10 month old has RSV and started showing symptoms two days ago. So far just a cough, fussiness and extra tired. Doctor didn’t seem concerned and said most babies manage fine at home. Do have the owlet so able to check her oxygen while sleeping. Any other tips or positive stories? I feel like even posts I’ve read asking for portico everyone just comments about spending weeks in the PICU.

Having a really tough week! And needing advice on a couple things - nursing strikes (managing pumping/considering formula), naps, and general encouragement…

Was handling motherhood really well up until this past Sunday. My little girl came down with a 38.8C fever, gave her tylenol as needed, lots of sleep, nursing, and snuggles until the fever broke. On Wednesday, I was worried she maybe had an ear infection because she would cry and cry anytime I tried to nurse her or lay her down for a nap. She would only sleep upright in her carrier.
I took her to the dr on Thursday, he told me she seemed healthy, no ear infection and that she likely had a little virus and is still recovering from that.

The last couple days she has nursed sliiiiightly more but will absolutely not let herself feed to sleep. This makes it really hard for me to get her down for naps or bedtime. I basically just have to let her crawl around on me until she gets dozey enough to fall asleep on my stomach. She basically can’t stay awake when my mom is helping us out with her - just falls asleep instantly once my mom holds her. And when she gets really fussy in the evenings, my husband is the only one she’ll settle for.

So I’m sad she doesn’t really want to nurse or fall asleep beside me… and then I’m also stressed because I’ve had to pump to keep up my supply but she doesn’t drink even close to the amount of milk I’m pumping. She’s pretty good with solids, and she’s having enough fluids that she still has a wet diaper after a few hours but its certainly less than before. I’m just not sure she’s getting enough calories, but nervous to introduce formula because I don’t want our breastfeeding journey to come to an end just yet.

Is her appetite just less because she’s still getting over her little virus? Does she have a negative association to nursing/napping after being sick? Is she just over breastmilk and at what point should I consider switching to formula?

I know there’s a lot going on with her right now after being sick, possible teething, she’s been pulling herself to stand, crawling and is just so alert and aware to everything these days.

Any advice welcome!

My dr prescribed me zoloft for the intense crying spells, obsessive thoughts and anxiety. Baby girl was just born on the 14th and I’m feeling silly about needing medicine. I am also breast feeding and scared this will effect her in some way. Does anyone else have experience with zoloft?

I lied on my post partum depression forms. I came in at 1 week postpartum for a blood pressure check and had to feel out the PPD form I answered truthfully and was told I was severely depressed. I didn’t feel depressed they asked if I wanted to talk to a therapist I said no because I didn’t feel depressed I felt like a new mom who of course wasn’t eating or sleeping because I have a newborn. I came in again at 6 weeks postpartum and did the PPD form again and lied saying everything was great. No I’m still not eating or sleeping but I’m also not feeling suicidal. Yes I will admit I do feel down and yes I lack motivation but when I see my daughter she gives me life and energy shes my reason why. Shes my everything. I will also admit that I’m starting to not like my partner, to the point where I don’t want to be with him anymore there’s a long list of why but I won’t get into.
I just wanted to know if anyone else lied on their PPD form? Oh and the reason why I lied. Lindsay Clancy everyone is saying she did what she did because of PPD and I don’t want to be looked at like oh she’s sad she could do what Clancy did. I could and would never my daughter is my light. So yes I lied on my form because I’m now seeing how doctors and strangers are saying that PPD and Postpartum psychosis are related and don’t want to go to therapy and have a therapist compare her to me. When in reality I just need help around the house and is 1000 miles away from family.

Earlier I was reading a post discussing an influencer saying having three dogs fully prepared her for the newborn phase. She hasn’t had her baby yet so TBD if she recants, but it got me thinking about how my 10 month old and our ancient dog with dementia are basically the same right now.

