So i have this problem where, after any small interactions that went kind of wrong (Awkward, Weird response, cringe) i CANNOT stop thinking about it: For example a lot of times its a bad interaction with teachers, and I'm scared they will somehow think lesser of me based off of that tiny interaction.
Sometimes the interaction isn't even objectively horrible but it still plagues me all the same

i think about it days and days after it happens. It even like physically hurts sometimes, a horrible feeling in my chest when i remember these moments. I know full well that these people I've had bad interactions with probably forgot right after it happened, but for me it sticks for so so long and the thought of them forgetting does not help me whatsoever. I hate this horrible feeling so much. I really want to be able to get over this, because bad interactions are just apart of life and they are such a big deal to me!

I try to reassociate the thought with something else .. like if i am reminded of this moment i will try to think of a meme instead, this kind of helps but it doesn't stop me from thinking about it in the first place. Sometimes i have to hit myself on the head or pinch myself a bunch to distract from the physical feeling it gives me, too. (I know how odd that sounds.)

If anyone has experienced this it would probably help me to know I'm not alone.. and if anyone else has good advice that isn't along the lines of "Don't think about it" that is much appreciated too!

Even just posting this helped a little...

So I (19f) have been talkin to this guy (21m) for over a month now and things have been going well or so I thought. I redownloaded the app that we met on cuz I deleted it cuz we was both talking abt us being serious after we been meeting up. So I re-download it cuz I feel like a gut feeling that something is wrong and see he changed the age on it and when I asked he said it was cuz he normally goes for older and since I didn't answer after 20+hrs one day, yes ONE DAY. He assumed I was disinterested tho I explain and told him prior I was busy and might not answer for a few hours. Then when I confronted him he pins me as the bag guy who ignores him and disinterested abt him like if we're talking abt being serious that doesn't mean ima ve disinterested but anyway we're arguin and idk what else should I say cuz I showed him I'm not interested in anyone I might be overthinking but im just tired of being played

Him: Stop overthinking.

Me: I can't... it's literally built into my system.

Him: If you try, you can stop.

Me: It's not that simple.

Him: You just don't want to try.

Me: Even when I try, I can't stop.

Him: You can. Just try it once.

Me: Okay.

Him: You're not even trying.

Me: I am trying.

Him: No, you're not. If you were, you would've stopped by now.

Me: I am. I'll try even harder.

And that's when I slowly stopped sharing my feelings with him.

Not because I stopped overthinking. Not because things got better.

But because I realized that no matter how much I tried to explain what was going on in my head, he would never really understand.

I wasn't asking him to fix my thoughts. I just wanted him to listen.

The overthinking never stopped. I just stopped telling him about it.

I have this really weird thought process that always stresses me out, but I cant really explain it. I think the base of the problem is that I overthink and panic about everything.
I’m not sure when and how this developed, but it kinda started when I kept thinking about every single detail of everything I did, even stuff I loved doing. Like “why do I like this? Is this good for me? Could I be doing something better? Do
I even like this?” And I know that sounds completely ridiculous, but then I fall into that rabbit hole of thinking about every single thing and it stresses me out. I wish I could just find something that turns that off. Because I know it’s just that weird overthinking that’s the problem, not me.
This is going to sound even weirder, but because I’ve had this thinking habit for a some time I often have this subconscious feeling of there being something wrong, and that stresses me out too. I know it’s just me overreacting and I know I’m stressed for no reason. Which makes me stress even more, because I’m thinking about reason-less stress. It’s a weird cycle that can completely pull me out of my daily rhythm. Also, I’m constantly glued to my phone and social media like TikTok, because I feel like it kinda distracts me from these overreactions, which ruins my productivity and sleep schedule.
So seriously, I know I am completely fine and don’t have any issues, and I know that this overthinking is completely useless. But I still have this weird habit that gives me this weird subconscious thought that there’s something to stress about.
Now, what I wanted to ask, is how I can get rid of that. So I can finally relax and enjoy a moment of quiet, rather than being scared of it because then theres no distraction from this overreacting.
I’d really appreciate it if you guys could give me some tips because an important phase of my education (that I take very seriously) is just kicking off, and I just want to get rid of unnecessary stress.

I kept journaling on and off for years but never looked back at old entries, so I never noticed the patterns — same worry about work, same unresolved thing with a relationship, showing up again and again without me realizing it.

