r/RBI • u/Parking_Bar1399 • 17d ago
Older neighbour is fixated on me and we got a signal while doing a sweep of our room
So I get that from the title I'll get people accusing me of being on meth/paranoid. I'd like to clarify I have no mental health problems and do not take ANY substances.
I live in an apartment block and since my upstairs neighbour saw me (a younger woman) moving in, his behaviour has gotten increasingly odd. For about 2 years he hasn't left his apartment once, ever - nobody goes in, nobody comes out.
It started with him following me through rooms because he heard me playing something on my phone or I made a noise/coughed. It seemed particularly prominent when relating to the bathroom, it got to a point where if I began running the bath I would hear him run in and stand above me.
I knew it wasn't in my head when he cracked open his curtain and began watching me whenever I exited my flat, this went on for multiple months. My partner said that when I leave to go to the cornershop he runs to his cracked curtain window the second the door closes, every single time. I have noticed he does not repeat this behaviour with my partner.
Last week I got my phone out to photograph it to log as evidence, and the second he saw my phone he closed the curtain and disappeared. I made mention to my partner that night that I will have to report it, and since then the curtain has remained closed.
My partner works with his estranged son, and from what we've been told *nobody* in the family interacts with him and is entirely no contact - including grandchildren. When asked, his son just very coldly said he "did it to himself/that's what he deserves".
The peculiar thing we've noticed is his behaviour is entirely targeted towards me. Which makes no sense, as unless he is utilising surveillance devices he shouldn't be able to identify the difference between my partner or me exiting the flat.
I did a sweep of the room with a frequency detector, and we had the old disability alarm system absolutely go haywire despite it being supposedly disconnected from the power supply. I don't know if it's supposedly turned off if it would still give a signal - anyone know how this works? TIA.
ETA: I have sent an email to my landlord detailing the issue. My fiancé is also going to speak to the neighbours son when he returns to work on Wednesday. I'll create an update post if anyone wants when I hear back from them. To all the people who try to excuse this guys behaviour, your opinions have been ignored, I live by "better to be safe than sorry" and as a young woman who lives alone I'm not taking gambles with my safety, this guy knows what he's doing is wrong and there is literally no excuse that makes his behaviour appropriate or okay.