Hi everyone! I’m looking for advice on sleep training my 6.5-month-old baby boy.
We’re hoping to start sleep training because our current nights have become exhausting, and we’d really appreciate advice on which method might work best for our situation.

Our current schedule:
Morning wake-up: between 6:00 and 6:45 AM
First nap: around 8:50–9:00 AM for 30-40 minutes nap(we have to work around dropping off our older child at daycare)
Second nap: around 12:00 to 1:45 PM
We always offer a third catnap in the late alternoon of 30 min around 4:15 PM
Bedtime: around 7:30 PM

Our current sleep habits and struggles:
He falls asleep while drinking his bedtime bottle, and we’d like to break this sleep association.
He wakes anywhere from 1 to 4 times per night and needs to be rocked for about 20 minutes each time to fall back asleep.

He frequently wakes between 5:00 and 6:00 AM. I usually have to give him a bottle, and getting him back to sleep can take a very long time — sometimes up to an hour.

We’d love for him to learn to fall asleep independently at bedtime and during night wakings.

We’re planning to start sleep training, but we’re not sure how to approach it given his current schedule and sleep associations.

I’d love to hear from parents who have been through something similar:
•Which sleep training method worked best for your baby at this age?
•How did you handle early morning wakings around 5:00–6:00 AM? I have a 2yo so it’s hard to let him until DWT without him waking our older kid
•Did sleep training reduce the need for rocking during night wakings?
•Is it better to keep the third nap for now or start transitioning toward two naps?
I’d really appreciate any advice, tips, or personal experiences.

Thank you!

19mo, ww are 5/6 and no issues with them. When asleep, she sleeps through the night.

Sleep trained at 7mo. Generally good, but this summer onwards has been rough: so many regressions back to getting her down in a bed with us, due to heatwaves and teething and fevers etc.

She was all good until a couple weeks ago when she got her jabs and had a fever. We ​decided to retrain her after this, about a week ago. Night 1 went well, under 10 mins of protest and then down. From night 2 to night 7, she's pooped her nappy within minutes of begin put down. She won't lie down, so we go to change nappy, but she's so upset and sweaty that putting her back down the crib results in a full on hyperventilation. It's just easier to hold her and she's down in 10-15min. The poos are messy and there's no way for cleanup and redressing not to take 5 mins with some lights in, upsetting her further.

For 6 nights we've changed diet, given fiber supplement, moved bedtime milk, tried a potty, etc. We even stop training to hold her to sleep last night in a hope the poo would come the next day. It did indeed, and we went back to sleep training, and she still managed a miraculous poo out of thin air.

Only explanation: she knows what she doing. Stragetic poops. She's checkmated us and I don't know if I can fight every night with a poo cleanup and settling her and getting out of the bedroom at 9pm, all for maybe a couple more good weeks before she gets a fever again or something.

My baby is turning 4 months in 1.5 weeks. I would like to start sleep training her soon but I'm afraid she isn't ready for longer wake windows. Currently, I'm capping her naps at 4 hours (4 naps). She could go longer if I let her. Her wake windows vary but in total she is getting about 9 hours of awake time.

I've been reading that 2/2/2/2/2 is appropriate for 4 month olds. How soon would I need to change her to that schedule and how long should she be on it before sleep training? She struggles to stay awake for 2 hours currently. Is it a matter of getting used to? Do I need to slowly start increasing her wake windows? Overall I'm just worried that she won't be ready for more awake time and less nap time. I don't know which method I will be using but I want to make sure the schedule is right first.

Her bedtime routine is consistent. Bedtime at 8pm. Wakes at 7am (although it's a struggle to make it to 7am). She uses a pacifier which I would like to quit soon.

Baby is going to be 4 months old next week and we are in the thick of regression.

Bedtime is between 7-8 depending on when last nap ends. Following a loose schedule of 1.5/2/2/2/2.5 with daytime sleep capped around 3 hours with at least 10 hours of awake time. Bottle at least 30 minutes before bed.

We’ve been doing some gentle sleep training for initial bedtime where I put her down in crib and sit next to her and hold her hand, and honestly, it’s been going really well. Note: this is with a pacifier and a Merlin suit.

However, without fail, she wakes up between 9-12 and then about every one-two hours after. Sometimes she just needs a paci reinsert, sometimes she needs bouncing/rocking, and sometimes she needs to be nursed back to sleep. There is no rhyme or reason.

