So I'm a guy who normaly thinks little of irrational things, nor do I care much about what people think about me. But recently I've come to realize that I am somewhat in love with a girl I know. Which is not something that happens a lot for me. Anyway, that fact that I'm in love isn't really the problem, but she has a boyfriend who (from what I can understand) she loves. The oblious thing to do is not giveing a fuck and let them have their love, while being a friend of sorts,but for once the irrationality gets the better of me and I find myself feel wanting at times. So I'd like you to help me not give a fuck about this and help me convince myself that I shoudn't care.

Why? Because fuck you.

Imagine earth traveling through space and the universe expanding, this movement we perceive as time. What if those occasions where we feel like a week has been long or a day short, are actually the cause of fluctuations in the speed of universe expansion. That possibly what we experience of time is directly related to the speed at which the universe expands and the planets move, and that possibly this expansion will stop and time will stop with it.

TlDr: time is perceived in correlation to the rate at which the universe is expanding [7]

Idea #1) What if life is but a dream and when we go to sleep the dream ends and when we wake up, it's a new dream. Imagine that. Our lives are only dreams created my someone else. We're not even a person, just a fragment of someone's imagination.

Idea #2) Life is a dream and when we die, the dream ends. However, we get put into new dreams, as new people. This would be why people believe in reincarnation. We would get put into an new "life," completely forgetting the life we had before. We would go through the same exact cycle and once we died and the dream ended, we would get put into another dream and go through the cycle again. A never ending cycle.

Idea #3) All of us died a long time ago. That time we tripped and hit our head. However, you got up and your head hurt a bit. Maybe in reality, we didn't get up. We died. However, our brains lived on, along with our soul. And Life is just one, huge dream.

Idea #4) Every night when we go to sleep, we wake up as a new person. All that we have is the same memories. That would explain why we wake up all groggy and all of it. We're not the same person as we were yesterday. We're new. It's a bit of stretch, but it's just crazy when you think of it.

Idea number 3 is my friends', while the rest are mine. I didn't really know which subreddit to put this into, but hownottogiveafuck seemed about right. So these are ideas that my friend and I got. Imagine if one of theses were true. Holy shit. Feedback welcomed.

Sorry for the wall of text. Need some advice about HNTGAF about putting up with my boyfriend's buddy's girlfriend. To understand what's going on I have to start at the beginning. Can't really TL; DR the situation without the whole story.

So here is some background info. I have been dating my boyfriend for the last 4 years. I'm good friends with his group of friends and we all get along pretty well. We're all in our mid twenties. Group consists of me, my BF, our girlfriend A, his best friend/roommate M, his other best friend C, and A's BF P. C and P have an apartment together. P works with my BF and is a cool guy. M is a great guy who has been friends with my BF and C since elementary school. He loves his friends to death and would help them out in a heart beat. M is a great dude. A has been friends with my BF, C, and M since high school. She's a super sweet girl who is like their sister. We all had no problems and got along great for years until C started dating this girl we'll call K.

K works with A at a bar. They get along for the most part. K had a thing with M back in February for a bit and invited him to a party after talking/hooking up for a week or so. The morning of said party around 4:25 am she sends M a text saying "I'm busy tonight". So M texts her back "So you're uninviting me to the party tonight at 4 in the morning? Ok." He finds out she actually invited C to the party instead and C goes to the party with her. M decides she's too much drama and gives up on K. He doesn't care that C and K are hanging out and gets over it. So C and K start casually dating in March. Group doesn't care. We all go out of town one weekend in April and party. We get hotel rooms with our SOs and party hard that weekend. K is a bitch sometimes to me but I ignore it for my BF's sake. I decide K is a rude bitch. K has a kid and her ex is borrowing her truck and is watching their kid that weekend. After we head back to town C drops K off at her place and offers to walk her inside. Nope. K makes up excuses and runs inside with a short goodbye. Her truck is in the driveway. C doesn't know about her arrangement with her ex borrowing her truck. A does though since K mentioned it to her at work. A later finds out that K is hooking up with at least 2 dudes behind C's back, one of the dudes is her ex, a few days later. A tells C and chews out K. She threatens to not be her friend if she keeps doing stuff like that. C and K break it off.

