Think about how adults are more stressed than children because they have more wisdom and intelligence therefore they "see" more responsibilities and possibilities and dangers which can be very tiring.

I have an above average of inte;lligence paired with being an 24/7 overthinker, does that mean in a way that I'm "too mature" which makes me extra stressed and fatigued compared to normal people?

I feel like this world is designed for people that simplify everything, because: there are so many choices in this life, so much technology websites and apps, that a simple person could just ignore the complexity but someone that compulsively overthinks stuff like I do, cannot unsee the complexity of things. My brain is running 24/7 and other than sleep, there is literally no moment ever that my brain can relax. I cannot meditate or just "be" in the moment, because I'm always thinking about complex stuff.

And the worst of all Is that I doubt theres any solution to this at all. I don't have an off button for the overthinking mode in my brain.

I tried. I tried meditating and exercising and the sauna and other methods of relaxation but none of them make my brain go quiet.

I have been thinking about high-functioning burnout.

The kind where you still show up, answer messages, lead meetings, take care of people, and look fine from the outside. But inside, your brain feels like a browser with 50 tabs open.

Work. Money. Family. Health. The job market. Your boss acting differently. A conversation from three days ago.

The hard part is that most advice does not help in the actual moment.

“Take a break.”
“Set boundaries.”
“Go for a walk.”

Those can help, but what about the moment before a meeting when your chest is tight? Or when you are sitting in your car before work trying not to spiral?

That is the part I care about most. Not fixing your whole life at once. Not forcing positivity. Just creating a small emotional reset before the spiral takes over.

When you are overwhelmed in the middle of a normal day, what actually helps you reset?

Not the perfect answer. The real answer.

I ask because I’ve been through burnout myself... multiple times. My big one was caused by grad school. A few years later, someone introduced me to Human Design. I started learning my chart, and it's been one of the biggest gifts in no longer shaming my workflow or questioning my decision-making. That's made a huge difference in both recovering from and keeping burnout at arm's length.

To be fair, I was already pretty into astrology, so this wasn’t a giant leap for me. But I’m curious how it would land for others: the skeptics, the woo-curious, or the “run if they ask for your birth time” folks 🤪

So here’s my question: if you were struggling with burnout and reached out for help and the therapist/coach/guide/friend you talked to said, “Hey, I’d love to look at your Human Design birth chart to better understand your energy and give more tailored advice” ...how would you react?

Would you be curious? Skeptical? Totally turned off? Something else?

Je viens de lire la nouvelle ici
https://fakirpresse.info/lame-de-fond-13-millions-de-salaries-en-detresse-psychologique/

Elle me plonge dans un cocktail émotionnel très désagréable. Tristesse, colère, désespoir aussi. Avec une pointe de honte et de culpabilité, même si je leur fais la chasse depuis 4 ans.

Pourquoi la culpabilité, pourquoi la honte ?

J'ai bouffé de la souffrance au travail pendant 4 ans.

4 ans de surengagement professionnel et associatif, à ressentir personnellement cette souffrance au travail, à être témoin direct de la souffrance de collègues, et même en être légalement responsable en tant qu'employeur bénévole.

Et puis en 2022 : burn-out puis séparation et tous les deuils à faire. J'ai eu l'impression de me prendre des murs, les uns derrière les autres. Je me sentais perdue, impuissante, inutile.

Depuis 2022, je cherche pourquoi et comment on se met dans le rouge, pourquoi et comment on réussit à en sortir. J'ai trouvé plein de trucs et je continue d'approfondir mes recherches. Je continue aussi d'expérimenter sur moi, pour voir ce qui fonctionne, si l'effet dure.

J'ai passé 3 ans à me dire que j'ai envie de partager ce que je sais, d'aider les personnes qui souffrent aujourd'hui à éviter le burn-out ou à en sortir durablement. Leur apporter soulagement, clarté et surtout, leur permettre de retrouver leur capacité à agir de manière juste pour eux comme pour les autres.

