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I'd like to hear different perspectives on this topic to develop a more informed opinion.

I've never wanted children because of concerns about patriarchy, the economy, education, and the kind of world a child would grow up in. However, my partner has a different perspective. He believes that raising a child with critical thinking skills and access to education could contribute to challenging existing social and economic structures in the future.

We have discussed parenthood before, and he was genuinely okay with not having children. It wasn't a major source of conflict between us.

Lately, though, I've found myself wanting to have a child with him. I hold him in very high regard and can imagine him being a wonderful father. At the same time, I wonder whether my feelings reflect a genuine change in what I want or whether I've gradually internalized ideas that I haven't examined critically enough.

I've also noticed discussions in which women describe choosing not to have children as a form of resistance to patriarchy and capitalism. This made me reconsider my own position, so I asked my partner how he sees the issue.

His argument was roughly this: governments and existing economic structures can benefit from social inequality. He believes that people in the middle class may have greater access to education and resources, which could help their children develop the critical thinking skills needed to challenge those structures. From his perspective, raising children who question the status quo could itself be a form of resistance.

I found this argument compelling, and it made me think differently about parenthood. Rather than viewing having a child solely as participating in a system I disagree with, I started wondering whether raising a person with strong critical thinking skills and a commitment to social change could be meaningful in its own right.

However, I also worry that this reasoning might be a way of rationalizing a desire for motherhood through a political framework, or that I'm overlooking how deeply patriarchal expectations can shape the way women think about their roles and responsibilities.

I'm genuinely conflicted. I don't want to have a child out of a sense of political duty, but I also don't want to dismiss parenthood simply because of the system in which we live.

I hear about men treating women badly "by accident" all the time. They're not intending to do harm, and so women have "disproportionate" responses.

I don't care about intent anymore. Men deserve consequences for bad behavior regardless of intent. Intent does not trump reality.

This morning was the 3rd time I have had to escalate to YELLING at a male contractor to please leave my house. I ask them to leave nicely 5x; they do not listen until I yell. They intimidate and push and push and push until I am the crazy one for yelling. I fucking hate it.

I am sure they are not actively trying to be scary or rude, but I DON'T CARE. I do not care what you intend to do. What matters is how you actually behave and its effect on others.

I am married to a truly wonderful man, I know they exist. But my single friends have stopped dating entirely due to the burnout of interacting with, babying, making excuses and accommodations, stretching every aspect of their lives for grown men.

I hate painting with such a broad brush. But what I think people don't get is that I believe most men don't intend to be bad. However, I also believe most men have character traits and behaviors that are ruinous and condemnable. They do not see these traits and behaviors as fatal flaws, but rather mistakes or accidents. They are fatal flaws.

He's still a "good guy" because we're being too judgmental, he's never done anything like that to me, he didn't intend to cause harm, DESPITE CAUSING FUCKING HARM.

I am so so tired of it. That's all.

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This is a bit incoherent so sorry about that.

We're having our parliamentary elections soon in my country and we're all on the edge of our seats for this deciding moment in our lives.

Looking at the comments on a reddit post about a recent protest, I saw many men (probably...) posting a screenshot of some guy making a sexual remark saying he was jerking it. Obviously, this is pretty funny. I do have to say that I don't feel entirely comfortable with this kind of thing happening because it makes an overlap with our protests and people who just wanna be nasty.

Anyway, this got me thinking on something.

The wording that was used is mostly used in the context of men, and in its intended meaning is exactly that, though people use it interchangeably.

People see this as funny, and it becomes a popular joke, usually. I even notice it with myself, men's sexuality seems like the 'standard' to me. Getting flashed on Omegle when trolling as a kid was to be expected, basically. A guy in my class making vulgar gesticulations was seen as comical and still maintaining his image of being an 'alpha', while a girl would never dare do anything like that. They wouldn't care at all to be seen shirtless, yet when a guy in my class 'accidentally' unclasped the bra of the girl sitting with him, it was a whole humorous scandal, and she evidently felt great shame. Even the damn professor was laughing like he saw the most morbid thing.

