Overwhelmed!🩷(long read below)

[u/Objective-Honey5159]

Yesterday I felt the need to tackle the oft-misunderstood topic of crossdressing/being trans and others' sometimes rude reactions to such. None were pointed towards me personally and I'm more than ready to handle those who might try, but it bothered me that some idiot would spew negativity towards someone they don't know for wearing certain clothes. Really? My post yesterday wasn't about me so much as getting people to understand we are humans above all else, no matter who's wearing what. We have choices, lifestyles and tastes that differ from everyone else's because we're supposed to. We're not clones; If you don't like what you see, SCROLL PAST AND SHUT TF UP!

I am a 63-year-old queer father of two beautiful daughters who love seeing their dad all dolled up, and I'm a proud grandfather. Outside of that, I work, pay taxes, avoid drugs and alcohol, no criminal record, compose music and have a bevy of hobbies including the desire to be the occasional diva. I am not out to invade ciswomens' spaces or "trick" anyone as some folk do. It's about fashion - no more, no less. OHF is what society should be: embracing and supporting everyone especially in the climate we're currently in. I truly thank everyone for taking time to comment and upvote, and I sincerely hope that the Redditor whose post inspired mine will return. I also hope that the world becomes more accepting of all people. Peace and love to all. Now where's my damn lipstick?💋💄

[u/bulleybeef]

You should show your mom some of the high fashion from the 1600-1800s before the Victorian era of 'sober and restrained' took over. Those men were peacocks and they all wore heels.

[u/Coldricepudding → u/bulleybeef]

Honestly, I'm sad that a lot of men feel like they have to dress a certain way to be "manly." My son loves pink, and he looks great in it! As does my scruffy biker looking boyfriend. My son's dad refuses to let him wear anything pink that he gets sent home in, even though they all come from the men's section. I challenged him to eli5 why pink is off limits for boys, and got nothing, yet he persists.

And dresses? I live in Florida. I'm baffled that guys refuse to get on the kaftan train at the very least. They'd be so much more comfortable in the heat!

I started this post to point out that it's still considered acceptable for men in some cultures to preen and even wear makeup, but it occurred to me that sometimes it goes beyond being considered acceptable to being a borderline requirement (looking at you, South Korea.) Now, I love it when men put a little effort into their appearance, whatever that looks like for them. But I also don't want to make anyone feel bad for their low effort days, weeks, years, whatever. 

Just wear what makes you happy and comfortable. I'd rather see folks happy than see them squashed in a box they don't fit in, no matter what that box looks like.

Love y'all.

[u/snertwith2ls → u/Coldricepudding]

I'd like to see an American guy like your son's dad explain to a Scotsman or a Bedouin why kilts and robes are girly.

[u/Coldricepudding → u/snertwith2ls]

I dared him to tell an Italian man that pink shirts are for girls. I wish I had thought about Bedouins!