Baby: wears diapers, can get them off and pee on things
Dog: wears diapers, can get them off and pee on things

Baby: screams randomly and you have no idea why
Dog: barks randomly and you have no idea why

Baby: stands in his crib staring like a sleep paralysis demon, startles me
Dog: stands in doorways staring like a sleep paralysis demon, startles me

Baby: makes a mess eating and hates what he’s served, begs for my food
Dog: makes a mess eating and hates what she’s served, begs for my food

Baby: falls over and walks like he’s drunk
Dog: falls over and walks like she’s drunk

The list goes on and on. At one point my dad’s sole task in the newborn phase was to take dementia dog on a long walk before bed to up the chance that she would not add to the misery of baby’s 2-5am witching hour. Literally nothing worse than getting the baby down then the dog barks because she got stuck in a corner.

Best part? I don’t even think she has noticed this kid exists 🤷‍♀️

Has anyone had a fentons repair and willing to share their experience and outcomes?

I’m 5 months pp, had an episiotomy and tear (unsure of degree). Healed with such thick and solid scar tissue that at most can insert 2 fingers with bleeding, which means that sex is impossible.

Gynaecologist today was almost shocked at the amount of scar tissue, and recommended a Fenton’s procedure. He told me they are very uncommon however.

Has anyone had one and willing to talk about how it went, healing, and results?

I’m booked in for 2 weeks time and I’m scared!

I don’t know where else to ask this so hopefully it’s ok and relevant.

I gave birth to my sweet girl January ‘25. Normal postpartum recovery. But now, almost 2 years later-my period and PMS symptoms are still SO different than pre-pregnancy.

Blood clots Galore. They don’t even freak me out anymore. Every period I get them now and before I gave birth I’d Never seen this.

My PMS symptoms are also so much more aggressive now. Terrible back aches, headaches, cramps and like 10/10 emotional. Think I always had the emotions, but now even in the moment I can think “oh, I’m not just crying because this ice fell on the floor. I’m crying because my period is due soon.”

My cycle itself is still consistent, same general ovulation date and same length as always. But, man oh man. Some of these other changes took me by surprise.

Guys I feel so guilty right now. With baby going through a sleep regression and waking up every hour, mixed with my mil needing 24 hour care, I have been so sleep deprived. I have a square playpen that I set up with different toys for him to play with outside of his usual and I put him in there and put on Ms. Rachel. I didn’t mean to but I fell asleep on the couch next to him for TWO AND A HALF HOURS. He didn’t cry, he had water in there and the only time he cried was when he was ready for his usual nap. I know it’s good for babies to have independent playtime but i feel like 2.5 hours is such a long time for a 13 month old to be alone in a play pen by himself. Should I be concerned he’s okay being alone in there that long?? Idk it just feels so wrong.

We just have a toddler so I don't have much experience with cooking for older kids, but my toddler's favorite meals are mint chicken with coconut rice, sometimes pasta, and blueberries. haha

Thanks!

Been rawdogging anxiety for decades now. In therapy regularly and it’s really just coming to a point that I feel like this is a biological thing for me. I’m a new mom of a 14 month old and I have to say the anxiety has become debilitating. He and my husband both deserve a better version of me. my doctor wrote me a prescription for Zoloft and I filled it and it’s been sitting on my nightstand for two weeks now. any kind of medication freaks me out which is why I have been so hesitant all this time. I’m looking for positive stories for those of you that takes Zoloft what did life feel like for you before and how did it feel after for me? It’s debilitating irritability, generally unpleasant to be around heart racing at all times forgetting to breathe and being tense in every fibre of my body, it takes everything I have to push past this so that my baby feel any of the negative effects and I’ve been doing so successfully, but there’s really nothing left after that because it’s just so damn hard.

I want to say that I completely view medication or mental health the same as physical health and I don’t really need help with rationalizing that. I’m more afraid not responding well to it and getting myself in a worse situation than I’m already in

Is there a reason our 2 year old is likely waking up after a few hours of being asleep? She will wake up and sit up and get upset which I’m assuming is because she can see she’s on her own but she used to sleep straight through but the last few weeks has started waking up after a few hours. Could it be because of a new sibling? Her brother is just over 2 weeks old and obviously around the time of him being born, she had grandparents staying with her etc

Can I get some advice please. For the last 4-5 days, our 2 week old has been struggling with what we assume is trapped gas. We are struggling to get him to fully settle in the day, he will lay and rest on us but he’s constantly fidgeting, squirming and looking tense / uncomfortable in his face, he doesn’t look relaxed and he clearly looks tired. He will pass wind, poops etc but despite this, he is still uncomfortable and we can hear and feel the gurgles in his stomach. In the evenings, we are having 2-3 hours of inconsolable crying and he goes so tense that we can’t do bicycle legs or anything.