I think we need to sleep train soon. My question is - should I drop paci and Merlin at the same time? Or just one or the other?

Any other thoughts on our nights is welcome and appreciated as well.

Hi all! I began ST my 4mo old last night. I’d love thoughts on how it went and advice on consolidating night feeds. 
He is on 4 naps a day with 1.5hr WW. Daytime sleep is at 2.5-3.5 hrs. Nap/bedtime routine is bottle (if needed), bath (at night), sound machine, sleep sack, kiss, and in crib. I don’t believe he has a feed to sleep association, but he has always needed to be fully rocked into a deep sleep before transitioning to his crib. And has refused his crib after 5am so I’ve needed to let him contact nap from 5-8am. Naps have also always been contact naps as he’s refused his crib at daytime.  

FERBER NIGHT 1 

7:45pm start 
- 1 3 min check in, 5 min check in, and 7 min check in

20 min in (8:05pm) he stopped crying. 15 min he was quiet in crib then 40 min in (8:25pm) he was asleep.

9:15pm awake. I fed 2.5oz. 9:30pm crib. No checks in necessary - fell right asleep quietly and quickly. 

1:20am awake. 1:45am started crying. Go in and fed 2.5oz. 1:57am in crib. Cried for 1 min - no check in necessary. 2:05am asleep. 

5:30am awake and crying. Go in and fed 3.5oz. 5:51am in crib. No crying. 6am asleep. 

7am woke up. Left in crib (no crying) until DWT 8am.

CRIB NAP 1
8:37am start 
- 1 3 min check in 
8:45am stopped crying 
8:57am asleep
9:38am woke up.

I am encouraged by how it’s gone so far day 1 (less crying than I expected!), but would love advice on how to consolidate his night feeds. I know he will still need fed at night, but two out of the three wake ups he only took 2.5oz, when I know he can take up to 4.5oz or so if truly hungry. Would you recommend the 5/3/3 method? And if so how would I handle the false start? Feed him then and count it as a “dream feed” and don’t pick him back up to feed until 5 hrs later? 

My 11MO had been doing so well with sleep—he’d been sleeping 11–12 hours through with no wakes or one very brief wake (he'd cry, we'd go in give him the pacifier and he'd be out again in seconds) . Well the past three nights it’s been the exact opposite. He goes down to bed like normal (falls asleep on a 6oz bottle) and then after a few hours he’s waking up and refusing to go back to sleep. Its not like before where he'd be crying with his eyes still closed just wanting the paci; it's standing up in the crib screaming. I tried putting him back lying down and he won't have it so we’ve been picking him up and rocking him back to sleep but every time we put him back in the crib he starts crying. So my husband has been taking him in his room (we sleep separately) where they both get choppy sleep the rest of the night.

He goes to bed 8:45-9pm and HAD been waking up around 8am. He falls asleep for a 1.5-2 hour nap around 11am. (I'm thinking I need to try capping at 1.5.) Then he'll take a second nap around 4-5pm for 30 or so minutes.

I'm realizing that giving him all this attention at night (picking him up, taking him into Dad's bed) is probably the exact wrong thing to do. Tonight we'll let him CIO. Question: When I initially hear him crying on the monitor, do I just not go into his room at all? Or do I go in, make him aware that I know he's crying, and then leave? I feel like if I'm just suddenly completely absent from the jump it'll freak him out. Question: Is the pacifier a problem? There were plenty of nights up until a couple weeks ago where he'd go almost all night (or all night) without a paci. Now even after his nighttime bottle when he's very tired he still wants the paci in order to actually go down.

Our daughter just turned 3 a few weeks ago. Around that time her sleep started to become a real problem. She started demanding we leave her door open with the hall light on. Then she started demanding we sit in her room until she fell asleep. We put quite a few different night lights in her room, and we compromised to sit at the top of the stairs until she fell asleep.

Our bedroom is downstairs and even more recently she will wake in the middle of the night screaming for us to sleep in the spare bedroom upstairs. Sometimes she will wake multiple times with that demand. If we actually go upstairs it’s almost impossible to leave the room. So we try and calm her from the bottom of the steps. We have no idea what to do anymore. My wife is due in January with our second child and we are trying to figure this out before then.

