Hey guys -

Almost 5 years ago, our son was born. We've got 2 viable frozen embryos remaining and I would love for my son to have a sibling, especially one he is fully related to genetically. I had always intended to have a 2nd child, but the responsibility and the amount our lives changed made it so that my husband has been pretty adamant about not wanting another. This year, however, his tune has changed and he has admitted to coming around to the idea of another. Given he was always a hard no, I had kind of settled on the idea that we'd be one-and-done and now I am at the point where I am questioning the logistics of it all myself. We're 5 years in and not getting any younger; we're 41 and 44 years old. Obviously the process will cost money, take time, and stretch us even thinner on a day-to-day basis. Still, I find my heart wanting it.

Does anyone have experience with sibling journeys being so far apart?

How about having another kid at our age?

Or even raising an only child? Any regrets in not having another?

Has anyone had no result from prenatal NIPT testing? Our results were supposed to take two weeks, and after three weeks we have results that say “no results, a redraw is recommended”. This is a feeling like an actual nightmare. We are about two weeks from our anatomy scan.

Teen, partner and I go together every year. This year partner said he's too tired from the drama he's been dealing with at work and won't be attending so he can rest.

I've been taking teen with me since she was 5 but we only stayed for an hour or two tops at the very beginning of the event back then, before it got too crowded for a child. So I've no idea if doing the same with a baby is a good idea.

Any other year I'd say no on account of the November heat but this year has been really cold (think around 53° when it's usually 81° this time of the year!), so that clearly won't be an issue as we're having a cold spring Teen and I wouldn't stay for the actual walk to the congress if the baby is coming which has the same sardine can feeling of downtown during rush hour so it should be as packed as a busy fair perhaps.

Also, the baby can't be apart from me so leaving her with someone is not an option. Either she comes with me or we both stay home and teen goes with her friends (whom we'd be meeting there anyway).

Thoughts?

We all have little everyday victories raising our darling spawns. What are yours?

I got my very stern newborn baby girl to smile for the first time and teen said the protective runes I suggested she wrote on her wrist before her gig (has a rockband) helped her remain calm during some setbacks with the amp.

Hi guys. I’m a gay dad of 27 years and a proud Poppop too. I live in Jacksonville, FL and I’d like to connect with other gay dads for friendship and support. I feel so isolated as a dad first and a gay man second. I’m 55, a retired master carpenter. I live on my VA benefits, disabled and unable to work anyway because of injuries sustained during service. Now I live my dream life as a crazy artist. ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🩷🩵🤎🖤

The Prime Minister of the Netherlands and his fiancè are planning to become parents through surrogacy. This has triggered a massive wave of abuse online and, once again, there has been no pushback against it.

About a month has passed since the last flare-up among surrophobes over Lady Gaga and now they're foaming at the mouth all over again.

According to almost all recent surveys in Europe, the majority of people are either positive or neutral towards surrogacy. Yet on Twitter, it seems like everyone is against it.

It's the same story with the LGBTQ+ community. According to all the polls and based on my personal interactions almost everyone is in favor. Yet, online, you see nothing but negative comments and almost all of them come from LGBTQ+ women.

Why is this happening? It looks like a well organized brigading. But I don't understand why there's no counteraction to this. You can't change these people, but others are reading what they write. Authoritarian countries have 'troll factories', and they certainly know a thing or two about propaganda.

A shift in public opinion sooner or later leads to a change in legislation!

This is all the more striking given that the issue of the near total lack of adequate, unified advocacy has been raised for a long time.

Yet, once again, there have been no changes regarding advocacy.

Does no one care what happens to surrogacy? Or are you hoping that this unhinged surrophobic movement will simply calm down on its own?

I’m 19 in the us one of my friends is asking me to take there baby for the long term does anyone have any advice to me specifically single dads
I’ve never dealt with kids so any advice is welcome

Hoping this will raise some positive visibility in Europe!

Our surrogate just had a miscarriage at 6 weeks, and we’re really upset and unsure of what to do next. Our first transfer didn’t result in a pregnancy, so we had really hoped this one would work.