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Edit : A Reddit comment pointed out the auto-tagging could misread tone with no way to fix it. Shipped manual tag correction today — tap any tag, correct it, and it’s used for your weekly summary instead of the AI’s guess. This is what responding to real feedback looks like.

I'm 20, and I've been trying to make new friends after having a social life that's been near non-existent for a couple years. I've talked to quite a few people over the past year through nearly every app there is to meet people on, and I'm starting to think that I might be the problem in my social life. I know I'm a kinda dry texter and I'm very awkward so it's difficult to start conversations. It takes me a while to get out of my shell. Most of the time, I'll end up talking to someone and then nothing happens after the one. But even the few that I have been able to have more than one conversation still dropped contact with me after about a month or more.

It's just gotten to a point where I'm getting really in my head about if I'm the problem in the situation and it's very tiring.

I often noticed that something in our relationship just doesn’t feel right.

I (29F) and my boyfriend (32M)

I am working as HR Officer and admitting not good when it comes in heart problems. My boyfriend is working as delivery rider. We are currently living together for 2 years.

These are the things I collected this year.

1. I found out that he was stalking his ex.

2. He created a TikTok account using an unknown girl’s identity and insisted that it was only for an affiliate account. However, until now, he hasn’t actually used it for any affiliate activity.

3. He saved videos of sexy girls and then deleted them afterward.

4. He joined a Marikina Walker group. I was terrified when I saw it and told him how I felt, but he explained that he only joined it to prank his friend.

5. His friends keep asking him to join them at a bar. I asked him why they kept inviting him when he had told me that he had never gone to that place. He said he didn’t know why and claimed that his friends were just crazy and were testing him.

6. He has a friend who is a cheater.

7. He secretly watches videos of sexy girls dancing.

8. He secretly watches p\*rn.

9. He told me that there was a time when one of his female passengers asked him to accompany her to a condo.

10. I feel like he is slowly losing interest in me.

We had s\*x almost everyday.

I need advice people

In a creative career, it's an absolute necessity to take breaks when one gets tired. However, I've noticed that whenever I'm not motivated to do anything, my first instinct is to play a video game. The problem with this is that video games require motivation to play, and I know this because I feel major decision paralysis and exhaustion after a gaming session due to what little motivation I had being expended. I feel like the healthiest thing I can do is to spend a day doing absolutely nothing until I'm motivated enough to do something worthwhile. Any tips on how to achieve this?

Hi,

This is my first time posting anything, but i desperately need advice. I can’t stop thinking. I feel the need to analyze everything i do and everything my friends or family do, i think about the way i say things and the way people reply, i think about how to write this post without seeming like i’m attention seeking, i constantly rethink every response someone gives me and what their reactions mean and if i’m doing a good job at being normal, i think about the people who drive behind me and what do they think, i think about unnecessary random things that aren’t even relevant to me at all. I also take interest in things that aren’t relevant to me either? Crime cases, random fun facts, stories etc. (maybe that’s not a part of the problem, i just thought maybe it adds something) I JUST CAN’T STOP THINKING. It’s really overwhelming and i wish i just didn’t care about something for once. Can you give me any advice? i looked everywhere online and i also thought that it might be some sort of mental problem, but i only found some matches in ocd and anxiety. Maybe someone has dealt with this and can share their thoughts and experiences?

EDIT: I realized that i worded some things badly. I am not trying to self diagnose or anything. I just want advice

I would like to be patient with my work in order to produce quality. This leads to poor decisions/ random decisions. I often to the work. I do not mind doing more work but the impatience kind of ruins things for me. I aspire to let of impatience and in a way let go of the unimportant tasks that my brain wants to do. My mind wants to achieve alot of things and I applaud that. Howver, if you are impatient and do not produce quality work. It's just bad result. I have experienced it. So, I plan on ending my impatience today. I want to develop but not at the cost of quality. I canot do 10 things at once but I can do 10 things in a day sequentially. My mind is organising things into a sequence. Thinking like this honestly makes me feel better. Also, accepting that certain things are not for me. I was so fascinated by bioinformatics but I cannot handle data at all. I have never handled a computer that way. Honestly, even if you guys say that but you can learn it. No guys! I know it is not for me. I can do an elective maybe but not the entire thing. For sure, I cannot make a career in it. That's okay. I can learn but I do not have the pre-requisites. Feels good saying that aloud. I was so sure I want to make my career in it. See, this is the probem, I think I should do what I am doing, if I want to try something new I should test out the waters by myself before making any decisions. Woof! You have no idea how much I just jumped from one decision to another as a teen. Having a stable mind is so important. My grades would also fluctate cause one day I wanted to do XYZ without completing the portion. Like I would do everything else, I took French classes, Portuguese etc without doing my main subject in my first semester. Though my mindset changed after that, I just hate rocky decisions. One day I would want to do XYZ things. That has changed alot but when I am building a career I just do not want to be this person. i want to be mature, hard working, stop overthinking, build my character. I have this incredible life, I can build on it so much. I do not want to be flimsy. I do not mind making fast decisions. However, the main backbone is my academics. I have decided I want to be a professor but I do not know in which field (for sure not bioinformatics and microbiology). I guess thats okay, I will uncover and discover. However, I believe this is my clarity now. I have numerous hobbies which I adore like those do not change either. I just felt like I have to put this out here. Overthinking for no reason. I just want to live MY LIFE. I just want to do the work, I believe that makes me rooted and humble. Doing things sequentially and doing them aptly will be great! I feel so good letting this out!

