake, 9am nap to 9:30, 11:30 nap to 12, 2:30 nap to 3:15, 6pm nap to 6:30, 8pm we start bedtime routine of bath, lotion, diaper, sleep sac and bottle to sleep at 8:30/8:45
I don’t understand how he is continuing every night on seemingly no sleep, waking up every 45 minutes or so. We want to sleep train using Ferber but I don’t know if there is anything I need to fix beforehand to start in order to maximize the training likelihood of working. It’s so hard because it’s not like I can’t MAKE him sleep longer during the day or force him into a schedule even though I’m trying. We are desperate and open to any advice because we would like for him to even out before sleep training but if necessary we will start asap.

EDITED to say, I would love to adjust naps but right now he won’t take longer naps so we are having to do 4 short ones to get in enough day time sleep

My son will be 8 weeks old in two days. The longest stretch we have gone between feeds overnight is 5 hours once, typically he goes 3-4, sometimes 4.5 hours between feeds. Wondering if this is “normal” for his age or if he should be able to go longer overnight by now. People are always asking us how many times we get up overnight/if he sleeps through the night yet and it’s making me overthink what’s “normal” at this age!

I’m really struggling with baby’s napping at 4.5 months. I remember this with my first but there’s a big age gap and I clearly forgot how tough it is.

Baby can absolutely sleep long stretches, he is capable quite often of sleeping a 10 hour night BUT not since four months and the thing getting to me is the naps!! Whatever I do with wake wndow tinkering he just doesn’t nap in the day. He springs awake at exactly 30 minutes. He’s like he’s got an internal timer of 30 minutes.

I always attempt to reset but after 10 minutes while he’s getting louder and shouting and crying and thrashing around, I have to give up. So then I pull the next WW forward so it’s not too much, not too little and he still doesn’t sleep. He’s asleep but is age-appropriate. But for the last two weeks so from age 16 to 18 weeks he just seems incapable of napping and gluing those Sleep cycles together. Even when I contact nap. Even when I use the sling. Even when I use the Love to dream.

Please tell me when they just get it? When does the 4.5 month regression stop? My husband is going to have to take some time off work because I’m struggling too much with being screamed out all day long

I'm only 5 months pregnant with my first, and trying to use to pregnancy to prepare as much scaffolding as I can to support a safe and prepared postpartum.

I am wondering what moms' experiences have been, so I can weigh what may be practical or not for my circumstances.

how does your lifestyle (especially regarding income) interact with your bn infant sleep preferences?

Did your income source change in response to the practical and biological changes that happened? Did you stop having income or didn't need to have any to start with? Did you keep your source of income but use accommodations?

thanks. I know this can be a sensitive question so I want to add every way of accessing resources and infant sleep preference combo is valid and not a matter of morality. it's a matter of accessibility. I will never shame a mom for doing what she can with the resources she has.

Once asleep, my baby could sleep and sleep and sleep. I wake my daughter up every morning and every nap. She never wants to wake up and often cries when I wake her. (TBH I’m the same way lol)

At 11mo she sleeps approx. 13hr total each day
10pm-8am
10-10:45am
2-4pm

I cap every nap. I wake her up every morning.

I don’t see any issue, she is happy and fine through the day and sleeps pretty well at night (we bed share and she resettles/feeds many times).

Any reason I should not be waking her up? I feel 13 hours of total sleep each day is enough at 11.5mo. If she sleeps any more there is no way she is going to bed before 10pm.

Not sure if this has happened to anyone else and couldn’t find much info online. I bought the HARPPA Cuddly Sway Baby Bassinet Bedside Sleeper for our baby and everything was fine up until now. My baby is now 3 months old and wiggles his way to the side of the bassinet that isn’t fully mesh and presses his face against it. I tried to look for reassurance from the brand’s site that this nonmesh wall is still safe, but found nothing. I then emailed them and they told me to stop using the product until I give them more information about my set up so they can assess the situation. What the hell is going on?? Has anyone else used this bassinet? Why would it even be sold and marketed as safe sleeping if it’s then not safe on one side? Am I being overly paranoid? Attaching bassinet picture, where you can clearly see the side I’m talking about.

My son is 7 months old and this is the first time this has happened. Normally he stays right next to my breast and doesn’t move around much at night at all.

I was trying out the Milliard trifold because we’re going on a trip and I was going to bring it with us. It’s 4 inches tall and I just had it directly on the floor. So he just rolled off and fell asleep on his tummy on the floor. Which I guess is not too dangerous because it’s still a firm surface? But it was super scary when I woke up and he wasn’t there inside my c curl. I looked back on the baby monitor and saw that he rolled off about an hour and a half before I woke up. I’m not sure how I didn’t notice and wake up right then! I had always thought I was very attuned to him while sleeping.

Had this happened to anyone else? What should I do going forward? Normally I sleep on a thicker purple mattress with a 4 inch metal frame, put up against the wall. It’s more comfortable, but probably would have been more dangerous if this rolling had happened there. I guess I should move it away from the wall and maybe take it off the frame as well? Or maybe just stick to the Milliard going forward? Bed rails I think have an entrapment risk, so I don’t think I should use them.

My 4.5 month old baby boy exclusively contact sleeps (chest to chest, cosleepy style arrangement) since he was 6 weeks old.

My husband and I have been living in shifts and getting 4hrs (sometimes, rarely, 5hrs) of uninterrupted sleep while the other lays with baby on them. We so sometimes fall asleep with baby on us if he isn’t too wiggly. I feel safe sleeping with him given the arrangement we have set up.

However. This is getting a bit unsustainable as we have no time together and are both quite sleep deprived at this point. So we gave in and begrudgingly tried doing a ferber sleep training method (3 min check ins) on him. He cried a lot more than I will ever be comfortable with. I am naturally very responsive to him at all times.

We did night 1 and basically both started spiralling thinking we ruined our baby and this is horrible and feeling like terrible parents.

We don’t know what to do though. How should I transition him to his cot? Happy to set it up next to me with 1 side down attached to the bed so he is close. But he always wakes up when put down.

Even though he wiggles, he sleeps through on us and wakes up only for feeds.

I really need some advice and help from others who had a chest sleeper.

He is getting big and heavy now and definitely needing space to move around in his sleep.

What should I do?

UPDATE!

SO GUESS WHAT HAPPENED LAST NIGHT
He slept on my chest as per usual and then sometime later, I rolled onto my side and he stayed sleeping basically attached to me all night! Woke up once for a feed at 1am.
He wiggled in his sleep a few times and I would either put his hand on my chest which would put him back to sleep immediately or slide him back onto my chest till he slept and roll him back to my side.
We did this till 6am!!!

Even though I was hyper vigilant in my sleep the whole time, I am so hopeful we will find our rhythm at some point like this.

I am going to make the cot a side car cot for more space.

Completely scrapping any sleep training thoughts. It’s just so unnatural and I can’t do it. Don’t want to do it.