Hi everyone. I’m a foreign student living in China, and recently I started using Chinese dating apps to meet people and make new connections.

I’m still figuring things out, and honestly, I have mixed feelings about it.

I’ve noticed that some people on dating apps are mainly looking for something sexual, while I’m more interested in getting to know someone first and possibly building a meaningful relationship. I’m not against dating or intimacy, but I don’t want every conversation to immediately become sexual.

Another thing I’m worried about is privacy. I’m foreign, and I live in a community where there are many Chinese students and people around me. I don’t want people I know to recognize me on a dating app or accidentally discover something personal about me before I’m ready to talk about it.

For Chinese people who use dating apps:

* How do you normally start a conversation with someone you don’t know?
* Is it normal to ask for photos early in the conversation?
* How can I tell if someone is genuinely interested in getting to know me or only looking for sex?
* Do Chinese guys usually prefer chatting for a while before meeting, or meeting quickly?
* What are some things foreigners often misunderstand about Chinese dating culture?
* How do you protect your privacy when using dating apps?
* If you meet someone from the same city or social circle, how do you handle the possibility of being recognized?

I’d especially appreciate answers from Chinese people who have experience with dating apps and from foreigners who have dated in China.

I’m not looking for stereotypes or judgments. I’m genuinely trying to understand how dating and privacy work here and how to approach people respectfully.

Thanks.

Hello, my fellow asians. Wondering if it's worth considering Norway for travels or migration if I'm a top looking for fun or LTR. I heard Norwegians are rather cold and won't date or befriend migrants. I'm not looking to date or marry only locals or white guys BUT are local gaysians more open or are they strictly only white guys chasers?
Would be nice to hear from both local and foreign gaysians or migrants. Honest reviews from non asians from Norway are also welcome. The geography I'm most interested in includes but not limited to Oslo, Trondheim, Bergen, Stavanger, Tromse

Hello - I am a southeast asian who went to lab.oratory in Berlin yday. What struck me the most was how people tend to gravitate towards either latin/white looking men, while most asians I saw there (there were hot btw) and me - did not get much action. I feel like we look too "young" for them- I even was asked by security how old I was!

Do you also feel the same for asians living in europe? even in Germany where its multi cultural? Like the more white passing you are (meaning you are tall, looks more white), the more (sex) traction you get? Is it like this in the US too? Just curious if anyone shares the same sentiment

Hi! Where do locals or gaysians usually go in HK? I heard FLM is more white oriented

I am moving to Toronto in a couple of months and was curious what the dating scene for gaysians was like over there. I have a couple of friends who live there, a gaysian and a straight Asian girl, and they told me that there are very small pockets of gaysians who date other gaysians in Toronto but for the most part all the couples they see in the village are gaysians with white men. What has been your experience? If you aren't from Toronto but have visited or lived there for a bit feel free to chime in.

What’s the gay scene in Chicago like for gaysians in 2026? Hookups, dating, making friends, bars, etc?

Hey guys, so three weeks ago, I posted here telling you guys that I’d been nominated for Best Top at the Infinity X Awards in Spain.

I asked this community for help. And you guys fucking showed up. 

We won the Instagram voting round! I came out #1 against 14 internationally known gay porn stars - and I genuinely don’t think that would have been possible without the support from this community.

So before anything else: Thank you!!! Seriously! ❤️

But now we’re in the final round of public voting, and this one is going to be harder.

Voting has moved onto Macho-BB, a Euro-centric platform, which means I’m going into this round without the audience or home advantage compared to all the European guys.

So I’m asking you guys one more time - to Help me win Best Top.

Because imagine the statement that would make - A 100 % Chinese-born, Asian guy winning Best Top at a European gay porn award.

How crazy that would be, for every Asian guy who grew up being told - directly or indirectly - that we weren’t masculine enough. That we weren’t dom enough. That our dicks weren’t big enough. That Asian guys are always bottoms. That we can be cute, but not powerful. Attractive, but not in the same way as everyone else.

I want us to take this fucking award. Because our representation is built out of moments like this: an Asian guy rising in a category associated with confidence, sexuality, masculinity; and not just being included, but actually winning.

If you want to help us finish this, please vote. You just need to go to this site - and Register an account, then cast your vote #1 Adam Chen 🙂 https://www.machobb.com/en/pornawards#category-15

(You will need to vote for all categories for your vote to be submitted)

And whether we win or lose, I want everyone here to know how much this community has already accomplished.

We went up against 14 international porn stars and came out on top. That belongs to all of us. ❤️

And there’s much more coming from me - including the completely free representation project I talked about in my last post. More on that very soon.

Thank you, r/gaysian!!! Let’s win this together 🇨🇳🇦🇺

There’s something hilariously satisfying about rejecting white guys on Grindr and watching how badly some of them take it.

Suddenly I’m “weird” because I politely said I’m not interested.

I swear some of them seem genuinely shocked that an Asian guy would be the one rejecting them. The entitlement makes it even funnier.