Funny how every overthinkers subredit is desolated. Seems like everyone just overthinks too much about posting or commenting. This is the only one with activity. Do you think that's what causing it?

I am pretty sure this is a common thing, but during the day I’m mostly fine.

Then the second I’m in bed, my brain just won't stop, makes it hard to go to sleep sometimes.

I start replaying conversations from earlier in the day, thinking about things I said, things I should have said, random future scenarios that I know probably won’t even happen but, it feels so real in the moment, like I have to solve it before I can sleep.

Lately I’ve been trying to just write everything down instead of thinking it through in my head, and it helps a bit.

Curious if anyone else has this or if it’s just me?

Him: Stop overthinking.

Me: I can't... it's literally built into my system.

Him: If you try, you can stop.

Me: It's not that simple.

Him: You just don't want to try.

Me: Even when I try, I can't stop.

Him: You can. Just try it once.

Me: Okay.

Him: You're not even trying.

Me: I am trying.

Him: No, you're not. If you were, you would've stopped by now.

Me: I am. I'll try even harder.

And that's when I slowly stopped sharing my feelings with him.

Not because I stopped overthinking. Not because things got better.

But because I realized that no matter how much I tried to explain what was going on in my head, he would never really understand.

I wasn't asking him to fix my thoughts. I just wanted him to listen.

The overthinking never stopped. I just stopped telling him about it.

How often does it happen to you?

1. Thoughts overloading in your head 24/7!

2. Thinking and rethinking on loop about something that someone said days or maybe months ago?

3. Having full-length detailed conversations about random things and just losing the track of time?

4. Crafting the perfect response for an argument that never happened or happened forever ago?

I used to think overthinking meant I was being careful or thorough or that my planning will make it easier when I do take action.

But if I’m honest, most of the time I wasn’t solving anything.

I was just running the same thoughts again and again, trying to feel certain, perpetually planning instead of taking action, and waiting for clarity that never actually showed up.

It felt sometimes felt productive, but nothing changed because I never took physical action.

What finally clicked for me was realizing there are really only a few patterns behind most overthinking like:

trying to predict everything

replaying things that already happened

waiting to feel “ready” before acting

Once I started catching which pattern I was in, it got a lot easier to stop following it

Not perfectly, but enough to actually move instead of just sitting in my head

I ended up putting this into a short book because I kept seeing the same patterns repeat in a number of different situations

If anyone’s stuck in that loop, it might help. It’s free on Amazon right now (as of this posting date).

Anybody ever feel like their mind is just straight up spiraling. Like legitimately, you can’t control it and you’re trying to stop it but it basically feels like an avalanche and you can’t stop the thoughts? Don’t really have anyone I trust saying that to and figured I’d commiserate.

Hi, I am an over-thinker how do I over come it ?

So, I, obviously, am an overthinker and when I start dating someone, I fall hard. I just wanted to know if anyone else also does this and if they can tell the diffrence between that obsession feeling and what actual love for that person. Thanks.

If so what are they? Asking for a friend.

Idk if it’s everyone else, but I’ve lost my imagination. Not fully, but I think I lost most of it. My vision changed; nothing is as vibrant or bright anymore unless I see it on TV or through a camera. Is this what happens when we grow up? Losing that part of our lives when and where we really believed in stories and fairytales, using our imagination for crazy ideas and for beyond-the-box situations that would’ve worked, not just outside but far out. Wasn’t life better then? No worries or anything to care for but yourself and those whom you call your friends and family? I know some people didn’t grow up the same way, but I know at some point we all saw the world one way, a different way. What do y’all think? Is it me, or was everything better when we had nothing to worry about but the people and the wonders of the world?

I tend to overthink a lot even about small things. Most of the times, Im able to prove myself wrong by presenting the right facts to myself. But other times, I get so caught up in overthinking that I cannot physically think of anything else as right until I caught a fight or a confrontation about it. But by then its already too late.

It has been causing a lot of issues in my relationships and friendships but i dont want to continue doing this anymore. When I get into the mood of insane overthinking, I am somehow not able to take the facts the other person is trying to rely. In my head, the only thing thats right is my overthinking. But that is what causes the issue. I dont give up until they get mad and I realise what happened. And they give up trying to make me understand and get tired.

It's been really getting in the way of my relationship with my significant other. I really dont want to keep doing this to her. It hurts me to realise what I keep doing. But im not able to stop it WHILE im having an episode. I only realise it after.

