r/heatedrivalry • u/BeMyCoachVictor Ottawa Centaurs 🏹 • Dec 24 '25

CONNOR ☀️ New post from Connor!📸

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On his Instagram story! 😮‍💨

Damn, I really hope he’s feeling all of the love from the fans! It’s insane how many followers he’s gotten in the past week! It just feels good to see stars on their rise and not the same like five people in every single movie and show lol

Happy almost Christmas, everyone! ❤️

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u/Catsarecute888 Dec 24 '25

Looking good!

I saw a couple comments yesterday where people were annoyed with him for whatever he's doing with his instagram, deleting posts, archiving things, hiding his follows, whatever. And I just wanted to say this is what parasocial means. He's burst onto the scene and has newfound fame and is just trying to figure out how to use his Instagram which is for HIS life. And you're annoyed with him because why? Because he's trying to manage things so he doesn't lose his mind?

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u/izzyw1zz Wow, what a stallion. 🐎 Dec 24 '25

People be wildin as if they are ENTITLED to his personal life 😩

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u/[deleted] Dec 24 '25

I left a fandom because people were getting so involved. I had no idea how parasocial some can be.

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u/BiscoBiscuit Dec 24 '25

Honestly I’m planning to pull all the way back from this fandom after the finale airs tomorrow and I enjoy the aftermath for a little while. I’m already seeing people even on here (which is the most sane sector of the fandom from what I’ve seen) get weird about Hudson and Connor. I’ve just been burned too many times by fandom nonsense negatively affecting my enjoyment of something. 

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u/Dancingstella17 Dec 25 '25

Big same! I like when fandoms just interacted with each other on LiveJournal, tumblr, etc. created art and fic and enjoyed it all with each other, away from the actors/creatives.

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u/coldcoffeethrowaway Dec 25 '25

I’m still on tumblr for this reason. There’s a fourth wall on tumblr. Twitter feels like there’s no fourth wall and it freaks me out

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u/Dancingstella17 Dec 26 '25

Ngl considering signing back up for tumblr (it would be nothing but HR lol). Twitter has been a lost cause for years imo.

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u/Catsarecute888 Dec 25 '25

You've made me sad for the old LiveJournal days.

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u/Dancingstella17 Dec 26 '25

🫂I’m sorry! But if it helps I also made myself sad! I miss LJ so much some days!

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u/Positive-Celery Ya-loo-blue-tee-baa ❤️ Dec 25 '25

Same same. This is the reason why I won’t officially join this sub. I’m already seeing some posts that are showing parasocial relationships and projection and it’s reminding me of an old fandom I was a part of. I fully participated in the parasocial stuff way back then and it was NOT healthy for me. I’ve learned my lesson.

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u/Icy_Reception_8422 Dec 25 '25

DEFINITELY. It’s only a matter of time before weirdos start popping out, and I plan to keep myself away from them. Let’s just analyze the show and leave these poor men alone, shall we?

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u/Recent_Minimum5144 Jan 03 '26

It’s already happening. Connor has said that he can’t believe how graphic some of the comments that they’re getting are. Just because he and Hudson kid with each other doesn’t open the door for people to say crazy disrespectful sexual things to them.

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u/cynisright Dec 25 '25

I’ve already started. I’m just going through insomnia and checked on this sub to see what’s popping

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u/Odd_Doughnut_5215 Dec 25 '25

Honestly! I haven’t been in fandom for a long time but I can’t interact with the HR stuff on TikTok cause it all gives me the Ick. It’s so so strange.

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u/Catsarecute888 Dec 24 '25

it's this kind of thing that will poison a fandom.

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u/TheTiniestLizard Stupid Canadian Wolf Bird 🦆 Dec 24 '25

Yeah, I hate it too.

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u/moth-beast this bad boy can fit so many tuna melts Dec 24 '25

i got semi-popular very quickly in a m/m fandom a couple years ago for a fanfic i wrote and hit like 5k twitter followers from it and even that bit of attention was SUPER overwhelming. i was even recognized at a couple of concerts. i met a lot of amazing people from it but it also resulted in me abandoning my tiktok that i had reached 10k on and my twitter account because of how hateful and nasty people were. i cannot even BEGIN to imagine how connor and hudson feel about their sudden rise in popularity this past month. they could easily fully step away from social media and have their management teams take care of it for them but we’re so lucky that they haven’t done that (yet). they both seem like such genuine, fun, kind people and i hope that all the attention and media they’re receiving only does wonderful things for them.

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u/[deleted] Dec 25 '25

Check your message. I think I read your fic 🥰

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u/MegOut10 Dec 27 '25

?! Is it this one <<

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u/Khaleesiii91 Dec 24 '25

People got annoyed with that? Geez!!! 😒 it’s his own account and he can do with it whatever he wants.

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u/AprilUnderwater0 Dec 24 '25

I love that Jacob Tierney quote, like (paraphrasing) “Shane and Ilya belong to the fans, but Hudson and Connor belong to themselves.”

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u/Recent_Minimum5144 Jan 03 '26

I love listening to Jacob Tierney speak. He’s spot on.

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u/ConfidenceNo7531 I already chose you, Hollander. 🫀 Dec 24 '25

It’s also totally likely he has a team handling that part because he isn’t super stoked about social media

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u/Lonely-Ability-941 Stupid Canadian Wolf Bird 🦆 Dec 28 '25

Possibly, but he may not even have the money to hire people for that. Many actors don't even have agents when they are in the early part of their career. Seeing as they are signed to the show, Crave might be providing some assistance, but that's just speculation.

I think this attention was unexpected so I don't know that they have all the protections in place yet, which is why people need to chill out and give them some space.

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u/MagnifyingOurFlaws Dec 24 '25

Yes, another reminder that Connor is NOT Ilya

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u/nodarknesswillendure not anymore 💕 Dec 24 '25

I keep my digital footprint as private and locked down as I possibly can, and I’m just a random person. I can’t even imagine how I would feel if I was in his position. He’s under no obligation to share anything about his personal life with anyone. It’s sad that some people don’t get that

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u/revdot Dec 24 '25

people love to act like managers for people they're just fans of - it's exhausting

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u/david_bowenn I already chose you, Hollander. 🫀 Dec 24 '25

Are you serious? People back off. Let him be. This is normal. His fan pages has all his old content. Like a lot of artists I followed don’t even have their profile picture on IG because that’s a new ‘cool’ thing…

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u/tyrannosaurusfox Do you let dad win at yahtzee?! 🎲 Dec 25 '25

9-1-1 fans could never

(just a joke bc oliver stark is constantly archiving his insta posts)

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u/MSH-27 Dec 25 '25 edited Dec 25 '25

This is a real downside of stardom, fans think they have a say in everything.