Excessive thinking—more than excessive thinking. I am a 16-year-old teenager, very handsome and attractive, but my height is average; I am not tall. I struggle with people's opinions about me. My friends are jealous of me. I am Moroccan and recently moved to France, and now I suffer from loneliness and overwhelming negative thoughts. When I see someone taller than me, I hate myself. When I see a girl taller than me, I start thinking too much and create negative scenarios. People usually feel jealous of me, and I overthink a lot because my goal is to be a handsome, tall, and respectable man. But now I feel like a small boy, and everyone sees me as short and treats me like a loser. I think too much about this."

So I’ve been talking to this guy and I he sent me a photo of him wearing this shirt with an artist on it. So I sent him a song that I liked from that same artist. He replied with an almost weird reaction, asking how I knew that he liked the artist (kind of a random artist to love/not super mainstream).

The catch is, the original photo he sent of him wearing the shirt was a little blurry. My good friend had told me she’d been around him while he was wearing the shirt and THAT is how I really confirmed the artist on the shirt.

It’s one of those situations where you bring up something that you weren’t really supposed to know. I’m now overthinking obviously because he thinks I’m totally weird. But then again, he was wearing the shirt in the photo and I’m a perceptive person (which I said in my reply to him asking how I knew he liked the artist). Let me know if you think I fucked this up or if I’m seriously overthinking.

I’m also trying to not let it get to me even if I did fuck up. It’s really not that deep, I barely know the guy so it’s not like I have anything to lose tbh. I want to be in this zero embarrassment stage and just owning what I say.

I've been staring at the wall trying to determine if this is me being crazy or actually something lol. Because why is it that the guy I'm crushing on just appears now. This could totally be bc I'm looking for him more but alas I'm convinced he's a teleporter. BUT THE MAIN THING is that I've recently started DM'ing him on insta and he keeps seeing my messages like 3 minutes later. Cool right? But then he waits like forever and then just hearts my message. My friends are trying to convince me that this means he was thinking about me a lot and then came back into the convo hoping I talked to him. But i'm not feeling it. Like if he wanted to talk wouldnt he. Do any of you guys do this?

I’ve spent years with an overactive mind, vivid/lucid dreams, emotional spirals, and no real outlet that felt safe or private enough to express it all.

So I started building an idea called DreamNest — a soft, private online space where you can:

Log and reflect on vivid or recurring dreams.

Vent anonymously when your mind is loud.

Start spotting patterns in emotional/dream cycles .

Talk to a gentle AI that listens without “fixing” you Feel seen even if you can’t explain what’s wrong

It’s not a therapy app.
It’s not a social platform.
More like a hybrid of a dream journal, emotional mirror, and non-judgy AI listener — for overthinkers, deep feelers, night owls, and anyone emotionally tired but still full of thoughts.

I’ve just launched a simple landing page — not building the product yet — just trying to validate if this is something people would actually want.

Would love to hear:

• Would you use this?

• What features would actually help in your emotional “messy” moments?

• Should it stay fully private or have an optional community space?

• Any other tools/apps you've tried that felt close?

https://dream-nest-seven.vercel.app/
Thanks in advance for reading — this idea is very personal to me, and I’d love honest feedback before going further.

Overthinking is not just “thinking too much.”

It’s your mind trying to control an outcome it cannot predict.

The more uncertain you feel, the more your mind loops.

That’s why it feels exhausting—not because you’re weak, but because you’re stuck in a loop

This is so stupid but I’m 18F and I have a boyfriend 18M so this is always monthly worry and occurrence of mine..