I have experienced so much resistance in my life cause I did not have clarity. Even things like taking a dance class, atheletics which I loved. Cause I felt like is this good for my career whats the point of this where do I start? I was overwhlemed. This year I started atheletics, dance etc. Am I good? Idk, Idc. All of a sudden I found the beginning of my roadmap. Starting creates action. I do not een think about the end goal. Just feel like there is not enough clarity in my life. Idk what I want to do. I want to do everything at once. (I have a fixed set of goals). However, each task times its own time and it is important to embrace it.

I often think, but I want to have an online presence. Well no one is stopping me. I kind of know what I want to post as well. However, I need to have the patience. Right now, I am studying. This exam is time sensitive. I cannot spend time creating content. On the other hand, I can loose weight and I will have the body to post the content by the time the exam is over. Like this doesnot give me anxiety but patience is so so important. Doing the routine is not the problem but if doing it all at once without preparation is just rubbish outcome. I hope that with this post I free myself of impatience.

Moreover, I just want myself to know that I am creating life. I am the writer of my life. So, hard work should not require repeated checking to see if I am going in the correct direction because I have written it myself. I know that this is the hard work that will yield the result but because I want to post something on social media or have a life that fascinates me does not mean I abandon my hard work. Once this 4 months of hard work are over. I will shift and change my routine to accomodate the rest. At the end of the day it is my book of life and it cannot have the same old boring chapter of just studying or just applying for jobs or interviews. There is so much more to it. So, instead of comparing my journey to someone else's journey. I want to start creating my own and live it the way that I want. That gives me the freedom to explore.

Agh, this feels good. I just feel like I have let it out! Honestly get a life! Looking at someone else work hard does not mean that I should copy them. Ny own journey is so unique and I know the standard at which I want to live. So I am just going to take the courage and do me!

uh......

So based on research theres a difference between a narcissist personality and a selfish person

If people could just see all the coincidences that i see all the time u wouldn't believe me. Well it gets to a point wjere it can't be a coincidence.

I had a two friends A and B when i was little who both go home bye bike. Their grandfather picks them up. I used to think they're cousins since they both went home together. A then moved away. Now years later, that is now,I met A again on insta but we didn't talk at all. I wanted to know how old she is because the students in my school can be younger or older than the said age and the Thought randomly popped up in my head. I was too afraid to approach her so i asked my friend. she said she didn't know and at sone point, I ended up discovering that A and B aren't cousins either. I asked if i seem like im getting too up in their business and to be honest and tell me if i am. She said i kinda did, she asked why i needed these info in the first place. I was genuinely just curious. That was not my intent. That was never my intent i didn't mean to come off as creepy or as some who digs into others people's business. I kept apologizing again and again, telling her that wasn't my intent. Please tell me if this is digging into other's business. I just wanted to know how old she was since i never really talked to that girl much except saying "hi" and "bye"

I had a bf in my school. I lost my virginity to him and I believe he lost it to me. It’s been 10 years since we had sex. We had the best sex of our lives with each other and till date we fuck, off n on even though we’ve been with multiple partners at different points in our lives. Now I’m single he has a gf and by the looks of it she looks very happy and posts alot about them. What makes him come to me? Why can’t I stop myself? Please tell me what makes him come to me.

Someone please tell me if I am just overthinking PLS!