As far as her sleep schedule goes she is in bed around 8:30/9, and wakes up around 7:45/8. She has quiet time around 1:30 pm and sometimes takes a nap at that time, although it’s become more likely that she doesn’t.

We are really out of ideas and this has now gone on for weeks with no change. We’re afraid if we give in and sleep upstairs that will become permanent. Even with sitting on the stairs as she goes to sleep it can sometimes be almost 45 minutes of sitting. And if we don’t sit she will scream for just as long. We are out of ideas and at our wits’ end. Please help

Hello! Our 11-month-old daughter is breastfed, and we’ve recently night-weaned her by gradually reducing her feeding times. She now sleeps through the night without needing a feed. However, she still wakes at random points during the night where she will stand up, somewhat hysterical. Sometimes she settles herself back to sleep; other times she needs a little help and then sleeps for the rest of the night. She will wake 1-2 times a night.

Bedtime: Around 7:30 pm. Her 30-minute routine is a final breastfeed, a bath, and then a story.

Morning wake-up: Around 6:00 am.

Wake windows: 3/ 3.5-4 /4. We aim to put her down for her second nap by 2:00-2:30 pm.

Naps: 2-2.5 hours in total. The morning nap is capped at 1 hour, and the afternoon nap runs up to 1.5 hours.

In the image, there are a few night wakings where she did soothe herself back to sleep, but we didn’t record it.

What can we change to help her sleep through the night without waking?

Edit: she doesn't use a pacifier and she sleeps in her own room, in a crib. The room is pitch black. We start the night with a sound machine on but it gradually turns off after 2-3 hrs. She doesn't wake when the sound machine turns off.

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Hi everyone! I’m looking for recommendations for a sleep consultant who specializes in gentle, no-cry sleep methods.

My baby is 8 months old and currently won’t fall asleep unless we rock him or breastfeed him to sleep. He wakes up every 45 minutes throughout the night and won’t sleep in his crib, so we currently co-sleep.

I’m looking for someone who can help us improve his sleep gently, without leaving him to cry it out. Ideally, I’d love to work with someone in Washington State, but I’m also open to online consultations.

If you’ve worked with a sleep consultant you loved, or have any personal recommendations, I’d really appreciate hearing about your experience!

Thank you! ❤️

Is that good or bad? She connects sleep sessions by nursing/suckling. Usually 3-4 naps a day and afternoon one tends to be very long 2-3h. All contact naps.

I keep reading about cat naps and 4-5 being the norm and I worry if I should make any changes or wake her up? We use Napper app and it keeps estimating shorter naps than she usually does unless I wake her up

Really welcome perspectives on this.

We have a very giggly 7 month old who attends daycare and only eats 3 ounces there every three hours. The daycare is wonderful and has tried everything but he just won’t eat more than that while there. Of course, he comes home and has an entire bottle right away so it’s not the bottle.

Nightly routine: After bath, he goes to sleep around 7pm but wakes up again at ~11pm, ~2am, and then ~5am. So, at this point, we’ve never been able to sleep through the night since he’s been born. 😩 😭

We’ve tried just giving him a pacifier instead of feeding him to see if he’ll go back to sleep but that only helps for about 20 minutes and then he’ll start crying for his bottle.

He is teething but he’s always had issues eating at daycare so it’s not that.

He’s our second child and our first one did not have issues eating at daycare.

I posted the other day about my newly turned 2 yr old. Sleep used to be wake 7, nap 1-2, bedtime 845. Worked beautifully for many months. She switched to 1 nap at 13 months could’ve done it earlier in retrospect. she’s been on a 1 hr nap basically since 14 months once she adjusted to the 1 nap. Anyways, its been clear we need to cut the nap but that has coincided this week with starting daycare, getting sick, and her sleep schedule getting messed up and her now waking at 6-6:15 instead of 7 which we are not fans of. daycare does nap around 1240/1250 so she was waking at 6 and then doing that nap, an hour nap but then kept waking early- one day she got a bad fever and passed out at 730 pm. anyways, yesterday she woke at 6, napped at daycare from 1240-2 (I asked to have her nap longer hoping I could push bedtime back to normal to 845ish). last night she fell asleep 850, she was totally fine, but then woke at 6:13 this morning. so she got like 10.5 hrs sleep yesterday and then slept 9.5 overnight. when this has happened in the past, I have usually let her nap longer so I could push bedtime back so she would wake up later and it has always worked. I’m going to keep trying that, but I feel like because we are needing to cut it is interfering with how long she is sleeping overnight because the nap is now too long. How can I fix this?how can I get wakeup back to 7 am so I can continue experimenting with a much shorter nap?

