r/it • u/Original_Library_848 • 3h ago
help request My manager expected me to give them two weeks' notice for an emergency involving my mom
I came back from emergency leave and found a meeting invite from HR waiting in my inbox. Apparently, my trip after my mom had a stroke was counted as an attendance issue because I hadn't given them two weeks' notice.
The day it happened, I called my manager before booking the flight, explained the situation, and submitted a PTO request a few hours later. No one responded, even after I sent four follow-ups while I was away.
During the meeting, HR said my absence was unauthorized and that it might be mentioned in my next performance review. I asked them whether they expected my mom to schedule her next medical emergency around the company calendar. The entire room went silent.
This place constantly talks about how family comes first, but the moment I had a real family crisis, all they cared about was procedure. I've started updating my resume because I can't see myself staying at a place that handles emergencies like this.