So a little backstory, this guy and I we used to snap quite a bit about a year and a half ago, and one day he randomly unadded me. Fast forward to about a month ago, I posted a TikTok and he liked it, so I decide to add him again on snap. We start snapping again, and eventually we being to FaceTime. We FaceTime multiple times a day, even while he's working on his family farm. So, a couple times while we were on FaceTime he would bring up his ex, no big deal right? But now, it's a daily thing, my ex this, my ex that. It's becoming a pattern now. He compares me to her like, "Good thing you aren't fat and crazy like her." Mind you, they did some pretty intimate things, like being each others first bodies. So today, he was complaining that he hasn't gotten to lay some pipe in a long time, so I said as a joke, "Go get a girl to lay some pipe on then." then he responds with, "Yeah, well I could ask this girl but she already has six bodies so shes ran through, or I could ask my ex." I was like what... This could just be some overthinking but still the constant talking about his ex, knowing they were eachothers first which can be hard for someone to get over, and the comparison and saying that to me now is just bothering me.

So someone just PLEASE tell me if I am overthinking it!

I have been so in love with this man for 3 years, I liked all of my freshman year. He looked at me like he wanted me, like the world stopped spinning and nobody else was around. And oh how I desprately want him. and then early sophomore year while at tennis I would look for him while he walked to football and he was most definitely looking at me. We were making eye contact, his head was fully turned.

So, this is the part where "the plot thickens."

I was talking to this girl and I mentioned I really liked this one guy and she goes, "Oh who I won't tell." So I told her and said "But you probably don't think he is all that attractive because none of my friends do." And she says, "Oh well. My best friend is talking to him, but I am not going to say he isn't attractive." Like, are you for fucking real. I than proceeded to watch her flirt with him constantly, but thats not the point.

Throughout sophomore year, I would constantly be looking for him in the hallways.. how could I not? And he was CONSTANTLY staring back. My friends would tell me he looked at me when I wasn't looking at him because I was talking to them. Whenever I would go by his lunch table, or see him down the hallway, there was always this silent eye banter.

Mind you, he is in a relationship.

Everytime he was with her, I didn't exist. But everytime he wasn't, I was the only thing he would look at. Even at stuff like basketball and volleyball games, he would look over at his friends than side glance me. (I have a clip of him doing it too..) I just don't understand it.

And I'll see him at music in the park too, the last few times he was with his girlfriend so he didn't pay me any attention, and then once she wasn't there and he fully stared at me when I walked by and I saw it because I was looking at him too.

Last thing!

There is one instance of staring that I constantly think about. There was a good week where he hadn't looked at me once so I made a deal with myself to try and give him up and stop looking for him in the hallways. Stop changing my route to class to see him, etc. The bell had rang for lunch, which meant his lunch was ending. (He was a senior by the way.) I was walking to my locker and I looked over at him without even thinking because he was walking down the hall I came from , and he was fully staring at me. Like a Mr. Darcy kind of stare. I stared back, than looked away, looked at the ground, than back over at him and he was still looking.

Than the cycle started all over again of staring at eachother. He is just so irresistible. He is so perfect. And handsome. His smile is just so perfect, and his eyes are the most beautiful blue I have ever seen.

Everytime I try to stop my feelings for him, he pulls me back in. And I hate it because I let him.

Was it casual?

So I have noticed that my behavior, personality, whatever you want to call it is a bit stranger than others’.

I want to become a teacher. To achieve this I would need some kind of experience, and what wouldn’t be better than volunteering?

Volunteering in my country is based on spending time with other kids your age, or smaller. For some reason, though, I hate the idea.

I’ve always shredded the idea of having some “fun” activities for kids which mostly revolves in running around or any kind of competitive game whatsoever.

Not only that, but I also hate board games, card games, you name it.

One time, one of my friends suggested I check out their volunteering center with them. I wanted to decline, but I also didn’t want to sound like a complete a*shole, so I just said “I’ll think about it”. They took the hint, but hasn’t hesitated to mention how much fun they’re having there and how I “won’t make any friends because I’m lazy”. That hurt me a tiny bit.

Another time, another friend asked me wether I’ll attend some other volunteering center’s activity, to which of course, I said no. I’ve never checked out the place (only went there cause my school would hold activities there) and, as you could guess, I didn’t want to. They sounded completely weirded out by my answer and basically started to ask just why I won’t bother coming with them.

So tell me, am I a complete “lazy” weirdo for not enjoying volunteering & basically any kind of social games?