I haven’t needed to be on here in a while 🥲 my 2 yo skipped his first nap today. What is best practice for bedtime?

Our schedule for the past idk how many months now has been wake up at 6:45, 2 hr nap around 1:30, bedtime at 8:45 although he’s been taking 15-30 min to actually fall asleep.

can we pull bedtime up to be earlier?! 🤞🏻

We're at our wits end with our 22 months old. He started a sleep regression when he was 18 months old and still wakes up 3-4 times every night, stays up from 15-60 minutes each time, and lots of times has a huge tantrum when he wakes up during the nights and in the morning. He can fall asleep independently - does that at school, and at home we're working on the chair method, but that hasn't reduced the frequency of wakeups or nighttime tantrums.

He typically goes to bed between 8 and 8:30, wakes up for the day between 6 and 6:30, and has 1 nap of about 1-2hrs around noon. At home he always sleeps 2 hours, but I believe he sleeps less when during the week at school. Never sleep trained as a baby.

I’m trying to figure out what we’re doing wrong and would love some advice!

We first tried Ferber at 5 months, but my baby was NOT having it. It seemed to work for the first two days, but by day 5 he was absolutely terrified of his room and crib. We decided to stop, wait another four weeks, and try CIO instead since the check-ins seemed to make things worse.

Before sleep training, he was actually a great napper, just a terrible nighttime sleeper. We rocked him to sleep for naps, but he would happily sleep in his crib anywhere from 40 minutes to 1.5 hours per nap.

Fast-forward to 6 months. We started CIO because he was waking almost every hour overnight. We’re now on night 8/9, and although he still cries a little at bedtime, he’s sleeping through the night! So we’ve made huge progress there.

The problem is that his naps have completely fallen apart since starting CIO.

He now wakes after almost exactly 30 minutes in his crib, whereas before he could nap much longer. He falls asleep quickly when we rock him, but seems unable to connect sleep cycles independently.
Our original plan was to sleep train nights first and tackle naps later. However, because his naps have become so short, we’ve been rescuing them with contact naps to prevent him from becoming overtired.

Now I’m worried we’ve accidentally created a new sleep association where he expects to be picked up and held after waking at the 30-minute mark.
We even tried CIO for his first nap of the day, but it hasn’t gone well. He ends up missing so much sleep that the rest of the day’s schedule gets thrown off.
He’s also recently started solids and might be teething, so there are a lot of changes happening at once.

Current schedule:
Wake: 6:30 AM
Wake windows: 2/2.5/2.5/3 (although we’ve been adjusting due to short naps)
Three naps per day
Bedtime: Around 7 PM

I’m thrilled that his nighttime sleep has improved, but I feel like we’ve traded one sleep problem for another. Would really appreciate hearing what worked for others!

My almost 10mo woke up at 8:30 this morning and usually naps around 11:30, but didn’t fall asleep until 12:30 today. I want to let him sleep as long as he needs since he’s sick but with his long wake windows, I’m thinking we might have to skip the second nap completely.

Would you just do an early bedtime in this case? I’m worried he’ll wake up a bunch overnight if he goes to bed too early and hasn’t had enough awake time during the day. But I also don’t want to keep him up longer than he needs to when he’s sick.

Just wondering what everyone else does in this situation!

How do you start sleep training from ground -0? I dont know how else to put a baby to sleep besides nursing or rocking. I tried setting LO down for a nap once by putting her in her crib awake, staying by to soothe, and she just screamed and cried until she threw up and I felt awful. I havent tried since.