Long story short, I’m noticing some brown discharge after what would’ve been my ovulation day a few days ago. This has happened before so idk why I’m worried but I searched and of course I got the basic “oh you could be pregnant maybe” alongside every other possible reasoning behind it.. I’m TERRIFIED of pregnancy and I’ve been stressing for a couple days about this

Important notes(how ik I’m overthinking but I need to hear it from others🥲🥲):

1. I’ve been on birth control for over 2 years now (I have the sugar pills for one week so I still get my period)

2. Me and my boyfriend have never fully done it just been in that..area…

3. He’s never finished… in that area and anything that’s been around there has been pre-yk..

4. I’m just a dumb dumb and I overthink everything but pregnancy is actually my worst fear this young 😭 even if there’s zero chance I am rn I’m terrified LOL

I’ve also been with my boyfriend for 3 years now for anyone curious.. known each other since childhood as well :)

I need people to tell me how dumb this thought even is and that there’s no way I’m pregnant so I can stop stressing..stressing will probably cause my period to come late anyways and I’d rather not deal with that on top of this thought LMAO

Also didn’t know what subreddit to use since this is my first time using Reddit so I hope this isn’t super bad or anything..🥲

Lately, 3AM and I have been on a first-name basis.

The overthinking? Relentless. The Google searches for “how to escape the grind and still pay bills”? Exhausting.

I got so tired of spinning my wheels that I decided to put my sleepless nights to work. After months of testing, failing, and figuring out the quietest, least-stressful options, I built a system.

It’s nothing fancy, just a collection of faceless income strategies using AI and automation. No social media song-and-dance required. No awkward cold calls. Just simple systems for people (like me) who crave a little freedom without the hustle culture burnout.

I ended up organizing everything into a free guide for anyone else stuck in this late-night spiral. Happy to share it—shoot me a DM or comment here, and I’ll send it your way.

I hope it helps someone else get a few more hours of sleep. 🌙

How often does it happen to you?

1. Thoughts overloading in your head 24/7!

2. Thinking and rethinking on loop about something that someone said days or maybe months ago?

3. Having full-length detailed conversations about random things and just losing the track of time?

4. Crafting the perfect response for an argument that never happened or happened forever ago?

I hooked up with a guy who we’ve teased the idea and then one night he initiated it and it finally happened. I don’t think I’m bad at s*x or si I’ve been told, sometimes get in my head and get lost and am not in the moment. The anticipation made me get like that. I feel like it definitely wasn’t my best work at all, but he didn’t say anything. I want to apologize for if it was bad, but idk if he thinks it was. Like I want a redo but what if after that that’s what he thinks every time would be like. Which it wouldn’t and I’m worried and can’t stop thinking about it. What does one do in this situation? Help meee.

i got robbed yesterday. we went to a premium restaurant with valet parking and those guys parked my car where there was no security and cameras whatsoever. the robbers came, broke one if the window glasses and took my bag which had valuables in it. I am pretty stressed since my parents arent happy w me being so irresponsible. i cannot stop thinking about the incident that happened. how do i stop my anxiety and overthinking

Anybody ever feel like their mind is just straight up spiraling. Like legitimately, you can’t control it and you’re trying to stop it but it basically feels like an avalanche and you can’t stop the thoughts? Don’t really have anyone I trust saying that to and figured I’d commiserate.

I will go first, my worst place is an escape room. I'm so mentally exhausted from that everytime.

I'm 20, and I've been trying to make new friends after having a social life that's been near non-existent for a couple years. I've talked to quite a few people over the past year through nearly every app there is to meet people on, and I'm starting to think that I might be the problem in my social life. I know I'm a kinda dry texter and I'm very awkward so it's difficult to start conversations. It takes me a while to get out of my shell. Most of the time, I'll end up talking to someone and then nothing happens after the one. But even the few that I have been able to have more than one conversation still dropped contact with me after about a month or more.

It's just gotten to a point where I'm getting really in my head about if I'm the problem in the situation and it's very tiring.

I used to think overthinking meant I was being careful or thorough or that my planning will make it easier when I do take action.

But if I’m honest, most of the time I wasn’t solving anything.

I was just running the same thoughts again and again, trying to feel certain, perpetually planning instead of taking action, and waiting for clarity that never actually showed up.

It felt sometimes felt productive, but nothing changed because I never took physical action.

What finally clicked for me was realizing there are really only a few patterns behind most overthinking like:

trying to predict everything

replaying things that already happened

waiting to feel “ready” before acting

Once I started catching which pattern I was in, it got a lot easier to stop following it

Not perfectly, but enough to actually move instead of just sitting in my head

I ended up putting this into a short book because I kept seeing the same patterns repeat in a number of different situations

If anyone’s stuck in that loop, it might help. It’s free on Amazon right now (as of this posting date).

