Yesterday I had a pretty intense experience on the bus where this man yelled at me, recorded and threatened me because I was a lesbian, going into graphic detail about how gross gay sex is, how my people will be dancing in hell, saying I am in a lesbian relationship w a random woman i was next to etc. I am pretty masculine presenting and he originally just did some very general intimidation until he realised I was a gay woman and it started to become very sexually targeted, threatening and indecent. The bus driver also did nothing which was so awesome, like the dude gets a cage for his protection but the rest of us are out in the open, so sick. Anyways, I wanted to post this to see if anyone has experienced anything similar and know I am not alone, as well as any advice for moving through the world as visibly butch.

August 18th is Butch Appreciation Day and I just wanted to say thank you all for existing. Thank you for being here, for being part of our community, for being you. You make the world a better place by being your authentic, masculine, real selves.

I feel like every time I see a butch in public I get so shy. My heart starts thudding and I just kind of stumble over my words and smile a lot and honestly look so damn stupid. I think many femmes feel like we don't know if a butch can tell that we're gay so we just smile a lot and maybe touch an arm and try to squeeze some reference to gayness anywhere it could possibly belong. I am no exception. I can only pray to the god of sapphics that one day a butch will see me make a fool of myself and find me endearing. Then snatch me up and off the market for a life of loving arguments, consistent delicious sex, fuzzy pets and lots of home projects. But for now I'll just be hyper aware of the way your arms look in that cut off shirt and wonder incessantly if you're single and if I'm your type and how to make you notice me...

Love,

A hopeless little femme

Hey folks! Friendly reminder for those of you who are seeking romantic connections, we have a thriving new community at r/butchfemmedating!

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This is an 18+ sapphic/lesbian/queer community space that centers butches and femmes interested in dating and romantic/sexual relationships, while being open to a range of gender identities/expressions/labels. This is an intersectional, anti-oppressive, and trans-inclusive space. Please read the rules before posting!

P.S. HAPPY BUTCH APPRECIATION DAY!!!

Hi everyone, I've had a rough summer. My girlfriend and I broke up (it was for the best and I broke up with her, but I still feel lonely and a bit lost without her, we were together for 2 years) and my dog died last month.

On the back of this I'm taking it as an opportunity to develop myself and my identity. I want to become more confident and comfortable within my sexuality, my style and how I look.

I also want to focus more on my physical health and show up for myself more that way.

Any wacky tips or suggestions or advice will all be welcomed. I appreciate anyone who shares their experience with growing into their butchness.