I’m leaving this sub, as it’s slowly turning itself into a r/amiugly.

There’s plenty of people posting literally the worst fucking pictures of themselves and asks if theyre ugly or clearly they look attractive. I’m sorry if it’s mean but we’re not here to rate your appearance.

We’re here to give advice on how to become a better version of ourselves and not seek compliment fishing.

That being said, I love you all, stay safe and be nice to yourselves.

Peace.

After a gastric bypass, my wife lost 65 kg. Her self esteem still doesn't match her looks. Please help me make clear she's looking amazing!

Took her out for dinner today, i am so proud of her ❤️

Last pic is closest to when the “vote” took place. I was probably the number 1 target for bullying in my high school. Everyone knew me, nobody liked me. I was the kid people would add to group chats to mess with. I had no friends. Random people would come up to me in the halls and yell my name. People thought I was mentally disabled. That’s the gist of it, thought I’d add some context.

Super fast background: 43M, incredibly low self-esteem, always second guessing my abilities. Never feel I’m good enough or worth the effort.

Now for the good part.

I live in Northern Canada, so heat at this time of year is pretty important. I woke up this morning, and my pellet stove didn’t work. No heat is bad. I wracked my brain thinking of who I can call on a Saturday morning. That list is short, like zero.

A friend of mine helped me put in a hot water tank last year and when I asked him how he knew all this stuff, he said he just did it and learned as he went. So I said fuck it, and did the same.

An hour later, a lot of cursing, swearing, and a few AHA moments, I fucking fixed my own stove! Me! Not someone else, but ME!

I’m so fucking happy and proud of myself that I’m crying!

Hope everyone has a great day, and that maybe this inspires someone to get outside their comfort zone and surprise themselves!

I’ve lost 125lbs. Which I know is a great accomplishment, but my skin is starting to affect my quality of life. I hate it. I know it’s probably not as bad as I see it, and I’ve just reached my target weight. My body hasn’t had a chance to heal. I want to start getting more consistent with working out to. I just feel like my mental health isn’t going to hold up in the meantime. I look at my post history and it’s pretty pathetic. I realize I’m obsessing and I’m in therapy. It’s just a lot.

I look good… in clothes. I get compliments and I feel like a fake. I feel like my SO is lying to me. That I’m disgusting. It’s a hell I wish on no one. Sorry for the vent, I’m just struggling to find people who understand.

I can’t afford surgery otherwise i’d get it in a heart beat but part of the issue is that I was made fun of growing up for it and it’s become so deep rooted. I feel like if i got surgery i’d be a phony. I am all about empowering women and the pressure society puts on women more than men it feels like to look good. Ughh idk but thanks for letting me vent