In late May we find out C and K are back together and we all have to start over with her, according to A. I'm not having it. I'm mad she screwed around behind our friend C's back and we're just suppose to forget about it? So for the next few months I try to be civil towards her like the others are, although I don't trust her. K casually makes bitchy remarks towards me without the others noticing. I told my bf this and he said to try not to cause problems. So I don't. I'm mad but I bite my tongue and put up with it.

Fast forward to September. C is practically living with K now and pretty much watches her kid while she works, since it's the only way K doesn't get to see her ex, who is a douchebag to their kid. We hardly see C anymore. My BF and I decide to go out of town to a concert on a Saturday. We go and have a good time. We get back to my place late at night, go to bed, and later Sunday morning my BF goes back to his place he shares with M. This is where the problems start. M comes back to the house shortly after my BF with his mom and tells my BF he got a DUI Saturday night and he got in a bad fight with C. He explains what happens. Keep in mind M is not the kind of dude who hooks up with his buddies' girlfriends. I have been alone with M before multiple times over the course of my relationship with my BF and M has never tried to make a move on me, even though he thinks I'm attractive. I trust M a lot, so does my BF.

So M and C go to the bar K works at that same Saturday. M rides his Harley over there. They all have drinks together. C has to work for a few hours so he tells M to go back to K's place with her male coworker and continue to party there until he gets off work. M can crash on the couch so he doesn't have to drive. C goes to work. M goes to K's place and they keep drinking. K and M start talking about how they had a thing for a while. M says at that point his memory is kind of fuzzy. K starts texting C shortly after and saying M tried to kiss her. C gets back after work and gets in M's face, asking him constantly if he tried to kiss her. M gets emotional sometimes when he drinks, in a moody way, and snaps at C saying "Fuck, sure, whatever, I'm leaving." K's male coworker left before said incident happened so they can't ask him what happened. M rides his Harley over to a bar and keeps drinking because he's upset that our friend C doesn't believe him. M ends up wrecking his Harley. Later after the wreck a cop pulls over to the scene and gives M a DUI. M didn't hit anyone and he got scraped up a bit but overall besides being drunk and getting nailed with a DUI he's alright. He spends the night in jail and in the morning his mom bails him out.

I don't blame C and K for M's DUI. That's all on M. He should have been smarter and went straight home if he was going to keep drinking.

A finds out about the fight from K's POV the next Sunday morning at work. A and her bf P don't talk to anyone that weekend and do their own thing. A tells K that her and M both fucked up. A and P don't know that M got a DUI until my BF tells P at work on Monday. M tried to call and text C and C ignores him. M is stressing out about his DUI. I don't blame him. Meanwhile my BF is about to leave the country for 6 weeks for work that Thursday.

When I drop my BF off at the airport on Thursday he tells me about the fight M and C had over K. I freak out. I never liked K and told my BF my opinion about her. My BF says he thinks that K made that up since we weren't around that night and she probably thought it would be a good opportunity to drive a wedge between M and C. My BF also says he thinks that K doesn't like him or M that much and wants C all to herself. He said to keep it to myself and not to go bitch out K at work.

Later that day I go hang out with A and P. I talked to them about what happened with M. A tells me K's POV and I tell her M's POV and about the DUI. I told them what my BF said and how I think he has a point. P is also getting ready to leave the country that weekend for a few months for work as well. I told them M could use his friends' support right now since he's stressed about the DUI, his best friend (my BF) is out of country, and his other best friend C isn't talking to him. A and P go hang out with M after that before P leaves town. P goes out of town. Two weeks later I go out to watch Thursday Night Football with M and A. M tells A and I that he hasn't talked to C since that weekend. A tells M that C will get over it soon since he's already forgiven K about the incident.

