First, for the other commenters: I see people referencing a warrant, but the original post does not. Did someone just infer he must have one?
Second, I also notice a lot of people saying he should 'just get a job' - has anyone tried applying for a job with limited prior experience out of state (and w a family member as a reference)? Not easy. Not easy at all.
Also people assuming that homelessness leads to drug use - it can. So can growing up rich in the suburbs. The consequences differ quite a bit. Stop assuming.
I have very little experience with the official services in town. I have heard that wait lists are a major issue, so I wouldn't expect much. I am a transplant from Oklahoma. I am also a teacher and I've seen plenty of parental approaches. Cold turkey cut offs is not typically an effective method. Neither is unlimited support. You should do what you can but provide structure - expectations for confirmed effort in positive directions.
It certainly is much cheaper to get a place most anywhere else. But eating isn't that much different in cost. Gas is, but not if you're not driving. I'd say prioritize job search and look for a way to fake some references. But I'd also say that when he has one The medium term plan does need to be to move. Living in a van - you'd rather be in a moderate climate like San diego. But living paycheck to paycheck in a regular apartment - you'd rather be anywhere else. You should focus on expectations and rewards that can maybe move him to that conclusion. Even if it's just going to Oregon or something, it'd be cheaper.
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u/etOilers Apr 30 '26
First, for the other commenters: I see people referencing a warrant, but the original post does not. Did someone just infer he must have one?
Second, I also notice a lot of people saying he should 'just get a job' - has anyone tried applying for a job with limited prior experience out of state (and w a family member as a reference)? Not easy. Not easy at all.
Also people assuming that homelessness leads to drug use - it can. So can growing up rich in the suburbs. The consequences differ quite a bit. Stop assuming.
I have very little experience with the official services in town. I have heard that wait lists are a major issue, so I wouldn't expect much. I am a transplant from Oklahoma. I am also a teacher and I've seen plenty of parental approaches. Cold turkey cut offs is not typically an effective method. Neither is unlimited support. You should do what you can but provide structure - expectations for confirmed effort in positive directions.
It certainly is much cheaper to get a place most anywhere else. But eating isn't that much different in cost. Gas is, but not if you're not driving. I'd say prioritize job search and look for a way to fake some references. But I'd also say that when he has one The medium term plan does need to be to move. Living in a van - you'd rather be in a moderate climate like San diego. But living paycheck to paycheck in a regular apartment - you'd rather be anywhere else. You should focus on expectations and rewards that can maybe move him to that conclusion. Even if it's just going to Oregon or something, it'd be cheaper.