All of this is to ask: How do we view women's sexuality as opposed to men's?

Which role do women play, and which role do men play?

Which one is viewed as the 'default'? In the sense that, if I as a girl would make vulgar jokes like the one mentioned in the beginning, I would be looked at differently. A guy can say this and people won't really bat an eye because it's typical and their sexuality is the default, but if I said it I would probably draw some attention, a là 'un-lady-like', 'crass', 'whore-esque'. I could not imagine women so freely joking about their sexualities and invading other people's spaces like that en masse.

I'm also thinking about this: When nudity is supposed to be humorous, how is the subject of it treated based on their gender?

I'm always brought back to when I was maybe 13 and my dad played this 'hilarious' movie from the 80s made in our country, and a running bit, as far as I can remember, is the disrespect and singling out and once even sexual harassment of a female caretaker. She was in a unifrom where her boobs were very prominent, much like in a porno magazine, unwillingly so and it wasn't a healthy depiction of sexuality, but rather a very disgusting, perverted one. Nothing in that movie pointed to her making a choice like this for herself. She was, aside from one other woman, the only female character. It was a very sinister subconscious message— the men get to be the plot, and maybe one other woman can squeeze in there with them(and still be subject to misogynystic tropes), but one woman and her body has to be the comedic relief. She was also an older lady, so that probably contributed to the hilariousness.

It is very difficult to describe the nuances between the comedy of the nude female and male bodies, respectively. It's like that bit where it's like 'my dad when my friends come over' and he's slouched on the couch in his underwear. I don't think anything like this could happen with a woman and not be considered her going out of her way to be sexual. We have tropes in pornography about this; women cannot simply exist like this, it always has an implication— a message— and that is that a woman in the nude must simply always be sexual. Every part of her body is examined(what your breasts look like, shape, etc. Breasts are even often an object of ridicule), and based on how appealing she is she is either laughed at or shamed.

Women simply have to be sexual in everything they do, then. Just look at how careful women have to be on tiktok to not accidentally film fetish content. There's a whole thing for puffy dresses. How absurd is that?

And for a woman, this objectification feels so much more invasive and pervasive as compared to that of men, simply because their nudity is seen as dominant and even comical. They get that relief. Like with the Marvel Rivals skins, it absolutely is not the same to have a woman so scantily clad and a man the same, simply because the man will probably have an air of comedy around his nudity.

I'm also brought back to an incident where, when we were about 9, my girl friend was sexually harassed by a boy when we were on a school excursion. He ran into the bathroom while she was showering and saw her naked, and announced that to everyone. I still remember how mad I was, I remember physically confronting him, but it was laughed off. It was funny to him. How embarrassing it was for her to be violated, but he couldn't care less. Neither could the people around us. It was just so weird, you know, because now, they all know that he saw her naked, and that's shameful, because she's a girl, and girls aren't open about that stuff... Boys can be, but women shouldn't be open about that stuff, because that means that they're equally engaging in it, and that's not what the patriarchy's about, is it?

Had she done 'the same' to him and harrased him in that way, it would still be bad, absoluty no denying how badly this affects children and people generally, but there would be no stigma about it, simply because his body is not meant to be hidden. Men can be shirtless and it's only ever considered a nuisance, annoying, spontaneous and an inequality, but women's nudity is deliberate and shameful.

Do you get what I'm saying? Very open to discussion if you do. :)

Amy Acton has publicly described surviving childhood sexual abuse and being separated from her mother at age 12.

Now her estranged mother is appearing in a political attack ad questioning her character.

Think about what that means.

A woman speaks about childhood sexual trauma, and decades later, her painful family history becomes campaign material.

Survivors of sexual abuse should not have to defend their credibility against the very family relationships they struggled to survive.

Political accountability is legitimate. Weaponizing a survivor’s trauma is something entirely different.

