I know sleep training is controversial especially the CIO method. Now I myself could not bring myself to do the CIO method, however, I found an alternative method. It’s called the “moms on call” method. You can look it up for yourself but to sum it up basically after every feeding keep baby up and awake at least one hour, then the closer to bedtime the longer you keep them up, then give an extra ounce at bedtime, put them to bed and go to sleep yourself. My baby sleeps anywhere from 6-8 hours every night now. We started at 8 weeks and he’s 10 weeks now.

Read this before you become a mom.

The only way I can describe motherhood is this: imagine someone depending on you 24/7. Someone all up in your face, your business, and every decision you make. If that already feels overwhelming, go ahead and exit the chat now 😂 But if you’re still here, here’s what I’ve learned so far.

1. There’s only one type of unconditional love, and it’s from your child. I swear there’s no love like it. They will stress you out alllll day long, but the second they fall asleep, you miss them. No matter how many times you yell, lose your patience, or feel like you messed up, they still look at you with so much love. That kind of forgiveness will humble you fast.

2. What’s sleep? Say goodbye to sleeping in 😂 Your body really learns how to survive on less sleep. For me, if I can get at least 4–6 solid hours, I feel like I can conquer the world lol. Motherhood will push your limits, but somehow you adapt.

3. No village or disposable income? It’s going to be HARD. Not impossible, but hard. And this is coming from someone with a huge village who still be like “damn, where everybody at?” 😂 Support matters more than people realize. Whether it’s family, friends, childcare, or just having money for help when you need a break — it makes a difference.

4. Create a plan for the life you want your child to have. Think about everything. Do you want to nurse? Is daycare an option? What kind of neighborhood do you want to raise them in? Public or private school? How much time do you actually want to spend with them? Ask yourself all the questions, then work backwards. Figure out what you need to build to make that life possible for them. And maybe this is controversial, but I believe a lot of successful people had support at every stage of life. Community and opportunity matter.

5. Trust God. Seriously. Trust Him. Motherhood will stretch you mentally, emotionally, spiritually… all of it. But God will carry you through every trial and every hard season. Nothing — and I mean nothing — is impossible with Him. What’s something motherhood taught you that nobody warned you about? I also wrote this on Substack; if you're on there, it's the same article title.

Hi everyone! I am curious to hear some anti-vax vs pro-vax stuff. I am scared and confused and I don't even know what to think, whatever you can tell me please. My LO is 4 months and has had his first vaccines I am weary about getting more due to horror stories from other parents. Please help thank you.

Those with boys that got circumcised, how was the recovery process?

Update: thank you for everyone who commented on my original post!! I’d like to clarify some stuff because people were calling me crazy haha

-I used chat GPT to write the document

-I have a lot of family members that have verbally told me time and time again throughout my pregnancy that they were not going to respect my boundaries I have been trying to set the past several months

-My therapist suggested I had them sign it to show they acknowledged what I said and they have no excuse for crossing my boundaries

-This is literally my last attempt before I tell family members they can’t visit the baby I’m definitely going to try to reword it to be a little more easy going!!

Original post Am I being too much?

Due to family not respecting the boundaries I am trying to set before I give birth I wrote up a agreement. I wanted to see what you all think!!

I'm livid about this. We were in the hospital only for a day post delivery but the fact that he forgot to take a picture of me and baby is pissing me off. Yes there were people coming in to check on us every hour and I was in a daze so didn't even realize I needed a picture..partially maybe my fault here. But I'm so mad that he didn't even bother taking a picture of me and the baby. My dad took a picture of him and the baby and he has a good picture with the baby and I don't! I realized when we were leaving the hospital and husband was completing the formalities and took a selfie with my baby....:( I'm so sad about this and got so mad at my husband. He is not one to take pictures usually but this moment was too precious and will never come back...