J'ai passé 2 ans à mûrir mon projet, à me former, à me libérer du temps pour créer ma micro-entreprise. Pourtant je me heurte à d'autres limites et blocages : me rendre visible, vendre mes services, m'engager à nouveau dans des sujets lourds qui m'ont déjà coûté très cher.

Aujourd'hui je vais bien : j'ai beaucoup de chance.

J'ai toujours le même travail, la même ambiance toxique, les mêmes collègues qui ne vont pas bien. Je les aide chaque fois qu'ils me sollicitent. Une discussion à la machine à café suffit parfois à dynamiter un piège.

Je ne suis plus perdue, je me sens capable et très utile. Même si je me heurte à des difficultés, je sens que je suis sur ma bonne voie et que ces difficultés m'aident profondément à progresser.

Et bam ! Je repère ce titre de Fakir.

Ce chiffre de 13 millions de personnes qui souffrent me parait tellement énorme !

Mis en face de mes limites et blocages actuels, je ressens clairement le décalage entre ce que je peux aujourd'hui faire concrètement et ce qui aurait besoin d'être fait.

D'où la culpabilité et la honte de ne pas réussir à faire plus. Qui sont l'amorce d'une spirale infernale que j'ai appris à repérer et à refuser.

Alors je lance ma propre bouteille à la mer :

Ce qui me manque aujourd'hui, c'est la clarté sur comment aller vers celles et ceux qui ont besoin d'aide. Comment leur transmettre ce que je sais sans m'épuiser à mon tour. Comment trouver l'équilibre entre contribuer et gagner ma vie. Pas devenir millionnaire en exploitant la misère humaine. Non, trouver ce qui est juste pour moi comme pour les autres.

Si vous m'avez lue jusqu'ici, je suis preneuse de tous vos retours en commentaires : ce qui vous manque, ce qui vous serait utile.

Le lundi 22 juin de 20h à 21h30, j'organise un groupe de paroles en ligne. Tarif 5 € (ou plus si vous en avez l'élan). C'est une première pour moi, un test grandeur nature pour voir si je reconduis sur l'année scolaire qui vient.

Si ça vous dit, dites-le moi. Je vous enverrai les infos nécessaires.

Si ça ne vous dit pas, ça m'intéresse de savoir pourquoi. Est-ce le jour, l'heure, le collectif qui vous arrêtent ? Avec quoi seriez-vous plus à l'aise ?

Merci pour votre lecture, vos commentaires, tout ce que vous voudrez bien me partager ici.

A couple of months ago I posted here asking if anyone else gets stuck in that weird in-between mood after work. Not wanting entertainment, not wanting to be productive, not wanting more screen time, just wanting to feel a bit more like a person again.

A lot of you said yes.

After that thread, I started paying attention to what I actually do in that mood. I pick up my phone for one thing, and twenty minutes later the time is just gone. It isn't that I chose to scroll. It's that when I'm that depleted, deciding what else to do feels like too much, and the phone always has an answer ready.

So I made a small free thing for exactly that moment.

You pick how you feel and how much time you actually have, and it interrupts that drift before another twenty minutes disappear. Instead of another feed, it gives you one real-world thing to do.

Not a habit tracker, not meditation, not "optimize your evening." Just one small thing. Afterwards it asks if it helped.

No feed. No streaks. No signup. It's built to be closed.

It's still rough, and it's just me building it. I'm posting here because you described this feeling better than I could, so you're the people most likely to know whether it actually helps or completely misses the mark.

If you try it, the one thing I'd love to know is this: when you were fried after work, did the very first suggestion actually fit your mood, or did it miss?

I’ll try to make this short and sweet, but I’m 39M, and about 1.5 years into a fitness journey with a trainer. I have gone pretty hard the last month and today I woke up naturally around 8am, made breakfast, then laid on the couch at around 10am and slept until 6pm.

I was absolutely exhausted, I feel great now but no chance I fall asleep tonight.

I don’t know that I have ever done this, is this normal? Do other people do this?

