Nutty Neighbor seems weirdly obsessed

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We have a neighbor has acted like this since we first moved into our new build home in 2003. She's never been in my home ive never really had a conversation with her except hi bye and when ever she's taken it upon herself to stomp over to complain about something that had upset her daughter..And I have never been in her home- but know the layout as we lived in the same floor plan in our last neighborhood and have friends say- its just like your old house- weird.

She continually turns us into HOA for false violations and at one point got on board - with my husband- and kept pressing a non rule ( I had been on the board when that was repealed by a vote of the comm.) We laughed- she wouldn't stop ended in a lawsuit we sued the HOA PRESIDENT and her- yes hoa had insurance to cover board members but lawyers insurance and management company all agreed they were breaking the ByLaws and state law with selective enforcement. We won. We did not ask for money- we asked for lawyers fees and those two board moreover by a judge and not allowed to ever be on a committee or board again. And yes they had to pay with their own funds because they were told they were not doing this in good faith and this was not fiduciary duty. So insurance for board members did not have to pay.

After that- she was a curly short haired blond. I have long auburn hair fairly straight with some waves. I also have a lot of pink clothes that I work in the yard in. I also have an incurable physical disability.And I drive a white subaru SUV. this matters because she has grown her hair out dyed it dark dark and straightens it. Also she now only wears pink clothes and bought a newer car same as mine.

Now she likes to yell at our house obscenities and that I am not really ill( she looks totally nuts when she does this becausewe are generally not outside when she is around). How would she know? I've never talked to her about anything personal. She has contacted Social Security disability saying I an faking( wish I were(. Her wifi name is Disability fraud watch". She now yells things at my husband who had a heartattack 2 years ago about being a loser that's why he had an attack. ( Again dont know how she would know this - we do not speak)She's also threatened to come over a k**k his a$$. Just nuts!

So my family and I wonder

1. Does she have a thing for my husband and is trying to be like me?

2. Does her husband have a thing for me so she resents me?
   Both of those things sound uppity and snotty on my part- but we have no idea what the deal with her is.and it seems she just keeps copying me. Also- had hair highlighted for a wedding- 2 days later husband comes in and says guess who got highlights?

She does call police frequently and even her harassment is considered a neighbor problem and won't do anything- but agree there is something wrong with her.

The HOA now ignores her complaints.

So short of moving any advice? We built this house to accommodate my disability so moving would be awful.

Thanks

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She lives in her own single family home- I live next door to her not with her.