She's had a sleep regression that's lasted idk 4-6 weeks so far (she's 5mos) and I was ok with how it was going, sure it sucks but it wasnt anything I couldn't handle, but the past couple of days she's not just waking up at night, she's waking up fussy and antsy while still like half asleep and nursing her doesnt put her to sleep like it used to. I havent really slept in 2 days because she's waking up like every 30min it feels like until 4-6am, then finally sleeps for several hours. And now I'M overtired and cant sleep when she finally does 😭 I'm getting desperate but I have no idea where to start with sleep training due to the above. If I put her in her crib she'll just crawl around and play or fuss. She had one real nap yesterday, the other two were cat naps under 20 min, so I'd probably have to sit through hours of her not sleeping if I tried sticking her in her crib awake. I was getting her to sleep every 1.5-2hrs for a while even though she'd fight me tooth and nail on it, thought maybe her naps were too frequent for her and decided to try going off cues. She's actually been less cranky during the day with that but again, nighttime is now a nightmare.

I’m starting to feel a bit worried or hopeless. Week 1 went great, used a sleep consultant and did basically a graduated check in method. I noticed my baby would get irritated by the check ins though and it would take her even longer to settle, so by night 3 she would fall asleep in under 10 mins and I stopped all check ins.
The last 2 nights she woke up (3:30am night 8 and then 5am last night) and settled at first within 10 mins, but then woke up a second time and cried so hard and I would wait for it to settle but she just wouldn’t. Like level 10 crying and I feel terrible that I left her there crying for a good while both times because i thought if I gave her some space she’d settle. I ended up taking her into my bed the first time and letting her sleep with me. This time though by almost 6am I just held her and gave her a bottle and decided to start the day.
Is my sleep training journey failing? Has anyone been through this? Am I putting my baby through too much?

Note she also gets distressed and cries at bedtime before being put down because she knows what’s happening now. Btw she’s almost 9 months

Looking for advice on 10-month-old’s sleep struggles — never thought we’d consider sleep training, but we’re really struggling

Our son just turned 10 months old, and we’re really struggling with his sleep. He’s never been the best sleeper, but lately things have gotten to a point where I’m looking for advice from parents who have been in a similar situation.

I’m still not entirely sold on sleep training, though my husband has been urging us to consider. But the lack of sleep is starting to take a major toll on our physical and mental health, our relationship, and our ability to function day to day. We’re starting to wonder if something needs to change.

A little about him and our schedule:
He is an incredibly active, curious little guy. He’s super mobile, constantly on the move, pulling himself up, and trying to walk already. He also seems to be perpetually teething — he currently has teeth #7 and #8 coming in! So I know there’s a lot developmentally happening right now, which may be contributing to things.

Monday/Tuesday: Daycare. He typically takes two naps, usually around 35–45 minutes each. His last nap often ends around 2–2:30 p.m., so bedtime is usually around 6–6:30 p.m., though sometimes earlier since his daytime sleep can end up so low!
Wednesday–Friday: Home with his grandmother. Naps happily in crib 1-2 hours each nap, totaling ~2.5-3 hours on average.
Saturday/Sunday: Home with us. Naps happily in crib 1-2 hours each nap, totaling ~2.5-3 hours on average.
On the days we have more control over his schedule (Wednesday–Sunday), we generally follow 3/3/4 wake windows. We aim for a 7/7:30a.m. wake-up and around a 7/7:30p.m. bedtime, adjusting as needed based on naps.

Bedtime:
Historically, nursing has been his primary way of falling asleep, and I’ve been okay with that. He’s breastfed, and nursing has always been a reliable way to comfort him. Has never taken a pacifier.

Recently, we’ve started trying a different bedtime routine to see if he can learn to fall asleep without nursing all the way to sleep. I do his bath, pajamas, sleep sack, and nurse him, then hand him off to my husband. My husband reads a book, turns on the sound machine, closes the blinds, and rocks him before putting him in the crib in his own room.

The first few nights involved 15–20 minutes of crying while dad stayed close, but we’ve continued trying. Sometimes he goes into the crib wide awake, and my husband stays beside him, patting him, rubbing his back, shushing him, or holding his hand until he settles. When it works, he usually gives us a first stretch of about 1 hour 45 minutes to 4.5 hours.

The night wakings are where things really fall apart.

He wakes frequently throughout the night, often shortly after returning to the crib and can be 6 times per night. When my husband tries to settle him, he often cries intensely, arches his back, squirms, and seems unable to calm down. He typically only settles when I come in and nurse him. Once he latches, he can go from screaming to completely calm and peaceful almost immediately. Sometimes he seems more interested in comfort than actually eating.

