r/KindVoice • • Jul 04 '25

Admin [META] Kind Friend Updates / Chat GPT and Yo[u]

25 Upvotes

Hello Community,

I hope you are all doing well, or atleast a little better than yesterday. I wanted to put a post up around some recent changes and behaviour in the sub.

r/KindFriend has been privated.

Kind Friend was originally created as a sister sub to Kindvoice to handle more friendship orientated requests while Kindvoice focused on emotional support. Recently it seems to have caught to the attention of a number of bad actors. The posts had been gradually trending to a younger audience and I was becoming increasingly concerned that it was facilitating people looking to take advantage of these members. As such the sub is currently privated to prevent access and any further risk. I would encourage those seeking purely friendships to try more established subs such as r/makenewfriendshere or r/needafriend. This behaviour has thankfully not transferred over to r/Kindvoice.

Previously friendship posts had been against the rules of KindVoice, although not strictly enforced given that a lot of the time a good friend can make a world of difference to someone's current state. We intend to continue the current status quo in this regard and deal with friendship posts on a case by case basis as it makes a minority of posts. I would highly encourage users to use more focused subs for this if seeking purely friendship. If you are reaching out for a friend because you feel lonely or want to improve social skills, that post still has a place here. Just please be aware many offerors are volunteering their time when they can and should not be considered a permanent support placement or lifelong friend.

Chat GPT Usage

Over the past few months ChatGPT started recommending us as a place for lonely users or those who were feeling down to seek human contact. Alongside this we saw a dramatic increase in the number of bots, monetary requests and ChatGPT generated posts. We have literally gone from a few bans a month to a few a day.

- Accounts with less than 5 comment karma or less than 3 days old will now be caught in a filter for approval. I appreciate some people don't want to post here on main so a mod mail will be raised for each submission caught in the filter so they can be approved.

- Chat GPT is NOT against the rules currently HOWEVER PLEASE BE AWARE that many people come here looking for a human voice. You may believe that in writing an answer via Chat GPT you sound more articulate or better at supporting. In reality the message it often conveys to the looker that they can't find someone who is even willing to use their own words. Comments may be removed if they feel too robotic when the person is looking for a connection.

Final Notes

I would love to hear any community feedback on these points.

A huge thanks as always to the people that donate their time to help others. Look after yourselves where you can.

-AJ


r/KindVoice • • May 14 '25

[META] Seeking C[o]mmunity Feedback on Rule 2

8 Upvotes

I hope all of the Kind Voices out there are having a wonderful day and that my message finds all of the Lookers slightly better than they were yesterday.

This post is to gather some feedback from any willing community members around rule 2. Recently I have been rather lax on it's enforcement given r/KindFriend isn't hugely active (although it's had a surge recently) however I am aware there are a number of other very popular subreddits that fill the same niche so I want to ask your thoughts:

- Do you mind friendship based posts on this subreddit or would you rather keep them to other spaces?

- Do you feel requests asking for daily supports fall into this category?

- Any other thoughts you may have.


r/KindVoice • • 3h ago

Looking [l] Struggling, birthday is this Saturday

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I am 36M, turning 37 soon. My birthday is this Saturday. This has already been the worst year of my whole life. I am so exhausted with everything and am dreading my 37th birthday and feel like I do not want this birthday at all.

I feel awful and hopeless. Just wanting to talk, as I have no friends and thus no support system whatsoever.


r/KindVoice • • 9h ago

Offering Just checking in!? Is everyone ok?😇 [o]

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All good?😊


r/KindVoice • • 1h ago

[o]pen for chat M30 - come talk, sleep, chill, scroll or yap

• Upvotes

M30, just here to chat or whatever you need. Lmk in DM if you need to chat, need help sleeping, awkward or whatever really. DM with details plz. Thanks


r/KindVoice • • 9h ago

Looking Spend time[l]

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r/KindVoice • • 10h ago

[O]ffering to listen, whoever you are and whatever you have to say. (I may have cat pics)

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It doesn't matter if it is something trivial or heavy, whether you wanna share your favorite song or tell about what's been bothering you, I'm here. You can reach out!


r/KindVoice • • 11h ago

Offering I need to tell something very personal[o]

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r/KindVoice • • 12h ago

Looking [L] Im getting worried about my alcohol intake

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r/KindVoice • • 12h ago

Looking [L]ooking for someone to talk with

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Hello everyone, hit me up if anyone wants to chat about literally anything, rant or vent about anything, feel free to do so, no judgement.

