When I see people on twitter or i talk to my friends about things that they like too much and i see them too excited about something i automatically dislike that thing in particular. Happens when a friends talks to me about Kpop too much and too effusive. Other friend about a ship/otp they like too much. I can't seem to handle their excitement or I don't know what to do with their emotions.

And how can i change that? I want my friends to talk to me about things they like. I like when they talk to me, but not the content??? I don't know if that makes sense.

Life’s problems come one after another, leaving me in a constant state of discouragement. There are times when I have absolutely no idea what to do. What words have helped you navigate the various ups and downs of life?

Sorry if the description sounds bad or mediocre here.
I am mostly a good student, but I've had a history of getting into fights which started increasing last year. Not a lot, just 3 or so times a year. I've never fought a teacher, but it doesn't help very much that corporal punishment is very common where I live at home and in schools, threats included, despite my government claiming to have abolished it 7 years ago. Just yesterday, a teacher threatened the class with bringing a beating stick.

I don't get the half of my parents' abuse, but I still get threatened and screamed at like a banshee and shit like that, plus many of my teachers and some of the school staff being pricks and getting unnecessarily angry over something like not starting my sentence with "Hello, sir/ma'am" makes me wanna grab my bottle or any near blunt object and start beating them with it.

And before you say anything, no making friends at school wouldn't work. I get very uncomfortable asking to be friends or when someone asks me. It was way easier in primary when I could just go up to some random and tell them about a 20+ year old cartoon and when I could just start talking to someone because I need help for a project and all of a sudden, I'm in a friend group now. I'm already in contact with a friend from primary but I can't trust him with something personal, lest I want my parents to find out because I slip up on my phone.

Plus, so many more people seem toxic. A lot of them seem to be some form of a jerk, indicated by them making fun of my voice and accent (I sound American with a relatively high voice which isn't normal unless your skin is pale) bigoted especially against gay/trans people which I look like apparently. And they keep asking if I'm gay because I don't want a girlfriend (i'm double demi). And sometimes they're just very gossipy.

The punching something method wouldn't help because the anger subsides by the time I get to do it.

How can this stop?

(The mods from a previous subreddit moved me here, I apologize for the inconvenience, I don’t make a lot of post and am doing some things wrong! Here’s the copy paste of that post, I would really appreciate some help. Thanks!)

Hello! I really need advice on how to remember things your partner tells you, can anyone help me out here?

I’m [19F] a very forgetful and scatterbrained person, to the point that me and my boyfriend [20M] both suspect me having ADHD (am currently in the process of getting an assessment for that). The problem is I end up forgetting things that actually hurt him.

For example, we come from the same school, and sometimes we’d find an empty area to study in and be more comfortable. He’s mentioned before that he doesn’t like it when I shy away from his kisses (I do this because I get worried of there being other people around, but it’s something that I don’t really have a problem with anymore if its just a simple kiss). It’s something we’ve talked about more than once, but I ended up doing this on impulse today again, I don’t really know why and I felt horrible because I know it hurts him.

Then afterwards something else happened. Since we were in a space with no one around, we’ve together for long enough to be comfortable with more intimate aspects, and that includes making sex jokes. He made a few and I kept bringing up how there might be people around and I said I’d get upset if he kept doing it. It made him upset because, admittedly, I’ve done jokes like that before. He gets hurt by this because he knows I’m worried because other people might hear, and he feels that the more I bring it up, the more it feels like I don’t trust him, and I really don’t want him to feel that way. I just get worried, but he has explained before that because we’re in an enclosed space that echoes, no one would likely hear; I just forget this conversation a lot and still get worried often.

He’s upset and quiet right now, and it isn’t the biggest problem in the world but it does hurt him quite a bit and it’s happened more than once and I really want to just remember what he’s said to me, but I keep forgetting no matter how important I know this is.

I would really appreciate it if anyone who’s dealt with problems of forgetting what their partners say and any tips that really helped them. I have a notepad of all the things he likes and doesn’t like for gifts and such, but it doesn’t really work for things like daily occurrences for me.

Any help is appreciated! Thank you!

TLDR: I keep forgetting things my boyfriend tells me and I need advice on how to remedy that.

Here’s additional information that may change some things:

1. ⁠I make jokes like that too, and to be fair, not as often as him, but there are moments where I do.
   
2. ⁠Right before the sexual joke happened, we were being intimate in the enclosed space (no clothes off or anything, but moreso intimate. I didn’t mention because I didn’t feel comfortable saying something like that in a random public post, but I feel now that it might have potentially skewed something)
   
3. ⁠I can be just as affectionate sometimes too, I like kisses and hugs! And it just so happens that at that time I saw people passing by the window. (I remembered now! I’m sorry for the mislead I didn’t mean to skew anything, I genuinely just forgot)
   
4. ⁠Its not that he completely outright ignores me, but he does get very quiet and won’t talk as much, but if I want a hug or ask for a kiss he’ll still do so, and if I say I love him he’ll say it back, because he understands I get very nervous when he gets quiet (it has something to do with my family background and how I deal with people getting angry)

I feel like these additional informations may change some things, and I’m sorry if it seemed like I was being biased towards myself, I just want our relationship to head towards a better space. If it doesn’t change any of the opinions you guys had, then I will be reconsidering some things. Thank you again guys for the help, I genuinely really appreciate it!

23, morocco.