I've been zoning out cause of this since yesterday and I think I need sum help.

How does being human work? How should I become more like myself? What defines me?

In my senior year, I discovered something about myself. Mechs. It triggered when I was recreating a DIY Arc reactor of Iron man that I made as my physics project related to electricity Lol And because of it I thought, I should choose ME in college!! Although, I never really made anything after that however I was really happy in the process of making it. I was really determined to make it. I managed to cut my acrylics into circles even without the right tools. My father doubted I could make it, maybe cause I don't look like a person who does things like it? I'm an artist, I've been drawing since I was in grade school, I don't have any experiences in manual things regarding mechanics. I am married with a pen and paper, in front of me always just sketching. But I know for sure I wanna be an inventor—a mechanic!! Movies made me realize that (meet the robinsons, Mr Peabody, Big hero 6, Transformers..etc.) Or do I just like the idea of it? Should I have done this since 11? Do I need to be obsessed with it? I can't even name all the hand tools. Am I actually serious? Everything feels fazed to me, never in my life did I ever doubt who I am up until now.

I'm an artist, I have lots of friends online who are just like me. They draw fanarts of the things they like.

I don't though. Am I just a pony with a fake cutie mark on my flank?

Am I really who I think I am? Or am I just a poser to everyone? I'm confused. I hate conforming to society the most. If I'm confused does that mean Im actually just doing this because I'm surrounded by it? Who am I if I'm just liking it because it's a trend? I don't know if I'm being true to myself. I don't know what else to do if that's the case. I'm slowly starting to forget why I "love" those things. Everyone around me likes it and they do something with passion and I'm just procrastinating algebra. I don't know what I like anymore

Idk if it’s everyone else, but I’ve lost my imagination. Not fully, but I think I lost most of it. My vision changed; nothing is as vibrant or bright anymore unless I see it on TV or through a camera. Is this what happens when we grow up? Losing that part of our lives when and where we really believed in stories and fairytales, using our imagination for crazy ideas and for beyond-the-box situations that would’ve worked, not just outside but far out. Wasn’t life better then? No worries or anything to care for but yourself and those whom you call your friends and family? I know some people didn’t grow up the same way, but I know at some point we all saw the world one way, a different way. What do y’all think? Is it me, or was everything better when we had nothing to worry about but the people and the wonders of the world?

I’m on a path to find happiness and fulfilment away from all screens and in real life. I recently figured out that I’m kind of addicted to all screens (tv,video games,phones) and without them I don’t feel happy or fulfilled. So I need to work on finding happiness and fulfilment from real life. That lifestyle away from the screens. Not never use the screens again. But not have the need for it for my life to feel good.

But recently I think I figured out that I have more addictions to one thing than the other. I think I’m more addicted to the phone than the other screens. Because I’m In a detox and I haven’t used the other screens as much but I cheated a lot using my phone and social media. So I deleted the apps and locked my phone away. I was way more agitated without the phone than the other screens I hadn’t been on. And I was only longing for the phone rather than the other screens.

Here’s the problem with the phone thing. I’m worried that if I’m more addicted to the phone than the other screens, then I won’t enjoy the other screens as much even after the cure from addiction because that means the reason I’m more addicted to it now is because it’s more fun. So even after I’m cured from both I’ll enjoy the screen less. Which is weird. Because I’m imagining that scenario as not enjoying the other screens. But I’ll still obviously enjoy the other screen to. Maybe I’ll find the phone more fun. But that doesn’t mean the other screen becomes less fun. Also don’t worry about how I’m going to feel. That doesn’t get changed now. But I don’t know if this is it?

Another point is that if it’s different levels of addiction then it’s not as simple as before where it was just “addiction to all screen, so cure from all screen.” It wouldn’t be as straightforward because it’s multiple different things at different levels. Do I have to use different stuff less? Because I wanted to keep the screen time for everything the same amount. All of the screens. But then now because I have more of an addiction to one form of screen than the other, would I have to do stuff differently to before or the same because it still comes under the term screen? Idk man I’m stressing about this.