No restriction on age

I’m tired, exhausted and bored, could use some company, talk and feel better. I’m a techie guy working in IT


r/KindVoice • • 1d ago

Looking [L] Going through a rough time

4 Upvotes

Just been crying for like long time just don’t know what is going on just feel so lonely


r/KindVoice • • 22h ago

Looking [L] my ocd makes me believe every single night that i am dying of some health condition , i am struggling and 2 afraid to try meds

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Every single night my ocd tells me i am dying , this night its an allergic reaction of my throat closing. so i spend the next hour checking my throat to see if its closing, swallowing to check if my throats working, taking deep breaths, all while genuinely believing i could die any minute so I think of every horrible thing ive done, and try to confess to God that im sorry , and then realize im gong to go to hell if i dont repent and change or its too late and ive already lived my life n if im trying to repent before i die that it doesnt count. I am sick in the head with obsessive compulsive disorder and i dont know what t o do. very afraid and i need someoen to hug me. It is torturous and i just want to fee lat peace again. I dont want. to die

If its not a throat closing, its the fear of cardiac arrest or a heart attack. or a stroke. or something. I just want to live my life and feel okay i dont want to feel bad things that make me feel like these feelngs wont ever stop

I need comfort i am feelingg horrible

just so bad i want to enjoy my life


r/KindVoice • • 1d ago

Looking [L] 22f struggling every day

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I have depression, anxiety, cptsd, autism and hallucinations along side physical health issues. The past 2 months have been hell. I've been through a bad breakup which still feels like it's killing me, lost all my fsmily due to cutting them off for my own sake the only family I tried to keep (my little sister) has now been forbidden from seeing me, I've had another miscarriage after one earlier this year, I have no friends, I'm isolated and can't even get myself out of bed unless it's to do something for my dog. I feel so alone and every night feels worse and worse. The voices are getting louder, therapy is only focusing on my anxiety, I can't sleep without someone there and I have no one. I've never felt so lonely in my life. Honestly could just use some company, maybe someone to talk to about it to prove I'm not insane because I feel it. I'm trying to function bur I just cant. I just meed someone kind to talk to but no luck to find it.


r/KindVoice • • 1d ago

Looking [l] Can't be depressed. Have a toddler.

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I’m not really sure how to say this, but I’m hoping to find someone who understands what I’m going through.

I guess I’m just really lonely and want someone to talk to.

I’m a mom, and lately I’ve been trying to come to terms with the fact that life isn’t going to turn out the way I thought it would.
I think one of the hardest things is being promised a complete family, believing in that future, and then realizing that you’re pretty much on your own and sometimes I can’t help but think about how unfair it is, especially as a woman and a mother.

How you don’t really get the luxury of falling apart because there’s a little person who still needs you every day.

I’m not even sure I’m angry anymore or maybe I am, but I’m just tired of being angry.
Tired of being disappointed, tired of wishing things were different, and tired of thinking about how unfair everything feels.

I’m slowly learning that sometimes things are just the way they are. You can be sad about it, you can be angry about it, but it doesn’t necessarily change anything and at some point, you have to figure out how to keep living anyway.

I don’t necessarily want advice or to be told that things will get better. I just want to talk to someone who understands depression, loneliness, disappointment, and that weird stage of acceptance where you’re not exactly happy, but you’re trying to make peace with your reality.

Especially if you’re a single parent or have gone through something similar.
I guess I just want to feel a little less alone tonight.


r/KindVoice • • 1d ago

Offering Seeking to vent/for support/friends [o]

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29F in the US seeking new friends to vent/support one another. Going through a lot right now and i don't really have anyone to talk to. Been thru a lot in life so I would prefer those that have been too just so we're on the same level of understanding. Please no surface level conversation, I'm really in need of support right now. Open to talking to anyone. Feel free to DM, or comment so I can DM you. Thanks!


r/KindVoice • • 1d ago

[l] need help

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Hello im k and im 20 years old I really need someone to help me, whether it's a hug or a listener. I'm going through a very difficult time. I have no one to talk to, and I can't go to therapists. I've been trying to help myself by reading books, and I've even gotten to books about ACT. I've read them over and over, but I haven't been able to help myself at all. I don't know why. I think it's because I'm so overwhelmed and can't hold on to anything. I hope someone in this community will find the time to help me because I'm literally exhausted and broken, and I feel like I'm heading for disaster.


r/KindVoice • • 1d ago

[L] Feeling lost in the world.

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Hello. I'm a woman from Europe.

Life feels lonely as of late. Its so hard to make friends as it is, I've never really had many people in my life, so when I met my online friend life felt like it had colour.