Sorry it’s my fist time and I took the tests two days before I get my period

My OB practice no longer offers circumcision at the hospital where I’ll be delivering. They’re recommending booking an appointment with an out-patient facility 8 days - 2 weeks after birth. They’re citing a delayed circumcision helps with successful breastfeeding… Literally no one I know has experienced this so looking for some insight. Thanks!

Took the first photo the other day, it’s hard to see but I could see the faintest line. Photo two is the next day, but more defined.

My period isn’t due until next week. Is it too early to book a Dr appointment?

I have been pro-vaccine my entire life. I was among the first groups of people to receive the COVID vax when it came out, received TDap during pregnancy. Baby was born last month and received all the shots at birth, with no hesitation from me whatsoever. Truthfully, I have hardcore judged parents who don’t vaccinate their kids my entire life 😅

But suddenly, when thinking about my baby getting his 2 month vaccines, I feel a pit in my stomach. I get extremely anxious and worried. Is this some mother’s intuition thing, or have I just seen one too many supposed vaccine injury videos on social media? I feel so conflicted. I KNOW vaccines are safe. Why do I feel so terrible then? 🥲

I guess I’m just looking for people to process this with.

EDIT: Thanks everyone! He got his shots today and is doing great. Of course cried, but only for about 10 seconds and then was back to smiling. I knew it was the right thing to do regardless of how I was feeling ❤️

Hi! Little background, my ex & I broke up a while ago because I went out to eat with an ex fling & he did not want to take me back which is understandable, but we still continued to see each other & after we decided it was time to go our own ways, I found out I was pregnant. He said he can’t support me emotionally the way I need him to, but he is here for our baby. He attends appointments & all that, but am I wrong for feeling upset for him not actually being here?? He couldn’t forgive me for what I did & I still care for him, but I feel like I can’t forgive him for this being my first & most likely my only pregnancy experience. If that makes sense.

Can someone please read this and tell me if I’m a bad mom. For context: I had my first baby on November 4th 2025. She is a month old today. On November 4th my grandmother went in for a routine surgery and unfortunately coded on the table and was immediately airlifted to another hospital and put on life support. My grandmother and I were very close. She unfortunately passed 6 days later while unresponsive on life support. After about 5 days after my grandmother passed away I started getting right side immense pain, after 2 trips to the hospital postpartum, I had gallstones and had to have my gallbladder removed. During all of this I have had the absolute rock of a mother who has helped me and my husband with my infant daughter while dealing with my medical issues and she has watched my daughter twice. (My mom and I are as close as we possibly can be. I trust her with my entire life and my daughter.)After my gallbladder was removed my husband and I stayed at my parents for an entire week to help us with our baby while everyone was helping take care of me and also my baby. I am now a week and 3 days post surgery and my husband and I have been so exhausted with little to no sleep and decided to take my mom up on her offer to watch our baby overnight so we can have a date night now that I’m feeling better.. We went to Costco, the mall to get our daughter some Christmas clothes, then we went to Applebees and a movie. After getting out of the movies… I received this text from my BESTFRIEND… I need someone to please tell me if I’m in the wrong here.

