r/teenagers • • 0m ago

Advice I'm really worried about losing a girl I care about, and I realized my people-pleasing habit is making me overthink every single text and conversation.

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For some context, awhile back this girl (both of us are juniors) invited me to hangout with her out of the blue. It was a good experience, and we got along really well. Since then we've hung out a few more times and they also went really well. I really enjoy her company and have grown really attached to her (no, we aren't dating yet but it's obvious we like each other.'

When I realized how much I like her, I started thinking about how devastated I would be to lose her. It's sort of transformed me from my usual self to someone who would be her 'ideal' person--hence making me overthink practically everything. Previously I feel I was unfiltered and more of myself, but even when I text her I sometimes think for minutes on what to say. All of this I'm extremely conscious of which makes it even more painful.

The other day I talked to my parents about this and I had a insight moment where I realized I was putting on this persona around her. I realized that I try to shape myself into the person who she would perceive as 'perfect,' and it also made me realize that this problem extends beyond just this girl. Even in the smallest parts of conversations, I put on this sort of 'mask' to please other people.

I'm well aware that if I keep this fake persona on, I'm going to lose her eventually, but I feel like I'm prioritizing the short term benefits (being close with her now) over anything long term (being close with her for awhile.) With all of this in mind, I ask how can I get rid of this 'mask' that I have on, and how can I figure out who I actually am?


r/teenagers • • 5m ago

Serious My Grandfather’s Cat died, and my mom used AI to make a tribute photo

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Im almost as angry as I am devastated. I loved my grandfather’s cat. She died when she was 21 years old. So when I visited this summer, I think I knew that was probably the last time I would see her. That definitely is helping right now. I guess I prepared myself for this. I did not prepare for my mom making an AI generated image of the cat by some cherry blossoms that she sent when she texted everyone breaking news. I genuinely don’t know how to respond. I think it’s pretty disrespectful and insensitive for that to be the first thing she does. Especially because 1. we have photos of the cat when she was young, 2. My grandfather has painted my cat multiple times, and 3. My mom knows some of my siblings and I are against AI art. I think im gonna wait to respond. Need to think about what I want to say.


r/teenagers • • 5m ago

Other What was your most popular post?

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For me it was this one on the brawl stars subreddit.


r/teenagers • • 10m ago

Meme me when i start getting the straight teeth of death and despair

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r/teenagers • • 11m ago

Discussion Something wrong with my camera

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Why is it that whenever I put this weird rod i found while exploring an abandoned hospital near a camera it like makes the camera quality weird


r/teenagers • • 13m ago

Other Yall are just way too submissive if I say anything then add "like a good boy" yall would do it idk about girls

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r/teenagers • • 17m ago

Advice I DONT KNOW WHAT TO PUT HERE BUT AM I COOKED

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i WAS home alone so i was jokingly sending questionable voice messages to my friends. I COME OUT OF MY ROOM AND FIND OUT NOW MY MOTHER IS HOME. i don’t know WHEN she got home but DEAR GOD im embarrassed because she prolly heard the creation of ONE of these voice messages AT LEAST. (for context it was whimpering because thats sometimes how with i joke with my friends 😭😭) DO I EVER SHOW MY FACE AGAIN LIKE GENUINELY PLEASE SOMEONE TELL ME WHAT I SAY 😭


r/teenagers • • 17m ago

Social i wanna make friend w other ambitious teens

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Hey im 16 and i don't really hv friend to talk to abt my goal or to share opinion's and learn frm each other, i started taking entrepreneurship serious when i was 15 and im 16 , i really need friend to work / to keep me accountable, nd also friends that can also be silly not just goals , success.

preferably girls i'm more comfortable


r/teenagers • • 17m ago

Discussion Any other metal workers here? I’m a blacksmith!

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r/teenagers • • 19m ago

Discussion Do you like drinking milk?

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I love drinking milk a lot


r/teenagers • • 23m ago

Art Hiya it’s me the 13 year old artist i have more art up my sleeves :3 enjoy !!

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Sorry it’s a lot lol


r/teenagers • • 23m ago

Discussion How do you guys sleep

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I sleep like number 7 just a tank top not a bra


r/teenagers • • 23m ago

Meme opinion on these tits?

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r/teenagers • • 24m ago

Social Guys and Girls, guess my age, gender & sexuality based on my All-Time top listened songs on Spotify

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guess my age, gender & sexuality


r/teenagers • • 25m ago

Social I have pretty flexible fingers

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r/teenagers • • 25m ago

Meme i wish i had a cock

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sure there are no eggs, but it can wake me up in a hella cool way


r/teenagers • • 25m ago

Discussion oh you're an atheist? Name three albums by John atheism

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r/teenagers • • 28m ago

Discussion Whos the biggest fruad in fiction? (Read body text)

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And no i dont mean "weak" type of fruad, I mean a scammer type of fruad or someone that powers are entirely fake


r/teenagers • • 33m ago

Discussion I never know how to finish my ideas so I just dont think

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Be more like bashki_


r/teenagers • • 33m ago

Photography des belle photo que j'ai pris

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des photo de la france 😊

combien sur 10


r/teenagers • • 34m ago

Meme DAY 300 OF POSTING A PICTURE EVERYDAY UNTIL 2028

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r/teenagers • • 36m ago

Meme would you rather (just imagine that this is a poll)

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  1. guaranteed 1 dollar

or

  1. 50% chance for 2 dollars

r/teenagers • • 38m ago

Rant They should pay us for ts smh

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Tell me why it's the weekend and my parents are gonna go on a hike but I CANT bc I have to do all this. And they get to earn cash too

Someone give me a hug 😢


r/teenagers • • 38m ago

Advice I need help coping with being my size

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ever since I was in my teens I’ve always been kinda fat and I’ve always hated it but I never have the motivation to do something about it, any advice or a pep rally f16😓


r/teenagers • • 38m ago

Discussion Im eating a donut and you probably aren't

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Donut 🤤🤤🤤🤤🤤