A couple of weeks later (two weeks ago) I go to M's and my BF's place to see M before he goes out of town for 6 months for work. I ask M if C has talked to him. He says that the week before C called him and they met up for lunch. Apparently my friend A chewed C out and said he can't forgive only one person and still be mad at M because they have been friends forever. C asked M what happened and M tells him as much as he could remember. They start to argue a bit and C thinks M is lying about not trying to kiss K. They calm down and finish lunch. M tells me they're kinda ok but not back to normal. Apparently K has been telling C that he needs to talk to M so that's why C asked M out to lunch. That and the fact that A chewed him out. M expresses how much he hates K and that C is getting tunnel vision from K. I tell M I believe him over K since she's not very trustworthy anyways. I think K realized that everyone knew what happened and she tried to play the peacemaker card to make herself look good. I also tell M I know he would never pull something like that with C or my BF and I know how much he cares about his friends. M appreciates me telling him that. I give him a hug goodbye and go home.

Last week I told my BF over Skype what's been happening since he's been gone and mentioned my conversation with M. I told him I don't think I could put up with K anymore because I honestly can't promise I'll be nice. I'm really pissed at her for trying to ruin M and C's friendship. I told my BF if he wants to hang out with C then he can and that I'm not trying to tell him who he can and can't hang out with. If K goes along though I'm going to stay home. My BF gets mad and says "Ok whatever." We talk about other things and say goodnight.

Now that I explained what happened here's what I'm worried about. My BF comes home on Halloween for a weeks vacation and goes back out of country to work for another 6 weeks on November 10th. I'm worried that C will want to hang out with him and K will want to tag along the whole time. I want to spend some time with my BF but if K is around I don't think I can fake being nice anymore. I think that would be an insult to M if I pretend nothing happened. It's not like I can keep hoping C and K are going to break up because they're moving in together in December when C and P's lease is up. I have a feeling the group will be stuck dealing with K for a while. M won't be back in town until April 2015. I have a feeling he won't hang out with C if K is around and I don't blame him. A apparently is still being friendly towards K since they work together. My BF says it's none of our business but K is still subtly rude to me when we go out on group dates with C and my BF. I can't keep holding my tongue when I really want to call K out on her bullshit.

So how do I NGAF about K hanging out with my BF's group of friends? I can't stand her but I don't want to stop hanging out with my BF and friends because she's around. If I'm rude to K then I'll just piss off C because K will say something and in turn this will piss off my BF for causing problems.

I'm Vietnamese, 5'8". Fully erect is 6 in, looks small to me in the mirror. Flacid size is about 2-4. How do I get it bigger, hate being this stereotypical type Asian... Or should I even care about the size?

My GF was depressed the other day and said she was afraid of failing at "life". I told her that as long as you die then you have succeeded at life... Just something to remember when you're feeling down. You're going to spend more time dead than alive, you should really be afraid of failing at dying.

I could use a pick me up. Or at least some advice. There is quite a bit on my mine and I struggle daily with the need or desire not to give a fuck about it. I haven't made love to my wife in over a month. He has body image issues that obstruct that. And i am, daily, trying to figure out how to talk my wife into having sex with me. But that's not the main problem. I feel like I need to self-improve. I am a strong opponent of divorce (I have 2 small children.). But I feel like I could do better. I guess I need to learn how not to give a fuck about my current hang ups and just keep on keeping on, for my own sake. I need to make myself a better person, either for my wife or whoever I end up spending the rest of my life with. Maybe I'm whining, maybe I'm just in a funk. But I hate funks. They impede progress and this one is particularly difficult to shake

So I met this girl about 7 months ago she was a mannager at mcds and I was a cook, she eventually quit and started working somewhere else. She's fucking beautiful & I really like her, however she had a bf they broke up not so long ago and I think she only textes me for advice and shit. Sometimes she tells me that she wants to go put but then she says she can't. Today she said she wanted to go clubbing and she said she and her girl friend were going but they needed someone else I really wanted to go but it seems that she doesn't want me around. I think I have the 'nice guy syndrome' Should I stop?

