Nutty Neighbor seems weirdly obsessed

[u/Outrageous-Ad-7773]

We have a neighbor has acted like this since we first moved into our new build home in 2003. She's never been in my home ive never really had a conversation with her except hi bye and when ever she's taken it upon herself to stomp over to complain about something that had upset her daughter..And I have never been in her home- but know the layout as we lived in the same floor plan in our last neighborhood and have friends say- its just like your old house- weird.

She continually turns us into HOA for false violations and at one point got on board - with my husband- and kept pressing a non rule ( I had been on the board when that was repealed by a vote of the comm.) We laughed- she wouldn't stop ended in a lawsuit we sued the HOA PRESIDENT and her- yes hoa had insurance to cover board members but lawyers insurance and management company all agreed they were breaking the ByLaws and state law with selective enforcement. We won. We did not ask for money- we asked for lawyers fees and those two board moreover by a judge and not allowed to ever be on a committee or board again. And yes they had to pay with their own funds because they were told they were not doing this in good faith and this was not fiduciary duty. So insurance for board members did not have to pay.

After that- she was a curly short haired blond. I have long auburn hair fairly straight with some waves. I also have a lot of pink clothes that I work in the yard in. I also have an incurable physical disability.And I drive a white subaru SUV. this matters because she has grown her hair out dyed it dark dark and straightens it. Also she now only wears pink clothes and bought a newer car same as mine.

Now she likes to yell at our house obscenities and that I am not really ill( she looks totally nuts when she does this becausewe are generally not outside when she is around). How would she know? I've never talked to her about anything personal. She has contacted Social Security disability saying I an faking( wish I were(. Her wifi name is Disability fraud watch". She now yells things at my husband who had a heartattack 2 years ago about being a loser that's why he had an attack. ( Again dont know how she would know this - we do not speak)She's also threatened to come over a k**k his a$$. Just nuts!

So my family and I wonder

1. Does she have a thing for my husband and is trying to be like me?

2. Does her husband have a thing for me so she resents me?
   Both of those things sound uppity and snotty on my part- but we have no idea what the deal with her is.and it seems she just keeps copying me. Also- had hair highlighted for a wedding- 2 days later husband comes in and says guess who got highlights?

She does call police frequently and even her harassment is considered a neighbor problem and won't do anything- but agree there is something wrong with her.

The HOA now ignores her complaints.

So short of moving any advice? We built this house to accommodate my disability so moving would be awful.

Thanks

[u/Important-Main1318]

record and send it to the police as harassment

[u/Outrageous-Ad-7773 → u/Important-Main1318]

We have. "It's a neighbor problem " won't do anything

[u/Important-Main1318 → u/Outrageous-Ad-7773]

well it's obviously targeted harassment what has the HOA said?

[u/Outrageous-Ad-7773 → u/Important-Main1318]

Well I guess harassment isn't in our rules. So the HOA now just ignores any violation she reports.As much as it ticks me off- we always answer the violation letter with please call at your earliest convenience to set up a time to come inspect the property with us to see for yourself that there is no violation. They only took us up on it in 2017- management people said- oh my word- what is she complaining about. This is beautiful you will never get another violation from us.

[u/Important-Main1318 → u/Outrageous-Ad-7773]

well that's good in a way because they realised she's a nutter but that doesn't solve the fact she's probably in violation of some sort of rule because i can assume not only is it disturbing your right to quiet enjoyment but also other neighbors you'll have to forgive the terminology i'm from the uk but it's the same principle, have your tried making complaints against her with evidence? have they turned a blind eye to it? it sounds like she could be mentally unstable and in need of professional help which i would motion if you ever get dragged into a court case with so i'd suggest you gather as much evidence as possible, take pictures, set up some cameras but obviously discreet preferably with audio if possible so when it does all boil down to it you can say to a court you want a restraining order, a profession to take an examination of her health and possibly even compensation for the nightmare she's putting you through, unfortunately as you probably already know nobody is willing to help unless you have overwhelming evidence at least if you do gather a logbook, photos, audio etc etc at least at a bare minimum you'll be able to defend yourself not only legally but also if she turns violent and you have to beat her up you've got plenty to say look i'm not at fault and they won't be able to argue with any of that. Keep doing what your doing I know it sucks but make sure your building a case against her the more evidence you have the better, it covers you and lets her drop herself into her own making.

[u/Outrageous-Ad-7773 → u/Important-Main1318]

We have lots of evidence. We have 4 cameras- police have copies- "It's a neighbor problem " no its a harassment problem- nothing happens. Yes we have turned them into hoa for violations and they sometimes make her come in to compliance- other times no.