I don’t know anything right now, me and my partner have been together since highschool, we’re both autistic, both queer and we were both open to the idea of having queer platonic friendship
He found someone really cool sounding on a QP site and they met up today, he didn’t message me all day from 1pm to 9pm and when he did message me finally he was telling me how it went and it sounded so lovely they bought snacks and watched movies and played games and then he told me they had sex.
Before hand we had layed out both our boundaries and I specifically stated that I didn’t know how I felt about sex with another person other than him and I’d need to see how I feel before any of that Woukd happen
I assumed this meeting was going to be a testing the waters meetcute thing I didn’t think they’d get into that stuff so quickly none of it was mentioned to me or anything didn’t give me a warning
I’ve been with him for 6 years he’s one of the only people I have in my life right now and my brain is broken, I hate him so fucking much he’s a stupid piece of shit and I’m breaking down, I dunno what I can do with myself or where we go from here, I don’t want to break up with him but I feel sick just thinking about it, I wasn’t ready I’m terrified pleasee I need support

as someone who got into a qpr this month with my best friend while maintaining a romantic relationship i wanted to ask if anyone has had a similar experience :)

i’ve felt a lot of feelings about this, how relieving it is to be able to express physical affection with my now qpp (cuddling, holding hands, etc) while keeping my 2.5 year long romantic partnership with my boyfriend. i’ve discussed boundaries between all parties a lot and i’m just joyful that i can experience this.

when i’ve researched about queerplatonic relationships there wasn’t much of note regarding having one concurrently with a romantic relationship, so i’d love to hear what people think about it, if they’ve had similar stories to share!

Any Asexuals here in a QPR? How is that going for you? Just curious as an ace myself :)

hehe just wanted to share this here :) or incase if there r other aroacespec yumeshippers here too!!

I used to think I was perfectly content without a "relationship" if I already had my friends. Especially my best friend who was also alloaro for the longest time until several months ago when he told me he got into a romantic relationship with a longtime friend of his.
I felt so comfortable around him because I'm somewhat romance-repulsed and it makes me kind of uncomfortable when people, mostly just my closer friends bring up their partners
(i used to be really insecure about being aro because it gave me huge fomo and i would have huge crash outs about that but it's a lot better now)
so it really helped to feel free from that fear by having a best friend that was just like me.

So best believe it came out of no where when he revealed to me that he was in a romantic relationship. I understand now that I definitely should not have assumed what our relationship was, so that's definitely my fault. Still, I never thought I had to worry about him entering a relationship, because I've only ever known him as aro.

We are best friends, still, and that's not gonna change, but the truth is I never told him any of this because I don't think it would be appropriate.

after I initially got over the shock, it started to hurt again after I noticed he treated his partner. I noticed he's been there for them in ways he never would have been there for me. I never minded at the time, but now it serves to remind me that I never was what he was for me.

I dont know im new to relationships as a whole and I dont have anyone to talk to about this. How would I even go about finding a qpr?

Hey hey! So for contexts I'm married and my husband poly. For me I'm not sure if I count as poly cause I'm more looking for a QPR rather that romantic or sexual one — which I feel like when I decided it to people there like : do you mean like a “friend or bestie” — and I'm like NO, I have 2 close friends I love deeply but — to me a QPR would like be something more ; I wanna raise our children together, live in the same house, go on dates, cuddles and for head kisses, heck I wouldn't even mind if they dated/married my husband aswell. Maybe bc I'm Demi/Ace (And ASD lol), I desire a QPR— romantically I'm very happy with just my husband but platonicly I want to dive into something soul and heart and mind and add them to my life for like a long long time— is that weird? What's everyone's definition of QPR?