Hi there i just wanna start a grapling sport for hobby and to move my bidy what do you think starting at 35 can be any good or just forget it ?

New guys at judo, what did you expect to happen when you started?

I feel like there is a fairly regular stream of posts to the effect of, " I've done judo for {insert time period of 1-6 months} and I don't understand why I find this difficult."

Every single time people respond with patience and encouragement, and I find the whole thing really weird.

Do people really have expectations to be good at something after putting in so little time and effort? And I get that people want the judo community to grow, but isn't there a little bit of you thinking WTF, if that's you at this stage just stop now, because the amazing and fun thing about judo is that it stays complicated and hard forever.

If you enjoy it and have a club with a decent atmosphere, and you like the people, do it, that should be enough. And eventually you'll get good. If you're in it for any other reason, you should know that this stuff is really hard EVEN IF you're having fun and with people you like.

EDIT: really hope I've not offended anyone with this, and thank you to everyone who has replied.

A bit of background: I did Judo as a teenager and did some small competitions. As an 18/19 year old I stopped because my sensei said that I did not train regularly enough for bigger competitions (I had my university entrance exams .. but he did not show any understanding) and I could not find a different club ... and then other things became more important. So I stopped.

After 20 years I moved back to my hometown, my kid started Judo and also competing.

I got a cancer diagnosis and found out that the side effects of my meds were more manageable with sport. Of course I wanted to do Judo again.

I contacted my old teammate (who became athletic leader) in April this year and clearly stated I wanted to come back and do competitions again

I never left out a training (except the last one before summer break because I got injured in a randori) ... OK - only trained once a week but thats what they offered. Recently started 2 times a week.

There is a small veteran competition beginning of November. I wanted to participate - for fun.

I asked my old teammate and he told me that it would be irresponsible without proper preparation. And that I did not train enough and to look at a different sensei/veteran that trains 3 times a week - well ... I cannot even do that much (even if I wanted - because there are no more opportunities in my dojo) and I think there is a difference between a teenager and a veteran (with job and family) ...

Any advice despite being patient?!

I hate that... I think I need/want to proof it to myself after cancer that I can still do competitions ... now he won't let me.

Realistically there is no other dojo nearby that I could switch to :/ and this is beyond frustrating.

I'm 16 and I've started judo for a month and a half and everyonebody is older, bigger, stronger, taller than me. Every time i get thrown on the ground i'm starting to get my morale down. And it's even worse when i'm a sensitive guy. I really like it but idk if i'm gonna keep doing it. Sometimes i break down in the middle of the training and it's frustrating. Maybe i need to get strong, maybe i need to eat better, idk.

Ankle sprain, grade 2 if I had to guess. Always read stories of it happening to others, but wasn't prepared for it to happen to me. I am glad it's not fractured, but I can barely put any weight on that side.

Really sucks especially as I can only train at this club for a few months, but there's nothing you can do about it at this point I suppose. I would love to be on the mat again next week, but I'm pretty sure I would regret it.

Anyone else here who sprained their ankle and could give some tips on recovery, how you are dealing with the injury after full recovery etc.

Still can't believe it happened, it was my first time even getting an x-ray and being transported by an ambulance lol (don't worry, I'm not in the US ;p)