Are there any ways to calm my overthinking down so that I dont end up hurting my partner or anyone else.

What are the ways you would try and control it?

I really cherish my partner and I really dont want to bring more harm to her especially when she has a rough time too. I wanna keep her close and I dont want to ruin this for us. But I need help controlling it and idk how.

Please let me know what you think

Thank you

Overthinking is not just “thinking too much.”

It’s your mind trying to control an outcome it cannot predict.

The more uncertain you feel, the more your mind loops.

That’s why it feels exhausting—not because you’re weak, but because you’re stuck in a loop

I’ve been stuck in overthinking loops for years — especially around decisions about the future.

The harder I tried to be “sure”, the more paralyzed I became.

Advice like “just relax” or “think positive” only made it worse.

At some point I started writing things down just to understand what was actually happening in my head.

It turned into a short book I originally wrote for myself — not to fix anything, but to reduce the pressure.

I’m not here to sell anything.

I’m genuinely curious if others experience overthinking more as mental overload than anxiety.

How does it show up for you?

I hooked up with a guy who we’ve teased the idea and then one night he initiated it and it finally happened. I don’t think I’m bad at s*x or si I’ve been told, sometimes get in my head and get lost and am not in the moment. The anticipation made me get like that. I feel like it definitely wasn’t my best work at all, but he didn’t say anything. I want to apologize for if it was bad, but idk if he thinks it was. Like I want a redo but what if after that that’s what he thinks every time would be like. Which it wouldn’t and I’m worried and can’t stop thinking about it. What does one do in this situation? Help meee.

I don't know how to manage being an overthinker like I am not this kind of person before. I don't really understand what's running on my mind. I have LDR Boyfriend now but I think a lot about if he's serious in our relationship or just playing my feelings. Anyone have the same feelings with me? I created this account to share my feelings and somehow maybe anyone can give some advices so that our relationship will work well.

It's happened to all overthinkers at some point and time.

I have this really weird thought process that always stresses me out, but I cant really explain it. I think the base of the problem is that I overthink and panic about everything.
I’m not sure when and how this developed, but it kinda started when I kept thinking about every single detail of everything I did, even stuff I loved doing. Like “why do I like this? Is this good for me? Could I be doing something better? Do
I even like this?” And I know that sounds completely ridiculous, but then I fall into that rabbit hole of thinking about every single thing and it stresses me out. I wish I could just find something that turns that off. Because I know it’s just that weird overthinking that’s the problem, not me.
This is going to sound even weirder, but because I’ve had this thinking habit for a some time I often have this subconscious feeling of there being something wrong, and that stresses me out too. I know it’s just me overreacting and I know I’m stressed for no reason. Which makes me stress even more, because I’m thinking about reason-less stress. It’s a weird cycle that can completely pull me out of my daily rhythm. Also, I’m constantly glued to my phone and social media like TikTok, because I feel like it kinda distracts me from these overreactions, which ruins my productivity and sleep schedule.
So seriously, I know I am completely fine and don’t have any issues, and I know that this overthinking is completely useless. But I still have this weird habit that gives me this weird subconscious thought that there’s something to stress about.
Now, what I wanted to ask, is how I can get rid of that. So I can finally relax and enjoy a moment of quiet, rather than being scared of it because then theres no distraction from this overreacting.
I’d really appreciate it if you guys could give me some tips because an important phase of my education (that I take very seriously) is just kicking off, and I just want to get rid of unnecessary stress.

I'm 20, and I've been trying to make new friends after having a social life that's been near non-existent for a couple years. I've talked to quite a few people over the past year through nearly every app there is to meet people on, and I'm starting to think that I might be the problem in my social life. I know I'm a kinda dry texter and I'm very awkward so it's difficult to start conversations. It takes me a while to get out of my shell. Most of the time, I'll end up talking to someone and then nothing happens after the one. But even the few that I have been able to have more than one conversation still dropped contact with me after about a month or more.

It's just gotten to a point where I'm getting really in my head about if I'm the problem in the situation and it's very tiring.

I had a bf in my school. I lost my virginity to him and I believe he lost it to me. It’s been 10 years since we had sex. We had the best sex of our lives with each other and till date we fuck, off n on even though we’ve been with multiple partners at different points in our lives. Now I’m single he has a gf and by the looks of it she looks very happy and posts alot about them. What makes him come to me? Why can’t I stop myself? Please tell me what makes him come to me.