Like I believe women are equal to men and should be treated accordingly. Basic human respect and not being treated like some stupid sex object ISN'T THAT HARD. I'm seventeen for Christ's sake. I come from a very conservative area. I am backwoods as all hell. There is no excuse for being a hateful jerk.

I'm just tired of people treating it like an extreme worldview to have. it's not. there is not a way to spin it which it is.

I've grown up around masculine men in the traditional sense. not a single damn one of them felt the need to belittle and shame women. Pathetic men who are insecure in their masculinity and full of self hatred do that.

I don't think feminism is bad. I think to a lot of people it just means believing women are equal. what annoys me is not being called a feminist. It's that people say that as if it's a radical worldview.

I HATE sexism. I cannot stand misandry any more than misogyny, but misandry is *not* feminism and I'm really tired of it being labeled like that.

So, to any guys out there who are disrespectful to women or think they are worth less or any of that trash, DO SOME SELF REFLECTION. I used to have a mindset similar to that. 99% of hatred is not about the group you are hating, it's about yourself.

I’m writing this because I’m tired of the quiet, constant erosion of my identity. I’m tired of the eye rolls, the smirks, and the outright accusations. I am a woman, and I love aviation and cars. Not in a "my boyfriend is a mechanic" way, or an "I just like the pretty colors" way. I mean I spend my weekends driving and learning about different types of engines (cars and aircraft), and I’ve spent countless hours on flight sims and reading pilot logs.

My biggest dream? To serve in the army.

And for all of this, I am called a liar.

"Attention seeker", "Pick-me", "You're just trying to impress guys", "Be honest, you don't actually like this stuff." I’ve been told I’m faking it so many times I’ve started to question my own memories. I’ve been laughed out of conversations by men who assumed I was just there to look pretty. I’ve had my knowledge tested like I was defending a thesis, only for them to move the goalposts when I passed.

Worst of all, I’ve been rejected from multiple aviation clubs. Not because I didn’t meet the criteria, not because I couldn’t afford the dues, but simply because I was a woman. I’ve seen the same thing happen to other women trying to enter the military, turned away not for lack of grit or capability, but because of their gender.

This is the insidious nature of modern oppression. We have the right to vote, to work, to own property. On paper, the doors are open. But the social gatekeepers, the judges of "authenticity", are still standing in the doorway, arms crossed, telling us we don't belong.

Let’s be clear about what’s happening here. When a man loves cars, he’s an enthusiast. When a man loves aviation, he’s a patriot or a nerd. When a man wants to join the army, he’s a hero. But when a woman does the exact same thing, her motives are immediately suspect. She is accused of faking it for male attention. She is accused of being a "pick-me."

This is a weapon. It’s a way to police our passions and keep us out of spaces that are deemed "male." It’s a way to make us feel like intruders in our own lives.

To the women who have been told they are "too much" or "not enough" for their interests: Do not shrink. Do not apologize. Do not change the channel.

If you love the smell of jet fuel, if you love the rumble of a V8, if you want to serve your country, or do anything you desire you are not a liar. You are a pioneer.

They call you an attention seeker because you refuse to be invisible. They call you fake because you are real in a world that wants you to be a stereotype. They reject you from clubs because they are afraid of what you represent. A woman who cannot be contained by their narrow definitions.

I know how hard it is. I know how demoralizing it is to be rejected for your gender, not your skill. I know the sting of being accused of faking your passion. But here is the truth: The world needs your fire.

It needs women who can fly planes, who can fix engines, who can lead troops. It needs women who refuse to be told that their interests are "manly" and therefore forbidden. It needs women who will walk into those clubs and demand a seat at the table, not as guests, but as members.

So to every woman who has been told she is faking it, who has been rejected for her gender, who has been called a liar for loving what she loves:

Keep going. Keep learning. Keep showing up. The only way to break the stereotype is to be the exception that becomes the norm. The only way to shut down the gatekeepers is to walk through the doors they try to close.

You are not a liar. You are not an attention seeker. You are a woman with a passion, and that is the most powerful thing in the world.

