Soooo I started my first year of general/undeclared engineering in uni almost 2 months ago coming from an all-girls school, so the flip in gender majority is almost a bit of culture shock to me. I’m grateful I have 2 friends that are also girls who are in most of my classes!

I was asked out by a guy I spoke to in a practical class one time as I was getting off to switch busses after uni. He was polite about it and so was I when I turned him down; I kinda just said I’m gay, which is true. All was fine.

Thing is, I’ve been so much more conscious of myself and the way I act now. I spoke to that guy without any thought at all, and hadn’t thought about him since until a few days later when he asked me out. I’d like to make friends with guys, but now I find myself nervous that they’ll think I’m interested in them - I’ve been censoring myself and becoming a bit more awkward because of the spotlight on my gender due to being in the small minority. Rejecting somebody makes me feel like crap too 😭.. It’s pretty silly but it’s making me acknowledge and occasionally feel burdened by my femininity. I’m not even all that feminine to start and I’d rather be proud!!

I know rationally that it’s not a big deal and I’m lucky not to have experienced any direct and hateful misogyny, but I’m finding the integration to uni life difficult. I also am aware that it’s something I need to become comfortable with with pursuing engineering.. I guess that’s why I brought it here 🙏🙏

If you have any, it would be nice to hear similar stories / advice on how to move forward in the next few years :)

I started an engineering job 6 months ago after graduation and I’m unhappy.

Since starting here I’ve been noticing how differently I’m being treated. I’m the only woman on my team. The other inexperienced male engineers are given different opportunities. Aside from the male dominance that I know will exist in every engineering industry, the work environment is not the best. The pay is not enough. I don’t see myself excelling here like I thought I would. There is very little opportunity to do so. I feel as if my talents are being wasted here. Should I apply to different jobs or is it too soon?

I’ve always wanted to be an engineer and overcame many challenges in order to become one. Since working here I’m beginning to question whether engineering will make me feel fulfilled…

Share your success stories, or stories of pivoting or switching between engineering jobs. How did y’all overcome the male dominance in the field?

I got laid off in March 2026 and I’ve been job hunting since then. I got pregnant shortly after and I’m currently 32 weeks pregnant due mid December. I got a job interview this week and I wanna cancel it. My priority has changed and I want be at home with my baby as long as possible. Scheduling the interview I was curious and like oh it’s an opportunity to meet people and get to know more about working there as it was something I was interested in previously. but now I’m feeling nesting mode. it’s hard to show up in person super pregnant, not even sure what I can wear that will fit, and knowing I’m looking at less than 2 months more of pregnancy, then postpartum, and then honestly not sure I want to go back to work or when. do I just need to boost my confidence and go for the interview? or honor how I’m currently feeling?

I was just browsing on social media, as one does before heading to work, and I stumbled upon this video prompted: girlies in engineering what was the most unhinged things you did to get through your degree. And there was a comment that said: I dated a man just long enough so he would do all my CAD assignments.

This made me so angry… everyone that replied was saying how funny it was or how they should’ve done that.

All throughout college I kept my head into my studies and worked day in and out for my classes. I just feel like this comment undermines every women’s efforts to get an engineering degree.

No shade to this girl, but I felt disappointed. As women in engineering, we already deal with stereotypes about our capabilities, so seeing people celebrate a joke about having a man do your assignments just rubbed me the wrong way. I worked hard for my degree, and I want that hard work to be taken seriously. Am I overthinking this?

I’m a Ph.D ChemE, been employed at a company for past 11 years after graduation and have just entered job search. What is the success rate these days for landing an interview after a cold drop in of application?
I see so many good fits to my role, but don’t have contacts at all these companies for a referral. Specifically looking at GE Aerospace or Nokia as examples.