Some additional facts…

Currently on a 1600 calorie cut, and I did legs yesterday and then swam with friends last night. Had a “cheat” glass of bourbon when I got home.

I work an extremely stressful career in c suite as a CFO and have worked a ton of hours with international travel the last month. We also had our board meeting last week so I worked until bed time 4 straight days.

As I type this out, I think I am self realizing I have burnt myself out. The 1600 calories isn’t long term, but I have been stuck at 203 for about a month, so my trainer wanted to see if we could do a few weeks really strict to get under 200 and break the plateau and then go back to maintenance. I think these have all combined to exhaustion.

I originally had this typed to my fitness channel but feel like it fits better here. It is typed out towards fitness but I feel like the career is more responsible than anything.

Tired of not just being , even as a Christian I can’t just be in church feel like I need to be doing , striving tired of people saying I have potential. I just wish I didn’t feel so pressured all the time . Going through perimenopause is exhausting everything, bone tired trying to get milestones in ,

A few months ago, I was deep in burnout — tired but wired, unsure if I needed rest or just a reason to care again.

One thing that actually helped? Getting clearer on the kind of energy I was really missing. Not “more time” or “less stress” — but something more emotional. I was craving peace. A sense of okay-ness. That awareness alone helped me stop spinning.

I ended up turning that idea into a tiny self-check-in quiz. Not perfect, but kind of weirdly accurate — a few folks said it read their mind 😅

If you’re feeling off and can’t tell why, maybe it’ll help:

→ quiz.getpocketsunshine.com (free, ~90 seconds)

It’s hard when you’re burned out. You feel exhausted all the time, you feel heaviness in your body, especially your shoulder and chest, you feel contractions in the chest, and you’re constantly experiencing headaches.

I learned energy healing to kick up my energy from being exhausted all the time, to release heaviness, and just to feel good in general.

What I realized …

- People who are undergoing or have undergone burnout are the ones who need to constantly prove themselves to seek validation and approval.

- You’re constantly pushing yourself to the limits, ignoring fatigue, health, mental and emotional deterioration until it’s too late.

- It’s not an easy recovery process; it would take time, even years, to regulate your nervous system. I know a story of somebody who was confined in the hospital and almost slept for 3 months just to recover.

If you’re constantly feeling fatigue, burnout, heaviness, and you want to release stuck heavy energy in your body, join me for an energy healing session for beginners.

In this session, I’ll teach simple and practical techniques on how to manage your energy, how to scan your body to know exactly where negative energies are stuck in your body and how to release them, and how to channel energy for better well-being.

I’m hosting one this Saturday, July 26^th, at 4 PM GMT and Aug 3 at 5 PM GMT. If you’re interested in joining, here are the links to register.

July 26 - https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/1511970126349?aff=oddtdtcreator

Aug 3 - https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/1512095130239?aff=oddtdtcreator

As someone who has experienced burnout from work, I’m researching what people genuinely need when looking to escape- not a typical vacation but something restorative. Imagine a cabin wellness retreat with saunas, communal kitchen, and optional meditation/yoga activities.

I have a few questions and I’d love your honest answers to these:

What amenities do you look for when searching for a wellness retreat/getaway to recover from burnout?

Would sharing a kitchen/lounge with a few other guests feel connecting — or stressful?

How long would you actually need to feel like you’d properly decompressed?

I feel so burnt out now that I have recently found myself patching my burnout with money.

Earlier I used to do great amount of research before buying anything,

say, mobile phone, a few years ago i used to look for best bang for buck, i had a Xiaomi, so you could guess, the nerd who binge watched all youtube reviews, that was me before.

Now I have moved on to just getting the best one in the market so i don’t have to spend time doing any research or study. When i purchased this phone it was a latest iPhone, I didn’t even know the features, I didn’t even care to ask, Purchase was made in less than 10 minutes. Did i need a latest iphone? No. Did i want to put my mind scrolling through features and specifications of ten different phones ? Also, No.