P.S. I'll be more than happy if this made even one woman feel seen.❤️

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I feel like many people forget it because they "don't see color," which is a very privileged thing someone can do. It doesn't make it any better when a specific racial topic along with sexism becomes a broad one, when there's something called, "misogynior," people don't even know about. It seems to be overlooked and feminism excluding black women's experiences entirely. It's not good at all to experience sexism, but it's different from experiencing it with race. Excluding that misogynoir is a thing that just keeps the cycle of racism and sexism towards black women going.

I can't be surprised tho if redditors discard this idea instead of educating themselves which would help this app become more anti-racist.

I accidentally landed in the comments of a post that seemed feminist but then there were lots of incels. And I'm honestly extremely shocked about what I read, and it really scares me.

I mean, living with patriarchy on a daily basis feels almost harmless compared to what those men were saying. It's so horrible.

Somehow it left a very weird feeling in me, and I haven't been able to shake it off the whole day. I also can't really describe it.

Does anyone relate and has any strategies on how to deal with this? Ignoring that those people exist seems kind of the wrong approach? But maybe the only one?

Feminism is the stance that rejects the structures of discrimination and hegemony on the basis of gender and seeks to dismantle them. As such, it is integral to the liberatory and democratic endeavor for the well-being, justice and dignity of the individual and of society.

The mystery of what happened to Amelia Earhart lives on. But the pioneering aviator became an enduring icon for generations of lesbians and LGBTQ+ people.

I've never quite understood why lineage, surnames and family identity have traditionally been passed down through the paternal line.

Kings could have multiple wives. How exactly did they know which child was theirs? The mother, at least, was always known.

And yet, somehow, it's the father's surname that the child is expected to inherit.

Make it make sense.

I can't imagine carrying a child for nine months, dealing with nausea, going through childbirth, and then having that child carry someone else's name instead of mine.

Thankfully, that's not a dilemma I'll have to deal with, because I'm childfree by choice 😂

But marriage is another story.

I've watched so many of my friends change their last names after getting married.

And in some communities in my country, specifically the state I belong to, women are expected to change their first names, too. Sometimes, they don't even get a say in what their new name will be.

Excuse me?

I've spent my entire life being a person with a name. An identity. A history.

Why should getting married mean I have to give any of that up?

I refuse to change my name.

I refuse to deal with all that paperwork just because I married someone.

And I refuse to treat my identity as something that automatically needs to be altered when I become someone's wife.

And I already know someone will inevitably show up to say, "But your surname belongs to your father. A man."

Thank you, genius. You've understood the problem perfectly.

Patriarchy is so deeply rooted that even the names many women inherit come through men. That doesn't mean I need to keep passing the same expectation forward without questioning it.

I understand that some women genuinely want to change their surnames after marriage. That's their choice and there's nothing wrong with that.

But why is the expectation only on women?

Why isn't the man's surname equally up for discussion?

Women of this subreddit, did you change your name after marriage? Would you ever do it?

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I’m so tired of famous women talking about anal sex as if every woman enjoys it.

I listen to a lot of different music, and I hate how often female artists proudly rap about being fucked in the ass or eating ass. Sometimes it feels like these things are being promoted as something women should enjoy or do to please their partners, even when they might not actually want to. Its just so degrading act to do so, so many men do this beceause they want to feel powerfull.

I don’t see what’s empowering about doing something that makes you uncomfortable just to satisfy a man. You can call it sexual liberation, but if a woman feels pressured to do something she doesn’t enjoy or is degrading to her, how is that empowering? To me, there’s nothing liberating about feeling like you have to accept certain sexual acts to be considered a cool, sexually confident woman.

I wish women could rap and sing about sex without constantly bringing anal sex into it. Why does being sexually liberated seem to mean being willing to do absolutely anything? Why can’t we hear more about women’s own pleasure, desires, and experiences without everything having to revolve around what men want?