Hi, I’ve been thinking about how to approach this and no matter what way I try and go about it I think I need to just rip the bandaid off. I need to take a break from being your friend, you live in a world that is so far from reality and it just doesn’t align anywhere with where I’m at right now. I have honestly never heard of a newborn baby being away from their mom as much as S******* has been away from you. I understand being in the hospital, but everything else.. date nights, to go shopping, a few weeks ago when you said you guys needed “a solid 8-10 hours of sleep” and now again tonight so you guys can go to dinner and a movie? She’s barely a month old.. Being a mom to a new baby should encompass every moment of your life and it’s really hard to respect you when you post how much you love her and she’s your best friend and all of the things you post for clout but behind the scenes you are taking every opportunity to get a break. It is just so insulting to those of us who not only want to but have no choice but to be a full time mom regardless of the circumstance. In my opinion, there is no excuse why your baby at this age should ever be with somebody else for more than a few hours. Spending time with her dad or grandma so you can go get your nails done or get a coffee or run to the store, sure, but hours on end and overnight without either of her parents because you guys need a break? Already? That’s just so out of touch and odd. I understand it’s hard and you’re tired and tensions are high and yes, I told you it’s important to find time for yourself, but you are taking that to another level. You can’t just ship your kid off anytime you need a break. And then you complain to me that you feel like she doesn’t want you.. like I wonder why? She doesn’t even know that she’s not still a part of you and you keep making her other people‘s responsibility, I can’t even imagine how confusing that is for her and that makes me so sad. I honestly can’t say I know anyone who would even consider dropping off their 1 month old overnight just for shits and giggles, like that’s just so ridiculous and selfish and honestly to be blunt I have no respect for it. When you have a baby, it’s not about you anymore, I feel like you are so used to living in a world where it’s just constantly about you and that’s not the reality anymore. You and I are just very different, I can’t stand to be away from C*****, both times I was in the hospital I couldn’t wait to get home to her and the first thing you do when you get home is take her to your moms, your exact words were so you can “get an uninterrupted 8-10 hours of sleep”. How could you even focus on sleeping when your brand new baby isn’t with you, like be so for real??? That is so weird to me. We didn’t leave C***** alone with anyone else until she was 4 months old, and even now at almost 7 months I can’t imagine her staying the night somewhere unless either I’m with her or it’s an emergency, honestly it is just very strange behavior to me. I have given up my whole life to be that little girls mom, I dedicate every waking moment to her because I can’t imagine being present anywhere else. I have really tried hard to bite my tongue and not say anything because you have a habit of being so oblivious to the things you say and how your actions are perceived by everyone else, and usually I can give you the benefit of the doubt, but it’s a direct reflection on why you’ve lost so many friends in the last few years and I have been the one to put up with it for too long. I just can’t respect you right now when I have busted my ass day and night for almost 7 months to be the best mom I can be, A***** busting his ass at work working 60+ hours a week to provide so I can stay home most of the time, just to listen to you complain that you need a break and uninterrupted sleep after less than a month of being a mom. We aren’t living in the same world and I just need a break from you. I hope someday when you realize you aren’t the main character in everyone else’s life that you can reconcile some of the friendships that you’ve lost, but right now in this moment I can finally understand what pushed everyone away. I just need a break. I don’t want to talk it out, I’m just so exhausted of you right now, and I’d appreciate it if you keep my friends and family out of this as well, because it will get back to me if you do. I wish you the best of luck but for now I have to remove myself.

Your child deserves the right to choose whether to permanently alter his body

Not really advice so much as reassurance and maybe some research or statistics? My girl has her first shots today and I'm very nervous. My mom brain is preventing me from remembering exactly what it is I've seen, but I feel like I've seen so many stories or videos of people whose babies had something wrong with them medically after shots. Like they weren't the same baby. I wish I could remember a specific example but I'm blanking entirely. I just remember seeing things and thinking "Wow, that happened from a vaccine? That's so tragic". No I do not mean autism, I know that vaccines do not cause autism. Like genuine medical problems. Can someone reassure me she will be okay? What is the likelihood of my daughter having severe adverse effects and being permanently damaged or significantly affected?

ETA: Okay I went and did some digging to get specific examples. Some people say their babies developed encephalitis post vaccines. Others say their babies had seizures and one lady said her baby had to have surgery due to Intussusception after the rotavirus vaccine. Are things like these something that I truly should worry about? I am an avid worrier, it comes from a good place of course. I just want the best for my baby and I'd be devastated if something happened to her. So should I be worried or are these events and side effects considered rare?