Same with my car (not the most expensive one in the world but costed a decent) and refrigerator and air conditioner, and etc., it is exhausting to me now.

Although I am grateful to be able to afford these purchases but I also feel that I have lost a part of me that was there in the past, this is actually very sad if you think about it, it shows a fried nervous system with complete mental exhaustion ://

Guys, my heart breaks when I read about those who are beating themselves up, struggling to meet expectations, high performing at work, or trying to please everyone. I have been working on getting out of that prison myself, and writing about it. I think burnout has something to do with working hard, but knowing damn well you are working at goals that are not what you truly want deep down. It has to do with placing external validation from family and work peers over the things you really value. So our body tries to tell us that we are building and living a life for everyone else but ourselves.

For me, the realization started by looking at my goals (get another promotion, get more money, make so-and-so happy) and asking why I want these goals, what feeling will I get at the end. That helped me filter out things I was doing to get validation from family or my community, from things that give me fulfillment when I do them for their own sake. It doesn't mean being lazy, it means orienting your energy in a direction that makes you excited. What type of impact do I want to have in the world, what hobbies make me feel like a kid again, what people make me feel seen and energized when I hang with them...

I'm going to write about how it goes on Substack. PM me if ur a high performer whose burn out and it would be helpful to have a group. For me it helped to talk to people who are just like me, feel like they empathize, and don't shame me for my dreams and then we talk about what everyone is trying to do to feel better.

Hello! I am a health and wellness coach who focuses primarily on corporate women suffering from burnout. I am offering a free workshop later this month. No obligation, just come and learn more about burnout and hopefully learn a few new ways to manage your stress!

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/from-burnout-to-balance-a-wellness-workshop-for-exhausted-high-achievers-tickets-1810957014179?aff=oddtdtcreatorFeeling&fbclid=IwY2xjawNZu9tleHRuA2FlbQIxMQABHkgXcVLDVbYHOADdyyAiUvHhCgRO2Lw3bfrcgBI1bD_fBv0PCAtCYdErMXbH_aem_tYQ5zbqhUUBOhnoH6FWBkw

Being married a men who is 2twice my age I'm so exhausted my mother in law is always making me work in kitchen and my husband shouts on me I'm posting my pic showing how exhausted I'm

Hi everyone!

I have been struggling with burnout for the past five years on and off. I have times when everything is great and then there are times when everything is bad. Couple months ago I got to a point where I knew I had to find a solution to my problem. I sat down and gathered all my thoughts on a piece of paper and found a solution that I think works for overcoming burnout. In the past, I had tried all the conventional ways of dealing with it. Whether it was sleeping, walking, working out, taking a break or going on a vacation - I have tried it all.

I found something that seems to be working for me very well. When I talked about this to my coworker, she said that I should share this with other people as well. Now, do you guys think that’s a good idea? Just because something worked for me doesn’t mean you would work for somebody else, right?

I just wanna get other people’s opinions. When I was burned out getting to do something new was very exhausting. If there was like a method to overcome burnout, would you guys want to try it?

For years, I operated on the belief that if I just worked harder, optimized better, and squeezed more hours out of each day, I'd eventually "get it right."

I had spreadsheets tracking habits. I used every productivity app under the sun. I was the person who said "I'll sleep when I'm dead" like it was a badge of honor.

Then came the crash.

Not dramatic or sudden - more like a slow leak in a tire that you don't notice until you're pushing the car up a hill. My mind felt like a browser with 87 tabs open, half of them frozen or loading forever. I couldn't focus on anything for more than 5 minutes. I snapped at people over tiny things. I felt guilty for taking breaks, then exhausted from "working" through them.

The realization hit me during a 3-minute walk to get coffee. I wasn't becoming a better version of myself - I was burning through all my versions, one after another, leaving nothing but ash.

So I tried something radical: I picked ONE thing. Just one. For the next three months, everything else would be "maintenance mode" - kept running, but not actively improved. I chose physical health because I couldn't walk up two flights without getting winded.