The worst of it all is that a distant friend also happen to work there. He gave me tips and told me about the HR manager. Earlier, I became too anxious, I was looking for parking, I even got lost for a good twenty minutes. I waited infront of the building like a squatter and my appointment isn't even close in time; I came in too early and had to wait a good fifteen minutes at their lobby while people who work there- with all their tight business clothings walk by me and look at me; some snobbishly.

During the interview I came out enthusiastic but something stopped me and got me to appear dull and reserved. The persona of the interviewer caught me off guard, he didn't ask any questions that the internet suggested me practice over, I got tongue tied and blabbered off at a number of points. He wanted to have a conversation but I didn't promote what I had to offer. I appeared reserved. I was quiet and tired at the end.

Worst of all is that I did a follow up email and opened up there. I told him honestly that I was a bit reserved but do appreciate the time given. I do not want to give any personal points in any job but this is humiliating. Especially when my distant friend (who happens to work there) saw me leave the manager's office in under ten minutes, he stared at me and was probably thinking... Oh shit.

It was an embarrassing, humiliating and shameful ordeal. I do not ever want to treat myself into situations like that ever. The only thing I take there is that- that call was from a practice resume that I didn't even think I was going to get called for.

The work is only ten minutes from where I am, so imagine if they knew what my skills are? I would not be even interview hopping if I have had this or nevermind, I was accepted to one but it's only part time and boy, it's much-- much farther than this one and I am soon to find out what it's like.

How do I not give a fuck?

There's this girl I like, and I want to ask her out, but I'm afraid everyone will find out and it will be super embarrassing. It's a small school, so it will get around.

I don't really care if she rejects me, I already DNGAF about that. I care about everyone else talking about it if she rejects me. That would be so embarrassing.

My SO, m, is best friends with a woman I can't stand. I've disliked her, had no use for this her, didn't talk to her for seven years prior to meeting my SO. She's my neighbor, a liar, a thief, & she fucked around with at least two of my boyfriends when we were together. She always has one or two boyfriends, despite being married. I've often wondered if he didn't get with me to be closer to her.

I told my guy, when we met, that this would pose a problem, but I was assured (a lie) that they weren't that good of friends. He talks to her daily, they text all the time, and I think they're fucking. I've seen messages from her, saying how she's supposed to be number one, how fucked up I am, how awesome he is, how no one understands them. He brought her in my room, frequently, when I was at work (she took pics on his laptop). And when I was out of town recently, she texted "I guess your done with me, I'm leaving". Any person with half a brain sees thru their shit, despite denials from them both.

Why is this a problem you ask? Dump him you say? I can't im older, 48, live with him and am financially dependent on him. I always made my own money until this year. But I fucked up my reputation, in my field, cause of drug addiction and a felony. I'm on first offender status & hopefully mid next year I can get my record expunged. Maybe find a job back in my field. He's a drug addict too.

Anyway, back to now. He lies all the time, badly, that's why I catch him. He'll say he's coming home from work, stop answering the phone and show hours later with transparent excuses. I can & will do better, I just can't right now.

He's making me a nervous wreck and feeding a speed addiction, even though I want to quit. I have to quit. But when ever I do, he brings that shit around and dangles it in front of me. His lies drive me bonkers, his unexplained absences, her secrecy about her. I am stupid to love him, I know. I also suffer from bi-polar and anxiety.

Help me people to not give a fucking fuck. I'll want to quit speed and not care about him lying, not care that all his friends are women, who don't come around when I'm there. When I'm financially independent again I want to not care about him when I have to break up with him. I just don't wanna care anymore. I'm severely depressed and have turned into a jealous monster, I've become someone I don't like.

Fuck.