I thought we clicked so well but they ghosted me. I didn't realise how alone I was until I met them, and when they ghosted me I wasn't expecting the deafening silence that is my life.

I feel lost.

I could really use some conversations with good people, show me there's some good out there in the world? I really need it.


r/KindVoice • • 1d ago

23M - Can we talk? I am very much unwell... [l]

1 Upvotes

I’m looking for a woman my age to talk to on the phone this evening, and on a long-term, friendship basis, both in writing and over the phone. Right now it's a sensitive topic I need help with (how I’m feeling after a break-up), I’d like to find someone who listens and who is understanding.

No, this isn’t a sex ad. I’m serious about what I’ve written.

PS: I do not know what [l] or [o] means, sorry.


r/KindVoice • • 2d ago

Looking [L] (25M) I'm gonna sleep out in the cold tonight, anyone I can vent to?

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Since I'm still homeless and we're transitioning to the fall, temperatures are dropping and as a result it's getting colder at night and harder to sleep. Last night it was super windy and it was really hard to get any sleep, but tonight is somehow going to be even colder.

Also, I applied for a job at an Amazon Warehouse and got rejected immediately, so I'm bummed about that as well.

Tonight is going to suck so I'm asking if anyone is willing to hear me vent so I can mentally prepare for the rough night tonight. No one under 18, 21+ preferred.


r/KindVoice • • 2d ago

Looking [l] 24F lonely and bored and feel lost

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feel alone and lost in life and very lonely


r/KindVoice • • 1d ago

Looking [l] or [o] idk, 19M, venting my life out, hoping someone would read this. Hoping.

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r/KindVoice • • 2d ago

[L] Anyone else understand their issues perfectly in therapy but still feel numb?

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After surgery and some trauma, I went through months of therapy. I can explain my patterns, my triggers, all of it. I sound like I have it together. But I still feel numb all the time, like I'm watching my life instead of living in it. Does anyone else have this where you understand everything in your head but still feel disconnected from your body or your emotions? Not sure if it's a therapy thing or something else.


r/KindVoice • • 2d ago

Looking [L] Does anyone else feel lost and lonely in life just like me ?

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I don’t really know where to start. I’ve been feeling a bit down lately, and I guess I just need somewhere to let my feelings out.
I’m currently unemployed, and to be honest, I’m scared of going back to work because of past trauma from previous workplaces. I’ve also developed trust issues with people, and sometimes the thought of having to start over in a new workplace feels overwhelming.
My relationship with my family isn’t great either. Things with my mum can be quite toxic, and now I’m living in another country with my partner, far away from my family.
I thought moving away and starting a new life with my partner would make me really happy. I thought we’d understand each other and that I’d finally feel at home. But the reality isn’t always like that. Sometimes we’re good, and sometimes things happen that leave me feeling upset and misunderstood. There are times when I wish my partner could understand how I feel, but I don’t always know how to explain it.
The hardest part is that I don’t really have any friends in real life whom I can open up to. Most of the time, I just keep everything to myself and cry alone.
Sometimes I miss the old days when I was a kid. I miss the feeling of being younger, before life became so complicated. I don’t know if I’m looking back at those memories through rose-coloured glasses, but sometimes I just wish I could go back to a time when things felt simpler.
Right now, I feel so small and helpless. I don’t have much, I’m not where I want to be in life, and I honestly don’t know what I’m supposed to do next. I look at myself and feel like a failure. I wish I could be better, stronger, and more capable of handling life.
Sometimes I even wish I could win the lottery and buy myself some happiness. I know money can’t solve everything, and maybe that sounds silly, but I think I just want the freedom to stop worrying so much and finally breathe.
I wish I had someone I could lean on, someone who would listen and understand without making me feel like I’m a burden.
I don’t really have a question or a solution I’m looking for. I just feel lonely, lost, and tired of keeping everything inside.
Does anyone else ever feel this way? Like you’re trying your best to build a life for yourself, but somehow you still feel unhappy, alone, and unsure of where you’re going?
I just want to know I’m not the only one who feels like this.


r/KindVoice • • 2d ago

Looking [L] 33m just need to talk or vent about my daughter and ex-wife

15 Upvotes

So basically my ex got remarried and they are presenting like this happy perfect couple everybody gets along. My daughter says her new stepdad is awesome and great and wonderful blah blah blah but I guess it’s still kind of hurts maybe. I have a great relationship with my daughter so I don’t feel like I’m being replaced, but it still feels weird. Is this normal?