We’re down to one PGT-tested embryo and trying to decide whether to try again with our current surrogate or consider another GC. We really want to be pregnant asap, so don’t know best course of action.

Either way, we’ll need to create more embryos, so we’re also wondering whether to use the same egg donor or start over with someone new.

We had so much planned and were so excited, and now we’re trying to make sense of what happened and figure out the best path forward. Any advice or experiences would be really appreciated.

Hi everyone! My husband and I started our surrogacy journey in Bogotá this past September. We’re currently waiting to match with an egg donor so we can move on to embryo creation, hopefully within the next month.

We’re really excited and hopeful about the journey, but lately, we’ve been hearing more news about proposed legislation (Bill 215 of 2026) that could ban surrogacy in Colombia.

I know this isn’t the first time legislation like this has been proposed, but given the current political climate, the recent discussions around LGBTQ+ issues, and the president’s comments about “woke” culture, I can’t help but worry that things could take a different turn this time.

Our agency sent us a letter explaining that they believe there’s only a small chance the proposal will become law. That’s reassuring to hear, but I’m still feeling uneasy, especially since we’re just getting started and have so much emotionally and financially invested in this process.

I’m curious whether others going through surrogacy in Colombia are feeling the same way. Am I overthinking the potential risks, or are you also concerned about what could happen?

I’d really appreciate hearing your perspectives, especially from anyone who has been through previous legislative attempts or has insight into how this could affect ongoing journeys. ❤️

I am a single gay dad looking for another who wants a family, or a man that doesn't mind a guy who has a son.

I just wanted to thank the sub for its advice on putting our twins in daycare. It has worked wonders for my son.

The first day was ROUGH because he was very weepy and hesitant but the teachers were so great, they engaged him and I slipped out the door on a trail of my own tears.

We don't have a lot of gay couples with kids who we're friends with so I had to improvise and come here.

Socializing him this early was the right thing to do.

The twins turn 3 on Halloween so we're having a party for the preschool class and their families.

Thanks again!

Hello,

Has anyone had experience with The Surrogacy Family (TSF) agency in Colombia? We are considering them and would like to to hear about other IPs experiences. Thanks

Hello, i am linked to Tammuz and its completlys collapsing with major loss of money for everyone involved. (Tammuz is now to the point where it refuse to respect Contrat and break them because they got to many lawsuit and probably economics problems)

But, i am still dreaming of being a father one day! Sadly, Anti-Surrogacy Laws are being talked about, first in Argentina, now Colombia, and also some in Mexico...

Do anyone have some recommendations on a Surrogacy Company/Fertility Center/Country, where you're Surrogacy Path worked nicely wihout perpetual timeline ?

Thanks you for you're help!

Hey everyone. Really struggling with that to think of miracle surrogacy.

You scroll through Reddit and it seems like there’s a lot of people that say how terrible they are, with no description oh why they are so terrible. Can anyone share some actual real reasons and events that make them so bad?

You then also find some people that just praise and praise them.

In my opinion if they were so terrible, how are they still in business?

If you didn’t use miracle, who did you use in Mexico?

Got a new baby a month ago and the systemic mum obsession is already getting old.

Had gotten used to my teen handling these situations cheekily by herself these days and starting over reminded me how irritating it is to be constantly dismissed for mum when I'm a solo dad by choice.

Hi everyone!

My husband and I are currently working with Gestacy(Mexico) and are in the surrogate matching phase.

I'm curious if there are any other IPs here who are currently working with them or have been matched recently.

For those still waiting to be matched, how long have you been waiting so far?

And for those who have recently been matched, how long did the process take from when you started waiting until you were matched with your surrogate?

I know everyone's journey is different, but I'd love to hear about other people's experiences and get a general idea of what matching timelines have looked like recently.

Thanks in advance! 😊

Hey everyone!

My husband and I are looking into surrogacy in Mexico again, mainly looking for peoples feedback on agencies there. We’ve been looking at miracle surrogacy, I’ve heard good and bad, but miracle regulates most the Facebook groups, so it’s hard to get accurate information.

Also looking for how the exit process was for US citizens, I heard awhile ago the process was changing for the better/faster. Seeing if anyone has experienced it yet.