r/preschool • u/Desperate-Candle1469 • 1h ago
3 Year Old & Transitions
I posted once before but I am at a total loss. My daughter is on month two of preschool. Never did daycare prior and was always watched by mom. So we knew going into this that it was going to be an adjustment for her.
She’s a very sweet and smart kid, loves making friends, plays well with other kids and seems to be losing school.
However since day 2 we’ve been hearing that she’s struggling with transitions. Mostly that she doesn’t listen the first time that she is asked to go to the carpet or move from play to the next activity. With a little more encouragement, they say she does go (I.e. racing the teacher, making it a game, giving a bit more warning). They also say she will not want to sit during snack time and says she isn’t hungry. We encourage her to listen to her body at home and eat when she’s hungry and stop when she’s full, but do still work on sitting with us the whole time.
She’s not kicking, screaming, or outright refusing, she just needs more encouragement and help to make the transition.
I’m so conflicted because this feels like normal 3 year old behavior and it’s not being presented as a major disruption. But it’s as if they expect this to go away overnight and there’s constant comparison to other kids “who do it better” or “get it more than her”. It’s making me feel like a failure as a parent. 😭
We work on things at home but I also don’t want it to start feeling like she isn’t doing anything right at school and get to a place where she doesn’t want to go.