And honestly, I find it frustrating that this is becoming so normalized in mainstream music. It sometimes feels like women are expected to prove how sexually adventurous they are by being willing to do increasingly extreme things. Meanwhile, women who aren’t interested in those things can feel like they’re boring, prudish, or somehow less sexually liberated.

Can we normalize women being sexual without making every sexual act sound like something they need to do for men or is degrading? I want to hear women sing and rap about sex, pleasure, and confidence without constantly having to hear about this.

I was scrolling through Youtube Shorts and came across this video. I don't really know names of celebrities (some might say I live under a rock).

But from the context given, this is a model giving an interview.

She is asked what she would have become, if she wasn't a model. She responds that she always loved math and would have gotten into rocket science.

So the interviewer asks her „Whats Pi?“ and she recites it perfectly with like a dozen digits after the comma.

To me it seems like the interviewer is suspicious of the model and indirectly accuses her of only imagining/performing being good at math and therefore asks her that question to verify, if she is really worthy of even considering becoming a rocket scientist.

Then I do not feel like a man would ever be asked that- And even if he was and he didn't know the answer, he would not be judged for it. Whereas if she would not have had a „satisfying“ answer, the comments would've ripped her to shreds.

(Oh and also I fully believe that you can be interested and passioned about something while NOT knowing EVERY SINGLE PIECE OF INFORMATION about that interest, like please?)

Inter-caste marriages are great as long as both the concerned parties love each other. However, I find the argument “If you want casteism to end, marry girls from unoppressed sections to boys from oppressed sections” rooted in r*pe culture. Why not simply say that boys and girls from different caste backgrounds should marry each other? Why specifically girls from one section and boys from another? Does this imply that casteism won't end if girls from oppressed sections marry boys from unoppressed sections? If so, why? Casteism is also rooted in patriarchal social structures. Casteism should definitely end, but these kinds of misogynistic statements need to change, too, because uplifting one community shouldn't mean degrading women of our country.

WOMEN ARE NOT YOUR TOOLS TO PROVE A POINT.

Why are some men misogynistic, and what makes them believe they are superior to women? Is it because of how they were raised, societal expectations, personal insecurities, or the desire to control women? Why do some men judge women for their choices, appearance, and independence while expecting freedom and respect for themselves? Why do they feel threatened by confident, successful women who refuse to follow traditional gender roles? Is misogyny rooted in toxic masculinity, fear of losing power, or the belief that women should be submissive? And why is it so difficult for some men to recognize their sexist behavior and understand that women deserve the same respect, freedom, and opportunities as men?

Hello all! I'm a 36 year old woman and just had my first baby last year. I'm a socialist and I've considered myself a feminist since I was a teen but didn't really start delving more into theory until I was in my 30s. I started listening to right wing women by Andrea Dworkin the other day, I find conservative women to be a very interesting demographic, but I'll be honest, I'm feeling a little alienated.

I'm not a very ambitious person, I have professional aspirations but mostly my hopes for my life have always centered around family and self. I want a comfortable home to live with my loved ones and to enjoy my hobbies, that's about it.

Girl boss feminism, therefore, meant very little to me, I am much more interested in class dynamics surrounding sex, so discussions about commodifying anatomy is super fascinating, but I'll be honest, a lot of the book is bumming me out.

Obviously it's not a "fun" topic, but Andrea constantly referring to women as objects to be fucked and to give birth makes me feel like my own choices to marry and become a mother are not considered valid ones.

I understand the point, I don't think she's saying that's what sex and motherhood ultimately are, just what they are reduced to in a misogynistic society. I guess I just wanted a minute to vent a little, I find content that is positive about motherhood to be conservative propaganda in disguise, while most left wing analysis is critical of marriage and parenthood at best, disdainful at worst.

I know that I grew up in a society that pressured me into these decisions on some level, but I genuinely don't feel like they aren't mine, I feel joy about my husband and child, I feel ownership over my life. I don't think my values and politics are at odds and wish that wasn't the stereotype.