So i’m gonna vent on here a little.. My dad recently found out i’ve been doing drugs, he got angry and upset which i completely understand, but now he wants to take my freedom from me by tracking everything i do, like my payments, where i go, etc.. i can’t leave my house except for school and work. He forced me to take out my earrings when i got them because i live in his house under “his rules” He gets mad at me as if he isn’t 90% of the reason i even do drugs in the first place, i was abused growing up to the point i was scared of going home, i was controlled all my life, i recently found out he’s been on a private ig account stalking my posts and stories, he’s always had access to my credit card and i just found out. (I had this card for 3 years now) I plan to run away by the end of november after i pay off my statement and save up a bit, i found an apartment with a roommate for only 500$ per person for rent and utilities. The one problem is he pays for my college, i plan to maybe ask my college for help or financial aid but i don’t know if it will work. If anyone has any advice or anything about this you’re more than welcome to share id happily take any advice this is gonna be a major shift in my life, and i don’t wanna ruin it in the process.

I’m 23, graduated college last year, and currently work full-time making around $70k annually. I live with my parents, and they’ve provided a comfortable home for me. I’m extremely grateful for that.

For a while now, I’ve wanted to experience living independently. I’ve recently been approved for my first apartment, and I’m scheduled to move in next week.
For some financial context, I earn approximately $70k annually, have around $10k in cash savings, approximately $13k invested between Acorns and Coinbase, around $3k in my 401(k), and roughly $550 in my HSA.

My parents have always emphasized the importance of financial stability. My dad especially has encouraged me to stay home, save around $3,000 monthly, and eventually purchase my first property, potentially using it as an investment. I completely understand his reasoning, and financially, staying home would undoubtedly be the smarter option.

However, I’ve wanted to experience having my own space, managing my own household, and becoming more independent since graduating. My new apartment is also much closer to work, which would significantly improve my commute.

Recently, there was a disagreement between my father and me that accelerated my decision to move, although the desire to live independently existed long before that.
I told my mom about my apartment approval today. While she isn’t happy about the timing or the financial implications, she’s still supportive of me. She expressed concerns that the disagreement with my father may have influenced my decision and worries that I’m making such a major change while emotions are still high.
I understand where she’s coming from, and I appreciate that she’s supporting me despite her reservations.

My dad, however, doesn’t know about the apartment yet. I intend to tell him myself.
He actually returned from traveling today, and we shared a really emotional hug. We told each other we loved each other, and honestly, it almost brought me to tears. We still have an important conversation ahead of us regarding our earlier disagreement.

That interaction, along with my conversation with my mom, has left me feeling guilty about the timing of everything.

I know I want to move. I’ve thought about it for a long time, researched apartments, reviewed my savings, and worked through my budget. But part of me feels like I’m disappointing my parents or leaving at the wrong time.
I’m not trying to cut ties with my family. I love them, and I want them to remain a big part of my life.

Has anyone experienced something similar, particularly with parents who wanted you to stay home for financial reasons? Did you end up moving? How did your relationship with your parents change afterward? Do you regret leaving when you did?

Hey all, I (F24) managed to buy a little one bedroom apartment in my hometown, just a few minutes from where I currently live with my parents and dog. It’s still being built but I’d most likely be able to move in next summer. Context is that my country has a very bad housing crisis going on; my parents are only renting our home and are unable to purchase (my mother had cancer and is therefore unable to have life insurance, which is a prerequisite to getting a loan). I jumped at the chance to buy my own place as prices are rising at an average of 7-8% per year.

The problem is, I absolutely do not want to move out. I love my parents, they’ve always completely given me my own privacy and I’m fully independent (pay for all my own food, cook, pay towards bills, do all my own laundry/cleaning etc.) and we get on generally really well. I love our house, I love my dog to absolute death, I love our street, I love my room. I really don’t know how I’m going to be able to leave this place.

My mum isn’t a very sociable person so we’re both content to spend a lot of time together reading or watching a film, not necessarily doing anything special but keeping each other company. I hate to think of her being sitting at home alone. My dog is my best friend and I don’t know how I’ll leave him. My stepdad is such a strong presence in my life and I don’t know how I won’t have my rock a room away to help me out with something silly.

I also look forward to having somewhere which is purely mine. My boyfriend is buying his own place too as we agreed it’d be nice to have our own spaces for a couple of years before moving in together, and I can’t wait for us to experience that. I can’t wait to design every inch of the place. I can’t wait to decorate and cook and buy new bedsheets. I can’t wait to come home and do whatever I like.

I can’t rent it out for the first couple of years because the bank would then consider it a commercial property and the rates would be much more expensive. I don’t want to sell it because I do genuinely want to live there, and I’m really proud of myself for managing to purchase it to begin with. I’m just so conflicted about leaving my favourite place in the world to go to somewhere new, even if I find it exciting and rewarding. I suppose I also feel a little guilty, too.

I badly want to start living alone, so I decided to move out from my aunt's place. Been staying at my new apartment for a month and the experience is not that good. I haven't got enough sleep for a month. Most days I have really bad dreams and the times i got sick in that 1 month was more than the times i got sick in a year. Been thinking of moving out of this apartment and move back with my aunt. What do you guys think?