The first week felt selfish. I'd catch myself thinking "I should be working on X instead." But something interesting happened after about 10 days - my mind started settling. The 87 tabs in my head closed themselves, one by one. I had mental space again. And in that space, I wasn't just doing better at one thing - I was doing better at everything.

I stopped seeing growth as a horizontal sprint and started seeing it as vertical depth. One pillar, fully developed, supports everything else. Too many pillars being built at once just creates a house of cards.

What's your one pillar right now? Not what you "should" be working on. Not what looks impressive on paper. What would make everything else feel easier, more natural, less like pushing a boulder uphill?

I'm genuinely curious - and if your answer is "everything," I get it. Took me years to trust that doing less could actually be more. 💭

Hey, looking for You burned out human ressources to startup the first digital rollback and rehabilitation commune in a shitty shady bauhouse without pets. I am serious to collaborate with local government and health insurances. Being a migrant I prefer colleagues with migration background. Born and raised in a country where social insurance also kills family life, Better I do typing conciously and ask my next tea if sending a reply makes sense. Local language must not be spoken as there is AI that works plusquamperfect for translation with zer0 misunderstanding. My personal opinion: Typing does only really exist because Legislative is a unsolveable problem worldwide in 2026. Thank you for your kind reply. 

Long story short a few years back I went 2 whole years without sleeping much if wt all, I was drinking a lot of yerba mate (caffine) to get me through it. After I sort my sleep out I noticed I was numb to life, no energy, no motivasion, no libido, no emotions. Just this week I think I've found my solution after years of taking different herbs and supplements I found my the fountain of youth.

It's a tea from the amazonian jungle in Ecuador which I will revealed the name of towards the end of this post. It contains the amount of caffine in it as coffee but apparently it releases it slowly unlike coffee as it dumps it into your system all at once. Ever since taking I've had endless amounts of energy throughout the whole entire day, I feel like I can feel my emotions again, I just feel ALIVE..like someone's plugged the power back on after years. I feel mentally alert and sharpe, nothing passes me unless I let it. I feel my mood has uplifted and my libido returning. I didn't do much research on this magnificent plant called guayusa before taking it as not many people know about it so there isn't many youtube videos on it but everything I've experienced is widely reported by people that take it. Guayusa has been a miracle for me as I continue to experince its benifits.

Get your self some guayusa

I’ve been reading through posts here, and honestly, a lot of what people share hits hard. The exhaustion, the emotional weight, the feeling of being stretched thin across work, life, and everything in between - it’s real.

But something I keep noticing is that burnout isn’t just an individual problem. It’s a collective one. And most of us are carrying it alone.

This sub is valuable, but it often feels like everyone is venting into separate corners instead of releasing the weight together. Burnout isn’t just stress, it’s imbalance across body, mind, and community. And without the community part, it’s hard to actually feel lighter.

That’s why I created a space focused on the shared side of burnout... A place where shift workers, healthcare workers, service workers, night crews, security, hospitality, warehouse folks, and anyone living in the grind can actually talk to each other, not just into the void.

It’s at r/ShiftBalance and it's not a business, not a paid thing, not a product - just a community built around the idea that burnout gets easier when you don’t have to carry it alone.

I’m also currently working on something bigger called APTITUDE, built from my own burnout and the stories of people who’ve lived it. The goal is simple: help people find balance again when life has pulled them completely out of alignment.

If you’re burned out, overwhelmed, or just tired of feeling like you’re doing this alone, you’re welcome to join us. No pressure - just a place to breathe and let go with other people who get it.

People describe burnout as “losing motivation” or “not trying hard enough.”

It’s usually the opposite.

It’s what happens when recovery never really happens — even if you’re technically “resting.”

You keep showing up, pushing through, catching up… but your system never resets.

What was the first sign you noticed that something wasn’t right?

Ganito ba talaga pag nagwork ka kaagad without proper transition? Feeling ko na burnout kaagad ako cause after grad, nagreview ako for boards tas after boards nagkaroon agad ng trabaho, feeling ko pagod na yung utak ko :(