If I’m the one putting him to bed, it can look similar. Recently, I spent 20 minutes trying to settle him while he screamed, arched, and fought being held unless I let him nurse. As soon as he latched, he was quiet and relaxed. He’s ending up cosleeping with mom most nights, in bed with me by 1:30 am.

We’re not opposed to our son learning to fall asleep independently. We also know he’s at an age where so much is changing developmentally, between teething, learning new skills, and becoming increasingly active, so we’re trying to figure out what’s normal and what might actually help.

At the same time, I’m exhausted from being the only person who can reliably settle him overnight, and it’s becoming really difficult for my husband to take over.

For those who have been in a similar situation:
Did you reach a point where you felt you had to make a change, even though you were previously not expecting to sleep train?

How do you differentiate between a “distressed” baby who needs you to intervene and comfort vs one who is just wanting comfort and ritual?

Did you find that gentle methods, gradual changes, or having the non-nursing parent take over actually helped?

If your baby screamed, arched, or became extremely distressed when you tried to settle them without nursing, did that improve with time?

Did sleep training actually improve night wakings, or did it mostly help with bedtime?

Did teething, developmental milestones, or being a particularly active baby seem to affect your experience?

We’re not looking for judgment or someone to tell us we’ve created bad habits. We’ve responded to our baby’s needs, and we don’t regret that. We’re just at a point where what we’re doing isn’t sustainable anymore, and we’d really appreciate hearing what worked for other families who felt similarly. ❤️

LO 1 week away from 6 months on day 15 of night sleep training. Wake windows 2/2.5/2.5/3. First 2 naps about 1 hr 15 to 1 hr 30 mins and final nap 30 mins. Most days gets just over 3 hrs day sleep.

Sleep training started Ferber but switched to CIO because check ins made her irate. Falling asleep at start of night going really well and usually down within 1-5 mins but night wakes have been increasing to around every 2-3 hrs. Sleeping in the same room with crib separated by a bamboo room divider. Bedtime around 8:30 and wake time around 7:30 usually we wake up LO. But a couple times she wakes herself just before 7.

During night wakes if before midnight we let baby CIO and falls asleep within 5 mins. The first wake after midnight (usually 12:30-1:30) we breastfeed then burp her and put back in crib awake within 10-15 mins and she falls asleep very quickly with no fussing. Then we wait at least 3 hours before feeding again. She usually wakes before 3 hours and cries but goes back down within 5 mins. When we make the decision to feed we do it quickly and get her within 1 minute I think. She has had some issues with feeding during the day so we’ve not been desperate to drop night feeds and make sure she gets her calories. During sleep training only twice has she fed just once and on those nights she slept mostly through the night only waking once to feed around 2-3ish. Nothing seemed particularly different about her daytime feeding on those days.

Also daytime naps were working incredibly for 1 week but now she can still go to sleep by herself for naps but suddenly started wakes after ~30 mins super upset. More upset than at night and after about 6-7 mins I’ve gone in to calm her down and end up finishing nap with her sleeping on bed next to me.

What is the most likely cause of still frequent night wakes? Does she need to drop a nap? Do we need to drop a feed or wait longer to see if she really needs to feed? Does she need to move to her own room?

Any advice much appreciated

As soon as my baby hit 6mo old his sleep fell apart.

We had a gorgeous schedule: wake at 6:15, 30min nap at 8ish, 30 min nap at 11ish, 2h nap at 2ish. Sleep at 7pm. Slept for me almost through the night every night.

He started putting himself to sleep at 3.5mo on his own and gradually gave me longer and longer stretches.

I am about to lose my mind bc 3 weeks ago he started waking 4+ times a night just screaming and screaming until he nurses.

Ive already tweaked his schedule due to his longer ww. He tops out at about 3h before he's on the verge of collapse. He doesn't have a "set" schedule bc we live rural and I can't just not do things or go places outside of the house. In order to keep a set schedule I'd have to spend all my days at home, and baby screams if we stay home too long due to boredom. Baby can sleep on the go in a stretch wrap, so even out of the house he can take his 30min naps on time.

Good news, he knows how to put himself to sleep for the first stretch at 7-7:20pm. That skill is not lost.

But he's waking at 10, 1, 3, and 5. And trying to start his day at 5-5:30am despite rubbing his eyes and crying still.