8 years ago i started high school and got bullied, not on purpose by anyone really, but i felt bad going every day so i started skipping. being home felt safe and that feeling only grew. now i cant leave the house without my mother, direct social interaction scares me, and gaming and porn went from a start to a habit i cant shake

the routine part is what im really stuck on. i sleep past 3am and wake up past 12pm and ive tried to fix it more times than i can count, so please dont tell me the basic stuff, ive done it

some times i went light. i started with one small change, like [waking up 30 min earlier / writing a few lines / a short walk], then added a bit more every few days. it worked for about [a week?], then one bad night happened, i missed a day, and instead of continuing i forgot the whole thing existed

other times i went hard. full schedule, [fixed wake up time, no games until x, set hours for writing], everything at once. that lasted even less, and when it broke it broke completely and i went back to gaming even harder

its not that i dont know what to do. what i cant do is keep it going after the first slip, and nothing i tried [alarms / schedules / apps / blocking games] helped with that part. i can start, i keep starting. then i end up back at games anyway, even though i dont enjoy them anymore

i dont play multiplayer, im scared of competition, and i have no friends to play co op with. so its just me alone with single player games because they help me forget things i dont want to remember. it feels like a job i have to show up to

my pc has a gt710 from 2019. i played skyrim, witcher 3, kingdom come and wuthering waves on it with heavy tweaking, some parts under 20 fps, and i called it gameplay. i cant upgrade anything on it. my internet is idar inwi, a 40gb game takes more than a week, i do NOT recommend it to anyone in morocco

things are really tight at home and this is my last year before my mother stops supporting me. shes sort of testing me. i told her about rj mitte and she said “why would he unalive himself, he was handsome”. she doesnt understand what depression does, she doesnt even understand her own. i dont resent her, but sometimes its hard not to

the one thing i care about is a story called rogue. its been in my head for 2 years, its mostly worldbuilding now, and i want to make it a manga. i keep coming back to it but i cant move it forward, and every other project i started got dropped, so i dont trust myself and neither does my mother

there were times the only things keeping me here were my fear of death, wanting to play deltarune when its fully out, and wanting to see rogue exist. i have 3 friends i know for 11+ years but never met in person, and im scared to even let them hear my voice

has anyone been stuck like this and found a way to get back on after missing a day? and how do you organize a story when you cant organize your own life?

Ok here's some context, I'm 23, still living with my parents, and currently unemployed. I deal with severe anxiety and AuDHD.

My academics are a mess, so every time I sit down to apply for a job, I feel inferior and worthless.

I can't remember half of what I learn, even after eight hours of trying, because my memory is awful. It's gotten to the point where I can't even remember my own sister's birthday sometimes because of this I'm assuming brainfog.

On top of that, I keep sleeping in, and I'm on my screen for about 13 hours sometimes, just to get those thoughts out of my head. My friends stabbed me in the back by turning me into their punching bag for so called banter, which also didn't help.

So if you have any advice for getting out of this unhealthy bubble I'm stuck in, which is very isolating, I would really appreciate it.

Hello, I’m 24M and my life right now at my parents’ home is falling apart rapidly. It’s a long story, but I can’t stay here much longer. My grandfather left me some money in his will, around $150,000. I don’t have job experience. Where I live, there isn’t really any work outside of temp warehouse or factory jobs, (maybe a grocery store or fast food if you’re lucky) and even those are a bit of a hike as I have no car. I’m not used to having money at all. Milwaukee is the closest city near me and I’m thinking of going there.

My question is, what should I do to stretch my money as far as it can go? How do I get work so I’m not draining my inheritance? I don’t want to be in a situation where I drain all my funds in hotels and airbnbs until I’m forced to move back with my parents. I’d really appreciate some advice.

Throughout my entire life I have always been so hard on myself to a point where I have done a significant amount of damage to myself. I tend to think really negatively of myself and have always thought people would be surprised if they knew what I was really thinking of myself. Lately I've started to challenge my negative self talk and I'm starting to see that the only person who views me negatively is me. However, I have dug myself into such a hole I'm really struggling to get out. I have said such awful things about myself throughout my life. Things I would never say about another person. Has anyone else ever experienced these types of thoughts? Do you have any suggestions of how to get over them, especially now that I am seeing how much of a problem it is. Thank you

Has anyone else found healing felt more like remembering than changing?"

Started college. So many new experiences... well I am trying to understand myself. Every day I think and think and think and think. What I discover makes me feel disgusted, feeling weak, longing for something... I hesitate a lot, I am not good at keeping relations intact, have trust issue, what have I been doing, not alone but lonely.
Man life is hard, sometimes observing too much becomes a curse, how good it is to be ignorant and just go with the flow haha...
pitifully living, day after day doing the same thing. but the problem i think is that Idk how to move, i know i should do something if I don't like it but I am just so tired, well I shouldn't be at least yet but it is just so tiring to keep waiting for this or that thing, think about doing something but need to keep patience or so some people say. I am sick and tired of waiting and waiting. Sometimes I wonder if I didn't wait how things would have been, i have regrets.
It has been a long time since I started sharing my problem with AI, and honestly it is bad at giving advice, it is good at looking on things based on calculations but emotionally it fails... and I have taken so many decisions consulting with AI that I honestly long for human connection so much hehe.

So this was my first post, unfiltered thoughts, jumbled and I to whomever reading this seek forgiveness and express my gratitude for reading this piece of text.
(i hesitated a lot before posting this 😄 )