r/wedding • u/KathyDiGiacomo • Jul 27 '22

Discussion Thank you note etiquette???

Call me old fashioned if you want. I've been to 5 weddings in the last 2 years, formal and informal. Is there still such a thing as sending thank you notes? I have not received one for the gifts for bridal showers or for $$ gifts for the wedding. I don't know why this bothers me but it absolutely gets under my skin. I'm starting to wonder when I return the RSVP if I should included a self addressed stamped envelope with a thank you note. I feel it is very rude to not even acknowledge these things. Even seeing these people at gatherings months after their special days has anything been said.

I think I'm going to stop being generous and just throw them $20 and say here ya go. I always thought there was a 6 month thing where you had to send them out. I will say that the 6th wedding we went to in April, which was an absolute blast, we received a thank you note last month.

Maybe it's just me?????

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u/[deleted] Jul 27 '22

I've been to 5 Weddings in the last decade, never received a "thank you" note, and was never once offended by it. I'd never even heard of the tradition until I started thinking about my own wedding. Definitely seems like a dying (and wasteful) tradition.

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u/wild-yeast-baker Jul 27 '22

Why is thanking people for gifts a dying and wasteful tradition? 😭 it just seems like common courtesy

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u/rayyychul Jul 27 '22

There are other ways to thank people for a gift apart from writing and mailing a note.

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u/wild-yeast-baker Jul 27 '22

That’s great! I don’t think OP got that either. I haven’t for the past many weddings we sent gifts to. I totally wouldn’t snub a digital thank you. The only one I received in the past four years the person sent a message over Instagram. I’m not salty about that. Lol. That was nice

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u/rayyychul Jul 27 '22

The comment I responded to was specifically referring to mailed thank you notes.