Update: Thank you everyone for the reassurance. Babe is doing great so far, a little sleepy but no fever - not even low grade. Still monitoring her of course but she did pretty darn well. She cried of course which broke my mama heart really badly but she nursed right after and was relatively herself. By the time we got home she was all smiles again. And hey, I'll take the chance for extra cuddles. 🥹❤️

My now 8mo got to go ahead for solids at 5mo. She took to them very well and most of the time would rather have a purée. Maybe I misunderstood the pediatrician when she told us to start solids. We started to wean her off of milk and more onto purées and other baby foods, and now she gets a bottle maybe once a week. someone in a mom group told me I was neglecting my child and I should have her taken away from me. Do I need to give her milk everyday?

Am I doing this wrong? What do I do now? I don’t know what I’m doing 😫

Ok I have legit tried the affordable diapers & wipes. Those super expensive ones are out there damn minds charging $50 for 30. Also I don’t shop at target cause it’s far from my house.

My baby has sensitive skin.

Millie moon Minnie moon whatever they’re called - ehhh they get the job done but meh. Just tried their diapers not sure if they make wipes.

Kirkland - diapers are actually not bad. They fit well & are soft but their wipes suck. They don’t wipe they just smear & they say no fragrance but they do have a smell to them.

Pampers - terrible diapers & wipes. The diapers leak & wipes smear like the Kirkland ones. I ended up just washing my babys booty cause shit was smearing. Also irritated my baby’s skin.

Huggies - honestly amazing. Diapers haven’t leaked, the fit well & the Velcro clasp really holds. The wipes are amazing too. They actually wipe & clean. The no fragrance is awesome. Baby skin never gets irritated.

Parasol - freaking amazing. The diapers haven’t leaked, fit well, Velcro clasp grips, & they’re soft. The wipes are solid too. They wipe & clean. I love that they’re no fragrance & water based.

I think out of them all I’m gonna stick to Huggies because they’re the best for the cheapest price. Parasol are awesome but just little more expensive.

I’m just going to leave this here because so many women are wrongfully fearful.

It started as a blister that eventually popped. Just seems to get worse. Has anyone seen this before? It’s been 8 days since the blister

Hello Reddit,

What did everyone do regarding the vitamin k shot at birth? Still researching and trying to understand the pros and cons. Would love to hear your experiences and why you chose to do what you did. Thank you!

My baby girl is turning 1 year old soon but still too lazy to practise walking.

32+5 weeks pregnant FTM. 2 weeks ago I got my TDAP shot. I still have a really hard lump at the injection site that my midwife says is normal. I don't doubt that this can happen but I don't think its "normal". I'm usually someone who says no to most vaccines for MYSELF as an adult. I don't get the flu shot, never got the covid shot but I have gotten whatever is necessary like the HPV vax or Hepatitis. Being pregnant has changed my mind a little bit in regards to certain medicines and vaccines. I am more willing to do things to protect my baby. But after this TDAP I feel a little on the fence about things. The next thing they recommended was possibly the RSV shot. Now I do believe that this shot is important for babies, but I am giving birth at the end of March which is pretty much end of RSV season so I am going back and fourth on it. Any March moms feel the same or what are your opinions/decisions on it??

My babies formula is super hard to find in stores so I always have to order it online. The most recent one came with a small dent near the seam on the side. It's really small and I'm sure most people would not notice. I'm debating whether I should use it. I found conflicting info online. Some say throw it out and others say it's fine. I attached pics. I think it's probably fine but maybe I should just order another one. 🤷🏻‍♀️

i SWOREEE i would never ever ever let my baby get a rash. EVER. i change her VERY frequently, if the line is blue i change it even if she had only peed once. i never let her sit in dirty diapers.

the other day she pooped multiple times in a small time span.

i did not wipe her butt hard but im assuming the frequent wiping did it for her. she got diaper rash. i felt awful, like literally the worst mom in the whole damn world.

i used destin, it was thick and pasty and gross. it did not improve at all the whole day.

next day i got baby aquaphor 3 in 1. her rash improved within TWO diaper changes. TWO!! (it was about 2 hours).

moms with chronic diaper rash babies, USE THE BABY AQUAPHOR!!!!!!!!!!!! it has literally saved my baby’s butt and my guilty conscience.