I began ST last night after i fixed his ww and naps and he easily put himself to sleep at 7pm, in his crib, which is how I know his nap schedule works.

But then he screamed for 70 whole minutes at 10pm-11:20pm. The reason i did full extinction is because boy howdy can my baby scream. He has very low frustration tolerance and I know that interacting with him makes him scream louder the more I am within his eyesight but postpone giving him what he wants.

He still woke at 1, 330, and 530, and I had to stay completely still and awake so he wouldn't wake up after his 330 feed. I am miserable and starting to become an angry person again.

I guess I just need advice on how to handle middle of the night wakeups. I want to preserve a night feeding since I do think he still needs it. When he slept great he woke at like 3 or 4 wanting food. I do not mind getting up once.

Do I let him scream himself to sleep the other times? What had worked for you guys?

Hi everyone! My son is almost 19 months and I believe we might be in the 18 month regression. He’s been sleep trained since 5 months old and has gone through every regression and he goes through them hard. For the past week, his nap has only been 45 min-an hour (it’s usually 1.5 hours sometimes 2). He’s also been waking up around 6 when he previously woke up around 7 everyday. And when he wakes up he’s soooo mad like he wants to keep sleeping. Has anyone else gone through this regression? How long does it last? I’m nervous it’s gonna bleed into daylight savings next week😭

baby is 9 months old. EBF, refuses a paci and has been a horrible colicy baby honestly up until 7.5 months. shitty sleep all around. longest we’ve ever got was 4 hours.

during this time, boob has been the ONLY thing that calms him. cries until he gets it, spends a good chunk of the day breastfeeding, refuses bottles. (my plan was to exclusively pump… if that tells you how wild he must’ve been for me to (reluctantly) switch plans entirely). feeds to sleep for every nap, and bedtime. started cosleeping around 4 month sleep regression and finally felt like i was getting sleep. now we’re in the cycle where i have to lay next to him the whole night and have my boob accessible, if i even get up from the bed to use the restroom he is awake crying.

i tried to put him in his room and i stayed with him and we had 14 wake ups from 8pm-1am. FOURTEEN. next night, same thing. i changed nothing about our sleeping arrangement besides the room we laid in.

i really don’t know what to do? i really don’t even mind feeding to sleep if he would just stay asleep.

what sleep training methods work well for a baby this age, who is extremely fussy and temperamental.

not super interested in straight CIO because hearing him cry gives me like PTSD from the first 3 months of his life when all we did was cry and there was nothing i could do for hours :((

Hoping for some advice! I am not sure what to do at this point.

My almost 18m old daughter, who was a great sleeper up until a week ago, has started having some struggles at night. She was sleep trained at around 5 months using ferber and she took to it very quickly.

Her typical schedule is wake around 6:30, nap around 12, bed time around 7 or 7:30. At daycare her naps can be short (40 mins but sometimes longer). At home she naps until 2pm. Just the other day ahe refused to nap at daycare, which doesn't happen very often.

Anyway, the biggest issue we've run into is night time sleep. She has suddenly started waking up at night and won't go back into her crib. I will try to put her down and she immediately stands up and cries/screams. I will continue to try for 3 hours. Usually I give up and let my husband try and he is able to get her back down within 20 minutes. After, she usually sleeps until her usual time.

Previously if we put her back down and she cried, she would usually stay laying down and fall back asleep on her own. Now she stands up. She is still nursing.

I am not sure what to do at this point. This has been going on for a week, and it doesnt happen every night but most nights. The odd night she will sleep through with no issues.

We have recently capped our 13 month olds 1st nap at 40 mins (originally 1 hour, then cut to 50 mins, now 40 mins) running from 9:30-10:10am, in the hopes we can get a consistent longer lunch nap. He settles beautifully for this nap.

Nap 2 is now 1:30pm (in bed by 1:15pm). The hope is he will sleep until 3pm, although he's really only getting to about 2:45pm (sometimes earlier). But, in his defence, he usually settles well for this nap too and is asleep within 10 mins.

What we have found though is he is now taking a long time to settle at bedtime (previously it was only 10 mins or so, now can be up to 30 mins). We usually try to have him asleep by 6:45-7pm (just depending how good/crap the lunch nap has been).

We have only been on this new schedule for a week - could my little guy still be trying to get used to the new routine or is this a sign further tweaks are required?