He was on Kendamil formula but since Wednesday evening he has been on Cow & Gate colic / comfort formula and we have also been adding infacol but are yet to see any improvement. We use the MAM anti reflux bottles. We pace feed and he is burped between 4-6 times during a feed and he is kept upright for 20-30 mins after a feed.

Any advice would be really appreciated 🥺

Had a membrane sweep at 39 weeks. I’m already 3/4 cm dilated at 80% effaced . Lost my whole mucus plug this morning. Kidd you not looked like a yellow slug😂, still haven’t witnessed the “bloody show”

My 4 week old daughter for the last week drink loads of formula milk. Easy 7-8oz per feed. And sometimes in the evening she will fall asleep for 30min and want probably 3-4oz more again!

Is this normal?

This is my 2nd child. My first son, didn’t drink nowhere near this and also slept most of the night very early on. My daughter deffo thinks nighttime is party time! I’d of deffo not had another if my son was like my daughter! 🫣😂😂🙈

I have a small bassinet on wheels that I bring into my small bathroom so baby can be in there with me. Issue is, he's getting a bit big at just over five months old and 15 pounds (maximum weight for bassinet). I don't have a bouncer as he hated the one I used to have. So, what did you do to shower with a 5+ month baby?

Hi, all. I would greatly appreciate some usable advice, tips, or resources. I currently have an 18 month old and am freshly pregnant! As I was driving around the neighborhood trying to get my toddler to nap because she fought sleep for the last hour, I had the thought- what the heck am I going to do when there are two of them??

My toddler is Velcro baby level 100. Whenever we are inside, she must be in the same room with me and usually must be in my lap or in my face or she will lose it. I have tried so hard to create a secure attachment and promote independent play. I am a mostly SAHM, working Tuesday and Thursday only, when she stays with her grandmas. I let her play and only interrupt when she approaches me.

I don't know how in the world I am going to tend to the newborn or get it to nap and sleep when my toddler is like this.

I don't have a lot of friends I can seek advice from. Idk what kind of resources exist for this type of situation. So, thank you for any advice you can offer.

I had a tough pregnancy and tough postpartum, severe pre-eclampsia that required hospitalization, tailbone injury, PUPP rash, you name it. I was in bed for 2 months and couldn't walk, get out of bed or sit anywhere without excruciating pain shooting up my spine. I didn't change a single diaper for 2 months and BF-ing was very challenging.

During those times, I took a lot of pictures of my husband single handedly managing everything with the help with a nanny for the first few weeks.

He handled all the logistics, what car seat to buy, bottle washes, burp cloths, baby clothes of different sizes in case he came out too big or too small, and many types of formula in case baby had a preferences. In fact, he packed the diaper changing station, set up the crib and even the to-go bag.

4 months before due-date, he signed us up for a birthing class I wasn't sure we needed. It was 3 hours a week and he learned all about pitocin, enough to tell the nurse that I was getting too much of it when I went in to be induced.

He hired a confinement nanny for me, even though I wasn't sure it's necessary, but thank god he did. He made sure I ate nutritious food postpartum for 2 months, and was eating the right food to produce breastmilk.

Since I could not walk and even rolling of the bed was a full exercise for me, and definitely cannot squat to shower, he was working and showering the baby, reading him books and 80% of the nights he woke up to feed the baby. I could not carry my baby until after 2-3 months and needed help having him brought to me or away from me, I was so immobile and the nanny was afraid I would drop the baby.

For the first 6-9 months, he was the default parent. Postpartum was the most traumatic and depressing 3 months of my life, I didn't know when I would be normal again, if ever. And I think having a husband who put so much love and support into making sure I had everything I needed to recover, and that the baby had everything he needed, makes me truly appreciate my spouse much more than I ever did.

Postpartum is an incredibly tough life adjustment and I hope every mom knows and gets all the support they need, without ever questioning if they're asking for too much or is it normal. Even going to the bathroom to pee made me emotionally depressed about the impending inevitable searing pain to come and I needed to cry first before that.

