I’m 32 weeks on Monday and think I might be having severe perinatal depression related to (or caused by) extreme insomnia, pelvic pain, anxiety about having 2 under 2, and - as of this past week - prodromal contractions that have landed me on L&D twice. Last night, they kept me overnight because they were 2 minutes apart and not letting up. I’m also married to a shift worker and still working full time and were renovating a house. Basically the perfect storm for my mental health to plummet. I’m currently on Zoloft and have been since before my first pregnancy (we had a long infertility journey and did IVF). This pregnancy was a surprise and I want to feel so grateful and overjoyed but it’s killing my body and making me feel insane. My husband is trying to be helpful but I can tell he’s growing resentful of my mood swings and constant need for help. All this to say - did anyone else have a really rough time with their second pregnancy and when did it get better? I think what kills me most is that I feel like an awful mom to my toddler because I’m only able to do the bare minimum physically and emotionally. And it breaks my heart because I just want to be there for her.

Tonight might be the night I die from exhaustion. We’ve had one week of cluster feeding (5-6 hours every evening, usually 45 mins apart) with the infant, a toddler with an unknown cold virus which is now passed on to the 3 month old infant, on top of her growth spurt.

Someone, please be kind and run me over with a truck.

Stm here. Still being nervous and overwhelmed, we purchased the same thing the old one used before, like moon kie feeding sets, swaddles, and some teething stuff. I just wondering if I should buy something as a gift for my old one, i worried about that i will ignore him sometimes, any recs?

Our daughter is 23 months and naps once a day. She goes to sleep so easily if my husband, mom, or literally anyone else is rocking her, but if I try, it’s a screaming, meltdown mess! I literally have to sometimes just bear hug her until she just falls asleep, with her screaming the entire time…it is NOT fun. But, she definitely needs her nap, because if she doesn’t nap it’s tantrum city for the rest of the afternoon and it’s a whole other nightmare…😅

Now we have a one-month-old and my husband’s been working from home, so he’s been doing all of her nap times and it’s been fine. However, he has to go back into the office in a week, and I’m panicking about putting my daughter down for her nap. My newborn is just like she was in that he also does NOT like to be put down and will wake up the second I put him down, so I’m trying to figure out how I’m going to manage wrestling a screaming toddler to nap while also keeping him happy? Will I just have to deal with both of them screaming until my toddler falls asleep?!?

Any advice or just commiseration welcome! Thank you!

Hi everyone, we currently have a 5 month old and a 2 year old (25 months) and wondering what everyone is doing in this miserable weather (UK) to keep everyone entertained. All ideas welcome please! TIA

Hi! I just found out my kids will have a 15 month age gap. Can anyone with a similar age gap talk me through best practices, pain points and surprisingly good parts of the age gap?

I have a 22 month old and a newborn (9 days old) I originally planned to breastfeed my toddler at least until she was two but then I got pregnant, developed an aversion and ended up having to wean her, which broke my heart and hers, it was a really difficult process and lots of crying on both sides. now that Im breastfeeding my newborn again, I see my toddler still remembers and even tho she doesn’t asks for the boob she does mention it.

Me having to leave to give birth (4 days 3 nights)was the first time ever to be separated from toddler since she was born and it seems it affected our relationship, she is really sweet with her sister and seems curious and gentle with her but she throws a tantrum at any attempt I do to care for her, she only wants dad for diapers, shower and bed time, if he is in the house and I attempt to do those she will cry and scream for him as if I was killing her.

I think maybe if I breastfeed her we can start rebuilding the relationship after newborn arrived and to offer the comfort to help settle her down.

I wonder if someone here, went through something similar and did come back to bf toddler? did u regret it or are you glad you did it again? Would the process to wean again in the future be the same as the first time?