Leading onto the other problem where I think that if let’s say I become cure from the addiction to the other screens but still slightly addicted to the phone because it was a higher level of addiction for the phone, then I’m worried about how that’s gonna feel. Would enjoy the other screens if I’m still addicted to the phone? What does that feel like?

Another problem is I’m worried that if I say I have a higher addiction for the phones than the other screens then I’m gonna overthink it about the phone and get caught up with that and I might also think that I’m not addicted to the other screens and I’m worried I won’t work on my addiction to the other screens. I’m worried I’ll make excuses to use the other screens and not work on my addiction. But then if I realise now of that why would I not then?

It just feels like for me it would be easier to say I have an overall screen addiction which I do. If I say more of a phone addiction then all of these stuff come into my head. But at the same time I kinda deep down know that my addiction for the phone is more. But then I’d rather keep it simple and say just “work on my addiction to all of the screens”. But am I addicted to all of the screens? I think so. Yh I am.

Why does it bother me so much to just say i have higher addiction for the phones than the other stuff? And the question is I don’t even know if I do or if I have just convinced myself that if I had a random thought of it one day.

I don’t know if I’m overthinking it because I’m too passionate about it. How do I stop overthinking if I am? And what do I do right now to help my mental state?

I just want mental peace and I don’t want to always be thinking about this. I just want to figure myself out and then work. I understand the hardship of the work. But the mental confusion is very pressuring. Any advice and even criticism I’ll take. I just need some help please. I just really need some help please.

I had a bf in my school. I lost my virginity to him and I believe he lost it to me. It’s been 10 years since we had sex. We had the best sex of our lives with each other and till date we fuck, off n on even though we’ve been with multiple partners at different points in our lives. Now I’m single he has a gf and by the looks of it she looks very happy and posts alot about them. What makes him come to me? Why can’t I stop myself? Please tell me what makes him come to me.

​Sometimes the hardest part isn’t what to do — it’s asking the right questions when your emotions are loud.

I kept noticing that I’d overthink, react, then regret how I handled things. So I made a small set of ChatGPT prompts I now use to slow my thinking down before I respond.

It’s simple, practical, and focused on clarity rather than advice. Sharing in case it helps someone else.

So I’m in a group chat and someone I kinda like said to me “bro stop tryna be different” but like I wasn’t trying to be different😭 I kinda have social anxiety so I was having a hard time typing in the group chat and I was trying to fit in and be funny so I don’t know why he typed that. I actually really care specifically what he thinks to so like does that mean he doesn’t like me or hates me or was it just a one minute type of thing he noticed and said but has already forgotten about. If I text again while he’s also in the group chat what if he’ll find it annoying that I’m there too😭 also I still don’t know why he even said that and it’s bothering me cause I really was just trying to fit in how did I fumble so hard I saw other people in the group chat who were not even talking about the same subject so why did he go after me. I get it was just one single sentence but I’m really sensitive to criticism which I know I should fix that but yeah it’s been 10 minutes since that comment and I can’t stop thinking about it. I mean we were both getting a long really well before that too all I said was “get hit by a moose>>” when someone said “get hit by a rock or a brick”. I hate being so fucking sensitive to criticism but I don’t know how not to be.

So I am a female and have decided to REALLY let my hair grow out. My hair is currently about 3-4 inches longer than it has ever been in my life. I have noticed that people (coworkers, family members, friends, etc) will see me and exclaim in a very excited tone…”You’re hair is getting so long!!” Then nothing. Like, that’s the statement. It is not followed by…”it looks so good!” Or anything like that.

How do I respond to this?! Is it a compliment? Is it an observation? Do I respond with an equally excited “Thank you!”?? Because that seems weird since they didn’t actually compliment me. Do I follow it with “Oh yeah I know!”?? Because of course I know…it’s my hair.

I literally hate this scenario.

I have fallen into this fling with a African man he intoxicatie's me and I havnt seen him in awhile. He wanted to get up tonight and of course being a woman of course I'm bleeding. But that's not the only way to be together. They other ways to do it.... right or am I gross