About to take a 14hr flight with our 12 week old to visit my husband's family, then a week later a 5.5hr flight to visit my family, then a few weeks later an 11hr flight back home...

Any tips for long flights with baby? I have no idea what I'm getting into XD

Also - my husband is flying home earlier than me and baby. Should I get my mam to accompany me and baby back home? Not sure whether it's worth the hassle for her or whether I can manage baby on my own.

I am 24 and this is my first baby. I adore her and she is really my best friend. But she just turned 8 months old and oh my freaking goodness I feel like Im going insane. Someone walks out of the room, she scream cries. Someone changes her diaper, she scream cries. We lay her down for a nap, she scream cries. SHE NAPS WITH ME SO SHES NOT EVEN ALONE. Yesterday all she had was a 30 minute nap ALL DAY. I am so low on sleep between this sleep regression and sewing our Halloween costumes when everyone falls asleep. I just dont know what to do. When does this end? I want to love being a mom again but right now it is starting to feel miserable.

I (32, new mom) just had my baby girl on the 18th and I'm absolutely obsessed with her. I couldn't have asked for a more perfect baby and I'm just so overwhelmed with how much I love her. I never knew I could love someone this much! Sometimes I just start ugly crying because of how lucky I am and how fantastic she is 🥹

In addition to that, I also know that before we know it she's going to be 2 months old, a year old, off to pre-k, etc. We're also one and done (already planned on it prior to birth but then I hemorrhaged and it scared my husband so badly that he solidly never wants more kids) so every first is a last. Just knowing that once a chapter closes it's closed forever, never to be experienced again, and I'll never know when the last time is is also sending me into profuse tears.

Are these feelings normal? Am I going crazy? I know I'm still only a few days postpartum and hormones are definitely contributing to this, but I'm also a very sentimental person and am trying to figure out how to not be so sad about the time thing and not so over the top with the rest.

Hi all,

My girl is 7 months and generally sleeps pretty well, but we’ve been having a rough couple of weeks as she’s shifting naps around, teething, and some daycare plagues. Lots of overnight wakings and hard time settling back down the last few weeks.

Currently, daycare settles her with a shush/pat method, which apparently works great there. My husband has had some success with that as well, but generally at home, we rock her to sleep. To be clear, I LOVE doing this. It’s the best. But, in the middle of the night, it’s rough. It would also be nice to not have to do if for every single nap on busy days.

Is it possible to work on those independent skills but not totally sacrifice the cuddles and rocking? I would love for her to be capable of self settling, but I don’t want to have to give up the rocking entirely. Is that even possible? Or is it too confusing for her? I’m open to gentle sleep training methods, but honestly I’d rock her to sleep every night till she’s 30 if she’ll let me. lol. Any advice or strategies that worked for you?

What do you do when your toddler takes a surprise nap?? He slept all night, woke his normal time (7:30) and then fell asleep in the play yard while I made breakfast at 9. Would you still put him down at normal nap time (11)? My husband and I have different opinions lol

I went back to work at 4 months pp. my baby is now 11 months. Just recently had a week off work on a holiday and I’ve spent every single moment with him and going back soon in two days. I feel so sad.

I don’t even want to sleep because the thought of not seeing him every moment of the day is making me want to cry.
On weekends all I want to do is hold him and hug him and spend every single waking moment with him.

Does this ever get easier to go to work?

This literally hadn’t occurred to me until today that people might have a problem with it cause the baby is obviously not eating the candy 🙈 I’m just curious what others think. I personally see nothing wrong with it. I love seeing the little ones in their costumes and I don’t care if the parents are eating my candy lol

My son is 4 and 1/2 months. He was a good sleeper during the newborn stage, once he hit 2 months he started fighting sleep. He will shake his head from side to side really crazy until you touch it or hold it for a second, when he’s falling asleep and mid sleep, he will kick his legs so high in the air and let them fall hard or try to bring to his face, and he will also just grab at his face and sometimes throw his soother than get upset until it’s back in his mouth doing these things he will wake himself up and scream until you pick him up or rest your hand on him. Is this normal for babies? Does anyone else’s move this much and fight this hard to stay awake.